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Heather, do you remember me? GHS and Colby alums and friends and you were the one to introduce me to the land of Disney! Matt Davie wrote in to the Colby magazine about your news of a baby AND battling (successfully thank God) lymphona. I have discovered your website and am touched by your beautiful journal entries throughout the happiest of times with a baby paired with the most challenging of ordeals. I remember your passion for life and can see how that zest for life has allowed you to embrace motherhood and your battle with cancer. With much love, Karen
PS Maybe we can meet at WDW, I hope to plan a trip there in Dec ‘09 or Dec ‘10.
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Hi Dick and Heather,
I also saw the Times Record and have tried to find the right words. I guess I can’t write anything more eloquent then Bridie has written. So… I will say you both are amazing and I wish you the best of everything!
Dick,
My family and I are back here in Brunswick and hope to meet Heather and Finn in person someday.
All my best wishes,
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Saw the Times Record during a visit to my mother and wanted to say, “Congratulations!” for becoming parents, and that my heart is aching for you to have had to face such challenges during what should be the happiest time of your life. I’m so glad things are going well now. Enjoy your little man, and if you ever feel like a trip to Disney, let us know, we’re in Orlando!
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I’m still waiting on the book…!!
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Just thought of you all this morning- it has been ages since I have seen or spoken to Dick, please give him our best. Shaye and John
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My love to you, Dick and Finn (and I love the new pictures - love your hair - you’re GORGEOUS!)
Pat
posted by pat(weafer) on March 25, 2007 at 9:10 pm
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PS You’ve also encouraged me to resume meditating! I started in the ’70s and have been hit or miss over the years, returning to it during difficult times and then letting it slide once Life settles down again. You and Dick have reminded me how important it is to take care of our own physical, emotional, and spiritual needs.
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Hope that cold weather gave you an excuse to stay home and stay warm! Hats on everyone- hair or no hair- that winter chill that brings spring is getting to work. An aunt of mine once said that winter is the rest that spring needs, and that spring needed a long rest:) John and I are well and send our best to you three- wondering if the River is singing with ice these days or if it is just holding on tight to it all.
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As always- lots of love form everyone here. See you SOON!
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You have continually been in our thoughts.
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posted by Pat (Weafer) on February 27, 2007 at 5:41 pm
Hi guys
I (and the rest of the Image Collection) cannot wait to see both of you and that baby and hug you with our own arms. Sounds like the play went well. Much love to you and your little family heather.
posted by maura on February 20, 2007 at 2:25 pm
Hi Heather again..
Whe’re so proud to have your news again.. we are still checking you )
still also remember you..
the little finn seems to be very happy and fine.. we are happy for you Heather and Dick…
Say hello to him and big kiss for the little boy.. in one of your beautiful shots, Finn starts recognizing your camera!!! isn’t amazing…
Love to all…
posted by Rachid and Mohamed from Morocco on February 5, 2007 at 5:02 pm
Hi kids,
I’ve been very absent from this website, but you have been in my thoughts through these last couple of months as I’ve heard about these bumps in the road.
I, too, felt like I relived those two days in January w/Adam and Finn arriving back-to-back…waiting for YOUR news while in Maine with my new grandson.
I’ve just spent 1/2 an hour getting caught up with your thoughts and the pictures! AND I hear the Cabaret was WONDERFUL! Good for you, girl! Your strength, once again, has seen you through. And vegging out and watching 2 seasons of LOST sounds like a great way to have spent those crappy days - why NOT!
Back to the pictures - what fun that was for me. Finn is just such a cutie little BOY and I loved seeing all the cousins together. (So, in your “spare” time, I’d love you to email me that photo of the 5 “weafer”(willis) children. I just so need that one on my ‘frig!)
Just want you to know you are still in my thoughts and prayers.
Sending my love your way,
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on January 31, 2007 at 9:48 pm
What a cutie he is! And that train cake is cool — my husband would love it (he’s a big train buff and has an HO set up in our basement)! Glad you all had a nice celebration and hope you’re staying warm in these chilly temps.
PS Your hair’s looking great
posted by Jayne Winters on January 25, 2007 at 12:21 pm
Heather, love the new pictures! Wow, time goes fast. I remember when the three babies all fit on one boppy together. Now they’re wrestling each other to the ground. Ella sure can’t get enough of that Finn!
You look great, too. Remember how far you’ve come in a year. Hugs to you and your boys.
Love,
Kimmie
posted by Kim Weafer on January 24, 2007 at 10:01 am
Happy Birthday Finn! What a year. I hope to see you at Cabaret Heather! Don’t feel guilty about 2 seasons of Lost. My new husband and I did the same thing. Love, Alison
posted by Alison Lowe on January 18, 2007 at 7:36 pm
So glad to see a posting from you this morning - I’ve been worried something other than the busyness of the holidays was the reason, but am relieved you are all feeling better after battling the flu. As dreadful as it was, if you want to consider it another step toward ‘normal’ life, welcome back! And you WERE able to overcome it, post chemo weakness and all! I am further amazed and happy to hear of your upcoming theater work…don’t know that we can get down to see you, but I’m so glad to hear you’re back to doing something you truly love and will undoubtedly gain emotional and physical strength from. By the way, I read a terrific review of your book in a recent DOWNEAST magazine. I’m headed to Barnes & Noble to spend a gift certificate and plan to purchase it; maybe someday, even have an autographed copy. You are such an inspiration - all of you. Belated Happy Birthday to Finn ~
posted by Jayne Winters on January 18, 2007 at 9:36 am
So glad things are going well - except for the flu, the runs, the porcelain bowl worship and skinny Finn. Sounds like things are better, though, and I am honored to have been part of the good will pointed in your direction - I am SO looking forward to Cabaret and to seeing you be a part of it all. And Happy Birthday to miracle boy - Capricorns are toughies. Ask me - January 12th (although skinny has never been part of my resume). : ^ ) All best, Morgan
posted by Morgan Shepard on January 17, 2007 at 11:32 am
Dear Heather and Dick…what a rollercoaster you two have been on. I think it’s time to get off and on to something a little flatter and slower. It’s wonderful to see you are back at the theater, which I know you love and enjoy. You are in our thoughts and prayers every day, as always. Our love to you three and all the Perrys and Weafers. C&D
posted by Carroll and Deanie on January 17, 2007 at 9:51 am
So good to hear from you — and happy birthday to Finn! Congratulations on these tentative steps back to normalcy. Best of luck on banishing the remaining tendrils of steroids and narcotics.
Joanne
posted by Joanne on January 14, 2007 at 2:37 pm
Happy Birthday to Finn.
posted by rachid and mohamed on January 13, 2007 at 3:41 pm
Happy Birthday to Finn, and his happy birthday to both his parents.
Congrats Heather and Dick……what a first year it has been for all three of you.
Jean
posted by Jean W. on January 13, 2007 at 9:27 am
A late Happy New Year all. Keep your eyes on the prize my friend. You have come a long way on your journey so far, and we are still here with you.
Skip
posted by Skip on January 12, 2007 at 4:36 pm
Happy Birthday Finn!
This site was down a bit this wk and I was panicked I wouldn’t get to wish him a happy birthday on the site that’s kept me, and us, updated on his first year of life! What an amazing year, for all of you.
I hope you guys have a fantastic day celebrating and no more stomach bugs!!! David got hit w/it two and we ALSO spent New Year’s with a stinky baby boy Thankfully in our house he was the only one who caught it, not something I would’ve been happy with.
I’m thrilled to hear you are back in your acting mode and learning to live again. I can’t imagine all you have been through and think you’re really an inspiration Heather.
Much love to you, have a wonderful day tomorrow!
Love
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on January 12, 2007 at 12:13 pm
Heather,
I just took a chance this morning and checked your site and was so happy to see that you had written. I had been checking off and on, knowing that the holidays and just life in general is busy, but was wondering how all of you were doing. Now I know! Not fair that you all had to get that nasty virus going around, happy to read that it’s behind you now. Once again I’m amazed at your strength and determination, and all that you do. I can only imagine the emotions you all have looking back at the past year. Want to wish Finn a very happy first birthday. I look forward to seeing the pictures. Enjoy that birthday cake!
Love, Joan
posted by Joan Jenkins on January 12, 2007 at 11:23 am
I was so moved and touched by reading your website. Nancy Peterson at Kent School offered me the website to read, as my son, a student at Kent, age 16, has Osteosarcoma. He had surgery to replace his knee/tibia and femur bone in 2005, followed by chemo. He had a recurrence to his lung in Sepetember and they removed it in October. His last scan showed a new nodule in his other lung. Thus, we are now facing surgery again. Not sure about going back on chemo unless after this surgery another nodule shows up. Anthony wants to be a normal 16 year old teenager and go to school and be with friends. He had to take a year off from school due to chemo and sickness, and doesn’t want to miss any more. Your website is so uplifting. Thank you
posted by Rose DiGennaro on January 3, 2007 at 10:13 am
A very brief message this time - to wish you all a wonderful New Year filled with health, happiness, peace and continued blessings of healing. It’s hard to believe Finn will be celebrating his first birthday in a few weeks! PS A lovely posting by Heather’s dad
Jayne Winters
posted by Jayne Winters on December 27, 2006 at 4:24 pm
Hi guys - just wanted to say I hope you were able to enjoy your 1st Christmas. I heard you had quite an eventful Christmas Eve, poor things. Hope all is well now and you are getting some rest - I think it’s probably school vacation week for Dick and you are spending the week as a family.
Happy New Year!
Much love,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on December 27, 2006 at 11:22 am
hello dear ones,
it seems that having you back in my life on a weekly basis has let me forget to check this website …. craig mentioned that there was a beautiful letter from Dick so I “tuned in” tonight. it, of course, made me cry. then i found the thank you from your parents, heath … with all the writing talent in this family finn will have to be very strong to resist the pull of the literary life! right now my money is on him being a musician but once he has a true vocabulary there will no stopping him!
i shall think a lot about the end of dick’s note. there has been something ‘divine’ about this journey that SO many people have taken with you - it has changed us all and made us better women, men and children. it is the most marvelous marriage of an intensely personal voyage and a universally taken trip. thank you for letting us be with you.
bonnie had a dream last night about ‘finnalicious’ walking on his own … that time is not long from now and it is one more indication of just how far you three have come. i wonder when each rehearsal with you heath, or quiet feeding with you, finn or mutual, twinkling laugh with you, dick will cease to feel like a gift? maybe never … because i don’t see the world the way i used to see it.
love to you and your family (official and otherwise) and a happy new year to all who visit this wonderful site and send their care and love so freely! - lee
posted by lkpaige on December 27, 2006 at 12:08 am
If I don’t see you guys before the new year comes, HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!
It was so nice to see you guys last weekend and as always you made me feel pretty special and fortunate to have you guys in my life. I amm truely grateful for your friendship and love. Let the bells ring loud for the new year!!!!
Oh, and may the Mayflies fly high!!!
Love ya,
Craig
posted by Craig on December 26, 2006 at 5:12 pm
Hey Guys,
Just wanted to wish you both and Finn and everyone reading a very Merry and blessed Christmas and a New Year filled with hope, promise, peace and health.
xoxo
Sue
posted by sue k-b on December 22, 2006 at 5:44 pm
Hi Heather, ,Dick, and big boy Finn…I have not visited for a while but did alot of reading from the site tonight. I read all of Dick’s Nov. journal and it really is an inspirational tale. I admire how you both have worked at putting things directly out there for us all…the clearity and directness is helpful for me on my own journey ( which is going well, thank you). So much of your writings help me focus on a nowness…sometimes easy to miss but so rich when the awareness is refocused.
Fun to see the pictures of your beautiful boy. Have a joyous first Christmas with him…but somehow I think everyday must feel like Christmas with him…and each other.
Hugs to you from P Street.
Judy B.
posted by judy Barker on December 21, 2006 at 8:45 pm
Happy Holidays! Hope that you all have a wonderful Christmas and New Years together and that you, Dick get a full week of lounging while reading, playing with Finn and laughing with Heather. Christmas Vacation is one of the bene’s of teaching- hope your family enjoys it while it is here! Best, Shaye and John
posted by Shaye on December 21, 2006 at 12:28 pm
Buona fortuna con il vostro luogo. E abbastanza nice=)
posted by musica gratis on December 21, 2006 at 1:58 am
E luogo piacevole, devo dire! Buona fortuna a voi:)
posted by wallpaper on December 19, 2006 at 8:42 am
Hi Heather,
Have been thinking about you a lot of late and the anticipation and excitement you and Dick must feel as you look towards Finn’s first Christmas. Happy Holidays and the very best wishes for health and happinessin 2007.
Jean Weatherbee
posted by Jean W. on December 15, 2006 at 11:56 pm
Heather, Dick and Finn,
I was going through my old e-mails deleted ones and came across your web-site. With my poor organizational skills I haven’t kept up with your continued stuggles and victories over the last year. I have certainly inquired and prayed for you all on occasions. I just wanted to note that my family is now going through a trying period, but it has nothing to do with physical stuggles for life. Reading over your latest entries have really put our stuggles in perspective and you have helped me to realize what our family should be focusing on, the love and health of one another. I admire your courage and fight, your all are surrounded with a wonderful family and with that you have shown, you can beat just about anything. Good luck to your continued recovery and thank you for the inspiration you have provided to me and the message of importance. I wish you all a wonderful time together in health during the upcoming vacation.
In inspiration and thanks,
Blair C. Dwyer
posted by Blair C. Dwyer on December 7, 2006 at 1:01 pm
Heather, Dick and Finn,
posted by Blair C. Dwyer on December 7, 2006 at 12:51 pm
Hi dear friends Heather, Finn and Dick…
happy thanksgiving to all of you..
have great times Heather, you are right, it’s been a year passed you lived in tough moments full of challenges and difficulties, but we are so glad it finally ended and you could learn a lot of things in this life..
Don’t thank us heather, it is our duty to share with you bad or good times!! And as you said in your website, we think you are lucky, you have Dick beside you, he is really a good and a gentle man, say to him hello for us..
bear in mind that we are still thinking of all of you..
our best wishes from Morocco -in Biougra- to you…
posted by Rachid and Mohamed on December 3, 2006 at 4:39 pm
Heather and Dick,
I am so glad I took the time to check your webiste this morning.
I have thought of you both so often these last couple of weeks - remembering last Thanksgiving and being so aware that this anniversary of sorts was here.
What beautiful words you both have once again written.
I applaud your strength, once again.
Just wanted you to know that I’m thinking of you this morning.
Hopefully, we’ll get up there this winter for a quick visit and be able to see you and check out how much Finn has grown. I haven’t see him since the summer.
Love you all,
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on December 3, 2006 at 9:01 am
Dear Heather and Dick…Just a note to say hello and that you remain in our thoughts and prayers at all times…you are truly two remarkable people. I also see that eloquence runs in the Perry family. Not surprising. I gather you had a wonderful Thanksgiving with your families. We did also…got together at the lake with beautiful 70 degree weather and blue skies. This October and November have just been glorious. Too bad it will probably end soon but our winters are not too bad. As always, our love to you and all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll and Deanie
posted by Carroll and Deanie on December 2, 2006 at 9:23 am
hey there dick and heather,
i have lived my life listening to others, internalizing thier insight, and connecting it to my life. by far both of your insights have impacted my world the most and the letter that you wrote heath dick… is hitting me like a ton of bricks. (in a positive way)
love you both, mare
posted by mary ann hart on November 26, 2006 at 9:20 pm
Dear Dick and Heather,
I feel like I have just experienced the truest Thanksgiving prayer in Heather’s email and Dick’s beautiful letter to Heather.
We all do have so much to be thankful for; we all have our heartbreaking struggles, but we have a purpose and we have strength behind and beyond that purpose to guide us.
The old man in the green hat said it best, “Be Still”…there is peace and joy in that stillness. Thank you.
With love from Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose
posted by tilly rothwell on November 26, 2006 at 1:10 am
I could be mistaken but i believe i saw you at my restaurant (the Prodigal Sun). I happened upon your journal on my girlfriends laptop, and must say i am touched. As a father i could never imagine what you are going through. However you are a inspiration to all with your your will and desire. I wish you the best and continued strength. I wish you well through the holiday seasons.
Bill
posted by Bill on November 25, 2006 at 4:05 am
I know I have been quiet until now, but as I sat at the Thanksgiving table yesterday seeing our wonderful extended family, I thought this is the time for us to count our blessings and to give thanks for those blessings. So, here goes….As I write this, I know how award winners must feel…Who do you thank first?
Certainly I must thank Heather’s doctors, Dr. Joyce and Dr. Buff. These two doctors never wavered in their optimism and their plan to make Heather well again. I will thank them for the rest of my life for their determination and care. In thanking doctors, I must not forget Dr. Takudis. She was the watchdog for Finn. She knew exactly what was best for him because I am blessed with a wonderful, beautiful, and, most of all, healthy Grandson. Also, I need to say that the nurses BIDC and especially at Mid Coast made me understand just how important and valuable nurses are. They are amazing people.
I also need to say to all fathers of daughters: I can only wish for you that you can be fortunate enough to have a Son-in-Law like Dick. He is truly a father’s dream for his daughter. Watching him step up when he was thrust into a situation like this…watching him be a man any father can be proud to call son when most average men would crumble, and watching him fight as hard as Heather for her life should be an inspiration to any husband. He was a rock of support, not only for Heather, but for Heather’s mom and me. I know how much he was suffering and how scared he was but, he was still there when any of us needed him. Thank God for Dick.
However, I cannot thank Dick without thanking his family, too…or, I guess I could hope to say our family. Don and Kathy are responsible for raising such a wonderful, giving family. A family who think of others first and who are not afraid to show their love and emotion. I thank them for welcoming Heather as one of them, in spite of the foibles of her family. They are truly good and wonderful people and I am blessed to know them. Don with his calming and healing touch. Kathy just doing what had to be done emotionally and physically. When people ask heroes why they did heroic things, the answer is “it needed doing, so I just did it.” Don and Kathy are true heroes.
Don and Sarah gave undying support; spent nights with Heather in the hospital helping her through her ordeals. No one can put a value on that kind of love.
Kim and Tiffany. How does one thank them? Kim pregnant with twins and yet they opened their home and their hearts to Lucille and I. I don’t know how we would have gotten through this without them. The thought of sitting alone in a cold, emotionless hotel room while your daughter is battling the fight of her life is terrible. It was always wonderful to come back to their home after being at the hospital with Heather and finding the love and warmth that they both give.
Wendy. What can I say? True friend? She is so very much more than that. Sister? She is more than that, too. She is a God-send. I am truly at a loss for words to thank her. Wendy, I don’t know what Heather would have done…or any of us would have done without you. You are always there….just taken for granted. But, I always thought it was a compliment to be taken for granted…for one to know that you are always there; always to be depended upon. As I said, I am at a loss for words, so I will just say Thank you for being Wendy.
Jen, who administers the website, and still finds the time to be with Heather when she needs her. Another true friend. Another blessing in our lives.
Finally, but certainly not least, there are all of you wonderful people who through this website give your undaunting support. It makes us feel there is always hope. It makes us know that if love and prayer help, our daughter will win this battle. No person has ever been armed for a life battle with as much love and prayer as you all provided. I can’t begin to tell you how important your messages are, not only to Heather, but to Lucille and me. When we are feeling down, we come to this site and read all the words of love and support that you all provide. When Heather was at her darkest, Dick would read her the entries and one could sit there and watch her draw strength and love from them and use that to fight this evil enemy. I believe that cancer is the most evil of diseases because it not only attacks the body, but attacks the soul. Lucille and I have watched as loved ones stricken, would finally just give up and surrender to this insidious disease. You never let Heather do that. My God! I believe that cancer demon was very sorry that he tackled Heather, for surely she, and her army were the wrong enemy for it. She and her allies are unbeatable.
We know we are not completely out of the woods yet, or even that we may never be. But, we can see daylight, and while it was dark for a long while, we could always look up and see the light of your love showing us the way. If anyone ever doubts just how good people can be, they only need to read this website and they will know. I thank every last one of you for giving us our daughter back. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
Joe and Lucille Perry
posted by Mom and Dad on November 24, 2006 at 11:13 am
Happy Thanksgiving to all - and to all a good repast, represent, and refuture. You’ve said all the words and felt all the feelings - thanks for the courage to share all of them, the good, the bad, and the rest with all of us this year. You are both such amazing people. Finn has fantastic taste in music, incidently - Lee says he prefers my CD over any other. : ^ )
All the best to you.
Morgan
posted by Morgan Shepard on November 22, 2006 at 9:19 am
Thanksgiving….it’s amazing how we look at the holidays differently with each year that passes. We do, indeed, count and appreciate our blessings. Our family, our friends, our experiences (good as well as bad) for helping to shape us into the people God intended us to be. In church on Sunday, Pastor Jim said people often ask, “Where is God? Why did He let this happen?” yet there is nowhere in the Bible that promises us a lifetime of good and happy times. What God DOES promise is to always be there with us. And so He is.
I am thankful for having known you, Heather, tho only through a few occasions at DMR. I am thankful for your and Dick’s desire and ability to share your lives with us, for articulating so perfectly thoughts that many of us have swirling around inside us yet cannot put down on paper as we would like. I am thankful that you have had the strength, physically and emotionally, to get thru this past year. I am thankful Finn is such a healthy, handsome, joy-filled little boy. I am thankful you have voiced what it’s like to be pushed to the edge and seen the view from there. My husband is a cancer survivor and I can identify with the fear, the anxiety, the not-knowing. Yet I knew, somehow, that he would beat it. And he has. And so have you, Heather.
You’re right, there are no guarantees in Life. It is up to us to not take it for granted, to try and enjoy every single day - even when we feel lousy. Take time to notice the smell of fresh rain, the rainbow, the snowflakes, the smell of baking bread, the laughter of a child.
Congratulations and may this Thanksgiving hold very special memories and blessings for you and your family. Jayne Winters
posted by Jayne Winters on November 21, 2006 at 11:33 am
Hi Heather, Dick, Finn and the rest of the Perry/ Weaf clan,
We are coming up on Thanksgiving and I would like to say that I give thanks for each of you and the blessings that you give each other. I so appreciate being able to read your intimate thoughts, and be part of the loving nature of your friends and community. Checking in here and seeing what has been written helps me (a satelite of your world) work through my greif over your families cancer trials, and nurtures my hopes for your future.
I think the posting that most strikes me today is from the nurse at your hospital that writes to you that she saw your Hawk. I delighted in the fact that nature exists everywhere, and that this woman who meets hundreds of people each year found you.
I hope that your thanksgiving day and those that follow are filled with lots of drolling children and dogs, and that you all enjoy the gravy.
SMR
posted by Shaye on November 21, 2006 at 10:47 am
Hi Guys,
Thank you both for being so open during this past year. Your battle became the battle of others, and our prayers and hope became yours. You have taught me quite a bit over the past months.
Dick, I was moved by your letter to Heather. Your honesty and realism through a time that most couldn’t imagine, is appreciated. You put things in such perspective.
Have a great Thanksgiving; you’ll be in my thoughts as always.
Much Love
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on November 21, 2006 at 10:38 am
You two are just amazing.
I needed to read something like that tonight.
Somehow, through all this, you’ve managed to help ME at the right times - just by being who you are.
I love you both. Kiss Finn for me
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on November 20, 2006 at 9:15 pm
During the first half of today’s Patriot’s game, I was acutely aware that a year ago on this Sunday during the first half of another Patriot’s game I got a call from Dick that he needed me, because he could no longer deal with Heather’s sciatic pain alone. I rushed over and helped hold her until 3AM when Dick and I looked over the bed at each other and acknowledged that we were in over our heads and took Heather to the Midcoast emergency room . In a matter of several hours we got the news that changed our lives. So this is an anniversary of sorts, and I cannot help but wonder what the next year will hold. During the last, we have battled cancer , greeted three new grandchildren, lost both of our beloved Newfs and welcomed two more. We have faced death and embraced new life. So I rest in the relative peace of this Sunday and am thankful.
posted by Dad Weaf on November 19, 2006 at 7:07 pm
Hey guys.
Greg and I were talking yesterday and he pointed out that a year ago this weekend (I think) we were at your baby shower, and how amazing it is all that’s happened since. What an absolutely incredible year for you all! You’ve had a heck of a fight - and a beautiful baby, and we’re so proud of you.
Lots of love and a happy Thanksgiving in case I’m not able to get on here before then!
Meg, Greg, Liv and David
posted by Meghan Cranney on November 19, 2006 at 7:49 am
Hey there cous… It has been a while, and I am soooo sory for that. It has been quite hectic in good old Va Beach, not that that is any kind of excuse. We are planning a trip to Ct. between Christmas and New Years and then another in the spring. We must make some time to get together, it would be nice to have the whole family together at one time again. Please say hi to everyone for me and I hope to see you soon.
Love Ant
posted by Anthony, Jenn and Kids on November 18, 2006 at 3:38 pm
Wow, you’re closing in on a year since your diagnosis. I still tear up when I think of that phone call from Mom Weaf and I smile when I recall those morphine moments. It’s been a hard year but we’ve also had many blessings. I am in awe of your strength. Remember how far you’ve come. We’ll see you next week.
Love,
Kimmie, Tiff, Bo and Ella
posted by Kim Weafer on November 17, 2006 at 8:43 am
I just wanted to let you know that I see “your” hawk all the time
from our break room on the 11th floor. I always think
of you…..
xx
Amy
your L/D nurse
posted by Amy DeMartino on November 10, 2006 at 9:33 pm
Heather,
I think you did a great job explaining to all of us who read your website, just how frightening it can be when you feel something is the least bit different, changed, or new. And the cripling fear that hovers while you go through every scan and test to show that you are “ok”. It is something that everyone who has ever been in your position lives with, adjusts to, and eventually finds someway to live with. I believe it will get easier for all of you with time. The important thing is, you are ok, and in spite of everything you were going through, you enjoyed Finn’s first Halloween and even took him to his first swim at the pool. The pictures are great, he looks so much bigger than when I saw him in July. He’ll be in that Moosehead sweatshirt before we know it!
Sending all our best ot all of you!
Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on November 10, 2006 at 4:24 pm
So nice to hear an update from you - I’ve been wondering how you all have been doing. I’m happy to hear you are ok after such a scare. I can’t imagine how it feels to have some new “symptom” and be panicked that it means something awful. I think it will be a while before you get to a normal place w/that….
Finn is adorable! I can’t get over how big he is. Can you believe it? Every month that goes by w/my own kids really boggles my mind. They change so much the first couple of years. Finn, though, remains so handsome and still the spitting image of his mommy
Lots of Love,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on November 10, 2006 at 1:20 pm
hi you three,
i’m thinking of you tonight. how have you been doing? sending my love from up north!
posted by Molly Haley on November 8, 2006 at 10:14 pm
Hey, Heather and Dick…just a note to say hello and that you are still in our thoughts and prayers at all times. We hope all is progressing well and that you are getting stronger with every passing day. We’ve had a lovely fall this year…we’ve spent a lot of time at the lake where the foliage has been very pretty. Still warm enough to get out in the kayaks…I’ve been trying to do some bird photography with a zoom lens from the kayak and also through a spotting scope on shore. Have had some moderate success but nothing beyond that. As winter approaches we are beginning to see cormorants and loons along with the usual herons and egrets. The ospreys have pretty much gone, however. As always, we send our love to you three and all the Perrys and Weafers…C&D
posted by Carroll and Deanie on November 7, 2006 at 11:57 am
Luogo interessante, buon disegno, lo gradisco, signore! =)
I’m not saying that I will never moan and groan again as I struggle through my Bikram Yoga class, or as I trudge up some hill in Litchfield, or even walk across a parking lot on a cold day because I probably will…but after reading your poemI think I will stop and change my attitude! You are such an inspiring woman! Dick, you are a blessed man!
Beth
posted by Beth on November 2, 2006 at 12:09 pm
Happy Halloween Dear Ones,
This is Finn’s first Halloween - a landmark for us all. Did he dress up for the occasion? (if so, pictures, please) I hope that all is well with physical therapy, pool sessions, tests and the various hurdles that seem to crop up before you! We ALL always have the 3 Weafs in our minds and hearts. Keep on truckin’. xxxl.
posted by lee on October 31, 2006 at 10:03 pm
Luogo interessante, buon disegno, lo gradisco, signore! =)
Heather,
I’ve sort of (underline sort of) lived this with you, Dick and Finn and I still can’t even imagine. I still can’t even imagine … can this possibly be real?
I know you are tired, but you are also brave and alive. Brave and alive is limping around that track. Brave and alive is getting up every morning and looking in the mirror seeing a bald, puffy stranger. Brave and alive is having to drive to Boston 1-2 times a week praying for good news. Brave and alive is telling me everything is good when I call to check in when I know it’s not because I just talked to Mom Weaf. So try not to worry about your future. You are more beautiful and more alive now then you ever were with hair. If we could all be as honest with ourselves as you are with yourself.
I have so much more to write but Ella is chewing on Pearl’s rawhide bone and Bo is pulling out every CD we own. You know how it is. Gotta go.
Love you lots,
Kimmie
posted by Kim Weafer on October 25, 2006 at 10:48 am
Dear Heather,
Your poem is one of the most beautiful pieces of writing I have ever encountered. It makes me feel empowered; I think it will make many people feel empowered. If you can fight as hard as you are fighting, why can’t the rest of us do the same? You are truly an inspiration to us all.
October 17, the day of your poem/prayer, was the Celestial Trigger Day, according to my friend Anneke who dedicates much of her life to meditating alone where she lives in the Arizona desert. On that day, all wishes and prayers were infinitely more powerful than usual. You found new strength on that day; and you prayed on that day; and you wrote on that day. May the power of your words be increased a hundred fold. Love to you and Dick and Finn. Power to you and Dick and Finn!
Love, Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose
posted by tilly rothwell on October 20, 2006 at 11:56 pm
Heather, I can’t stop thinking about your poem. Reading you journey (and Dick’s) has changed my perspective forever. So many go through the motions of living their life. You do not and anyone who knows you won’t either. Thank you, Alison
posted by Alison Lowe on October 20, 2006 at 10:46 pm
sniff.
SMR
posted by Shaye on October 20, 2006 at 3:55 pm
Heather! You may not remember me. I gave you a massage at Sweetwater Day Spa this summer! It was awesome to find you page. I am no longer doing massage, but do work for the Y in Bath and was blown away to find your poem. Our staff have read it and we cannot tell you how moved we all are. We wish you the best and know that our thoughts are with you. It is so good to see you on the road to recovery and it is even more awesome to see your beautiful baby!! Take Care Amy
posted by Amy Carmichael on October 19, 2006 at 2:15 pm
Tomorrow morning when I head down to my treadmill, thinking, it’s Friday, why don’t I just skip it today, I will be thinking of you, and it will make it that much easier to hop on there! You’ve inspired me once again……..thank you!
Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re doing a great job!
Love, Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on October 19, 2006 at 12:07 pm
Wow — what a great post! In expressing your own struggles, you just gave me a perfect example of something I’ve been thinking about all morning. I’ve hurt my shoulder and groin at the same time, so I can’t swim or run right now. Instead of going to the Y this morning to water jog and do my PT exercises, I stayed home and pouted. Then it occurred to me that this is the difference between a true champion and an also ran: the true champion does the work even when it’s not fun, or flashy, or immediately gratifying. You, my friend, are a true champion, and I am going to the Y after work.
Love, as always,
Joanne
posted by Joanne on October 19, 2006 at 8:49 am
Thank you for that beautiful posting. What a writer you are … What a woman you are … Thanks too for trying so hard for so long. We all love you. xxxl.
posted by lee on October 18, 2006 at 11:22 pm
Heather,
You are so strong. Keep moving, keep believing…
posted by jess on October 18, 2006 at 10:16 pm
I’m moved by your strength, courage and tenacity Heather.
Thinking of you……
Don
posted by Don & Jean Weatherbee on October 17, 2006 at 8:18 pm
You are amazing.
Love,
posted by Meghan Cranney on October 17, 2006 at 6:55 pm
I love you.
You teach me everyday.
Thank you.
I am a better person.
Wendy
posted by Wendy on October 17, 2006 at 6:46 pm
SO GOOD.
posted by Jim Hart on October 17, 2006 at 4:12 pm
Heather…quite a visit to the Y. I know they will become less and less of an ordeal and more and more rewarding. One thing to remember, however…never underestimate the white haired old men. Our love to you, Dick, Finn and all Perrys and Weafers…Carroll
posted by Carroll and Deanie on October 17, 2006 at 1:04 pm
Hey, Heather…so glad to read your most recent post and see how well you are doing. We pray for your continued recovery and regained strength. You and Dick remain in our thoughts and prayers at all times. Our love to all…Carroll and Deanie
posted by Carroll and Deanie on October 16, 2006 at 8:26 am
Hey girlee,
Heard tons bout your recovery. Craig speaks nothing but praise. You rock. Life in Cali is what it is as I try to follow a dream. www.pilotproject07.com is where I have been the last three months. I will say this much. I found out about what had happened when I was in Joshua tree, and i did a little prayer. Hope it helped. When I come home, want a beer at the Sea Dog. Winter. Take care and say hi to Dick and the little one. I keep on pursuing the dream. Love ya. Kurt E
posted by Kurt Ela on October 15, 2006 at 3:40 pm
Heather,
You make me smile. How wonderful to hear you so happy, healthy - you have come so far. How wonderful to be able to say to you again, you make me smile.
I haven’t gone to the photos yet (sometimes I have trouble getting them) so I’ll try that now.
You just made MY day, girl!!!
Love,
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on October 14, 2006 at 8:14 pm
Heather,Dick and Finn,
I have at last made it to your page! What a wonderful and beautiful site. You all look so amazing! With everything that you have been going through you all look so wonderful. The love that you have for each other is evident in the photos. Finn looks so wise! I’m always thinking of you guys and I always send prayers out to you on the smoke from the sage I burn. I love you all and can’t wait till Caberet!! There will always be a special place in my heart for Mayfiles.
Thank you,Thank you, Thank you!
I wonder what Caberet will be like when we do it at Chris and Al’s age!?
I love you and If you ever need anything at all please call.
Craig
posted by Craig on October 12, 2006 at 4:02 pm
Oh, you sound so wonderful and optimistic!
The henna stuff looks really cool — if a bird pooping did that, it’s one talented bird!
Joanne
posted by Joanne on October 12, 2006 at 9:18 am
Hey Dick,
Heather made you cookies and you didn’t bring any to school? What’s up with that. Remember all of us little people next time Heather bakes for you!
Lou
posted by Lou Sullivan on October 11, 2006 at 8:50 pm
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posted by Musica latina on October 11, 2006 at 9:23 am
Heather,
I was just checking in again and picturing Finn, warm and sweet from a bath, dressed in fuzzy pjs with the feet, settling in for a snuggle with you before bed. My own Finn bug (Temple bug) is now too big for those pjs with the feet and he has his first loose tooth! I feel like he is graduating from college, yikes!!! I miss those eight-month-old days. Give Finn a BIG SQUEEZE and a nibble on those sweet soft checks for me.
posted by jess on October 7, 2006 at 11:48 pm
Hey, Heather and Dick…just a short note to touch base and say you remain in our thoughts and prayers 24/7. We hope all is progressing well and send our love to all Perrys and Weafers. The weather has definitely turned a little cooler down here…high today is supposed to be in the 60s. But we love the fall weather and look forward to it. Going down to Bluffton next week for a few days and will remember our good times there with you two. We look forward to doing it again in the future…next time with the mighty Finn. We love you both, or I should say, you three. Carroll and Deanie
posted by Carroll and Deanie on October 7, 2006 at 7:18 am
Heather,
I hope that I didn’t offend you with the last message that I sent. I said that when I saw the pictures of you in the hospital looking drained and grey it made me angry. I said that I wanted you to be that little engine at the top of the mountain shouting, “I thought I could, I thought I could!” You’ve been through cancer training and cancer boot camp and you’ve been out there on the battlefield. You have kicked some major cancer butt. I just want cancer to leave you alone, I think it has taught you enough already! I don’t mean to sound all high and mighty or like I know what is best for you. I just want you to be all better and I’m not as patient or as understanding and peaceful as you seem to be!
posted by jess on October 3, 2006 at 10:12 pm
Thanks so much for the continued sharing and updates. Life is filled with peaks and valleys; we shouldn’t expect any less of your ongoing recovery, but how wonderful it is to read of your walks with Finny, enjoying the crisp fall air and the colors of this special season. You have all come so far in 12mos….We continue to send prayers for restful days and nights, giving your body and spirit the time needed to pursue your “new” projects. I so admire your love of life, even during the disappointing times. Do you realize how difficult change is for most of us? And here you are, embracing and seeking new music, new art, new baby food, new everything. Most of the messages focus on you, Dick, and Fin, but I have to say a great deal of credit (if that’s the word) for your courage and grace and perserverance must be attributed to your parents and extended family, for they were instrumental in the development of Baby Heather thirty-something years ago. They must be very proud of the young woman and mother you have become, and likewise Dick’s family. Your love and strength as individuals and a couple are truly unique in today’s world. I must end, but wanted to also thank you for the new photos. I LOVE the picture of you and Finn reading on the couch, and the one with him snuggling on your chest. What an absolute angel he is! Take care guys ~
posted by Jayne Winters on October 3, 2006 at 12:01 pm
Ah, October. I love October. It’s so full of…Fall. Rarely — if any — freak heat waves. Instead, cool, steady weather that warms up in the center of the day, and then cools down in the evening. Much like our energy. S-t-r-e-t-c-h-i-n-g in the morning and reaching into the afternoon, then c-u-r-l-i-n-g u-p again as the sun sets.
I hope you are enjoying some languid days with Finn. Do not fret about being productive. There will be plenty of time for that. When you have the energy, good. And when you don’t, submit yourself to doing nothing. There should be no guilt, no pain, in doing that. You have earned each and every moment of your life. Enjoy it. It is a rich life full of love, and life, and hope.
You’re just awesome.
xxxoo Di
posted by Di on October 2, 2006 at 7:22 pm
Dear Ones,
I just had a delightful romp through the photo gallery. There are lots of great new ones … and, yes folks, Finn really is that adorable and ‘lit-up’ ! Have you decided on a Halloween costume for him yet? (a bug seems appropriate!) You have so many wonderful ‘firsts’ to look forward to as a family. Aren’t we all lucky? xxxl.
posted by lee on October 2, 2006 at 7:14 pm
Okay, I’ll try that AGAIN - don’t know how that happened!
Heather and Dick,
Talked w/G&G tonight and heard you had good results today in Boston - good, good, good. I’m alwlays thinking of you both and glad that this week ended up a good one for you. Have fun tomorrow; I hear there’s a book signing . . .sorry I can’t be at this one!
Kisses to Finn,
Love
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on September 29, 2006 at 9:00 pm
Heather and Dick,
posted by Pat (Weafer) on September 29, 2006 at 8:55 pm
Hi Heather and Dick…Just a short note to say you all are in our thoughts every day. We hope all is well and that you are feeling better and better with every day.
posted by Carroll and Deanie on September 29, 2006 at 11:51 am
hello dear Heather, Finn and Dick again,
so happy to hearing from you.. glad to see you in fine, great energy as well, we’re still with you and thinking about you..
Give the little Finn our loves and our greeting to Dick..
Your friends from Morocco.
posted by Rachid and Mohamed on September 28, 2006 at 12:23 pm
Hi Heath, just read your last message. You are the bravest person I know. Glad to hear that you are having good days. I can’t wait until they are all good ones. Finn is such a doll. He looks alot like you. I am so happy you got to experience what motherhood is. There is nothing like it. I’m at work now, so gotta go. My love to all of you. Love Aunt Robin
posted by Robin Hunt on September 27, 2006 at 12:58 pm
Heather, you are a champ and a fighter and just so amazing. Your resolve, your outlook, your courage, your strength, your perserverence continues to impress me. Little Finn is so beautiful and looks like such a happy guy — his smiles lighten my heart, so I can only imagine how he melts yours. I send positive thoughts of healing and strength and patience to let ithe healing take it’s time. Keep resting, nourishing, building strength and keep writing. We are all following your journey and learing from you and your strength. You are a fighter and you have won, now just let your body heal . .. . and then come visit us !! Take care of yourself, we are still with you. -stacy
posted by Stacy Gold (ngs friend) on September 26, 2006 at 11:00 am
Heather,
Maria told me about your website, and I apologize for not writing sooner.
You are an incredibly strong person (you always were), and you have a beautiful family.
Heartfelt wishes for a complete and speeded recovery,
- Phyllis
(from GHS, and a lot of theatre from way back when…)
posted by Phyllis on September 25, 2006 at 3:06 pm
Heather and Dick,
I’m retired, and with the time I have now, I made it a point to look for your website because Don had mentioned it to me a few times. Your journals have brought me to tears a variety of times. Your courage, strength, reliance on each other is inspirational to all couples, and will get you through all of this. You are going through situations that most couples never fathom in their lives. I know it’s trite, but this adversity will get you through anything else that you might face in the future. I want you to know, Heather, that I have all sorts of time to help out with rides, appointments, etc. Please telephone or email me if you need anything. Dick can vouch for my reliability. I think. Dick, you’ll vouch for me, won’t you?
All my best thoughts for you.
Jack
posted by Jack Wallace on September 24, 2006 at 4:55 pm
Think of you often and the incredible journey you and your family have been navigating this last year and am hoping that safe harbor is now in sight. Loved the picture of you and Finn on the couch reading together.
Jean
posted by Jean W. on September 23, 2006 at 8:44 pm
It hasn’t even been a year since this all started. Can you believe it? Not even a year. And yet I’m sure it feels like years since you first found out you were pregnant. That innocent couple all excited about the new person growing inside. Yet Finny was not the only thing growing inside — not fair! And yet, he has handled it all so well. You and your family and your close friends have all handled it so well.
I’ll be thinking of you as you grapple with whether or not it’s time to surrender or to push yourself just a bit. Despite all you’ve managed to handle in a year, there is no race now — you needn’t rush this part. As you said, it’s time for new beginnings…so enjoy them as they slowly unfurl, shift, take shape, and shift again.
Hoping to talk to you again soon, and maybe even see you. But I really want to make sure I’m all well again, so am going to play it very safe. I do not want to be the one to contribute to a downturn!
Much love, Di
posted by Di on September 23, 2006 at 7:46 pm
Hey! I’m still thinking and praying for you guys! Heather, that picture of you and Finn together, grinning from ear to ear takes my breath away. The baldness and the rebirth…so amazing. My love, Alison
posted by Alison Lowe on September 22, 2006 at 6:15 pm
So good to hear from you. Finn is just beautiful! I fear David is already his size, can you believe that? They’ll be good playmates when the family gets together. Babies galore! I love the picture of him sleeping. And hearing how he seems to just know what you need melted my heart. For having such a short life so far, he sure seems to have a lot of important knowledge doesn’t he? What an angel.
Keep us posted. Enjoy your walks during the fall! Hope to talk to you soon.
Love to you, Dick and Finn,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on September 22, 2006 at 3:19 pm
Hey Heather,
Re: Bumps in the road. Please know you have a plethora of shock absorbers out here. Beautiful, beautiful baby boy. Lee tells me he’s a gem to care for. You’re a champ!
Best to all of you,
Morgan
posted by Morgan Shepard on September 22, 2006 at 10:34 am
Hi, Heather. So now we know what the bumps in the road were. I suppose it’s some comfort to know that these are known complications of the process and not some new challenge. Enjoy the beautiful weather when you can. I love the new photos.
Joanne
posted by Joanne on September 22, 2006 at 8:32 am
Heather,
What a joy it is to see photos of you and Finn together again! What a handsome boy he’s growing into, there is such joy and wisdom in that sweet soft face. To tell you the truth I feel angry when I look at the photos of you in the hospital. I see all the brightness, the joy, the humor, the light, the life drained out of you and it makes me angry. I don’t want you to be, “The Little Engine That Could” chugging up that damn mountain chanting “I think I can, I think I can…” I don’t want you to be Sisyphus still pushing that bolder up the same damn hill. I want you to be at the top shouting, “I thought I could, I thought I could…!” Love and best wishes to you, Dick ,and Finn bug. Jess
posted by jess on September 21, 2006 at 9:19 pm
Hi Heather,
Still here, still reading, still caring, still sending those positive vibes. We folks out here are covering your back! Step back and look, you’re talking about building your strength back and not about yet another treatment, Hooray!
Skip
posted by Skip on September 21, 2006 at 3:43 pm
Thanks for your update Heather. It helped to calm the concern I was having. You’re in my thoughts often. Love the new photos!
Don
posted by Don & Jean Weatherbee on September 21, 2006 at 3:07 pm
Hi Heather,
Its nice to hear from you. We continue to think about and pray for you. Those pictures of Finn are so nice. I don’t know if I’ve ever seen a baby that looks like BOTH of his parent so much.
I look forward to the day we can get our kids together as the babies are but a day apart. Adam is a big boy, 23 pounds! Maybe he’ll start to sleep soon?
Continue to take care of yourself. You’re in our thoughts always.
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on September 21, 2006 at 10:57 am
Hi Heather,
Thank you, thank you, for writing and letting us know how you are doing, have been anxiouly awaiting any news. All in all, I hear good things, and am, as always, amazed at how you handle all that you do. Your triathalon day sounds incredible, and to read how sensitive little Finn is and instinctively knows about being on his best behavior! Speaking of Finn, he has changed a lot since I saw him in July, what a cutie. I remember those quiet little cuddle moments, they’re the best. I’m glad you and Finn are out enjoying these beautiful September days. Think of you every day, all our best to you, Dick and little Finn.
Love, Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on September 21, 2006 at 10:25 am
I’m still here, too! I’m sorry things haven’t been bump-free. I hope the road smooths out from now on. If only life came with shock-absorbers …
Joanne
posted by Joanne on September 19, 2006 at 10:54 am
You bet we’re still here! As we’ve been getting back into the school year, we’ve though about how you and Dick must be juggling the new schedule. We’re anxious to hear how your check up went, Heather, and how you’re doing.
Love,
Christy & Erik
posted by Christy & Erik on September 17, 2006 at 7:50 am
Heather and Dick,
Talked to Donnie yesterday and it seems that your trip to Boston gave you a lot of positive information and explanations. Thank goodness. This will all be worth it, kids, I know you just want it all to be DONE - that’s what all of us want for you too - just hang in there…and keep drawing from your inner faith and strength. It’s already been a very long road - I remember the baby shower, before you “knew” - I hope you are rounding a bend on the road to healing and wellness.
As I watch my two new grandsons grow leaps and bounds (AND Bo and Ella!) I know you are watching Finn develop and grow - it’s an amazing time. . . . .
You are always in my heart and thoughts.
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on September 17, 2006 at 7:45 am
I’m still here I’m wrapped up in the busy world of work and babies but think of you guys daily and still check this thing daily. I’m getting sporadic emails from mom and knew things weren’t as smooth sailing as we (and you) had hoped. Update when you can. We’re all still here for you.
Love,
posted by Meghan Cranney on September 15, 2006 at 7:37 pm
Dick and Heather,
Ups and downs, ups and downs. You are still always in my thoughts. Things have been very busy here for some reason. I guess it’s Fall. I am still fighting the fact that summer’s over . . . .
Keep up your emotional strength, you two, for that, I think, is what will help you through this recovery period. I will I could “zap” you to be fully recovered.
Kisses to Finn
Love
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on September 13, 2006 at 7:20 pm
dear Heather, Dick and Finn…
hello again.. we’re so glad to listen from these news, so happy to find you in the site and your home- “home sweet home” -writting again and expressing your own feeling, thoughts and enjoying yourself!!..
we’re doing well here in Morocco this summer ….
cogratulation again for you , for your small familly as well…
Your friends
Rachid
Mohamed
posted by rachid and mohamed on September 9, 2006 at 3:26 pm
Hey, Heather and Dick…just a note to say hey and that you are still in our thoughts and prayers, as ever. We hope you are doing well and getting your life back to normal. We had a good labor day weekend at Bluffton…the weather was good and we were with good friends. We are headed back up to the lake today. The weather is beginning to moderate and we look forward to fall. We saw Linda while at Bluffton and she brought May over for a visit. Linda said she got real excited as they neared the house and she ran all over the yard at breakneck speed after getting out of the car. I really think she remembered those days 10 years ago. We love you both and send our love to all the Weafers and Perrys. Carroll and Deanie
posted by Carroll and Deanie on September 9, 2006 at 7:36 am
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn -
You have been such an inspiration to me. I find myself seeing life a little differently everytime I read your reflections and the posts. You are in my prayers.
Reba is coming home from Morocco a couple of months earlier than originally planned. I believe she will be back in Maine sometime next week and she will surely want to connect with you, Heather. She is very emotional about leaving her extended family, particularly Mohammed……….
Sending you lots of love and light,
jody
posted by jody king on September 7, 2006 at 8:19 pm
Hey cutie pies! Hope everyone is settling into some sort of routine now. Not much to say, except that we’re still thinking of you.
xxoo Di
posted by Di on September 7, 2006 at 7:57 pm
Heather, I hope you are finding yourself again. Best wishes, Jess
posted by jess on September 7, 2006 at 11:15 am
Hi Heather,
Glad you’ve made it home. Wow, what an experience that chemo treatment sounded like - you are incredibly brave. Just wanted you to know I’m still thinking of you and wishing you well and hope that we see each other sooner rather than later.
best wishes for continued rest, strength and loving!
Keisha
posted by Keisha on September 6, 2006 at 7:54 pm
Why am I not surprised that you have come home earlier than most patients? That your blood work showed amazing improvement so quickly? That love continues to embrace you, from family and friends to those of us who know you only slightly? That your book would be sold out? That you have the grace and spirit to update your own comments for us, so that we can share your wonderful news? I envision you and Dick snuggling with Finn, moving into this new chapter of your lives and entering it with a wisdom and appreciation never thot possible. I hate to sound like a Pollyanna, but I am a firm believer in everything happening for a reason, even cancer and the pain and suffering that accompany it. Without the tough times, we certainly could not recognize and cherish the good. No one ever said Life was easy - altho for some reason I expected it to be as I got older?! - but Faith always brings us through it. I’ve read somewhere that “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a dream and today is a gift. That’s why we call it the present.” Like you said, all there is is NOW. Happy snuggling!
posted by Jayne Winters on August 31, 2006 at 4:19 pm
You will have my support forever… forget “just a short while longer”. Always in my thoughts. I cannot wait to see you, Dick and the baby, again. We’ll smudge and drum circle and dance in the moonlight.
Love you always, your friend Tam
posted by Tam on August 31, 2006 at 1:22 pm
Hi Heather,
Thanks for keeping us all up to date on your progress, and I do mean progress. That’s what I read in your words, that you are moving forward. You have been through an incredible time and I’m sure every day brings new feelings and emotions as you move further away from the depths of murkiness. So glad you’re back home now, hopefully enjoying these last days of August. We think of you often and look forward to your updates. I remember just a year ago this labor day weekend, we heard the good news that you were pregnant! Take care.
Love, Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on August 30, 2006 at 10:46 am
Dear Heather and Dick…just a note to say we’re thinking about you and hope all is proceeding well. We spent a few days at our lake house last week and had a couple of beautiful days…got our sailboat in a couple of times and really enjoyed it. Then the heat and humidity came back. We’re back in Columbia and getting ready for Labor Day with friends at Bluffton. Normally we’d go down tomorrow but will probably wait until Thursday or Friday after the passing of Ernesto. Please know you are still in our thoughts all the time and we pray for your continued recovery. Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers. C&D
posted by Carroll and Deanie on August 29, 2006 at 4:35 pm
I, like many others, have been regularly tracking your journey online, quietly, sending my thoughts. I will rejoice in seeing the newly borne beautiful butterfly who will emerge from the cocoon!
posted by Tracy Burke on August 29, 2006 at 10:22 am
…ditto (Lou Sullivan’s post). Enjoy every moment!
posted by Anonymous on August 29, 2006 at 10:02 am
Hi Heather and Dick,
I’ve visited the site several times since your last post, Heather, and can’t help noticing that you have rendered us all pretty much speechless! I sense that we are all heaving a collective sigh of relief. It feels sort of like maybe you just swam across an ocean, and all you really need right now is to lie on the shore and recover for a bit. As if you are getting your wind back, and since the main challenge is behind you none of us knows what’s next. (welcome to life, right?)
So there is a sort of silence on the website now. I remember in my counseling courses learning that silence is not a bad thing, so when I visit your site and find the quiet of the page I just enjoy it. . . . soak it in. . . . remember the past year or so . . . wonder who else is visiting with me . . . add my prayer for continued recovery. Welcome home Heather. Welcome back to school Dick. Peace to your family.
Love,
Lou
posted by Lou Sullivan on August 29, 2006 at 5:24 am
heather:
my pryers go out to you. i’m hopeful, just by reading your hopes. i’m buoyed by your accomplishments. you will be fine - wonderful, and fine.
and i’m a little jealous that you’re in Bath. hee.
take care of you.
posted by the princess of doom on August 27, 2006 at 8:53 am
Hi guys - I read this when you posted it Heather, I just felt like I should have something meaningful to say. After a few days, I just wanted to say how glad I am that you’re home and that you’re finally starting this next chapter with your family. I hope that you never put a period on the end of this sentence! I love checking here for updates, and when we have a healthy Heather, I think you should maintain this when you can with updates for all of us on yourself and of course Finn But hey, that’s just me! I hope you guys have a great weekend.
Much love,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on August 25, 2006 at 3:15 pm
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn,
Just a quick note to say we really miss you. Looks like we’ll have to join a play group. It sure is quiet around here! So happy you are home and have your family together again. Can’t wait to see you and the adorable little Finn Bug.
Love,
Kimmie, Tiff, Bo and Ella
posted by Kim Weafer on August 25, 2006 at 8:58 am
Coming Home
by Mary Oliver
When we’re driving, in the dark,
on the long road
to Provincetown, which lies empty
for miles, when we’re weary,
when the buildings
and the scrub pines lose
their familiar look,
I imagine us rising
from the speeding car,
I imagine us seeing
everything from another place - the top
of one of the pale dunes
or the deep and nameless
fields of the sea -
and what we see is the world
that cannot cherish us
but which we cherish,
and what we see is our life
moving like that,
along the dark edges
of everything - the headlights
like lanterns
sweeping the blackness -
believing in a thousand
fragile and unprovable things,
looking out for sorrow,
slowing down for happiness,
making the right turns
right down to the thumping
barriers to the sea,
the swirling waves,
the narrow streets, the houses,
the past, the future,
the doorway that belongs
to you and me.
Welcome home, Heather, Dick and Finn
Love, Kathy and Steve
posted by Kathy and Steve on August 24, 2006 at 10:19 am
Welcome home Weafers Three,
I’m sooo glad to hear that you make the trip north. Now I can visualize you nesting in your clean abode, snuggling and continuing to heal. The prayers of many still gather and and are sent…blessing be to you three - joy and peace.
love,
sheri for the nadells
posted by Sheri on August 24, 2006 at 9:21 am
Heather,
Tears streaming down my face, once again, I must say that I think there’s another book in here somewhere. For you to be so articulate now, during your healing is truly amazing to me. I think you will never cease to impress.
That’s it from here, it’s late. You know you are in my thoughts always. Don’t know when I’ll see you, but we’ll get back to regular email at some point. Interestingly, I was startled by your comment “I’ll be putting a period on this soon………..” So many of us check in here daily. But the period will be a good thing, I think, as I ponder your comment. It shows your progress to health, doesn’t it? Your success.
What a remarkable young women you are.
My love to your boys!
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on August 23, 2006 at 10:02 pm
Yeah!! You pick the date,I’m thinking that the spring sounds good I often look at your picture on the cover page and think, how could this have happened. You have shown us all that althougt we never know why, we can learn and grow. Looking forward to seeing all of you, especially Finn!
Love,
Heidi
posted by Heidi & Pete on August 23, 2006 at 2:18 pm
Heather — it’s so great to hear from you! Best of luck in adjusting to your new “you” and to your new “normal.” I wish you and your family the best in going forward.
Joanne
posted by Joanne on August 23, 2006 at 10:54 am
Dear Heather, My daughter shared this poem with me this summer. I thought of you right away and now I feel ready to share it. Enjoy.
The Invitation
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for,
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love,
for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow,
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or
have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own,
without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own,
if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be
careful, be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you’re telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself;
if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.
I want to know if you can be faithless
and therefore be trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see beauty
even when it’s not pretty, every day,
and if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine,
and still stand on the edge of a lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes”!
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and
despair, weary and bruised to the bone,
and do what needs to be done for the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you are, how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and
not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself,
and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
– Oriah Mountain Dreamer
posted by Mary Buckowsky on August 23, 2006 at 8:59 am
Hi, guys. I’m just dropping a note to say that I hope all is going well. I was thinking this weekend about how hard it must be to forge a new life now — one with Finn in it and one that isn’t dominated by cancer. Your don’t really have a template for it — before you had cancer, you didn’t have Finn; and you’ve never experienced motherhood without this huge cloud of illness shadowing you every day. I hope the transition is going well and that each day allows the knot of tension to ease a little more.
I’m going to be in Maine visiting my mother in mid-September. I really hope I get a chance to see you and your wonderful family then.
Joanne
posted by Anonymous on August 21, 2006 at 9:24 am
Hey Heather & Dick,
We’re just back from sailing up the coast for the past couple weeks. One of the first things we did was check in to your site, as we’ve missed being able to keep up with all that’s been going on with you since we left. We know the ups and downs are tough as you make your way through the post-treatment phase. New and unexpected emotions seem to arise each day… that’s all part of the healing and return to life. Keep holding on… you’re making it.
Happy birthday to you, Dick! We hope you are home to celebrate your day together!
We got some great shots of our seal friends and lots of seabirds on this trip. Though we did see a few Minke whales on our passages off the coast of Pemaquid, we we’re too awestruck to bother taking away our eyes to grab the camera. (Tisk, tisk… I know.) We’ll email you a link to our slide show when we get it up.
Hope you’re snuggling in and enjoying this day together. We look forward to seeing you soon.
Love and hugs,
Christy & Erik
posted by Christy & Erik on August 21, 2006 at 7:42 am
Congratualtions, on getting home guys! Happy B-Day, Dick.
posted by Jim Hart on August 21, 2006 at 6:59 am
Happy Birthday Dick! I hope you were able to enjoy it with your family all HOME!! YAY!
Love,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on August 20, 2006 at 7:19 pm
Dick and Heather,
A few posts ago I was looking ahead and hoping that you’d make it home for Dick’s birthday. Well, what DO you know???!!!! You made it.!!!
I hope this is an easy adjustment for you all - you have been through so many changes. And even going home - yes, that too, is something to adjust to. Rest, and try not to push yourself too hard Heather.
Thanks for getting the books back to me and I will get them to the kids soon. I’ve only had a little time to quickly go through it and your photos are wonderful.
Just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you and since I didn’t get birthday cards out to you boys this year, wishing you, Dick, a very Happy Birthday!
Love
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on August 20, 2006 at 4:40 pm
Dear Ones,
Hopefully you all are settling in to your new reality and you are more at ease. I’m looking forward to being able to help out when you are back in Bath and get to know the exciting new versions of yourselves and be an honorary Auntie to Finn.
Great news here … Ian started grad school and loves it and David landed a job as an editor out in Santa Barbara and loves it. Bonnie got her driver’s license and is nearing the end of her summer reading. John is wondering how to keep the 21 new faces he has hired straight. His Dad is happily playing pool and winning at bridge in his new assisted living situation and I am enjoying taking one deep breath after another…
Keep up the good work. We are all still thinking loving thoughts of you all day, every day. keep the faith. lee
posted by lee on August 19, 2006 at 1:37 pm
Don and I caught your piece on Channel 3 last night. It was great “seeing” you and hearing about your process. It will be interesting to see where your photographic journey leads you next. Kudos too, to the midnight tripod carrier!
Jean
posted by Jean W. on August 19, 2006 at 9:00 am
Hi all,
Just a quick note to say we’re thinking of you every day. I’m sure everything that Heather is feeling and experiencing is all very typical for someone going through everything she has been through. I think of all the emotions I feel just reading about her experience, never mind living through it. We’re at the lake next week and you will all be in our thoughts. Hope to see you back up there soon. Love, Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on August 18, 2006 at 3:55 pm
Hi Dick and Heather!
I don’t think I left you a note this week so before it ends, just wanted you know you’re in my thoughts. I hope this week has treated you well.
I head back to work next week. I’ll try not to let that discourage my posts here For all you’ve been through, this place really is amazing to come to. Before I was on leave, I’d pop on here in the middle of my work day just as a reality check. It’s nice to see the good in people isn’t it?
Love to you,
posted by Meghan Cranney on August 18, 2006 at 1:43 pm
Good Morning Heather,
A year ago today we were on Popham Beach with you blowing bubbles into the wind as you snapped away taking pictures ……. what a journey since then. So glad to hear that you are headed home to continue the healing process and to get into the routine of being an everyday family — albeit an extrodinary family that I am sure is ready to get back to doing the ordinary.
Jean
posted by Jean W. on August 17, 2006 at 8:43 am
Dear Heather and Dick and Finn.
Checking in to your website regularly, have been absolutely blown away by what has happened to you. The way you and your family and friends are dealing with this makes me feel somewhat inadequate. All photos of Finn are adorable but the one I love best is you and Dick in the swimming pool. I am thinking of you often and am so glad to know that you are making a good recovery from the transplant.. Mike and I had a BBQ with the diving club here at our house a few weeks ago. We showed your truc lagoon photos on the big screen. will buy your book and come and get it signed personally by you one day in the not too distant future. Mike is keen to bring me again to America and visit Maine. He is arranging a trip to the galapagos with his friend next year. I am still cycling and training for next years traithlon. Next year I will compete to raise money for a charity called CLIC for cancer and leukaemia in children. Will be 50 next year and hope to win my age group (hardly likely but I’ll give a go). you are in my prayers everyday. lots of love Julia. xx
posted by julia on August 16, 2006 at 1:03 pm
Hey guys! I’m so glad I got to finally check into the site after being unable to for a week or so. Wonderful news about the continued recovery, and a reminder that our prayers and thoughts are still needed. So many times I check in and wish I had some great words of wisdom, but even when I don’t have words to write, I close my eyes, and think of your family, and in my mind’s eye I try to see myself lifting you all up for a while. Know that many of us are thinking about you throughout our days, and doing what we can to try to help carry you along, just as you have carried all of us so often. My prayer for you now is that you may have peace.
Lou
posted by Lou Sullivan on August 15, 2006 at 9:24 pm
shes coming home, shes coming home, ra-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha
finny’s big and grown, hes big and grown ra-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha
dick doesn’t have to do it alone, do it alone ra-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha
cause their all at home, their all at home ra-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha
Again! One more time!! Who brought the mag-a-rita’s!
Be gentle on yourselves, transitions abound, and your are bound to get into a transition you don’t want to be in , that is a part of the life that you have been working so hard to keep
LOVE, love, and more love
PS great book, we read little pieces every day:) Shaye and John
posted by Shaye on August 15, 2006 at 12:10 pm
Hola Weafers Three,
Just got home from the lake and ‘checked in’ - SUCH wonderful news! YAAAY and bravo, Heather. Hope your are resting still with Finn in your arms and Dick beside you. Can’t wait to hear of a trip north.
love,
Sheri for all the Nadells
posted by Sheri Nadell on August 14, 2006 at 9:51 am
Welcome home soldier!
As in every war, between countries or private battles like your own, there is some adjustment time needed by every warrior. Take the time! You can truly say that you earned it. I am proud of your tenacity and strength thru this ordeal. You have showed many what a hero really is.
Skip
posted by Skip on August 14, 2006 at 7:18 am
Hi Guys, I am so happy Heather is doing so well. I just knew she would do whatever she had to to get well. Heather, you are an inspiration to me, and so many other people. Not many people could have done what you did. Sounds like Finn is doing well too. That’s great! I hope you are still feeling better every day. Hope it won’t be long before you get to go home to Maine soon. Love to all of you.
Aunt Robin and Uncle Teddy
posted by Robin Hunt on August 13, 2006 at 4:42 pm
Heather:
I had a dream about you last night…that I came to visit and we played board games and laughed like we did when we were kids. In my dream, I said, ‘everything is going to be ok’. And it will. I can’t wait to see all of you in Maine and share some giggles. I’ll bring the Atari.
Maria
posted by Maria on August 13, 2006 at 11:18 am
Dear Heather, Dick, and Finn,
For a week, we had no internet. The provider handed us off from one department to another - at one point I offered them $1,000 if someone would come and fix it!
I had many things to do, but I needed to check your site to make sure you were better. The repair people could never know just how bad I needed to read Dick’s words.
So, this morning, I have caught up with all the postings. Now, I sit here stifling my tears of joy for you three. You have made it. You three have made it. Now to try to get back to an ordinary life. I would imagine it wil be like post traumatic stress syndrome for a while. This thing, this ugly thing, that consumed you and took your ordinary life away, is finally gone. But it will lurk in the shadows for a while. Embrace the orindary things now, it will not creep back in. Feel the sunshine and nuzzle Finn. Nuzzle Dick too.
I would like to believe that the hugs I sent and the thoughts of you three helped to knock out a few of those ugly little cells. I am content with that.
You, Heather, have probably grown more than any of us could imagine. You were a good person before, but now, there is no limit.
We love you and send you three our congratulations.
Sara
posted by Sara Buchheim on August 12, 2006 at 8:37 am
I’ve been away all week and have not been able to check your website. What wonderful news to hear that you are healing so quickly! I hope you, Finn and Dick are able to get home soon and enjoy the rest of this beautiful summer.
Love, Shannon
posted by Shannon Erb on August 12, 2006 at 7:56 am
Dear Ones,
Rest and recoup… as every teacher knows: transitions are tough…very sound advice not to try to go it alone … I imagine that the smell of Finny’s scalp, the homey sounds all around you, (mutiple baby gurgles), seeing less strain on the faces of your dear family and resting while they keep watch will help with the fears and the changes. We love you. - lee
posted by lee on August 11, 2006 at 10:54 pm
Well, thank goodness you are human, Heather. I was really starting to wonder!
I’m sending you positive thoughts, but this time for your spirit to renew now that your guard can come down. It is kind of like the fight or flight response…you were in the fight mode, and now that the imminent danger has passed your body suddenly lets you know just how stressed you’ve been.
I am sending you so very many hugs. I believe that you can cry a river and still need the healing touch even now. It doesn’t make you any less amazing or beautiful.
Di
posted by Di on August 11, 2006 at 7:25 pm
Hi guys!
Glad to hear things are going well and that Finn was, of course, so happy to be reunited with his mommy! I hope you have a wonderful weekend together. We’re headed up to NH to spend some time at the lake where Greg’s parents have a house. My little guy’s first taste of lake water! I hope he likes it as much as Finn liked Moosehead
Love,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on August 11, 2006 at 4:01 pm
hey there, so good to hear that everything is going better than expected. wanted to let you know i was thinking about all of you. jd is taking swimming lessons and he is doing great! at each lesson i think about the both of you swimming to and from indian island and give you energy to be able to do it next year!!!
adam wants to help finn, bo and ella to crawl and stand up. time for the crib to be rigged for an active infant. it’s funny i counldn’t wait for jd to crawl, stand and walk. with adam i was hoping it would take longer… i know it just means he is developing… we love you, mary ann
posted by mary ann on August 11, 2006 at 7:38 am
Heather, Dick, Finn et al,
It’s a beautiful morning! Just thinking of you all there and hoping for another good, healing day. You have a houseful there. Hope all the babies cooperate for a calm, restful day - maybe they’ll all take a good, long nap AT THE SAME TIME. I don’t have much to say, just want you to know you are in my thoughts.
Love
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on August 11, 2006 at 6:36 am
AWESOME! We were all so happy to hear how well things were going! Tom returned from the lake while the boys and I stayed up for an extra day or so at camp. He updated us on the happenings and we all felt such a relief for all involved. Still a journey to travel ahead … but clearly all those thoughts, prayers, and positive energies are doing their part! Stay on your path … it’s a good one! All the best to the three of you and your families and friends. Our thoughts and prayers continue …
Tina, Tom, Ben and Cam
posted by Tom and Tina Villnave on August 10, 2006 at 9:55 pm
Dear Ones,
Wonderful news…moving prose,,,great progress. Thank you for letting us picture you in your Osprey nest, Heath. The image is calming and bright. Not only has truth, wonder and questioning poured from you two throughout this period…it has cascaded from everyone who says a little something on this site and also is absorbed by all who read it! My mind boggles when I think how many caring folks check into this site for strength and encouragement. This journey has connected so many souls and it is epitomized by the idea of flags flying for you at the top of a mountain in India. When you no longer need our constant prayers we will ALL be sending them somewhere else where they are needed. You have taught us that it makes a difference. We have all learned so much from you and your family and each other. Rarely have I seen so many risk opening up to share a soul-glimpse. You have inspired great beauty, grounding hope and soaring enlightenment. Enjoy every moment of your climb to good health - I know you will! xxxl.
posted by lee on August 10, 2006 at 10:36 am
I need a new ISP….
Hope it isn’t too late to say
YAAAAAAYYYYYYYY!!!!
Love you all so much!
Michele
posted by Michele Livermore Wigton on August 9, 2006 at 11:16 pm
Hi kids,
So the news from G&G tonight is more good news. Another temporary home, but one filled with love and support……and your son.
You are amazing, Heather….week “three” isn’t even over yet and yet you are continuing to surpass the expectations that were set for you. Hang in there, girl, we’re all out here, thinking of you, praying for continued positive progress for you. Trite as it may be….one day at a time….probably is the best way to heal. Seems like a good idea to me, but then, what do I know…..just hoping that you ALL can get some GOOD rest and healing time together.
You know I love you
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on August 9, 2006 at 9:19 pm
Wow!!! That is fantastic news!!! Can’t wait to see you guys and get our little men together.
Sending you lots of love from Heather Lane,
Tim, Vanessa and William
posted by Tim Record on August 9, 2006 at 1:10 pm
Hi Heather, Dick and little Finn!
Such great news! I am so happy for you and your families! God is good!
Love,
Lise
posted by Lise Beedenbender Zinn on August 8, 2006 at 3:50 pm
Yeah,yeah,yeah!!!
Great news.
Love Heidi
posted by Heidi & Pete on August 8, 2006 at 7:46 am
Reading this good news was the best way to start my day! Can “hear” the excitement in Dick’s words. What a difference a week can make. Couldn’t be happier for all of you!
Love,
Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on August 8, 2006 at 7:29 am
Happy news.Congratulations. I am very happy .
posted by mohamed on August 8, 2006 at 6:23 am
I’ve kept quiet on the website front lately but with this news how can I not shout out - YIPPPPEEEEE! YiPPPPPPEEEEEEE!
This IS the best news and I’m still smilin’.
You now I love ya, all three of you. Get your butts home!
Keep healing.
Love,
Wendy
posted by Wendy on August 8, 2006 at 6:07 am
Don and I saw your exhibit on Saturday…..loved your eels especially and found your good news today! I am so happy for you all….and there is still summer left! A year ago, minus ten days we were at Popham with you snapping away at us…..an incredible journey since then.
Jean
posted by Jean W. on August 8, 2006 at 12:01 am
Woo-hoo! Way to go Aqua-dart! Reeeeaaaaach for that wall!
XOXO,
Matt
posted by Matt Davie on August 7, 2006 at 9:09 pm
yay!!!! i can’t stop smiling either! i love you three. see you soon!
posted by Anonymous on August 7, 2006 at 8:15 pm
YAY!!!!!
We are so excited for you!!
Love,
posted by Meghan Cranney on August 7, 2006 at 7:44 pm
YES!!!! We’ve been out of computer contact for a week and have just reconnected. What FABULOUS news!!!!! BIG smiles
xxoo Dave & Di
posted by Di on August 7, 2006 at 7:28 pm
WOOOHOOOOO! Great NEWS! YipEEEEEEE
posted by Maria on August 7, 2006 at 3:25 pm
HI Guys!
WOW!
I could not be happier for you. You’ve made my day!!
Love to you all,
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on August 7, 2006 at 2:54 pm
Heather and Dick…we are ecstatic…our love to all.
posted by Carroll and Deanie on August 7, 2006 at 2:22 pm
Standing Ovation, Hot Shot!
XO
Morgan
posted by Morgan Shepard on August 7, 2006 at 1:48 pm
What wonderful news!!!!! I can’t wipe the smile off my face.
Love to you all-
Jules
posted by Julie on August 7, 2006 at 1:46 pm
Great news! Congratulations everyone. I’m so happy for all of you!
posted by Gavin on August 7, 2006 at 11:08 am
Halleluia!
posted by Joanne on August 7, 2006 at 10:46 am
Hi Heath,
That’s terrific news!!! I hope to talk to you soon! Still thinking about you and now I’m smiling while doing it!!
Love,
Kristen
posted by Kristen and Mark on August 7, 2006 at 10:36 am
Heather and Dick ~
YAHOOO!!!! Heather, enjoy that walk in the hallways!
Best news I’ve heard in ages!!
xoxo
Sue
posted by sue on August 7, 2006 at 10:09 am
Oh My God!!!! I am gushing!! I knew you were the best healer! Take it easy and we will see you on the homefont!
Love JP
posted by JP Gagnon on August 7, 2006 at 9:52 am
This is the greatest news!!!!!
I am smiling from head to toe!!!!
Congratulations!!! That certainly is “Great News….”, I’m very happy for you and your family.
Pat Cooley (Aunt Robin’s friend)
posted by Pat Cooley on August 7, 2006 at 9:08 am
Heath, Dick and Finn
Please know my prayers are with all of you You are constantly in my thoughts
I am looking forward to you going home and when you are up to it all getting together.
I love you and I know that this is all going to work and you will be home soon with your little bundle and with Dick
Love always,
Aunt Jacki
posted by aunt jacki on August 7, 2006 at 8:40 am
Hey guys!
I heard from mom that everything went great on Friday. I was so pleased! I wish I could’ve been there. I’m so happy for you and this huge achievement in your career Heather. You must be so proud of yourself! You know, through this entire journey, you’ve really had some shining lights at the end of the tunnel. The hugest being Finn, but having your photos published in a book…what a wonderful thing. I’m sure it’s things like that, and of course your wonderful support group around you, that’s getting you through this.
So did you pop list toast popping out of a toaster yesterday? I hope you had a good day. I was thinking of that phrase yesterday and chuckling. It’s finally gorgeous out, the heat has broken, just in time for you to turn a corner! I hope to hear that’s happened.
Much to love you all! And Dick don’t you have a birthday coming up…? My hope is that you’ll all be home to celebrate that.
Love
Meg
p.s. So I actually proof read this post, because I’m horrified when I look back at my posts and see spelling errors and stuff….and I found one. Horray for proofing! Watch…you’ll be reading this seeing something I missed…
posted by Meghan Cranney on August 6, 2006 at 8:09 pm
Heather and Dick,
We have returned from a trek in the Himalaya’s in the Ladokh region of India.
Astounding, wonderful trip. The land and the culture is so deeply Buddhist that it can’t help but effect all who live and visit there. Prayer flags exist absolutely anywhere that a breeze might catch the colorful panels and move them at all. They are on bridges across the raging rivers, on roof tops, at the top of the passes (we did 2, one was 15-something thousand feet and the other 17,000 feet. Definately on top of the world there!). We have brought a set of flags back for the 3 of you. When they are hung anywhere of your choosing (this could be done in a hospital room too!) then the prayers go out for you and will benefit all beings.
We hung some at the top of the passes for you. Your own set will be arriving very soon.
With our prayers,
Mary and Jim
posted by Mary on August 6, 2006 at 6:30 pm
Heather and Dick,
Heather and Dick,
Got back home this afternoon (not a great day to come HOME from the beach - just a sparkling morning, it was). I’m so glad that Rich and I were able to attend the signing, touch base w/you, Dick and see your interview, Heather. Of course, it made me cry - I really don’t know what’s with MY hormones lately - I’m really WAY past that phase of my life! AND I got to see Don and MEET Wendy, and have a nice talk w/Lucille. What a really nice evening it was. Of course there was a huge void without you, Heather, but, Dick and Finn (how HE has grown!) represented you very well and I see from a posting that you’ll be able to attend another signing @ Bowdoin in the fall - I hadn’t heard that before and am SO glad that you will be able to be present and celebrate this wonderful achievement in your career.
What a year this has been for you - full of many achievements, most of them unanticipated, but you have risen to the occasion time and time again.
You are so in my thoughts today - I’m hoping that this is the beginnning of “week three” and everything that the doctors have told you about that week is happening. May the better days begin…
Love you both,
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on August 5, 2006 at 5:16 pm
Horrible news,
but not impossible
for you
You dove into the water, determined, strong,
Courage piercing through the water
Blue everywhere, crystal stars on the water tips
curling, gentle breeze and
fragrant hues
In your wake we followed,
swam beside,
floated next to
hands beneath you,
treading water
The deepness was dark and cold
white caps and
grey, frigid wind
yet
warm springs float up
Your face to the sky,
suspended on the meniscus surface
submerged in the love
of God’s teardrop
glowing
healing
replenishing,
within the amniotic agua
Mercy
and
Glorious Rebirth
Bright eyes,
deep smile
you feel your loves on the shore
Baptism complete
you emerge
dripping in Wellness…
and Love
and Stength
and Wisdom
Our hands extended
embracing
then
joyously clapping
Bravo, Little Warrior!
Welcome Home to Wellness
with immense love and admiration,
Sheri C. Nadell 8/06
posted by Sheri Nadell on August 5, 2006 at 3:11 pm
Dear Heather, Dick, and Finn,
All of us out here are with you. We wish we could take some of your burden, some of the pain from you and carry it for you. I know the day is out there that the “old” Heather will wake up. The day is ahead when you will wake and say, oh, I feel so good, could the last year have really have happened?
As bad as it is now, look to the other side of the syne wave, it will be as good and even better. This world is a better place with you in it to inspire in us strength yet humility.
Rest now and gather your strength. Finn is going to need lots of walks with mommy, lots of swimming lessons, lots of horsey rides on the knee.
Dick, we send our love to you too. Thank you for being you. Thank you for having so much love.
I so wish, like everyone that knows the Weafer’s, that we could lift this burden from you. If we all shared it, it would only be a mosquito bite on all of us.
Take care, you three. Grab this Florida sunshine and stick it on your knee.
Sara and Jerry
posted by Sara Buchheim on August 5, 2006 at 8:05 am
“HI MY LOVES,”
DICK PLEASE FORGIVE MY GRAMMAR, SPELLING AND/OR WHATEVER, (TEACHER)- I AM NOT GOOD WITH ENGLISH- SAD TO SAY BECAUSE THIS IS MY ONLY LANUAGE (SMILE) OKAY! HERE IT GOES!!
I MISS YOU THREE SO MUCH!!- LIKE KATHY SAYS, YOU ARE IN OUR HEARTS AND MINDS EVERYDAY- SINCE I ADMITTED YOU HERE AT MID COAST 10/05 FOR SEVERE HIP PAIN AND LEG PAIN (WHO KNOW WHAT A JOURNEY YOU THREE WOULD BE FORCED TO TAKE) - I HEARD YOU STOPPED IN TO SEE ME AND I HAPPEN TO BE OFF THAT DAY- EVERYONE SAID YOU LOOKED GREAT AND FINN HAS GOTTEN SO BIG!!- IT IS HARD TO BELIEVE THAT HE IS THE SAME BABY THAT WAS IN YOUR WOMB, KICKING AND GROWING WHILE YOU FOUGHT FOR HIS LIFE AND YOURS, AFTER WE FOUND OUT THE REASON FOR YOUR PAIN AND DISCOMFORT- I STILL REMEMBER PLACING MY HAND AND THE MONITOR ON YOUR ABDOMEN WAITING TO HEAR HIS LITTLE HEART BEATING AWAY TO MAKE SURE HE WAS ALRIGHT AND TOLERATING THE MEDICATION WE WERE FEEDING INTO YOUR BODY TO HELP PROVIDE MOMENTS OF RELIEF FROM THE PAIN- WITHOUT FAIL HIS HEART WAS STRONG AND HIS DETERMINATION / WILL WAS AND IS EQUAL TO HIS MOTHERS-
HEATHER YOU HAVE BEEN STRONG FOR SO LONG- THAT YOU HAVE BEEN ABLE TO CARRY YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY THROUGH THIS DIFFICULT JOURNEY- IT IS OKAY TO JUST CARRY YOURSELF FOR NOW!!- IT IS TIME FOR THE REST OF US TO CONTINUE TO BAN TOGETHER AND SUPPORT YOU AS WELL AS CARRY YOU-
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!! YOU ARE MY HERO, NOT SO MUCH BEACUSE OF WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH, BUT BECAUSE OF YOU!!- SOOO….., TAKE THE TIME YOU NEED TO FEEL- SAD- ANGRY- EVEN EVIL- BECAUSE LIFE IS A BALANCE, AND IT IS IMPORTANT FOR US TO GET ALL OF OUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS OUT- LET THESE FEELINGS PASS THROUGH YOUR BODY- DON’T HOLD ONTO THEM, BECAUSE OTHER FEELINGS ARE WAITING TO TAKE THEIR PLACE-
YOUR JOUNERY HAS TOUCHED EVERYONE AROUND YOU- YOU HAVE HELPED TO PUT THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE FOR SOME THAT HAD NO VISION- YOU HAVE BEEN ABLE TO ALLOW OTHERS TO LOVE DEEPER, WHEN THEY DID NOT KNOW THAT LOVE WAS THERE TO BE HAD- YOU HAVE BE ABLE TO GET A WHOLE COMMUNITY AND THEN SOME TO BAN TOGETHER AND HELP YOU WITH YOUR JOURNEY AND FIGHT- YOU HAVE MADE OTHERS TAKE A LOOK AT THEIR OWN IMMORTALITY AND LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST- YOU HAVE SHOWN THOSE THAT ARE WEAK HOW TO BE STRONG- YOU HAVE LET OTHERS SEE THAT LIFE IS WORTH LIVING WHEN THEY HAVE LOST HOPE- YOU HAVE BRIGHTEN THE WORLD WITH YOUR RADIATE SMILE- AND FOR ALL THAT I THANK YOU-
SO, MY FRIEND- YOU HAVE DONE A GREAT DEAL OF WORK ON THIS JOURNEY- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO REST- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO LASH OUT- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO BE SELFISH- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO BE ALONE- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO SHOW YOUR PAIN- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO BE SACRED- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO HEAL!!!-
WHATEVER YOU NEED- JUST CALL- YOU KNOW HOW TO REACH ME- MY PLAN NOW IS TO FADE BACK INTO WITH WOODWORK AND COME OUT ONLY WHEN I HEAR AND FEEL YOUR CALL- ONLY WHEN YOU NEED HELP AND CAN NOT DO FOR YOURSELF- ONLY WHEN YOU NEED TO BE PICKED UP AND CARRIED THROUGHOUT PART OF YOUR JOUNERY FROM TIME TO TIME, BECAUSE HEATHER THIS IS YOUR JOUNERY AND IT MUST BE COMPLETED BY YOU- EVERYDAY THAT YOU MOVE FORWARD, EVEN WHEN YOU FALL BACK, YOU HAVE SUCCEEDED - NEVER THINK YOU ARE LOSING THE FIGHT- BECAUSE THE FIGHT IS IN YOU- AND YOU HAVE ALREADY TAUGHT AND LEARNED FROM THIS JOURNEY- GOOD BYE FOR NOW MY LOVE- KNOW I AND ALWAYS WITH YOU EVEN WHEN I AM NOT-
TO FINN- COME SEE YOUR WENDY- I MISS YOU SO MUCH- YOU AND YOUR DADDY IS ENOUGH REASON FOR YOU MOMMY TO FIGHT-
TO DICK- EACH DAY I WALK THROUGH THIS LIFE- I AM AMAZED BY YOUR LOVE FOR YOUR WIFE- YOU ARE HER LIFE- IF YOU EVER NEED ME COME- BECAUSE PART OF THIS IS YOUR JOURNEY TOO.. MUCH LOVE
WENDY
posted by WENDY M.O'CONNOR on August 5, 2006 at 4:15 am
Dear Heather and Dick,
I must tell you although I have not read the messages recently the 3 of you and your families are in my daily thoughts and prayers. I always have my eye out for your parents so I can catch up on a more personal note. I had an acquaintance a few years ago that had cancer and a bone marrow transplant. I remember her telling me how sick and how hard that time was. She felt totally miserable and isolated but she got through it one day at a time. I feel like you are turning inward to rebuild yourself. You have gone through so much in less than a year. You are drained and need to replenish your inner soul and I know you can and will do it. Along with your family and all your friends you have the most precious Finn waiting for you to hold him in your arms again and hug him and kiss him. At his age he is fine with the separation you must endure at this time but when he sees you his face will light up and your heart will sing. Get your chin up and start thinking about what you are going to do once you are free. The window seat is the absolute greatest! Get out your special book and start doodling and drawing. Your art is amazing and so expressive. Get yourself on paper. You are the only one who can pull yourself back up to the surface and breath in that wonderful air called life. We are all praying for you. You can do it. You got this far because of your determination. You did it for Finn while you were pregnant and you can do it to get him back into your arms. Dick and Finn wait to have your arms wrapped around them again as you long to have them wrap their arms around you. You are the greatest. I can’t wait to see you when you come home. Love from all of us on Maternity at MidCoast. Kathy
posted by kathy and mary on August 5, 2006 at 12:12 am
Hello, Everyone–
Heather has asked me to post this news on the website. The first copies of her new book, “Confluence: Merrymeeting Bay,” with Heather’s wonderful photography accompanying essays by Franklin Burroughs, have arrived and a book launching and the opening of an exhibit of Heather’s photos will be celebrated this evening, 5:30-7:30, at Abracadabra, 11 Pleasant Street, Brunswick. Dick and Finn will be there, and Heather will certianly be there in all our hearts–but also on a recent video interview. We hope you’ll join us for this first celebration of “Confluence.” The exhibit will be at Abracadabra throough the month of August. There will also be later booksignings and a photo exhibit at Bowdoin this Fall, when Heather can join us in person! The first review of “Confluence” appeared today in the Brunswick Times Record, and you can access it online.
Jennifer at Tilbury House
Dear Weafers Three,
I have been checking the website but have not written lately - my sincere apologies. I started to write when I read about your wonderful dancing evening, but somehow got interrupted. I’m thinking of a wellness poem - I’ll ’send’ it when it’s done…I’ve been reading back through your entries and others’ - what a journey. And yes, I too believe that Heather, you are huddling and rebuilding…I wish that we could all take time in the bed, or in the windowseat; endure for you Heather. The line of people volunteering would stretch for miles. It reminds me of when Aaron was born, and I asked the doctor, “can’t you reach him yet?” and she said, “No, Sheri, YOU have to do this.” And upon learning that he was just a bit stuck on my pelvic bone, I thought “Oh, now that I know what the obstacle/problem is, let’s get moving!” And out he came. But I’ll never forget that, because she was right - I had to do it. No one else. I had support, and love, and wonderful care around me, but no one else could do it for me. It can be a very scary, but I think, also an incredibly empowering place to be. Because you can and WILL do it, Heather. And you are wise and right to devote all of your energy to it. Finn IS and will be just fine. He KNOWS in his soul of souls that you love him. And we are ALL still here. And we’ll be patient. I loved the entry that said ‘we’re all still here, waiting. And we’re not going anywhwere until you come out and take your bow!’ A great visual and absolutely correct.
Soon we are headed up to my version of Moosehead - Partridge Lake in NH - and we will keep thinking of you as we sit on the dock and watch the sunlight dance on the water. My poem is about your wellness journey through water, sunlight, healing, replenishing…if it hasn’t taken its final shape before, maybe it’ll take form at my Moosehead.
Know that we send our hugs, gentle kisses on the cheek, smiles, and love to you three,
Sheri for all the Nadells
posted by Sheri Nadell on August 3, 2006 at 10:46 pm
Thursday 8/3 2:13 p.m.
Hi Heather,
Well Get Well Soon obviously doesn’t cut the mustard now does it?
Hmmm. Then what to say? Clearly you’re in a mighty dark corner of all this but I’m glad you’ve decided to ditch Peanut Butter & Jelly Sandwiches, I’ve always thought those were so odd! May each micro second be better than the one before it. Well how about a little limerick? Ok, here it goes
There once was a couple named Heather and Dick
Life took a bad turn when Heather got sick
But then Finn came to be
And filled them with Glee
So feel better Momma-but quick!
posted by Aimsel Ponti on August 3, 2006 at 1:21 pm
Heather and Dick:
Thanks to you both for keeping us all posted. I read the blog daily and each time I do I send healing energy your way. All my love to you both and Mr. Finn. You are all amazing. Love, love, love Maria
posted by Maria on August 3, 2006 at 11:39 am
A window seat will cheer anyone up! I’m happy to hear that your spirits are improving! Love you and talk to you soon!
Heidi
posted by Heidi & Pete on August 2, 2006 at 11:17 pm
I’m so glad to hear you’re doing better today Heather! And it is sweltering. I suppose you can be thankful to have AC where you are? It’s the little things now right? I hope you enjoy your trashy soaps….I’m a faithful GH watcher….shhhh….I even record it when I’m working and not on maternity leave
Love
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on August 2, 2006 at 6:33 pm
Hi Heath,
So glad to hear you’re feeling a little better today. My mom talked to your dad a couple of days ago and she filled me in. Today’s update sounds like a big improvement from the you were then. Hope to talk to you soon. I’ll try and call you next week. I’ll keep checking the website daily for more (hopefully) good news.
Love,
Kristen
posted by Kristen and Mark on August 2, 2006 at 3:46 pm
Thank you, Dick, for the hopeful update! I love the idea of the window seat, a chance to see that life continues beyond the four walls of the hospital room. I look forward to the day when Heather gets to jump back into that world. In the meantime, continued good vibes, healing thoughts and prayers, are headed your way.
Joanne
posted by Joanne on August 2, 2006 at 3:34 pm
Dear Heath & Dick,
I just received Dick’s update (thanks) and have come here to look at your photos and feel conected to you guys again. You know I am with you in in heart, spirit and love. I only wish that could be enough for you right now. You know I know something of the dark place you are in right now, how afraid you are, how utterly exhausted of fighting and how alone you feel in this battle of yours even with all of us pulling for you and that amazing man sitting beside you. Please Heath rest, retreat, restore but do not give in. You are better than this obstacle that has been put in your path. Your faith, your very core is being tested right now but I know you and I know you can come through this. Wiser maybe somewhat different but essentially still you. “Sarah Beth is scared to death” but she will dance again. I know this is yours alone to battle, to come to terms with every day every minute. Rest assured we will all be here waiting for you when you do. I know how much it hurts you to be away from Finn but the bottom line is he won’t remember this brief period away from you, he is being cared for and loved and you need to focus on YOU. If love alone could cure you Heath you wouldn’t so much as have a cold for the rest of your life. Feel all our love and feed off it to heal. Try to stay in the moment and get past it and than realize you are now one moment closer to being well and home. You have come so far you are now in the end run. You’ve endured much but waiting at the end of all this is Dick, Finn, your loving family and many friends and all of us your fans. I watched you grow up, from that beautiful baby (who had to overcome obstacles) to this amazing woman (who WILL overcome this obstacle) that you are today. You know you are my sister and that I have been closer to you than probably anyone. Selfishly I am not prepared and I refuse to lose another sister. I need you in my life to bring that hope you inevitably do from just being you. Will yourself to heal, if anyone can do that I know you can.
All my love P xxxx00000
posted by Pia on August 2, 2006 at 2:38 pm
Just read the latest posting by Dick, his beautiful letter, Heather’s prayer to Baby Finn and all the love and support from family and friends. There are no words to express the depth of emotion I feel every time I check out this web page. You are all an inspiration to this young family, to me, and to one another. I feel blessed to have been provided access to such an ongoing expression of limitless love and care and compassion.
I particularly like the comparison of Heather to the butterfly. You are, indeed, going thru another stage of development. Changing, but growing stronger and developing the wings which will lift you out of this difficult time of your life. You will emerge with a different view of life, why wouldn’t you? The last 10mos have been filled with questions and a mixed bag of every emotion imagineable. But every experience and transition we go thru make us more appreciative of how strong we truly are, how our Faith and the love/prayers of even complete strangers can work to pull us thru to better days. Dick, your Heather is not gone…she’s merely preparing for her grand re-entrance! Jayne Winters
posted by Jayne Winters on August 2, 2006 at 10:28 am
Hi Heath,
I just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and I can’t wait to hear your voice again. You take the time that you need to heal and reflect. We will all be here waiting for you when you are up to talking with us again. We love you and we miss you and I can’t wait for another one of our weekends. This time, at our house, total pampering
All of our love to all of you!
Heidi
posted by Heidi & Pete on August 2, 2006 at 10:25 am
Heather and Dick ~
My prayers and thoughts have been with you since
the day little Finn was born. You have taught me so much
about life and love and wonderment……..You have been blessed with
oneanother’s love, and that is so beautiful.
Hold onto eachother tight and close, there is nothing more special.
Love Amy DeMartino
Your humble delivery nurse
posted by Amy DeMartino on August 1, 2006 at 8:49 pm
Heather and Dick,
I was so struck by Dick’s letter and concern and/or confusion by the apparent change in how you are and it brought to mind a little chart in the Gesell Institute’s book CHILD BEHAVIOR. It is a chart that I refered to many times when Sarah was little and I found that the sequence it described so very accurate and I believe that it continues throughout our lives . The chart includes ages, but what I found more important was the sequence of behavior.
That inwardized time is so often that period of regrouping, and vitally important.
Think of you often and am amazed at your willingness to share this personal time so openly. It is a privilege to witness this journey and the grace with which you both are demonstrating as you travel.
Jean Weatherbee
posted by Jean W. on August 1, 2006 at 8:45 pm
Dear Ones,
The latest report, Dick’s letter, the responses from many who love you… i am completely overwhelmed … but through the miasma of emotions I see quite clearly one message for Heather - just be. That is enough for now. All my love, lee
posted by lee on August 1, 2006 at 4:44 pm
Heather,
I was thinking of you on the way into work today and decided to play one of my favorite songs. It was the song that you danced to not long ago, “Heal Me” (Melissa Etheridge).
I thought I would post a few of the words to remind you of that night, and the inspiration that the song brings:
Ain’t it crazy
For a moment there
I just gave up trying
But now I see
You can let the light in
You can begin again
Ain’t it crazy
I lay me down in this sweet perfection
I am a witness to my resurrection
Heal me lift me
Take me to the waterside
Drop me in let me swim
Let everyone know
I’ll be coming home again
Love you,
Jim Hart
posted by Jim Hart on August 1, 2006 at 6:10 am
Its 5:45 am here in NYC — one of those rare times when the city actually feels asleep — and I sit in front of my computer reading about the journey you are on. The unbelievable strength you both show right now is truly amazing. Time and again I am reminded that when the road gets difficult and uncertain, out bodies and souls reveal previously hidden resevoirs of energy. Sometimes that energy comes from within, like the kicks of an unborn baby inside of your belly…while other times its flows from sources outside of your body, through your husband, your son, your parents, you friends, your nurses, your doctors. Right now I am directing my healing energy northeastward toward you both. My healthy blood, my healthy bones, my healthy heart have lots to spare. I can’t wait to see you when all of this is over. Many people have mentioned the idea of this experience as a rebirth. That feels very true to me as I read your words. Heather is deep inside a protective womb right now…building the strength she needs to emerge into the light. Much like an unborn baby, I hope she can hear the voices of everyone outside who love her and are waiting for her to arrive all fresh, cleansed, bald, yelling and full of energy. Just like Finn couldn’t be born until he was ready to live on his own, we patiently wait for Heather’s birth. The energy and excitement will build day by day. We all are eager to see you! Until then, continue to listen to the voices outside…we all love you so much.
posted by Matt Davie on August 1, 2006 at 5:30 am
Heather and Dick,
I miss you both so much. Your postings here are such a gift.
After reading Dick’s last post, I (like Jess) had the image of monarch butterflies in my mind. The way Dick described your quiet, still body, I thought of you cocooning, changing, growing stronger. You’ve been through the slow, not-so-pretty larval stage, and now it’s time to withdraw, be still, and let your true self prepare to emerge. You have both spoken here and elsewhere about becoming the person you are meant to be. It’s nearly time. We can hardly wait!
Sending you love and patience,
Michele
posted by Michele Livermore Wigton on July 31, 2006 at 9:25 pm
Dick,
We can feel the intensity of the roller coaster ride in your latest update. Your letter to Heather was deeply moving, and we can relate to so many of the emotions you are experiencing right now.
You’re in the huddle mode now… it’s exactly where you need to be. Heather’s body is demanding her full attention to heal and renew. She needs to pour every ounce of energy she has into herself. And, she needs you there beside her to keep pointing the way toward the light. You’re making it together! Faith will be true… she knows the way… and this Dark Night will give way to a New Day.
We love you…
Christy & Erik
posted by Christy & Erik on July 31, 2006 at 7:46 pm
Heather-
I am sitting and crying in the library in Topsham reading the letter your wonderful husband wrote to you…….Has there ever been as much love expressed then shared with others?
Thoughts of YOU fill my days…I continue to send positive energy your way……By nature I am a worry wart …….but I want you to know that there is not so much worry as hope……Draw from those who love you…..they will give you extra energy when you need it……let those who love you most take care of you…..you have taken care of so many with your humor and positive glow that surrounds you every minute…..As your body begins to take care of itself….know that this time in your life will pass………..You will be a stronger (is that possible?) person because of this…..you have shared this experience with many…..even when you may have wanted to crawl under a rock……we have become different people because of you……we are beginning to learn what is important……love, hope and caring…..family, friends…..thank you for that….when you meditate in the morning…try to feel the love that comes your way from all of us……..we love you……..
warm thoughts…
Andrea
posted by Andrea on July 31, 2006 at 2:14 pm
Dick,
My guess is that if Heather is feeling any comfort right now, it’s from the words in your letter. You are both going through a time that is hard for any of us to imagine unless we were there firsthand experiencing it ourselves. It sounds to me that all of what you and Heather both are feeling must be pretty typical. I hope that this week will be a turning point for Heather as her body starts this long awaited healing process. As always, we’re thinking of you. All good wishes to you both.
Love, Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on July 31, 2006 at 1:30 pm
Dear Dick,
Your loving understanding, honesty, and encouragement for your wife is incredibly moving. Heather honey, we know you’re in there. Know that we’re out here, whether we are precious loved ones or people you’ve acted with once or twice. We knew what we signed up for when all this started and we ain’t leaving the theater till you come out and take a bow. Sleep, rest, and get well.
All my best,
Morgan Shepard
posted by Morgan Shepard on July 31, 2006 at 1:13 pm
Dear Heather and Dick,
You know the traditional prayer about footsteps in the sand — that God walks beside us when we’re strong, and he carries us when we’re in need. The same holds true for friends. You have so much good will and love stored in the hearts of those who know you. Now, when your reserves are at their lowest ebb, is when we have a chance to repay some of the kindness and light and joy you’ve given us. If you have no more fight left in you, let us fight for you — with wishes, prayers, and deeds. We are all priveleged to be a part of this battle, if only in the smallest way.
Love,
Joanne
posted by Joanne on July 31, 2006 at 11:50 am
Dick,
My daughter, Amanda, grew up with Heather in Greenwich. I am very fond of this talented little lady and have been saying prayers for the three of you since Amanda forwarded news to me a while back.
Amanda just forwarded the 7/30 update. You, sir, are QUITE a skillful writer. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and I compliment your strength.
God Bless you all,
Al
posted by Al Hirschhorn on July 31, 2006 at 11:44 am
For Dick,
What is there to say to you. You, too, are constantly in my thoughts. When you and Don were born that August day - precious boys - very unexpectedly - well, we never know what our children will face in their lives. I think of that day often when I think of the struggle that you and Heather are going through. We just never know what life will bring our way. But, be assured, that we are all so very proud of YOUR strength too. Interesting that you made note of the fact that Heather has guided you and taught you that this public display of your thoughts is okay - and a good thing. I guess maybe she’s taught a lot of us that lesson. Baring our souls to the world - not an easy thing for many of us to do. I too check in to this site a couple of times a day. I know that things have been very tough these last few days and didn’t really expect to see anything new. From us all us out here who are wondering………thank you for your update. I wish we could fast-forward to the end of this treatment - or at least this week - for you both.
My love to both of you and a hug and kiss to Finn.
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on July 31, 2006 at 7:25 am
Hi Guys,
Dick- the strenght that you have shown for Heather has been amazing. You too are a wonderful person and Heather is fortunate to have you to bring her through this entire ordeal, you are her rock. Heather- I can only imaging how hard this is for you. Not only are you dealing with the transplant and the agony of this final step, but you are separated from Finn which in and of itself has got to be horrible. You are fortunate to have so many people surrounding you that love you and would do anything to help anyone of you (myself included). As you recover, as Dick said, you are being reborn to a Cancer Free Life! You are all close to my heart and thoughts and I love you all.
Heidi
posted by Heidi & Pete on July 31, 2006 at 7:09 am
D+H, On Saturday, which was my mother’s birthday, we drove to Damriscotta (so?)and went for a short hike. It was a beautiful day, a bit muggy but there was a nice breeze bringing cool air from the ocean. My mother and I hiked this trail a summer or two ago. It winds through pine forests and tall meadows and at one point we walked along a pond where, last time, we had stopped to admire some turtles who were sunning themselves on floating logs. This year we didn’t see any turtles but I discovered something that makes me think of you. When we came to the pond we could see that someone had weed-whacked all the wildflowers, milkweed, and tall grasses that grow along the pond. It bummed me out to see all of that rich and natural habitat hacked away. On closer inspection though, I found many Monarch butterfly caterpillars buisily munching away at the milkweed plants that were spared. Monarch butterflies are some of my favorite things in this world. These seemingly fragile beauties are amazing symbols of strength, stamina, survival and fragility. Heather, you are going through your own metamorphises and it’s an ugly process. What waits for you at the end of this nightmare that may seem to swallow your very soul? Heather, there is that butterfly piece in you. When the time comes you will spread your new wings to absorb the warmth of the sun and you will be free to start your new life, to return to your role as a A+ mother, a survivor, an amazing woman. We are all cheering for you!!!! Hope that wasn’t too cheesy…
posted by jess on July 30, 2006 at 10:37 pm
Hi Guys,
Well, after reading today’s update and your letter, Dick, I don’t even know what to write. My tears just flowed down my cheeks while reading and thinking about you having to go through this. All I can say is that I’m praying for you and thinking of you every day. Heath - hang in there. I know it’s easy for all of us to say. There is almost a light at the end of the tunnel. Just keep thinking about the day you will be able to hold Finn again and stay focused on your end goal. We all love you and miss you. I’ll keep calling you and checking the website for more updates. Hopefully you will feel up to talking soon. I’ll be glad when I hear your cheerful voice again.
Love,
Kristen
posted by Kristen and Mark on July 30, 2006 at 9:25 pm
Dear Dick…we are here with you in mind and spirit…all the time. We love you all so much and pray that Heather will regain her strength and the fighting spirit necessary to win this battle. I know that she will. Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll and Deanie
posted by Carroll and Deanie on July 30, 2006 at 9:19 pm
Hi Dick,
Well I’ve been really good lately about not shedding any tears over all of this, but your letter finally did it for me. I just wanted to let you know how much I love you, and that we all know that you are going through your own fight here. I can’t imagine how hard it is on you to watch the person you love so much go through this battle. You both have a love that is so strong, it really is something wonderful for me to see and I love up to you both for that.
I feel like I need to say something profound but I don’t really have anything like that in me tonight. Just know that I think of the 3 of you every day. I check this website more than once a day, hoping for updates that say Heather’s spirits are up. And maybe now I should just hope that you both use this place as an outlet to talk about this journey and to get some strength from thos of us reading.
I wait for the day we hear that this is all over and Heather’s headed home. I’m sure you’re both counting the days.
My love to you all.
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on July 30, 2006 at 7:41 pm
Hi Heather, Dick, and Fi nn,
I just have to write once more to assure you that I am thinking of you all often, and want you to know that you’re in my prayers even more during this grueling couple of weeks. After reading many, many posts over these many months it is beginning to feel like I know some of you out there just from your messages. I would just like to say that I am proud to be one of those who are tuned in to this site, and I hope I get to meet some of you who I know only from your words. Heather and Dick, what a wonderful thing you have done by opening your lives up to all of us. May your healing continue, and may we all grow richer and stronger and healthier.
Lou
posted by Lou Sullivan on July 30, 2006 at 5:51 pm
Hi Dick,
I want to let you know, that Mary Ann and I are thinking of you three always. We are getting daily updates and feeling helpless at the same time.
Coming back from Moosehead this week we talked about the three of you quite often, but you particularly. We are proud of you. Not only for the way that you’ve supported your family in this major time of need, but simply for the person you are. You are generous and loving. Everyone posting/reading this site is better off to have known you.
You are constantly in our hearts and we are praying for you all the time. Please give Heather and Finn our love.
Love,
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on July 30, 2006 at 4:06 pm
Dear Heather, Dick and Finn,
As members of your fan club, we want to let you know that we are rooting for you from our neck of the woods in Maine. We admire your courage and strength and know that it is those virtues that will carry you through this phase of your recovery. Please take a minute, close your eyes, and imagine our hugs…we are sending them electronically, but with greater warmth and love than ever.
As always, we send oodles and oodles of love,
Bets and Herb
posted by Bets and Herb on July 29, 2006 at 10:39 pm
Heather,
We’re all out here urging you on to wellness during the difficult week ahead. Hang in there girl.
I cannot imagine how difficult it is to do, but I know you can do it. AND I know it’s a lot to ask of you. But there’s a world out here, a son, husband, mom and dad, family, tons of friends, needing you in their lives. Caring and praying, we are…
Love
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on July 29, 2006 at 1:33 pm
HI HEATH, YOU NEED MORE MESSAGES PRONTO. IT ONLY TOOK ME AH HALF HOUR TO ZOOM TO THE END OF YOUR LIST. TOO BAD ONLY MILLIONS OF PEOPLE LOVE YOU TOO BITTS. KEEP TRUCKING KIDDO. LOVE YOU……..
posted by unc. on July 29, 2006 at 8:40 am
Dear Ones,
Phew! What a siege you are enduring, loves. It is glorious to read that you have won a major battle and that the chemo is behind you, Heath. It sounds like some very tough days are ahead of you all but you have proven time after time that you can do this and come out the other side wiser and stronger. I know it makes you ache to be without Finn, Heath, but he is well and happy (look at that report card!) and you are working overtime to give him the best gift he will ever have - YOU! How you keep such a good perspective, Dick, is a source of wonder for me but I am so glad that you can and that Heather responds so well to your “big picture/ balance” approach. You all are the poster children for team work, love, devotion and hope. Know that you are safely swaddled in love from all of us. If your reserves get low draw on ours. We are thousands strong behind you. xxxl.
posted by lee on July 29, 2006 at 5:26 am
Thank you, Dick, for the updates - and congratulations to you both getting this far. My heart goes out to all of you. I am sending you my best best wishes and my prayers for a speedy recovery. Finn is a lucky kid to have such brave, strong, positive parents and I feel lucky to know you. Keep it up. You are almost there!
posted by Gavin on July 28, 2006 at 1:26 pm
What a relief to have the chemo behind you FOREVER! Just keep thinking that each day brings you one day closer to that full and wonderful recovery. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Looking forward to seeing a completely-cancer-free you in September up at the lake.
We were so sorry to hear about Moe - what a sweet and gentle soul and companion. There is no easy way to say goodbye to a dear 4-legged family member.
On an up note - we loved Finn’s report card … not surprised that he excelled in watching the dvd of mommy!
We’re sending all our positive energy your way … you’ll get through this together and you’ve certainly got a tremendous amount of energy and love to bouy you through the tougher times. Beat this thing Heather - once and for all. We’re thinking and praying for you all.
posted by Tom and Tina Villnave on July 28, 2006 at 9:54 am
Hey kids,
Just a quick check in to say, once again, hang in there, we’re thinking of and loving you, hoping this will all soon be over, You know it all - we’re here for you.
Hope to see you, Dick, and Finn on Friday. I’m so glad Meg mentioned Finn’s report card, so i scrolled down and found it - Kimmie and Cathy must have had a blast putting THAT together. Hope it made you chuckle. (And you probably shed a tear or two too - that’s okay.)
Love you both,
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on July 27, 2006 at 10:28 pm
H ow fabulous!
E ach day brings you closer to the end of this ordeal
A nd how you ALL so deserve it.
T hanks to all who are thinking of you,
H owever they do — via pray, energy, light, meditiation, whatever –
E very mode is important, and will ultimately
R ejuvenate you.
D arling, daring Dick,
I ncredible coach, lifeguard, partner, and friend,
C ould anyone ask for more?
K now that your beauty shines forth in this ordeal.
F abulously fun Finn, you are just like your mom!
I nevitably you will take your rightful place in the lime light.
N otice the love all around you — it is genuine, and needed,
N ow that the final “who-wah” is here, to bring your mom home.
=
L ucky, all of you, and us, now
O verly aware of life’s gifts.
V ariegated though they may be,
E xemplary gifts they are.
posted by Di on July 27, 2006 at 8:42 pm
DEar HEather and Dick,
this is my first note toyou both. Ihave kept abreast of your journey from the beginning. I have felt drawn to write at this time because for many friends who have traveled this journey thsi has been the toughest part. I pray that your courage and resilience will continue to sustain you and that you will feel the lord’s strength as he carries all of you through these next few weeks.
fondly ,
Linda ( I work with Lucy)
posted by linda macdougall on July 27, 2006 at 5:40 pm
Hi Guys,
Just checking in… I will call soon. I am so happy to hear that you are finished with your chemo. You are so strong and from this point on you will continue to grow stronger. Hang in there, it is almost over!
Love Heidi
posted by Heidi & Pete on July 27, 2006 at 2:01 pm
Hi Heather,
Of course, I’m long overdue to send you a note. I really haven’t been around much, gone for three months of the first six. I’ve been reading updates on this site as well as checking in with Bill, when he’s around. I’ve had you in my thoughts and prayers for quite a while. Looking at the messages here it’s obvious that you’re surrounded with a lot of love and light.
I’m amazed by your strength and courage, as you face this hurdle. Good luck, keep your great sense of humor and introduce me to Finn soon. Take care.
Jim
posted by Jim Daniels on July 27, 2006 at 1:25 pm
I just wanted to write a quick note to say how happy I am to hear that chemo is over forever! What a relief that must be.
I was so sorry to hear about Moe. I hope everyone’s doing okay.
I’m thinking of you Heather! I hope today is a good day for you.
Love
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on July 27, 2006 at 12:23 pm
Heather,
Read from Dick’s latest entry….
“The good news is that the chemo is over forever…”
Woohoo! News that made my day!
Love and prayers remain with you all.
xoxo
Sue
posted by sue k-b on July 27, 2006 at 10:41 am
Dear Heather & Dick
I am checking this site everyday for news of Heather’s progress……It is such a tough road but the best is just ahead of you Heather!! You are one of the strongest people I have met and I loved visiting you with Joan J at Moosehead over the 4th…….It was wonderful to hold and feed Finn-I love babies and he is a sweetheart-so good!!!
You & your whole wonderful family are in my thoughts and prayers everyday. Hang in there and soak up the love and energy from all of these messages you are getting from all of the people that care about you.
I look forward to seeing you all again at Moosehead when all is behind you!!
Love
Jean
posted by Jean Gardiner on July 27, 2006 at 9:16 am
Heather and Dick,
I was glad to read that there was a smile on your face this morning Heather, it has to be tough to turn your lips upward into a smile when you have been through so much. You are a trooper and inspire all of us. Your incredible strength will get you through this last process and you are now on the road to healing. Dick, thank you for keeping us in touch with Heather’s journey. We all care so much and believe me, knowing how she is progressing is so important to all of us. Our condolences to your parents and all of you on the loss of Moe, never an easy thing to loose our pets who are very much a part of our families. We will miss seeing both Toby and Moe at camp, one used to waunder over every so often (I thihnk Moe) and the first time it happened Bruce thought a black bear was in our front yard!
I also wanted to comment that Finn’s first report card was pretty darn good! Keep up the good work Finn!
All our best to you
Love, Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on July 27, 2006 at 9:15 am
Yes!! No more chemo!! That’s a HUGE milestone!! Just think, as of today, your hair is going to start growing back again! Yeah, it takes time… but it’s something to look forward to! And, when it comes, it is like being reborn in a way - soft & silky, like baby’s hair. Mine’s starting to thicken now (4 months after chemo), and it’s getting really CURLY!! I look forward to sharing “growing out” styles and stories, Heather.
We’re holding you, Dick and Finn close throughout each day. We’re grateful for the relief and release you have had through the tears… they are cleansing and renewing… and we share them with you. We are filled with hope as you push on and pass each milestone toward healing, strength and renewal.
We love you…
Christy & Erik
posted by Christy & Erik on July 27, 2006 at 8:26 am
Dear Heather,
I don’t know if you remember me, I am a good friend of your father’s. Sang with his band, remember? Anyway, I have been following your website religiously and I am relieved the transplant went well. I want you to know, that we have been and are praying for you every Sunday in three churches in Vermont, New York and Mass.
( I travel a lot ). I so enjoy reading about your little Finn and seeing the pictures. And sometimes I cry with you. But, up till now God has listened to all the prayers and you are on the road to recovery and God is still listening! Keep smiling that beautiful smile! I hope someday soon to finally come up to Maine and visit with your parents, and then maybe I may be able to visit with you and Dick and little Finn!
Lots of love is send to you and your family.
Lise
posted by Lise Beedenbender Zinn on July 27, 2006 at 8:16 am
“Finnland” Day Care
Weekly Progess Report for FINN WEAFER
Eating: A+
Sleeping; A+
Peeing/pooping: A
Barfing: B
Smiling: A+
Rolling Over: C
Sharing Toys with Cousins: C
Reaching/grabbing: A
Mommy DVD stories: A+
Cleanliness: B-
Participation in Group Discussions: A
Comments:
Finn is a welcome addition to the group. He is becoming aware of his cousins and is often found holding hands with Bo. While he excels at hand holding, there is considerable room for improvement in toy sharing. We regret to inform you of one incident of fighting over the plastic rings. Even though he enjoys staring at Ella, he is impatient when she invades his personal space. He has quickly learned that eye gouging is an effective repellent for girl “cooties”. Finn’s favorite activity is watching Mommy’s DVD. We have even caught him looking longingly at the blank computer screen. While he is enjoying his time here, he clearly looks forward to being home with Mommy.
Much love,
Mom Weaf & Kimmie
posted by Mom Weaf & Kimmie on July 27, 2006 at 7:57 am
Dear Heather and Dick,
I think of you all many times a day and send your way positive vibes and prayers. You floor me with your strenth and openness. Push on through, you’re almost there. This experience you are going through has caused me to change many things in my life and how I think. I bet a lot of people echo that. Words can’t express what I think of you and your amazing family. Love, Alison
posted by Alison Lowe on July 26, 2006 at 7:04 pm
Today’s update also brought me to tears. Mainly tears of hope and promise. As I read Dick’s update about “the dam broke,” I found myself with great joy for Heather seeing the tears as tears of cleansing and letting go of the chemo process and moving into the long-term healing process. Paradoxically it sounds as it is was a blessed, although painful, event. Prayers, love, blessings,spirits of hope and promise continue to abound and surround each of you!! Happy to hear Gramma P is getting a little bit of shut eye!
Eileen B. - - Sweetser
posted by eileen boardman on July 26, 2006 at 1:06 pm
Good Morning, Heather!
It’s a beautiful sunny morning, and I’m hoping that you can get a chance to feel these warm beams of light through your window today. You are on my mind and in my heart throughout each day, and I’m sending you boatloads full of strength, courage and energy.
I sent you an email yesterday, and I hope it finds its way to you soon. ‘Tis my little heart- to-heart, from one cancer warrior to another.
I’m hoping that you will focus all your energy on getting well and strong… knowing that all the other pieces - even the most precious to you - are being taken care of and buoyed by the deep love of family and friends. When the pain, discomfort and frustration creep in and cloud your mind, remember that “This too shall pass”… and there are many, many, many big, bright sunshiney days waiting for you, Dick and Finn.
Love, love, love…
Christy
posted by Christy on July 26, 2006 at 9:23 am
Hi Heather!
It’s another beautiful sunny day here and the heat has yet to kick in so this will probably the best part of the day. I hope you have a view of the blue sky and sunshine in your hospital room today. No chem for you today! That’s what I thought when I got up today - your few days “off” before the next big step. I’m thinking of you and just wanted to let you know that. Mom said last night that G&G informed her your spirits were up and I hope that was correct info and that still is the case. We’re all rooting for you as you go through this! The website has really picked up in the last few days - see, everyone was around still thinking of you and praying for you. You have an amazing group of people surrounding you.
Best wishes to you that you can somehow enjoy these few days off and know we’re thinking of you here.
Love
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on July 26, 2006 at 7:47 am
Dear Heather, Dick & Finn,
A friend of mine from Bates College gave me the link to your website. My mother is currently involved in her own battle with cancer (pancreatic) and I just wanted you all to know how touched, inspired and awed I am by your strength, love, and truly positive and powerful energy and outlook. You all have given me a nice bit of strength and hope, and I am holding you all in my heart and prayers. I will be checking in often.
Sending many positive thoughts your way,
Kate Spencer
NYC, NY/Wellesley, MA
posted by Kate Spencer on July 25, 2006 at 10:30 pm
Hi Dick, Heather, and Finn,
I was so glad I logged in to check the site, and was greeted by Dick’s beautiful update. I knew the bone marrow transplant was coming up, but it was helpful to have such a clear and honest description of what was actually going on. You were already in my thoughts, but that seemed to renew the energy I was able to send your way. I must say the combination of both of your (Heather and Dick’s)entries has been truly heart warming. Thank you again for including all of us in your journey. Not only has your struggle become our struggle, but your healing has become our healing. I am praying for you daily, and feeling grateful for knowing you. These words sum up a whole heart full of thoughts and emotions, but you seem to always receive my message no matter how simple the words. Peace,
Lou
posted by Lou Sullivan on July 25, 2006 at 9:19 pm
Hi Heather and Dick-
We want to add our thoughts to those of all the people who are wishing both of you well during this latest chapter of your struggle. We look forward to laughing with you both again as we share post-cancer stories (in the near future). As hard as this is for you both, we are glad that all these treatments are coming to an end soon- this is the ‘grand finale’ of crappiness, and then you will be in the clear! We are thinking of you both every day, and rooting for you as you enter the home stretch. Hang in there.
Love,
Erik and Christy
posted by Erik and Christy on July 25, 2006 at 7:52 pm
Hello Heather and Dick,
We’ve been thinking of you guys often, especially since last Tuesday when you made the trek to Boston. As hard as this must be to go through, it must feel good that the treatment is finally here and repairing things inside that beautiful body of yours. And while the pain must be hard to deal with, the comfort of knowing that you will feel like your old self again in just a few months is awesome. Early fall is the most beautiful (and bug free!) time in Maine - it will be nice that you’lll be able to be home and enjoy it.
The photos of little Finn are great - I can really see the little Perry in him - what a cutie!
Sending love and hugs to you both,
Keisha, John & Lydia
posted by Keisha on July 25, 2006 at 11:41 am
Hey Heather,
You probably don’t remember who I am. I met you when you came to St.Andrews with Bill Curtsinger to do some work on salmon with my father Fred. You came over to diner and I was the, probably about 15 year old, gazing at you because you were the oh so cool photographer. I looked up to you then and I look up to you now. You are one of the most incredible people I have ever met. Your courage is unparalled and you are an inspiration to everyone. Even those people who you may have met only once and never even had a real conversation with, are behind you and we all beleive in you!
Sophie
posted by Sophie Whoriskey on July 25, 2006 at 10:41 am
Heather and Dick,
Yesterday I met up with my friend Lia Morris, who helped me to find you again after a long hiatus since high school. We went over to Colby and walked on the trails there with our dogs and her son who is not much older than the mighty Finn. Of course, on this day in particular, you were in my thoughts. Especially about how you, Heather and Dick, were meant to be together.
Seeing the Weafers, the Perrys, and all of your wonderful friends come together to create an amazing network of support for you to win this battle, has made me believe more than ever that our lives are a combination of twists of fate and destiny. Whatever twist brought this battle to you, you, we were destined to fight this together. Hearing about the healing sessions you have experienced and the love and support and warriors in the night coming to rescue you, it is clear that this love and healing and support will carry you through even these toughest days. Know that we are here, be it simply thinking of you and sending energy to you in Boston. We all love you and are here for you.
And, I can’t wait to see where you take us when you’ve gotten through ths fight. I know it will be amazing.
I love you.
The other Heath.
posted by Heather on July 25, 2006 at 10:40 am
Dear Dick, Heather and Finn,
It is tuesday, and i know that today you wake up with ONE LESS DAY of THIS work, treatment and family separation. We love you and are looking forward with you.
Shaye and john
posted by shaye and john on July 25, 2006 at 10:17 am
We saw OZ: Revisiting the Wizard, on Sunday at the Theater Project. A great show with a fantastic cast. I thought of you, Heather. In the program notes Al writes, “OZ is a story about imagination and adventure, about learning by risking, by trying again, by continuing to believe in the possibility of what is not yet know. She (Dorothy) ‘goes on an adventure’.” Your journey is not a dream. But like Dorothy, you’ll beat the bad elements inside your body. “There’s no place like home” says Dorothy. Soon Heather, soon. You’ll be back home with us all. We send positive energy, and think of you often.
Love,
Don
posted by Don & Jean Weatherbee on July 25, 2006 at 8:21 am
All the hugs you can stand
Waiting for you
We’re all waiting for all of you to come home
In the meantime
Love to envelope you all
Warmth to comfort you
Light to guide you
We will see you soon!
Michele
posted by Michele Livermore Wigton on July 24, 2006 at 10:15 pm
Heather,
I know you can do this. I am thinking of you and sending you positive energy.
Love,
Dave
posted by David Kew on July 24, 2006 at 8:03 pm
Heather, you are in my thoughts so much these days! I know this is such a hard struggle now, but it will be worth it. I pray for you every night, to be happy, healthy, and safe. I can’t wait for the day I can come and visit you and your wonderful family in Maine. Take care.
Joanne
posted by Joanne on July 24, 2006 at 4:36 pm
Heather and Dick,
Know please that my prayers and good energy are heading in your direction. I know that this will all work out just fine. A colleague of mine had the same (self) type of bone marrow process and has been cancer free and healthy for over 10 years now!
I was blessed to be a match for a woman several years ago and donated bone marrow for her and through that experience have heard so many other success stories filled with promise and hope.
I hate what you are all going through right now but know in my heart that there will be beauty and health and joy for you all very, very soon.
Hang in there.
xoxo
Sue
posted by sue k-b on July 24, 2006 at 3:42 pm
Heather, we are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. Everything will is going to work out so beautifully. Best of luck to you!!!
Love,
Katy and Sundy (your radiation therapists)
posted by Katy Drake and Sundy Roche on July 24, 2006 at 2:33 pm
Hi to all,
I have been thinking and thinking about all of you, especially last week as you started treatment and the final hurdle to wellness. I sent a message to all my loving and caring friends to keep you in their thoughts. We are lighting candles and sending out messages of healing and love. I’m always checking your website and continue to be amazed by your strength and that of all you family and friends. At least the anxiety of waiting is over and every day brings you closer to home.
Finn is incredible, any 6 month old who can look that calm and placid in what must be a rather chilly lake is one tough kid. A Colby swimmer in the making. I love looking at the pictures following his progress.
Congratulations also on the book publication. That is quite an accomplishment. I have friends who summer in Boothbay Harbor and they’ve promised to come by to celebrate and meet Finn.
My thoughts and prayers are with you , Love Mary Ann
posted by Mary Ann Davie on July 24, 2006 at 9:48 am
Heather and Dick,
Just wanted you to know that we are on that long list of family and friends that are thinking of you always, checking this site for updates, praying for the best outcome. It was wonderful to see you a few weeks ago up at the lake and to see Finn in person, he’s one of the happiest and contented babies I can remember ever meeting. We were up at the lake this past weekend, thought a lot about all of you and what you are going through. I look forward to seeing all of you there again soon, sitting on the dock soaking up the sunshine, dipping into the cool water. There’s a pair of loons with a little brown baby that are always in the logan, it makes me think of you three! All our best to all of you~
Love, Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on July 24, 2006 at 7:55 am
Sending each of you blessings, peace, prayers, wellness as in venture forward towards wellness!! God bless you with strength, hope, and knowledge of ALL of the love and wellness that is being sent to you!
posted by eileen boardman on July 24, 2006 at 7:14 am
Hi Heath,
I am hoping and praying that all goes well in this final journey of yours. I will continue to check your site for an update. Know that as always our thoughts are with you and our love goes to you. Dick, Finn and your mom and dad during this last step. I love you cous!
Love,
H2
posted by Heidi & Pete on July 23, 2006 at 8:47 pm
Hey Girl,
Just read that the peaks to portland (or is it portland to peaks?) was postponed, THEY say due to a safety advisory, but let’s face it without Simon Shashava and Heather wandering the waves, what good is that race anyway? Was Dick in training for that this year, yes, no?
We’re out fishin’ - trying to get some protein to bring down to you. So far, all I’ve got for you is rotten bait stench- would you like some??
Just saw the preview to the “Meet Heather Perry, photographer extraordinaire” video. Top notch- I can’t wait to go to the opening! What a great tribute to an amazing photographer aka “One Picture Perry”.
We’re thinking of you from here in York our new residence as we bid adieu to Piggy Point. Cheers to you Heathah- xoxox Johnny R & Shady Lady.
posted by john robbins on July 23, 2006 at 4:24 pm
Hi Heather. Last night as I was falling asleep, I all of a sudden remembered that you are in Boston for The Big Finale. So I cleared my mind and imagined the following:
You are floating on a cloud that is softly craddling you, the mist swirling gently around the sides of your body. The cloud supports you, yet you don’t feel it. You feel weightless. Just beyond the cloud is the blue sky. It is just you, and the cloud, and the sky. You decide to take a back stroke, and the sky turns into water, and you are cutting cleanly through the cloud into the water. You stop, and float on the water, the sun gently warming your face. You hear laughter. It is Finn, and he is smiling. You smile at him. Dick is holding Finn and Finn waves, and Dick smiles, and you smile back. They are with you, and they are well. You are all well. You are all together. They join you, floating on the water, letting the sun warm you. You feel one another close by, and feel strong together. Finn rests his head on his dad’s chest, and trusts completely. Dick reaches out and holds your hand, and trusts completely. You hold his hand, and trust completely. It is good. There is love. There is light. There is peace. You float on this cloud as long as you want, and they float with you. This is your place, your space.
Hope this isn’t too weird, but I know it made me feel very peaceful, so I’m sending it to you in case it’ll do the same for you.
Love you, Heather. Love you, Dick. Love you, Finn.
posted by Di on July 23, 2006 at 12:35 pm
Hi Heather,
I just wanted to let you know that you’ve been in my prayers and thoughts all weekend. I visit your website often, and have been so moved by your courage and strength.Even though it’s been many, many years since we’ve seen each other, I feel that I’ve gotten to know you as an adult by reading your beautiful writing. I am so incredibly impressed with the wonderful person, wife, mother, friend you’ve become. And, I know, without a doubt, that as you go through this final phase of healing you will be just fine.
Love,
Jules
posted by Julie on July 23, 2006 at 10:43 am
Hi guys,
I hope you are laughing at the fact that yet again my mom posted something this morning and here I am. I swear we didn’t coordinate it!
I’ve been thinking of you all weekend and hope that you are doing okay. I am so happy I got to see you both and to finally meet Finn! What a beautiful baby. Heather, I’ve said it before but you are truely an inspiration. Before, it was just reading this website. Seeing you and how positive you were the day before this next chapter of treatment was to begin was amazing.
In your toughest moments, I think you should picture all of us (ok, so Finn and Dick come first but after that…:) ) at G&Gs with 5 babies crawling around like Cathy kidded as I left Thursday. Can you imagine? Those are the things I think we’re all looking forward to once this is behind you.
All my love,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on July 23, 2006 at 10:36 am
Heather and Dick,
It’s Sunday morning and you are in my thoughts and prayers. The treatment has started. G&G said that on your first day you had a kind and and supportive nurse and doctor, which was such a relief to hear. I could sit here for a half an hour and try to think of something profound to say, and nothing would come to me, so just know that all of us who check this site - many of us checking daily - are with you both, every day, sending our love, support, prayers and strength.
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on July 23, 2006 at 8:14 am
Hi Heath,
Just a quick note to let you know I’ve been thinking about you all day and praying for you. You are in my thoughts often - especially today as I’m waiting to hear some sort of update. I’ll keep praying for you. I hope everything goes well today. I’ll talk to you soon.
Love,
Kristen
posted by Kristen and Mark on July 21, 2006 at 4:16 pm
Dick, Heather and Finn,
You are so in my thoughts this morning as you begin this new journey. Those of us who check your site are all thinking of you, praying for you and doing whatever it is we think works to send you our love, support and strength as you enter what we all hope is the final stage of your treatment. I know that waiting for this day has not been easy….the time is here. Finally.
Finn will see you read the stories you have taped for him; he will remember you Heather, have no doubt. He is being well cared for.
And Dick, sweet, loving, kind and gentle man that you are, my love to you during this struggle which you will have to sit and watch. You take care of yourself, too, as best you can.
I love you,
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on July 21, 2006 at 9:31 am
Dear Heather,
These days ,i’m visiting Essaouira with some friends .The weather is very good.I try to take some photoes using your films-that you sent us last year-.I hope that you will be plased when you will see some exemples\photoes.
All my pure energy,and my prayers are with you and your family.
Mohamed,Essaouira,Morocco
posted by mohamed on July 20, 2006 at 6:25 am
We just checked the website and photo gallery for updates. What BEAUTIFUL shots - my favorites - Finn sleeping, Finn’s fist (awesome!), the nose-to-nose shot and the beautiful special moments between all of you as a family, the three babies (I’m not sure which one I like best - the staging of the shot or the totally exhausted sleep shot after?!), Heather and Dick and Dick and Finn. Thanks also for sending some pictures of the journal … It is such a beautiful tribute of all that has transpired … Our thoughts, prayers, well wishes and healing vibrations are all being sent your way. To Heather, Dick, Finn, and the entire family … we want you all to know how many people are pulling for this thing to be a distant memory REAL soon! Our thoughts and energies are with you … this is a HUGE hurdle - but one you’ll triumph over. Please know we’re thinking of all of you and let us know if we can help in any way. Much love and warm thoughts to all, Tina, Tom, Ben and Cam (aka “call me Bruce”)
P.S. Got caught up in the moment and almost forgot. We really enjoyed seeing all of you at the lake and meeting Finn. We’re so glad you were all able to recharge in a special place and prepare for whatever lies ahead. Can’t believe what a charmer Finn already is! Let’s set our sites on Labor Day - a dose of a Labor Day weekend at Moosehead sounds like something that should be on your list of “medications”. Best wishes as you approach this hurdle. Approach it with the knowledge that you have quite a contingent routing for you!
posted by Tom and Tina Villnave on July 19, 2006 at 12:23 am
Heather, Dick & Finn
So much love and hope to all three of you during the last and final step to health. And I do mean final. This is going to make you as perfect as you were before and always will be. See you on the MAC Tube!
Love always, JP
posted by JP Gagnon on July 18, 2006 at 8:13 pm
Hello Heather, Dick, and Finn,
Wishing you to best in this last step to your rosy health. Thinking of you each day, each hour. Whenever I see something on TV or read something of a person going through a trial, you come to mind and I send you my energy to speed your healing.
Jerry and I wil celebrate our 40th by sailing and diving in the BVI in August. You know that I dedicate that voyage to you and Dick and baby Finn. Thank you for so many memories of happiness and laughter. Would you like to buy some car stereo speakers? I know someone that can get them cheap!
I still feel bad that I did not stand behind you more with Lisa. And I am so glad the dinghy came back.
So, sweet girl, hang in there, you are almost there. If love can get you through this, you will breeze by as you are so loved by so many.
You know, when you get that clean bill of health - what are we going to read? Your journal has been inspiring to say the least. Maybe you can just keep it up with your thoughts of loving and living.
See ya,
Sara
posted by Sara Buchheim on July 18, 2006 at 11:38 am
Heather et al,
Good luck and god bless, honey.
XO
Morgan Shepard
posted by Morgan Shepard on July 17, 2006 at 8:16 am
Dear Heather,
From the first day,when i met you in Biougra and i showed you some photoes of mine,
I have , about you, an idea,which can not change:YOUR LIFE ,ALL YOUR PROJECTS HAVE SUCCEEDED.So be sure that you will succeed your very important stap of the treatment.
Happiness,love,good health,pure energy protect you and all your family.
Mohamed,Agadir,MOROCCO
posted by mohamed on July 16, 2006 at 7:09 am
Dear Heather,
From the first day,when i met you in Biougra and i showed you some photoes of mine,
I have , about you, an idea,which can not change:YOUR LIFE ,ALL YOUR PROJECTS HAVE SUCCEEDED.So be sure that you will succeed your very important stap of the treatment.
Happiness,love,good health,pure energy protext you and all your family.
Mohamed,Agadir,MOROCCO
posted by mohamed on July 16, 2006 at 7:07 am
Good Luck Heather! While you are away I am going to go up to Bath to see that radiologist and kick him right in the tumor. What a jerk. I can’t even see you from here and I can tell that you are not only tumor-free, but about to fight your way through this transplant and live a long, healthy life with your wonderful family. I am sending you whatever strength I can muster. You are a champion! Go Big Red!
God Bless,
Gavin
posted by Gavin on July 16, 2006 at 6:37 am
Oh my God! Those pictures are glorious!!!! Finn - six months!! I can hardly believe it!!! Heather-know that sooooo much positive energy is coming your way daily…..think of you every day and I “say a little prayer for you”…….Best of luck with the coming weeks (they don’t sound like the right words… but it is all I can think of….Dick is the writer on our team!) You are an amazing person, Heather!
Watching your child sleep is one of the many wonderful parts of being a parent……It is such a special time…..I remember checking on Amy one night when she was about 4. She was sound asleep with her feet up on the window sill! Smiles and peacefulness…that’s what children bring us.
On another note…we are closing on our new home July 23…..Moving…finally!
Dick…thanks for helping to keep life in perspective! Miss seeing you during the summer months…….Thank you for sharing your family with us on the last days of school! What a treat! Your beautiful bride and adorable son are works of magic………..You’re a lucky man!
Think of you all often!
Much love,
Andrea
posted by Andrea and family on July 15, 2006 at 9:04 am
I’m thinking of you and your family. I’m volunteering at the Ronald McDonald House this summer. Something I’ve always wanted to do but never got around to. I think of you and your family often. You inspire me Heather! Love and prayers to you and your family, Love, Alison
posted by Alison Lowe on July 14, 2006 at 11:11 pm
Heather,
We will be with you in spirit next week.
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on July 14, 2006 at 1:16 pm
Dear Ones,
I’m glad that there is no mirror in the dungeon where our computer sits because I can feel a hopelessly sappy smile spread across my face. I’ve just caught up on your entries and had the great pleasure of seeing the latest batch of pictures. What a gorgeous, happy family!
Being in the theater working on Oz makes me think of our time together last summer. I have to admit to monitoring your facial expressions, Heather, after each trip to either/or ( bathrooms) and being so pleased whenever you came out and shrugged. You were so sure that it couldn’t be true that there was a reason for your ‘lateness’! You both let us share your Finn experience from the first days and you have never stopped sharing. How generous you are.
I send you all strength and courage and light and hope for the final push. I am so happy that it has finally come for you. Love always, lee
P.S.- Morgan’s right, Heather. You are a writer! - lkp
PPS.- Bonnie got her driver’s license!!!! -eel
posted by lee on July 13, 2006 at 10:13 pm
Hello Dick, Heather, and Finn,
First of all, I wanted to tell you Heather how nice it was to see you and Finn with Dick at the end of the school year. The best way I can describe the feeling of being with the three of you was that it was like standing in the early summer sun - spiritually nourishing!
Second, I wanted to thank you again for your website. With summer comes a change in schedule, which can mean having to work out routines all over again. In the chaos we can temporarily forget what matters most in this life, but your latest entry reminded me about priorities. How easy I forget! Please know that you and your family remain daily in my prayers, and I think about you often.
Love,
Lou
posted by Lou Sullivan on July 13, 2006 at 9:48 pm
What a remarkable and talented young woman you are! It has been a privilege to read your entries, track your progress and pray for you daily. I like the sound of “final push to wellness.” Think of all those millions of healthy cells waiting for you in Boston–ready, willing and able to get back in there and go to work! Lots and lots of prayers will be beaming up form Westport Island in the weeks ahead. Anne Harris
posted by Anne Harris on July 13, 2006 at 9:22 pm
Heather,
I can’t wait to see your Merrymeeting Bay book. The cover is beautiful. I’m sorry I can’t come to the opening either–and with much less excuse than you–but I hope to see you and meet Finn and his dad when I’m at Dundee in the second half of August. I’ll bring my copy for you to sign.
Finn looks like a happy little guy. He’s lucky to have a mom like you who thinks just lying next to him is the pinnacle of existence. The journal you’re making him is beautiful. Good idea.
XOXOX
Susan
posted by Susan McGrath on July 13, 2006 at 2:49 pm
Hello, there –
I so, so, so enjoyed reading your website this afternoon, and especially your Prayer to Finn. You remind me of the importance to take it easy, slow down, and enjoy and live in the very moment — which I think that I am often afraid to do, or feel guilty when doing.
We are thinking of you all and sending you good thoughts and vibes.
Love love
Sue and Andy
posted by Sue Jones and Andy Goode on July 13, 2006 at 1:58 pm
Dear Heather,
I am Matt Davie’s sister in law and I just received an email from Matt’s mother Mary Ann asking all of us to pray for your operation tomorrow. I have looked at your website and I just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and even if we don’t know eachother. The day that Matt received the email that you werent well he was with us in London and he told us about you. Therefore I do feel as if I know you a little.
I wish you and all your family all the best and good luck and you will be well very soon because you are so strong and special.
Much love, Natalie
posted by Natalie on July 13, 2006 at 1:06 pm
Just wanted to say hello and let you know the Erbs are thinking about you. In case you haven’t heard, Finn is beautiful! He has such a serene face, I feel calm just looking at him. Heather, Garrett is almost 13 and I still love to watch him sleep. Such peacefulness, such joy. ( It helps me to remember that feeling when he’s acting like a typical adolescent!) I’m glad you all got to enjoy Moosehead, and relax with your amazing family. Still sending you energy to heal and love to grow. Take care,
Shannon
posted by Shannon Erb on July 13, 2006 at 10:58 am
You’re such a beautiful writer
The journal is gorgeous! I scrapbooked for Livy - the first 3 months of her life anyway, and then time got away from me. He’ll absolutely cherish that and I’m sure it’s been therapuetic for you to do - creative things always seem to do that for me anyway.
Best of luck to you next week. I’ll be thinking of you as always and waiting to hear updates as they come. Pass my love on to Dick and that beautiful little boy. I chuckled when I saw him sucking his thumb in a picture. I was a thumb sucker forever….and I keep hoping David finds his thumb so we don’t have to deal w/this binkie thing!
Love to you, Dick and Finn,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on July 12, 2006 at 5:26 pm
Heather,
My thoughts are with you as you start this last phase of treatment. I do not have any words to express how touched I am by your struggle. I wish I could provide some tangible help.
Love (& prayers) to you, Dick and Finn.
Linda
posted by Linda Wolfe on July 12, 2006 at 10:49 am
Wow, That was some thunder out there today, big stormy rain clouds pushing through, I was sitting in a car in Portland when I saw the dark cloud on the horizon, got that first cool breeze and saw lighting- Man, it didn’t take long for the rain to MONSOON- Monsoon, gone soon.
Now there is that rainy day don’t-you-think-you’d-really-be-better-off-on-the-screen-porch-with-a-really-good-mystery feeling in the air. I like that, the after the storm part, where you are tired, didn’t realize how the energy was getting to you, and you can prop the umbrella up on the porch to dry, maybe have a cup of tea. It always happens, evenutally, although I noticed I looked JUST like a wet rat in the middle of it, and I was incredibly sticky and frumpy.
Starting to build my prayer space to be with you three in the next month. On each day their is a place of beauty that reflects just for you.
Shaye and John
posted by Shaye on July 11, 2006 at 3:07 pm
Heather,
I was really touched by your latest entry and had to write. Now that I’m here I don’t know how to put it all into words. I’m touched by the depth of your love for your son. Finn is absolutely beautiful, I am not “amazed” or “suprised” that you love him so, it is just a gift to be able to see the love that you have for Finn in what you write. I am a mother to my own “little bug” (Temple) who is not so little anymore. Your entry and your journal made me long for the days when Temple was an infant, when he would sleep on my belly, when I would cry just because I loved him so. Your entry got me thinking, as I often do, “Does Temple know how much I love him?” I am thinking of you and hoping that someday soon I will run into you and the Finn bug when I visit Cafe Creme. Thank you Heather for all the gifts that you share with us. Jess
posted by jess on July 10, 2006 at 10:27 pm
Dear Heather…as always you and Dick and Finn are in our thoughts and prayers daily. The photograph of you under what I guess is the giant radiation machine is terrifying and inspiring at the same time. It seems to me a metaphor of the huge battle you are waging as well as the miracle of modern medicine. I know you will be successful. Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers…a big SC hug to Dick and Finn. We love you…Carroll and Deanie
posted by Carroll and Deanie on July 10, 2006 at 4:04 pm
Hi Heather - Lack of the written word on your web site does not diminish how often I think of you, Dick, and Baby Finn. Your latest updates are filled with honesty and soul searching, as usual. You articulate so well what many of us think about as we deal with our own Life struggles and growing up issues. You are truly an amazing young woman and the love and support you get from family, friends, husband and son are a testimony to all you have touched before your diagnosis. None of us can really understand all you’ve gone thru and what lies ahead in a couple of weeks, but you are truly blessed to have such wonderful warm, embracing love. So glad to hear you’ve been up to Moosehead! My husband and I have a place on Sebec Lake and feel the same way about its pristine waters and hushed evenings. A great place to regroup and put things into perspective. I liked your comment about the baptism and rebirth….and so it is. The ending of one chapter, the beginning of another. You have come thru so much and there can be nothing but better, healthier days ahead. You all remain on our church prayer list and in my thots daily. Stay strong and ‘talk’ to you again soon. Take care, Jayne
PS The pictures of Finn are SO beautiful! I expected nothing less, what with the handsome subject and talented photographer
posted by Jayne Winters on July 6, 2006 at 3:10 pm
Shalome,
Those pictures are great! It got me excited to get up to lake too. I was so glad to hear that you were able to swim across! Finn seemed to enjoy his introdcution to many more summers up there. There is no place quite like it.
Thinking of you two often,
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on July 6, 2006 at 7:34 am
Hi Dick and Heather,
Happy Anniversary !!! We just got back from NY and didn’t want to call so late in the day but wanted you to know we are thinking of you today. What wonderful memories I have of your wedding day. Is this number 9 already?? How quickly time goes. It feels like it was only a couple years ago but I know it’s been longer than that. Could it possibly be number 9?
Love,
Kimmie, Tiff, Bo and Ella
posted by Kim, Tiff, Bo and Ella on July 5, 2006 at 8:47 pm
Congratulations on your swim across the lagoon! Although in 72 degree water? Brrr!!! Good luck getting through this last bit of radiation and the treatments that follow. I love the thought of Moosehead being your battery recharger.
Joanne
posted by Joanne on July 5, 2006 at 7:46 am
Hi Heather…..remember me??? the wacky “more mature” barista from Cafe Creme??
I think of you often and ask Tonnie how you’re doing. I believe she and Kevin had dinner?? with you or perhaps stopped by to see you.
You have an incredible inspiring attitude and a gift for making others feel that if they were in your situation they could do it as well as you have. Where do young women like yourself get the courage and fortitude…I’ve known a few who have touched me lin the same manner as yourself.
Take care and have a great 4th!!!! You are in my prayers.
Mary Ann Conner
posted by mary ann conner on July 4, 2006 at 1:32 pm
I’m so happy to hear you had such a wonderful time at Moosehead! I hope this weekend is much of the same. I can’t believe how big Finn is getting! I am looking forward to getting all these babies together once you are through the next hurdle and feeling great. It’ll be quite a celebration!
Love,
posted by Meghan Cranney on June 30, 2006 at 8:18 pm
Hi Guys,
How far away was Moosehead just a couple of weeks ago? Good for you! Just think how much positive energy you will draw from there. Enjoy.
Skip
posted by Skip on June 30, 2006 at 7:37 am
Hi kids,
Just have to say, once again - you are amazing, Heather (well and Dick and Finn - too). But heard that you swam across the lake. What an amazing, strong girl you are - once again. Way to go!
Also heard that the sun shone down on you over the weekend at Moosehead - I think someone else was looking down on you guys there. It was pretty soggy all weekend here.
Okay, just checking in once again. Enjoyed very much your latest entry….I guess you meant to say you THOUGHT you weren’t a writer!
Love you all,
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on June 29, 2006 at 7:07 pm
Heather, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. You are a writer and an excellent one at that. You have been painting a picture of your life with words on this website that is beyond incredible. That is a talent. And I LOVE your paintings, keep posting them and let me know if you might sell them sometime. Finn is too adorable and growing so fast. And enjoy your two weekends on the lake — sounds wonderful. Always thinking of you. Keep the strength. -stacy
posted by Stacy Gold (ngs friend) on June 29, 2006 at 11:22 am
Hi Heath,
Glad to hear you are feeling better these days! Finn is so adorable!! I’ll continue to pray for you everyday. Just wanted to say a quick hello. Say hello to everyone for me!
Love,
Kristen
posted by Kristen and Mark on June 28, 2006 at 1:34 pm
Heather.
Honey, I’m afraid you are a writer. God love you. Gorgeous photographs of himself. Glad to hear things are going well and that you’ll get some swimmin’ in.
Best always,
Morgan
posted by Morgan Shepard on June 28, 2006 at 9:38 am
We also are very happy that you are feeling well enough to be at the lake. We are looking forward to seeing you and Dick over the long weekend along with meeting Finn of course.
Tina, Tom, Ben and Cam
posted by Tom on June 28, 2006 at 5:19 am
Heather,
So good to read your latest update, to see the latest pictures. Fantasic that you are feeling so good right now, sounds like you’ll be in great shape to face July 18th. I’m thrilled that you, Dick and Finn were able to make a visit to the lake. There are many of us who understand 100% what it means to be there, I know it had to be good therapy to be there again. If it’s ok, I’ll drop by next weekend while you’re there for a quick visit, and to see Finn in person. Can’t wait to meet the little guy! Love, Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on June 27, 2006 at 11:52 am
dear Heather , dich and the little Finn..
keep writing words down ..and as you said try to make it easier for yourself by writing exactly how you think and what you feel..
we’re online with you all
you’re always in our thoughts..
you’ve got nice pictures for Finn..
All my best..
posted by Rachid on June 26, 2006 at 3:51 pm
dear Heather , dich and the little Finn..
keep writing words down ..and as you said try to make it easier for yourself by writing exactly how you think and what you feel..
we’re on line with you all
you’re always in our thoughts..
you’ve got nice pictures for Finn..
All my best..
posted by Rachid on June 26, 2006 at 3:50 pm
Hey Guys,
Hope you have a wonderful time at the lake! All of you remain in my thoughts and prayers.
xoxo
sue
posted by Sue K-B on June 25, 2006 at 6:30 pm
Hi, Heather! How nice to hear that things are going well. Have a wonderful time at the lake. I love the new pics!
Joanne
posted by Joanne on June 23, 2006 at 10:46 am
Your son is a stud! I’m off this summer if you need any help! I’m serious. My ovaries hurt when I look at him. Sending you positive energy, love, Alison
posted by Alison Lowe on June 22, 2006 at 7:53 pm
Dear Heather, Dick and Finn,
We have just been on holiday to Porquerolles, which is a small Island off the South Coast of France, with the diving club. There is some very deep diving there (42m) and some good wrecks. one of the guys has taken some good photos. (This all means nothing to me who can get seasick in the bath!). For me - the Island is a God given cycling experience as there are no cars and the terrain is sand and rock. I hired a bike for the week and only fell off seriously once. I will attempt to put together a CD to send to you to show some of the things we’ve been up to over the past few years. I think about you often and am so glad to hear that you have had the strength to dance. lots of love from Julia xx
posted by julia on June 21, 2006 at 8:15 am
P.S. Keep on dancing, you two!
posted by Auntie Nancy on June 19, 2006 at 8:43 pm
Dickie-bird-
I thought of you off and on all day yesterday hoping you were having the best Father’s Day ever- your first! You deserve it to say the least. I am sure Finn has absolutely no idea yet how lucky he is to have you for his dad- but we do!
Hope it was a great one!
XXXXOOOO Auntie Nancy
posted by Auntie Nancy on June 19, 2006 at 8:41 pm
Dick,
This one’s for Dick - just thinking of you before this day ends - your very first Father’s Day - one of many to come - I hope you all had a wonderful day, you very special guy.
Love,
pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on June 18, 2006 at 9:31 pm
Heather and Dick and Little Finny:
Thinking about all three of you and sending all my love and healing! Happy Father’s Day Dick! Heather was right–she did win the “human lottery”! Keep up the good work! Love to you all!
Maria
posted by Maria on June 18, 2006 at 8:38 pm
Hi Heath and Dick and Finn! Cape Cod winds are blowing strong today, carrying all the bad out to sea. I think of you often and so appreciate your blog. Dance, little Heath. I’m holding-up a lighter for you while the slow songs play. Love you so much. DICK, HAPPY FATHER’S DAY! I’ll write it all in the sand, so the tide can wash it cleancleanclean. Sending my love and energy your way. Tam
posted by Tam on June 18, 2006 at 12:13 pm
Hi guys! Just wanted to drop you a quick note to say we’re thinking of you. Hope you’re able to enjoy this warm weather we’re finally getting and that things are going well.
Love,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on June 17, 2006 at 6:42 am
hey there… can you believe our babies have been around for 5 months? the time is flying by… mostly because jd keeps me so busy. his last day of school is tomorrow and i am looking forward to it. we’ll have a packed schedule during the summer and it will be nice for him to take swim lessons starting july 1. you know it is kind of important for him to learn how to swim just in case he falls off the dock at moosehead.. hahaha. our friend has a pool and his goal is to learn how to do a cannonball off the diving board.. i wonder where he got that from? maybe his dad and friends having a contest last year who could make the biggest splash… oh well i better get used to the boys stuff considering i have 3 of them in the house with me : ) adam is doing well. he is a laid back little one and then all of a sudden he will make himself present by sceaming or talking… whatever suits him at the time. he sleeps well, has a hard time pooping, and stares at you until you look at him so he can give you a big smile. needless to say i can’t wait for the 5 weafer/hart babies to get together. when they are all 2 yrs old it will be one crazy family reunion. hope you are having a good day heather. my love to you, dick and finn, oxox mary ann
posted by mary ann on June 14, 2006 at 4:38 pm
Heather, I always think of you and feel very close. My son Federico was born on dec 31st. He is a lovely baby. Raffaella is well. We send you lots of positive energy from this side of the Atlantic. A big hug to all of you.
posted by francesco di trapani on June 13, 2006 at 9:48 am
Hey Chique Dancing Chiquita! You are such a beautiful person!!!!! I’m so proud of how real, and true to yourself, and truthful with others you are. You shine, baby, and you will fill every crevace of your body with that positive yes-I-am-Heather-Perry-Weafer-so-stand-back-because-I-am-beautiful-and-amazing energy.
I am so glad Dick will be able to be with you for the transfusion. And I am soooo happy you danced. Danced! DANCED!!! Dancing is such a beautiful thing…there are no rules (unless you want to follow some) and it let’s you be in your body and with your body fully.
Life is good. Glad life feels good too. You deserve it.
xxoo Di
posted by Diane Kew on June 9, 2006 at 7:53 am
Dear Heather…what wonderful news contained in your 5/31 post. We are so happy your joint pain has been relieved and pray that you will continue to improve. We have been at the lake for the past week where we don’t have an internet connection. As always, however, you are in our thoughts every day and the first thing we do when we get home is to check this site. Believe it or not, we celebrated Jones’ 40th birthday Saturday night at the lake with friends and a bluegrass band. There was no dancing but we all had a great time listening to the music. Our love to you and Dick and all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll and Deanie
posted by Carroll & Deanie DuBose on June 7, 2006 at 5:44 pm
Dear Ones,
I had no inkling that you were the Fred and Ginger of Mid-Coast Maine. It was a delight to watch you two enjoying yourselves this week-end. Your ‘dips’ are most impressive. I am thinking of you three and hoping that the all is going O.K. with the radiation treatments and that you are able to relish some nice time together at home despite them. It feels like a good time to bank so more Finn moments to carry you through the last deep water ahead. Love always, lee
posted by lee k. paige on June 7, 2006 at 8:58 am
Heather,
So glad to hear you’re dancing and happy to hear you are pain-free. Best to you, Dick, and the mighty Finn.
Morgan
posted by Morgan Shepard on June 5, 2006 at 1:32 pm
What a wonderful, optimistic post! Halleluiah that the joint pain is gone. Best of luck with the radiation treatments — your disappointment at the size of your “badges” made me laugh.
Joanne
posted by Joanne on June 5, 2006 at 9:14 am
Hey Heather, Dick, and Finn,
I would just love to see you and “Ed” and laugh, and laugh, and laugh. Finn will probably have a good sense of humor also. Odyssey been really busy getting the shipment off - now the fun and worries begin! Jerry and I get to sail and dive at the end of the summer for 10 days. We think we will get off the dock on the second day! You know how much we wish you and Dick were on the manifest.
I had called because of my periodontist. He has kept me filled in on a product line he is developing for cancer patients. Now being used at a large hospital complex in Texas. Thing is, he told me he has a mouth rinse that helps bone marrow transplants greatly. Guess you transplants will get mouth sores on the 10th or 11th day and the rinse prevents them.
I can forward info to your health care provider if you would like to skip the sores. My ears really perked when he told me of the success with transplant patients. I said - “The funniest girl I know is getting ready to have one” but not for fun.
Was relieved to read that you don’t think you caused this mess. Bad things happen to good people, no reason, just some little thingy goes wrong in cell division. Well, it might have been those drinks at Wet Willy’s, but they would have had to hang on for quite some time. If you had taken the ride in the cigarette boat, you know you would be fine!
Heather, we love you, keep up the dancing, we will check in everyday for your progress. Here is some energy!
Sara
posted by Sara Buchheim on June 4, 2006 at 3:00 pm
Heather,
Another wonderful update with the best news! Oh, how I appreciate that you danced! I can see you. What joy you must have felt. I hadn’t heard that the pain was gone so that was a wonderful surprise. I am so glad for ALL of you.
Seems like the dates have changed again from what I knew, but that has been the norm through this struggle of yours.
You are constantly in our thoughts and we’re hoping that you have as easy a time as possible throughout the radiation treatments.
You are a wonder to us all.
Love
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on June 1, 2006 at 8:45 pm
Heather,
Like everyone else, I look forward to reading your entries, to hear how you, Dick and Finn are doing. It made me so happy to hear that your joint pain has disappeared, it must be such a relief. I hope that your radiation goes smoothly as you prepare for your transplant. We think of you all the time. We were up at the lake last weekend for the unofficial start of summer, everyone there is thinking of you and looking forward to seeing all of the Weafers there soon. The black flies were out in full force, making us fully aware of what time of year it is! All our best to you, and all the family!
Love, Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on June 1, 2006 at 2:49 pm
Just wanted to pop in and see if there was any new news. I am thrilled to read your pain is gone! That makes me so happy. I wish you the best of luck through your radiation treatment…..and it made me smile to hear you were dancing, kind of a perfect kick off to this next step isn’t it?
Finn is getting so big! I too cried w/Livy’s first shots, right along w/her. She turned red and then the scream started and then her tears and mine. Why they put us through that! I’ll have to remember it’s a short lived pain when I bring our newest addition to that appointment.
All my best to you both - we’re thinking of you always.
Love
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on June 1, 2006 at 1:02 pm
Hi Heather,
I’m still here, learning from your journey. I think of you and Dick and Finn often. I’m overjoyed to picture you dancing. Stay strong! Love, Alison
posted by Alison Lowe on June 1, 2006 at 8:14 am
Hello dear Heather, Dick and Finn ..
We are so proud and extremelly gratful to read your last e-mail and be in touch with you, that really shows us that you are making gradually excelent progress and dealing very well with your self and familly as well…
Say hello to Dick, and sweet kisses to the little Finn… take care of you and all of them.
Keep writing ..OK….
Your friend Rachid and Mohamed.
posted by rachid and mohamed from Morocco on May 30, 2006 at 4:36 pm
Oh, what lessons I have learned from your website!
I totally believe in the mind/body connection and that what we do in life affects our being. Taking care of one’s self first is the most important job anyone can have, and it has to be done in that order. I am sure you’ve heard this before (and certainly I don’t have to remind you now): when the oxygen mask comes down give yourself the oxygen first then take care of the baby/child. Also you’re cup has to be full in order to give. I’m glad you have discovered this truth as well. And now you are on the road to recovery! Good on you, as my pal in Ireland would say!
posted by Beth on May 30, 2006 at 11:01 am
Hi kids,
Wish I was closer so I could pop by and see all of you at that end of the Weafer family this weekend.
Heard you really were up in the air this week Heather - you are truly amazing - good for you! GOOOO girl!
Those are my pearls of wisdom for tonight - not much - but you are all in my thoughts.
We’re waiting for the last in this incredible string of babies to appear - hopefully soon, for Meg’s and Greg’s sake - Rich’s twin grandchildren were born on Tuesday and we’ve just returned from visiting them again. This is truly the “year of the baby.”
Enjoy your weekend.
Be well.
Love you
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on May 26, 2006 at 9:59 pm
Dear Ones,
It was very exciting to have a Heather and Dick sighting in Target! As my Mother always said: “You can’t get away with a thing…” We moved on before Bonnie had to know what kind of u-trou Dick prefers. I thought of you two as I sat (in the big white tent with a torrential downpour thudding on the canvas) at David’s (Shrimp Boy) graduation. The speaker was Anne Patchett. She was funny and incisive and warm (qualities that I associate with the two of you) and the topper to a great day. Bonnie’s boyfriend stayed with John’s dad so that the four of us could all go and it was a wonderful family trip. We stayed at a fabbo place that had bunnies running around on the clay courts and great gardens and naked statues. I read of your newest accomplishments and smile as I think of the FACT that all these parental landmarks I experience will be yours too.
Your latest entry and revelations on this web site, Heather, took be aback somewhat. It makes me realize that when you are well again we will look forward to spending time together getting to know each other again. It seems that a lot more parts of Heather have surfaced and I am anxious to meet them all in person. I’m not qualified to speak about your photography or competetive swimming but I can tell you that the reason why you are a good actor is that your soul shows onstage. Perhaps there were other things going on too but what I see is a zest and appreciation for life and the humor of human folly. Acting was just the warm-up for the tenacity you have shown (Dick too) during this process. Surprisingly, I don’t think it can be termed an ordeal anymore because you are taking such deep and positive wisdom from it.
I’ll send “Mega Mama Magic” (my kids called it that) to your aching joints and tired body, Heath. Hugs to you both and a “zlubber” to Finn. Love, lee
posted by lkpaige on May 25, 2006 at 9:15 pm
hi heather, i’d like just to tell you that i’m thinking and praying for you every day.
peace, health and love
mohamed from biougra
posted by mohamed on May 25, 2006 at 12:41 pm
Hi Heather-
I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you often. I look forward to the day when we can get our boys together to play. Sending you lots of healing energy.
xo
Lia
posted by Lia Morris on May 22, 2006 at 10:17 am
Hi Finn,
We miss you! Can’t wait to see you this weekend at Nanny’s and Gramp’s house. Maybe you could show us how to roll over.
Love,
Bo and Ella
posted by Bo and Ella on May 22, 2006 at 10:05 am
Hi Heather! You don’t know but I am in Mr. weafer your dads class. And I just wanted to say hi and ADORIBLE Finn is!. He is the cutest baby in the world. Im writing this the middle of his class right now so I have to go. BYE Heather Dick and Finn!
posted by Chelsea : ) on May 19, 2006 at 1:10 pm
Hi Guys,
Glad to hear of the successful harvest. You continue to amaze me with your endurance and inner strength. Enjoy your rest.
Skip
posted by Skip on May 19, 2006 at 9:39 am
Hi Heather and Dick! I’m one of Don Weafer’s student this year! I have been informed that you are ready for this break! I don’t blame you! As you can see I’m crazy about exclamation points! Well as you know my mom and I, (Janet Roberts my mom) are doing Relay For Life: Cancer Society, that’s tomorrow! I just wanted you to know that I made your luminary, that don bought you, I put a picture of finn on it and it says “Good Luck”!! I hope you guys have a relaxing weekend! You will get through this horrible, horrible disease! I know you will! You have my faith, love, hope, and heart on you side of this terrible, terrible fight!
Love,
Seikah Roberts!!
posted by Seikah Roberts!! on May 18, 2006 at 3:52 pm
Hey there Kiddo,
I’m so happy to hear how well things are going, and how positive you sound about this whole mess. The pictures of Finn are so cute, and the three of you look great together. Hang in there. From the sound of things the worst part is over. I love you all and can’t wait to see you.
Love Ant
posted by Anthony, Jenn, and Kids on May 17, 2006 at 9:43 pm
Hi Heath. Thinking of you. Today is a beautiful day. It’s somewhat muddy outside from all the rain we’ve had, but the sun is trying really hard to break through. Signs of newness and the changing season are everywhere. This morning on my way to work, I saw a little bird flapping around helplessly on the side walk near Manero’s. As I approached, I had the sinking feeling that he had flown into a window where he lay. As I got closer, I whined aloud, “OHhhh nooo…” I crouched down to see if I could somehow help him. When I was very close I was startled when, not one, but TWO birds were flapping around and they immediately flew away!!! Then I realized what was going on there… heh heh…I had totally ruined their moment. I felt like such a weiner! I laughed. Life is good. Love you Heath.
posted by Tam on May 17, 2006 at 12:22 pm
Hi, Heather. I’m so glad to hear that the harvest went well. I truly hope that the joint pain subsides and that you can enjoy your test drive of normal, everyday life with your family.
As others have written here, I appreciate your accomplishments, but the reason I check this website and write the occasional note is that I care about the Heather I got to know when I lived in Maine — the swimmer and the smiler and the girl I chatted with in the locker room — not the photographer, traveler, actor. I’ve heard it said that we should think of the cost of our mistakes as tuition. If you truly think that the cancer is partially the result of misplaced priorities, then I guess you’ve paid tuition at life’s Harvard. Personally, I’m hoping to get away with life’s education at community college rates!
I think of you all the time and pray for you every day.
Joanne
posted by Joanne on May 17, 2006 at 8:20 am
Happy Mother’s Day. Glad you were able to be home with Dick & Finn.
Once again I am humbled as I read your most recent entry. You are an amazing person in so many ways. Although I am impressed with your photography and everything you’ve done , I am even more impressed with your openess and strength during this illness. Your writing evokes a reflection and appreciation of my own life, family and friends.
As always, you and your family are in my prayers.
Love, Linda
posted by Linda on May 16, 2006 at 10:17 pm
Happy Belated Mother’s Day!! ( but I feel like every day is Mother’s Day!) I’m glad that self-reflection has become part of your healing process because with any kind of illness (mental, cancer, etc.), you have to remember who you are and what you’ve done with your life. Don’t forget that life happens for reasons, and there’s only so much that you can control. Like Rafiki says in “The Lion King”, “[Life] can hurt. But you can either run from it, or learn from it.”
–Hannah
posted by Hannah Weddle on May 16, 2006 at 2:43 pm
dear Heather…I have been here all the while..reading , watching…quietly sending healthful energy…but have not written for a long time.
Your Mother’s Day entry was powerful. I related to so much that you said about looking at the real reasons for our existence and our process. Very well said…and strengthening for me as I am sure it has been for others. Thank you for your honest directness.
I look outside at the flowering trees in our yard and the happy perennials that will explode when given a touch of warmth…and am reminded that the reasons for waking everyday are fairly simple..and hope to try to hold onto those thoughts a bit more successfully each day.
Sending a hug from P st.
Quietly observing, Judy B.
posted by judy Barker on May 16, 2006 at 12:09 pm
Heath,
So nice to hear that you were able to spend Mothers Day at home with Dick and Finn. You so deserve it and so do they.
I typically don’t like to re-iterate the sentiments of my mom or sister (just kidding) but I do feel the same. I too, have never been to one of your plays. I have been to a showing of your photography, but not to see your pictures. Its certainly not that I don’t enjoy viewing them, but contrary to popular opinion, I don’t have the most artistic eye. Honestly, I can’t tell the artistic difference between a picture of a beautiful sunset and a picture of a chilli-dog. I was at the show, to support Heather the person not Heather the photographer.
I am happy that you have come to the realization that you shared with us. I hope though, that you realize you are loved because of the person you are, not places you’ve gone or the things that you have accomplished. It’s not the “idea” of you we love, it’s simply you.
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on May 16, 2006 at 11:12 am
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn!
I love the picture of the three of you! I hope that all is well and I am happy to hear that you had a nice Mother’s Day. Wow! About your stem cells, I expect that you needed that encouraging news right about now. I am so happy that we had the opportunity to see you, however short a visit it was. I have not forgotten about your card, I will send it tomorrow (sorry, ever the pile maker, it got lost in the abyss ) I hope that you are all doing well. Our love to all of you!
Love and lots of prayers,
Heidi
posted by Heidi & Pete on May 15, 2006 at 10:52 pm
Um, ok so that should say that my MOM ends up writing…..forgive my brain….only a few more weeks of this pregnancy to go and maybe I’ll be more coherant?
posted by Meghan Cranney on May 15, 2006 at 8:25 pm
Hi Heather,
It always makes me laugh that my ends up writing at the same time I do. Great minds right? I read your entry at work earlier today and also wanted to take some time to think about it. I was thinking back to when I first met you - which I can’t even tell you how many years ago that was now but it must’ve been….somewhere inbetween 10-15? You were at a family function with my very favorite cousin. I’d never had to share Dick before at these things - it was always he and I paired up at things because well, that’s how it was as long as I can remember. He is one of the most gentle, patient, and kind people I know. You had entered his life, and my family’s life, and I remember being torn between being happy and very upset that I had to share him at these rare occasions.
You have made Dick so very happy. You fit into this family like you were born into it. And for all you’ve accomplished in your life - the things you say you’ve needed to make sure you are worth something, I honestly haven’t even seen. What I’ve seen of Heather has been only had the occasional family event in the last 10 years….Christmas, March Madness, or Weafer weekend (I miss those!). An occasional weekend we may get together. I’ve seen some of your photography work and am amazed, but I’ve not been to an event, I’ve never seen you perform. I’ve only seen YOU. And I love you dearly for who you are, and for making the cousin I always felt closet to so happy.
I hope this isn’t too much of a ramble. I just want you to know how valued you are as a person, an individual - and not by the accomplishments you’ve made. I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day and know that as always, you are in my thoughts.
Love,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on May 15, 2006 at 8:24 pm
Heather,
I’ve just read your recent entry and thank you from all of us for the detailed update on your latest journey.
Again, what an amazing young woman you are. I have to take some time to absorb what you’ve written about your responsibility for the cancer. As I read what you wrote my first thought was “she’s being too hard on herself”. I will need to read it over again and think about it.
Because, you see, Heather, my family (I’m sure I can speak for them on this topic) have loved you for the girl who became a young woman while we knew her. Yes, we are proud of your accomplishments. But, I assure you, we love you for the person that we know as Heather, the girl who married Dick, not for the places you’ve been, the photos you’ve taken, the lectures you’ve given, the plays you’ve acted in. . . . You became a part of our family…a warm, loving young woman.
You know, we never know how people really see us, do we?
Your insight in to how you feel can only be a good thing for you - what a very difficuolt thing that must have been for you to go through.
I feel like I have so much more to say, but I think this is not the place for it - I guess it’s time for me to get out that pen and paper again and write you. I’ll re-read your entry later this week and you’ll be hearing from me.
I am so glad you had a nice Mother’s Day. It is a special day for those of us who are blessed to have children.
Thinking of you and pondering…… (????)
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on May 15, 2006 at 7:55 pm
I just wanted to let you know that you all are in my thoughts. Heather, I thought of you yesterday as you were having your first Mom’s Day! How wonderful! I’m sure you are looking forward to many more! As you go through all the trials and tribulations of parenthood it will seem like every day should be parent’s day!! But in the end it’s all very much worth it!
Beth
posted by Beth on May 15, 2006 at 9:26 am
HI YOU ALL, NICE SNAPS. EVERYBODY LOOKS LEAN AND MEAN . HEATH YOU STILL ARE THE BEST LOOKIN GIRL IN ME. NICE HEAD WRAP. YOU LOOK LIKE A ARAB PRINCESS.
posted by UNC. on May 15, 2006 at 8:23 am
Hi, you three-
I haven’t made an entry in quite some time, but just know that I think of you EVERY day and I’ve been getting all the news from mom & dad. I hear you got some encouraging news this past week - needless to say we were absolutely thrilled.
Today, I just really wanted to wish you a very Happy first (of MANY to come!)Mother’s Day, Heather. We all know what a lucky little boy Finn is to have you for a mom. You have been noting short of heroically brave & strong - and I know that strength comes in large part from that amazing love you have for that little guy. It’s hard enough to be a mom under normal circumstances and you have every right to be so proud of everything you have endured and overcome and learned these past months- for yourself and for Finn & Dickie. Hang in there & have a wonderful day!
XXXXXXOOOO Auntie Nancy
P.S. Let me know if you need help - I can up there to help take care of that little angel-boy in a few short hours…
posted by Auntie Nancy on May 14, 2006 at 9:34 am
Hi Heather,
Happy first Mother’s Day!
You continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Hope to see you all at the lake this summer. We can’t wait to meet Finn!
Tom, Tina, Ben, and Cameron
posted by Tom and Tina Villnave on May 14, 2006 at 5:22 am
Hi Heather…
Again… don’t know you well, but have lots of friends who are thinking of you often. I wanted to wish you a happy first mothers day - maybe the sun will shine for you all, it should.
take good care,
Julia
posted by Julia on May 14, 2006 at 12:14 am
Hi Heather,
How are you doing? How is your wonderful little boy, Finn?
I will be leaving for Belgium in one week, and I didn’t want to leave without saying hello to you. From there I will also send you some news.
Take care!
Rose
posted by Rose Zephyr on May 13, 2006 at 9:53 pm
Hi Heather and Dick-
Checking in to see how you all are doing- I hope the positive powers that be are shining on you all. My sister Jeanne works with your grandmother? Lucy at Sweetser- she tries to keep me updated because she knows how much I care. Keep up the battle- from what I read and hear- you are fighting a good fight. Hugs to you all. I’ll keep praying.
posted by Heather Lefebvre on May 13, 2006 at 11:52 am
Hello Finn,
Tomorrow is Mother’s Day and you have a special one. Your mother has infected everyone she has every known with only what we can call Heatherness. No matter how far away from her you or we are, only thinking of her brings up the Heatherness.
You are a lucky little boy and you don’t have a bad dad either. Twice Blessed you are.
Anyway, give your mom a nuzzle from the Buchheim’s tomorrow. Just a special little nuzzle from us. She will know.
Sara, Jerry, Jon and Jason
posted by Sara Buchheim on May 13, 2006 at 9:15 am
Hello Weafer Three-
Like Lee, I’m leaving a late night pondering - it looks from JP’s note that the ‘Harvest’ (and yes, indeed, you shall be forever more ‘the Queen’!), went very well. Bravo and kuddos! I’m checking in to let you know that our entire church prayed for you last week, and will continue to…and to wish you the most wonderful, sweet, tender, joy-ful, and warm and cozy mother’s day - the first of many-many. Did you know that the first mother’s day in the 1800’s was a call for peace by Julia Howe? There was just a blurb about it in the Times Record, but I learned of it a year ago in church on mother’s day. This Sunday our youth group will do the service with this as it’s theme (Chrisitan will sing, ‘Bring Him Home’ from Les Miz among many other treats). And so, my dear, on this your first mother’s day, I wish for you the utmost and deepest kind of Peace -abiding, omnipotent, and healing….. know that we are with ALL with you - all the way. Enjoy those boys, and have a happy, happy and blessed day.
love,
Sheri for all the Nadells
posted by Sheri on May 12, 2006 at 11:16 pm
Hey Heather and Dick-
Sending you much love and healing energy from Santa Monica.
Hope to see you when I come home for the wedding.
Big hug to all THREE of you.
Tammy
posted by Tammy Duffy on May 12, 2006 at 3:35 pm
Hi Heather,
We want to wish you the happiest of happy Mother’s Days! Wish you were here with us (we miss you already!) but know you’ve more than earned a nice chunk of time at home with your boys.
Sending you healing thoughts for happy and pain free joints.
Love to you three from we four,
Kimmie, Tiff, Bo and Ella
posted by Kim Weafer on May 12, 2006 at 1:18 pm
Apologies for not writing lately - we were away on vacation and then settling back into reality! Heather, your journal is so amazing. Just when I think you can’t share anything beyond what you have, you write something so profound. The posting about your parents was beautiful. Having lost both of mine during the past 6yrs, I can only confirm to you (and others) that it’s so important to hold those dear to you close and cherish the time you have. The ‘up’ side of serious health issues is that they serve as a wake up call for us to examine what’s really important in our lives.
On a happier note, it’s almost Mothers Day!!!! Congratulations to you as you celebrate your first one with such a beautiful little baby I hope your medical procedures are going well and that you’re feeling better every day. Jayne
posted by Jayne Winters on May 12, 2006 at 9:03 am
Dear Heather, Dick, and Finn,
As I read Heather’s last two updates and look at the glorious pictures, all I see is love. Because you share your journey, you bless each and every one of us with your insights and the accounts of the emotional and physical generosity of those who love you all. We are with you all in this struggle; we are amazed by your strength and courage, we are humbled by the three of you. May your strength continue to win out, Heather. You three are our heroes.
With love,
Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose
posted by tilly rothwell on May 11, 2006 at 11:03 pm
Dick & Heather,
I couldn’t be happier to hear the good news. Your fighting is paying off!
Thinking of you,
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on May 11, 2006 at 12:52 pm
6 million Cells!!!! You rock girlfriend! Good Job! I knew you were potent!
Love JP
posted by JP on May 11, 2006 at 12:41 pm
Dick & Heather,
Got an update from my mom yesterday that sounded great! I’m so glad you guys have had some good news. Sounds like all of the prayers and energy sent towards you is working. Know we’re all thinking of you and are with you every day in spirit.
Love
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on May 11, 2006 at 7:17 am
Hi Heather,
I hear from my mom that you mainers have flowers blooming and grass growing and spring is just about arrived. Here I’m totally sticky, and the air warm and heavy.
I’m thinking about that freak day you were here and we almost went to ait baha, but we didn’t, we stayed in my hot house leaning against cold blue fishtank walls eating olives and red cheese waiting for the heat to pass.
I miss you laugh and your logic. thank you for sharing it with me here.
I think about you everyday, and send you the strength that you had so generously shared with me.
I love you so much.
Finn is SO beautiful. I can’t wait to see him in real life instead of just pictures!
it won’t be long now.
Love, reba
posted by reba on May 10, 2006 at 9:59 am
Dick and Heather,
Just heard from G&G that you are on your way HOME! Thank goodness something finally went well. I’m sure you are both exhausted, and very glad to get back to Finn. Get some sleep tonight while the grandparents and great-grandparents continue do some of those night feedings.
You continue to be in my thoughts, prayers and heart.
Love you,
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on May 9, 2006 at 7:18 pm
Hi Heath,
I am soooo sorry I haven’t written sooner, I have been keeping up on your progress thol You are always in our prayers and our thoughts. I can’t wait to see Finn again, He is sooo cute and from what I hear gram and pop are spoiling him , as they should. Good luck with your next round of stuff. I hope everything goes well with the harvesting of the stem cells I’ll be praying for all of you
Love,
Aunt Jacki
posted by aunt jacki on May 9, 2006 at 7:45 am
Hi Heather,
It’s been a while since we last ran into each other (at Maine Roasters in Yarmouth?) but I just wanted to add my thoughts and words of encouragement to you. The early mornings at the Casco Bay Y were not quite the same after you left to swim in Bath. It was kismet to hear about your baby boy and your challenges from Bill C. this AM , because I had just been thinking about you and wondering what you were up to. Hope you stay strong and it seems like you’ve got all the support that anyone could ask for here. My prayers are with you and your family.
Stephanie
posted by Stephanie Cheney on May 8, 2006 at 11:04 am
Dear Ones,
…having a late night ponder wondering how it is all going for you. After this next phase we’ll elect you “Harvest Queen”, Heather. Surely Jenn and Wen can get out the glue guns and make some sort of spectacular crown for the winner of the title! (perhaps something involving cat-o-nine tails…) We are ALL thinking of you ALL with love and admiration. love, lee
posted by lkpaige on May 6, 2006 at 11:11 pm
Dear Heather, Dick and Finn,
We were away over vacation, but only in body…our prayers and hugs continue to come your way. I talked to Dick the other day and after hearing of the upcoming ’schedule’, I commented that there’ll have to be a big party this summer…but what kind of party? We thought maybe a big, huge, ‘normal life’ party? Sound okay with you, Heather and Finn? Thank you so much for your entries, Heather. Your honesty, eloquent words, and lessons are such a gift to us. It’s May and you’re almost there. Really. Stay tough. That’s what I say to my soccer and field hockey kids on the field - stay tough. You are and you will. And I will pray for more scrumptious moments of normalcy with your awesome boys. Remember how much we all love you,
Sheri for all the Nadells
posted by Sheri on May 4, 2006 at 12:40 pm
Hey Finn,
What is that funny noise outside? Is that spring? My goodness, your first spring and lovely one at that. Today in Maine the rain was east and down (that’ is downpour) we need it and took to it. Outside your house the river is high and the rains push the water by, by . Hope you and your Dad are loving seeing your mom today:) Mother’s day is coming up, will you make her pancakes?
Love shaye and john
posted by Shaye and John on May 3, 2006 at 6:06 pm
Heather,
Just looked at the new pics. They’re great! A great “pink day”!
You know, right now, you and Finn look A LOT alike!!
Mary
posted by Mary on May 3, 2006 at 10:11 am
Hi guys,
Just wanted to drop you a quick note to say I’m thinking of you always and checking the website daily still. My thoughts are with you guys, I know this hasn’t been an easy week for you and we’re all still here pulling for you and praying for you.
Love,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on May 3, 2006 at 7:33 am
Prince Finn is a living masterpiece. What a beauty!
I love the pictures.!! You are in my thoughts more than
you’ll know.
I love the updates.
Much peace and happiness to you
Amy (your L/D nurse)
p.s it’s almost popham beach weather
posted by Amy DeMartino on May 2, 2006 at 9:29 pm
Hi Guys,
Thinking about you guys!
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on May 2, 2006 at 1:57 pm
Hey Guys, Just thought I would send you a loving shout out from Tech Week at TTP. Only a year ago I can remember stressing over video slides with Heather for Tollbooth. Such trivial things nowadays. Hope you 3 are doing well, and much love and good vibes going into the “harvest”.
Love JP
posted by JP on May 1, 2006 at 1:11 pm
Hi, Heather. I hope Boston went well and that you were able to enjoy your birthday a little bit! We’re having a perfect spring down here in Maryland, and it’s heading your way! Spring is such a time of rejuvenation — I hope that’s reflected in your progress.
The photos of Finn are just beautiful!
Joanne
posted by Joanne on May 1, 2006 at 9:15 am
I just wanted to let you know that there are people out here that you have never met who are reading your words, marveling at your journey, and sending you all the strength, hope, and courage that we can send over the thoughtwaves.
Be strong and enjoy spring!
Janet (Mom of one of Dad Weafer’s students)
posted by Janet Roberts on April 29, 2006 at 11:43 am
Hi Heather and Dick,
Hope you’re heading home soon, Heather. Just checking in and letting you all know you are always in our thoughts and hearts. Maybe we’ll just have to celebrate that birthday again this summer when we get all these new babies (and one more to come) together. Sounds like a plan to me.
Love you and kisses to Finn,
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on April 27, 2006 at 8:31 pm
happy birthday heather! we love you…
jim, mary ann, jd, and adam
posted by mary ann on April 27, 2006 at 5:58 pm
Hi Sweetie!
I sent you an email this morning too but thought I should put one on the website just in case you aren’t checking email… so…..
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
We love you!!!!! Can’t wait for next years dual Wendo/Heather Bday celebration again! It just wasn’t right this year with both of you out of town for your bdays!
Can’t wait to see you next week when you get back.
I think about you every day. I go for walks through in the woods with my dog and listen to the voices of the trees, sounds of spring, cars and planes in the distance, voices in my head, too. They’re all shouting, “50 more birthdays for Heather!”
Happy HAPPY birthday to you, my friend. I’m sending you my biggest, bad-ass, kick butt, Italian-girl-from-Cos Cob vibes~~~~ ((((sqeezing you now… activate!))))~~~ feel that? Yeah! That’s the old school stuff!!! Remember the clean burn, mama. Love you. Tam
posted by Tam on April 26, 2006 at 4:29 pm
Happy Birthday Heath!
I wish health, happiness, peace, and health again in the coming year!
much love,
Heath
posted by Heather on April 26, 2006 at 3:43 pm
Happy Birthday Heather!
Love,
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on April 26, 2006 at 3:22 pm
Happy Birthday HEATHER!!!
Sending tons of love and hugs and
happy warm thoughts!
All of my love,
Maria
posted by Maria on April 26, 2006 at 11:19 am
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, HEATHER!!
xoxo
Sue
posted by sue on April 26, 2006 at 9:51 am
Happy Birthday to you,
Happy Birthday to you,
Happy Birthday Dear Mommy,
Happy Birthday to you!
I love you and miss you and I can’t wait to eat cake together next year! Be brave and hurry home.
Love,
Your Finn-bug
posted by Finn on April 26, 2006 at 8:36 am
Hey there Heath,
I am so sorry that i have not written in a while. I have been thinking about you so much.
I want to also tell you Happy Birthday and that I love you.
The other day my daughter Libby was talking to me about her day at school. I asked her what she learned about that day, and she responded “well dad, we learned about St. Judes Childrens Hospital.” I answered ‘really” Libby then said ” They do alot of good things for kids, but I don’t evere ever want to go there.” She said ” sick kids go there to get better but they all get bald when there there” I really had a good laugh inside, and explained that those kids have cancer. She said ” Isnt that what aunt Heather has. and I said yes, and tried my best to explain it to her. She said that she cant wait to meet you. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.. Love Ant.
posted by Anthony, Jenn, and Kids on April 25, 2006 at 10:50 pm
Hi Heath,
It was great talking to you on Easter! I love the new pictures of Finn. He is absolutely adorable . . . I can’t wait to meet him. He’s really getting so big and I’m so happy he’s progressing along just perfectly.
Not sure if I’ll be able to write tomorrow so just in case I can’t -
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
I’m off to bed now. Thinking of you and praying for you always.
Love,
Kristen
posted by Kristen and Mark on April 25, 2006 at 9:53 pm
Heather,
It’s almost your birthday and I might not get on here tomorrow so
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, BEAUTIFUL GIRL!!!!!!!!!!
Love
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on April 25, 2006 at 9:37 pm
Hello Dick and Heather, Finn, and all the wonderful posters out there,
On our fridge (the ultimate badge of urban love) we have you three to join us in our morning coffee and evening cocktails, maybe even the occasional late night snack…Right now it is of morrocan head woman, and wee hope sky blue with dick looking tired and always that smile just below the look.
I have just finished telling John of your story, reality, love poem to your folks the ‘knights in sweatpants and parkas’, they are knights aren’t they, Joe and Lucy much much love to you both. Love to you three,
Shaye and John
posted by Shaye and John on April 25, 2006 at 6:20 pm
Hi Heth,
I love the newest pics of Finn! Especially the one of him smiling! He is a beautiful little boy!! I can’t wait to see him again. I hope that your treatment is going well! I will call you tomorrow.
Love as always,
Heidi
posted by Heidi & Pete on April 25, 2006 at 12:57 pm
Hi Heth,
I love the newest pics of Finn! Especially the one of him smiling! He is a beautiful little boy!! I can’t wait to see him again. I hope that your treatment is going well! I will call you tomorrow.
Love as always,
Heidi
posted by Heidi & Pete on April 25, 2006 at 12:57 pm
Dear Ones,
Today is my oldest friend’s birthday. We were playpen buddies just as Finn will be with his cousins. April babies seem to be very creative. My Ian is…well, Ian and my friend is a top musician and you… We all know of your skills on stage and with a camera but I for one did not know what a writer you were until your entries on this site. To read about your parents and then see the picture of them with Finn was a real treat. Your father’s expression is one I have never seen on him and it is beautiful. The pictures of Finn show what a personality he has already and how he reacts to you despite the lens between you. I like to think about watching the Weafer family grow together for many years to come and his special self evolving daily. Best of luck with this next phase and keep the faith, All. A longish rest back in Maine, even with radiation, sounds pretty wonderful after what you’ve all been through,
I’m starting a new T.P. class this afternoon with ‘ the Tweets’ (as Al calls them) and in preparing for it realized that someday I will probably have FINN in my class! He’ll have a few stories to tell.. . much love, lee
posted by lkpaige on April 25, 2006 at 10:46 am
It’s so great to hear from you Heather. Your words continue to amaze and inspire me. My thoughts are with you as you go through this next hurdle. My love to you and your beautiful family. You are the strongest person I know.
posted by Alison Lowe on April 25, 2006 at 9:10 am
Hello Heather and Dick,
No great words of wisdom, but just a thank you Heather for the latest updates. My prayers and good wishes continue with a joyful heart for all of your victories to date. And thank you to all who have posted here - it is always refreshing to log on and see a new message or two! Judging by little Nathaniel’s development I’m guessing that Finn is rewarding you with some great smiles, giggles, cooing, and facial expressions. Talk about good medicine! Nathaniel says hi to Finn, and wants to know when he gets to meet him.
Know that your suffering is not without merit. At the very least I see how it often grounds me in what is important and allows me to be part of something bigger than me. Judging by this website it is doing a whole lot more. So thank you for your struggle. You will never know, at least in this life, how much good has been accomplished by it.
Lou
posted by Lou Sullivan on April 25, 2006 at 5:09 am
Dear Heather and Dick…we’re so glad your heavy chemo treatments are behind you. Our hearts ache for what you have had to endure. We knew things would be tough but were confident you would come through like a champ, as you have done. You and Dick are truly an inspiration to us all. We love you both so much and pray you will have a quiet and peaceful respite before further treatment. Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers…Carroll and Deanie
posted by Carroll & Deanie DuBose on April 24, 2006 at 5:26 pm
Hello dear Heather, Dick and the little Finn ..
Happy BIRTHDAY to you HEATHER
HOW could we say or describe our feelings to remind ourselves -in everyday during this month- the day of your birthday!!! Yeah!! See.. we have not forgotten it…
HOW very special that day for you and Dick to celebrate it with the presence of Finn!!Have fun all of you..
HOW can we express to you our great happeness and delight for just congratulating you at your second birthday during our relationship!!!???
HOW can we just open the uncompleted list of our wide wishes and hopes to you and all of your familly!!??
HOW.. and .. HOW…!!
Dear Heather, it’s the day for more light and energy from your friends..
Give Finn sweet kisses..
Happy BIRTHDAY to you HEATHER
Your friends in Biougra..
Rachid .. and Mohamed ..
posted by Mohamed and Rachid from MOROCCO on April 24, 2006 at 4:09 pm
Heather,
Thank you once again…….for sharing what you are going through. I read your entry this morning and have been thinking about it all day. You pointed out to us what some of us are fortunate enough to be able to do, take our parents for granted! Not that I’m suggesting that it’s a good thing to do, but in that strange way it is a compliment. To love people and be loved by people that we know will always be there for us is such an incredible gift. There have been many times in my life that I have just wanted my mother, doesn’t matter how old we are, we still need and want our parents. I’m glad that your parents were there for you on that particular night, and I’m sure they were too! I think of you, Dick and Finn (who is so adorable) every day. Stay strong.
Love, Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on April 24, 2006 at 4:07 pm
Dear Heather and Dick,
I read with great interest about your night last week - that special night where your parents, Heather, came to help you all. Parents are well equipped to do just that: whatever is needed and whenever the call comes. When our children become adults, those opportunities present infrequently, but when they do, they are golden, much treasured moments. Somehow, in the darkness and stillness of the night, a solution becomes so crystal clear…I am so pleased that they could help you in exactly the way you most needed them. I am certain they hold that night so dear, as they do the three of you. God bless you and keep you…fondly, Mary Buckowsky
posted by Mary Buckowsky on April 24, 2006 at 3:45 pm
Heather and Dick,
You and Finn remain in my prayers and positive thoughts…sending much love to you all always and particularly this week…
xoxo
Sue
posted by sue k-b on April 24, 2006 at 1:18 pm
It was so nice to have an update from you! And you “sound” good too. I wish you an early happy birthday (since I doubt my pregnant brain will remember on the correct day this week!) and if ever someone deserved to really have a birthday week….or two….or three….of celebration it’s you! I’m a big birthday person myself so I hope everyone just showers you with birthday love all week and then some.
The new pics of Finn are gorgeous. He is such a beautiful baby Heather, and from what I hear a good little guy too
I will send you lots of positive thoughts and love this week. Try to enjoy your birthday -you have your own now and know how very special that day is now huh?
Love
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on April 24, 2006 at 7:25 am
Yah! It was so good to hear from you. You know, silence can be horrible. It also made it hard to send positive thoughts when I kept wondering if everything was all right. I need to work on that since it is not your job to reassure me/us!!!!!!
Sweating is a great way to detox so even though it feels yucky, it means your body is healing. …I know, I know, just call me Dr. Di
Sending you sunshine on a gray day.
posted by Diane Kew on April 23, 2006 at 8:39 pm
Heather and Dick,
It was so good to get an update from you, Heather. I have been getting updates and knew you were having some very dark days, but you sound like yourself again - you and Dick have climbed yet another mountain. Your words are truly poetic. Those of us who are parents find your words about your own parents very moving…and I’m sure we’re thinking that we hope our kids know that we’re there for them….maybe we should be sure that we let them know how much they mean to us. Oops! Sorry, got off the subject!
So….Kim mentioned your birthday when I saw all of them yesterday - and I remember that you two do vie for the BIRTHDAY GIRL award. I believe she said it was WEDNESDAY - just in case anyone on here wants to send a birthday wish your way that day. Or, anyone who has Kim’s address could always send a card to you THERE. I figure you’ll have AT LEAST a birthday week or two this year!!!!!
Okay, girl, just checking in - you know I’ thinking about you.
Love
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on April 22, 2006 at 5:09 pm
Hey Heather & Dick and little baby Finn!
I have been hearing much news about you all from Molly and have seen beautiful pictures of the new addition to the Theater Project circle of love. I miss all of you and hope that boston is treating you as well as it can. I think about you guys and all the struggles that you are facing but then I think about how good spirited you are and how much that helps in life. I wish things were different and I want you to know that I am hoping for the best. Hope to see you this summer at some point, love you all, give Finn a high five for me,
Elise
posted by Elise Fitzgerald on April 21, 2006 at 12:40 pm
Heather, Dick and Finn -
Its Matt here, checking in from down in New York. It is so great to hear from you both on this website and to be able to share in some small way the journey that you both are on. My heart did a little backflip when I came across the photo of Heather holding Finn while wearing the “tiny but mighty” sweat jacket. In some small way, I like to think that every time you put on the jacket, its actually me stretching my arms all the way up to Maine to wrap you in a big fuzzy warm hug. I don’t know how it is in Maine, but down here in New York the bright green leaves are popping out of trees all over the place. Tulips and daffodils are swaying in the gardens around my apartment building. The air is fresher, the sun is brighter and after a long winter it genuinely feels like the world is going through a rebirth. There is hope, there is joy, there is endless possibility. I trust and hope this Spring feels the same for the three of you. Through your strength and love you have earned this season more than anyone I know. The world is pouring out floods of warm energy and hope and I am channelling as much of my share of it to send to you. I wish Heather the very happiest of birthdays next week. What an unbelievable year you just had - a journey unlike any one I’ve ever heard and I feel blessed to have been even a small part of it. The next year for you all will be one of countless joys and loves, I just know it. I can’t wait to see you all, but until I do you constantly remain in my mind and heart.
Much love,
Matt
posted by Matt Davie on April 21, 2006 at 7:19 am
Heath et al,
It is great to hear how far you have come! It sure hasn’t been easy for you all but how wonderful it is to be at this point where we are all thinking of your little family together and enjoying life. Keep up the good work. This particular birthday has a bit of a sheen to it, doesn’t it? I’ll be thinkin’ of you - as always. Lee
posted by lkpaige on April 20, 2006 at 11:47 pm
Dear Heather, Dick, and Finn,
Finn is just getting cuter by the minute…he is precious! I can’t believe he has passed the three month mark already! Every baby minute is so special and you are both so wise to savor each one and keep life as normal for him as possible. I’m sure he senses how important he is in the great scheme of things,that we all love him already and think he and his parents are just the best! So glad to get the updates; it helps us all to know where you are at in the healing process so that we can cheer you on!
Love from the Rothwells!
Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose
posted by tilly rothwell on April 20, 2006 at 9:19 pm
Hi,
A big smile is on my face! When I don’t see an update from someone I get nervous. I’m so glad you made it thru this part so well, get a well deserved rest and prepare for the next battle. I am in awe of your tenacity and pluck.
Skip
posted by Skip on April 20, 2006 at 4:03 pm
Hi, Heather! It’s so great to hear from you, especially that the treatment plan is moving along apace. I’m so glad that you all get this week to recoup. I think of you daily and wish you the best. And I love the new pics!
Joanne
posted by Joanne on April 20, 2006 at 8:48 am
Hi Guys,
I haven’t seen any updates lately and I’m sure others as well are anxious about how things are going. I’m hoping all is well. I’ll keep checking in. West Harbor Pond is a little sadder without you. Fight on!
Skip
posted by Skip on April 19, 2006 at 4:53 pm
Dear Ones,
I ran into Jen on my way into the St.L. and she said that there had been no new challenges for you. Yea!!!!!! She did mention that you, Heath, were feeling pretty bored so I think this’ll be my last entry on the web site for awhile as I will write you real letters instead. Remember those? To you three and to all who read this site - Keep the faith! xxx lee
posted by lkpaige on April 19, 2006 at 1:27 pm
Hey Heather, Dick, and baby Finn,
Haven’t heard much on the website and we are hoping for good news for you. You three are in our thoughts everyday, every hour. I wish I could channel some of my strength to you - and if wishes come true, then I have.
Will keep checking the web site every day. Give Dick a big hug from us - then he should give you one from us.
Sara and Jerry
posted by Sara Buchheim on April 18, 2006 at 5:18 pm
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn,
Just want you to know I think of you daily and everytime I do, I send you love and light. Hope you are feeling better Heather. Lots of love to you and yours.
Jody King
posted by Jody King on April 18, 2006 at 2:46 pm
Dear Heather:
Patricia gave me news re your condition about a month ago. I haven’t been swimming at the Y due to my husband’s illness so did not know what had happened to you.
I am so very sorry to hear the news of your illness, but happy to hear that baby Finn is doing fine. Will say many prayers for your recovery.
Dear Heather…just a note to say hello and to reaffirm that you are in our thoughts and prayers night and day. I know these must be tought times but I know you are fighting the good fight and that Dick is right there by your side. We do love you both so much. I went by the allposters.com web site a little while ago and reviewd your entire collection. I am always amazed at the beauty of your images and what a great talent you have. Anyone who hasn’t done so should go to this site and see your work. My prayer is that you will soon be whole and well and able to resume your normal life with Dick and Finn…and capture more beautiful images Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll & Deanie
posted by Carroll & Deanie DuBose on April 17, 2006 at 4:01 pm
Happy Easter!!! I love you 3 very much and hope you have a nice quiet egg day!
JP
posted by JP Gagnon on April 15, 2006 at 9:50 pm
Yesterday JR and I went walking and the peepers were so darn loud! Gone is the strict silence of winter hello caucaphany (sp) of spring. John was telling me about a project he is doing with his kids at school- tell a story about yourself in 20 still frames or less. Of course our conversation turned to One Picture Perry. That instinctual quality Heather has of capturing so much in just one frame. Looking forward to talking photos with you:)
Mr. Richard! JR and I smile toward you and send you quite moments when you can concentrate enough to read.
Much love and may your sunshine be bright.
posted by Shaye and John on April 14, 2006 at 5:53 pm
Hi Guys,
My family is thinking of you always. Happy Easter. We will color three eggs for the three of you just in case you don’t get to it!
Hang in there you two, we love you.
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on April 14, 2006 at 1:09 pm
Heather, Dick & Finn,
Just a quick note to let you know you’re always in our thoughts, we check the website daily, checking for updates on your progress. Wishing you and all the Weafers a happy Easter.
Love
Bruce & Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on April 14, 2006 at 11:05 am
Hi guys,
Just wanted to drop you three a quick note to say Happy Easter and that we’re thinking of you. I know this week hasn’t been easy for you - but know that we’re all out here, praying and doing what we do to help you fight this thing the only way we know how. Lots of hugs, I hope Finn enjoys his first Easter!
Love you,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on April 14, 2006 at 9:10 am
HEY THERE HEATH … LOVE AND ALL OUR PRAYERFUL THOUGHT BLASTS TOO YOU FINN AND DICK…..ANOTHER ONE BITES THE DUST…
posted by ...UNC... on April 13, 2006 at 8:37 am
AMAZING! That is all I can say. Heather, even though you have a lot of chemicals in your body, everyone knows you are still the same old lady who can crack a joke and smile even if it’s raining.
GOOO FINN AND DICK and all the other WEAFERS!!!
I’m still thinking about you all–
Hannah Weddle
posted by Hannah Weddle on April 12, 2006 at 9:11 pm
Dear Heather…just a note to touch base. You’re still in our thoughts and prayers during all waking hours. I gather you’re still in Boston for one of the heavy chemo treatments and possibly without Dick and Finn. If so, I know it must be very tough times. But you know we are all still with you, at your side in thought and prayer if not in person. Our love to you and Dick and all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll and Deanie
posted by Carroll & Deanie DuBose on April 12, 2006 at 8:47 am
Hi Heather,
Don’t know the prior person, but I have two of Israel’s CD and yes, that is a song I play over and over. I will put it on tomorrow and be thinking of you.
Hang in there, honey. I cannot imagine how tough this is on you, but we need you to do the “pull yourself up by the bootstraps” thing, yet again. I do know it’s hard, you’re exhausted, tired of it all. No one will ever not understand that.
Remember that we’re all out here praying for you, urging you to be strong - oh so strong you have been, young lady.
Dick and Finn are waiting for your return to Maine. Think of them…you’ll be home soon.
Love
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on April 11, 2006 at 9:09 pm
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn,
I’m reading your notes and listening to Israel Kamakawaso’ole (a hawaiian musician with the voice of an angel) singing Somewhere Over the Rainbow…..and sending you love and positive energy. Listen to that song and see if it doesn’t raise your energy the next time you feel blue…………..it’s good medicine. I’m just playing it over and over and haven’t got tired of it yet.
I see your friends from Morocco are checking in on you too. I had the pleasure of meeting a couple of them and everyone was wishing you well and continue to send their best wishes.
Anyway, sending you loving white light and healing energy………over the rainbow from me to you.
love, jody
posted by Jody King on April 11, 2006 at 8:51 pm
Hi. Just the Kew clan sending big virtual hugs your way.
posted by Diane Kew on April 11, 2006 at 8:41 pm
Hi Heather again..
we don’t know if you recieve our letter!! which maybe gives you another idea from your friends.
still wait for your visit ..
we wish to you good luck and good days..
kisses and greatings for all of you..
mohamed and rachid
posted by rachid and mohamed on April 9, 2006 at 8:31 am
hi He
posted by rachid and mohamed on April 9, 2006 at 8:22 am
Heath,
I wish you safe traveling tomorrow and easy IVs. See you soon.
Love, Michele
P.S. As always, kisses and hugs to Dick and Finn.
posted by Michele Livermore Wigton on April 9, 2006 at 7:55 am
Dearest Three,
Okay, so here’s the deal - just checking in to let you know that miracles happen every day - today I heard of one that happened during the last 14 years; regarding a lovely woman whom I know. She was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. Today she is with us on our earth: alive, vibrant and full of spunk. Reading back over my sentences in black and white….I wonder if I should write it. But I keep thinking (almost every day) that you ARE and WILL BE a miracle, and so - hearing about miracles that have come before can only assist in your journey. And so, I want to let you know about women like ‘my lady’ who have conquered (a good word) and endured, (another good word) and persevered (yet another) and are HERE to have their story told. This is only one story….my father has beat cancer twice….how many victory stories are there out there?? Billions…perhaps…I don’t know - but I do know that yours SHALL be added to the ‘Victory List’ - indeed - it’ll be there - probably in italics because the almighty Finn was the Sous-Chef! Name many reasons for the itlacs - just know that it’ll be there. It will. I know it in my heart. (And so far I’ve known a FEW things in my heart which are indeed real).
So - I wanted to remind you again about miracles - ’cause you’re a real live one! I give Dick hugs at JA to pass into the quantum healing pulse….and as always, I pray and encourage others to as well.
Gentle hugs, smiles, and love from,
Sheri and all the Nadells
posted by Sheri N. on April 8, 2006 at 11:20 pm
I must apologize for delaying so long in offering my support and best wishes. I think I have been waiting for some profound thoughts to strike me that I could pass along, but nothing seems to measure up to the situation. I do know that most of us find we can endure more emotional hardship than we ever thought possible and you all are proving that once again. We think of you often and I hope with all my heart that you progress positively through this trial. Congratulations on Finn — what a blessing! We hope to see you all soon.
posted by Curt Beadle on April 7, 2006 at 10:04 pm
Aqua Dart and Weafer, Dick ~
i’m a little gun shy at the thought of people i don’t know reading this…so…brief is better…the words “hero” and “role model” and “inspiration” these days are thrown out there like nothing, so i hesitate to use them, but reading your comments on this website fill my heart to overflowing with inspiration, and respect, and love and oh my God, you HUMBLE me with your love and hope and faith and strength…and how petty i am in my own worries in life….do you know what i am remembering right now? (and any relatives who are squeamish, as my bro and i are in such matters, stop reading…) the two of you crammed into heather’s bed in my and dart’s room, the two of you reading poetry to each other at night, all lovey-dovey and googly….(OK, safe again…) and the four of us trekking to Dart’s red jeep in the GOD AWFUL JANUARY MAINE COLD to go to practice….and going to dart or dick’s relatives’ home for some meatballs and spaghetti, i think it was….
I love you both, and, by extension, your Finn, your miracle.
so many of my family and friends who don’t even know you are praying, sending happy light waves (sorry, still getting used to the meditation terminology thing, being the strong Catholic that i am…..) and rooting for you all…and, since RI is so small, rest assured that by now 2/3 of the state knows your story, most likely, and prayers and good karma and all that jazz are shooting to you from all over our great little state….
…okay, so you know what? this isn’t so short, and i’ve also decided that i don’t care…since it’s others who love you who may read it….and if so, Wendy, and the Jen who keeps showing up as the website person…thank you, thank you, thank you, for being there for two people whom i have kept in my heart since graduation…
…heather and dick…OK, here’s the deal…when you’re up to it, you come to RI, and Bake and I treat you to a real “ro-dilun” type of day….i bet Finn will LOVE swimming in the Atlantic off of Block Island…..
XOXOXOXOXOXO
Sue
posted by Sue K-B on April 5, 2006 at 7:46 pm
HI YOU BUNCH OF WONDERFUL GUYS…BOY TALK ABOUT THE POWER OF GODS LOVE,GROUP PRAYER AND GOOD OLD YANKEE AGUA. BACK IN THE DAY I^D SHOOT RIGHT OVER TO TUMBLEDOWNS AND HOIST A FEW.LOVE AND YOU KEEP POUNDING THAT WATER. A LITTLE MINT CHO CHIP ICE CREAM EVERY FOUR HOURS BE GOOD TOO.
posted by UNC on April 5, 2006 at 9:40 am
Dear Ones,
I just read with joy the more encoraging news … thank you for trying so hard, Heath and blessings on that “hands-on” circle that supports you! Jen, thanks for keeping the site going and for posting the new pictures. My next computer lesson with Bonnie will be learning how to print out the nose-to-nose picture so that I can have it by my bed! My own Finn-bug (Shrimp Boy) was home for a week just recently and I swear I didn’t have to finish a single sentence when with him. How lucky we are to have so much love around us, eh?
Opening Night for Enchanted April is nearly upon us in Portland. I think of you often, Heather and Dick, as the characters make their nightly journey from the dark into the light. As my crusty Mrs. Graves begins to thaw in the Italian sunshine and thrive when loved, I open my heart wide and take you there with me.
I hope that I’ll see you soon. I got very excited when I thought Dick was driving behind me when I took Bonnie to school yesterday but it turned out to be some handsome high school swain. Do you get the feeling that you will always be “Little Dickie Weafer” to your Mirabelle, Dick? I love you, Trio. Don’t forget to ask for help, company, dinner or gossip! Love always, lee
posted by lee k. paige on April 4, 2006 at 3:51 pm
Hey Heather,
Hope you get home tomorrow Heather. Spoke w/G&G and boy did your boys make THEIR weekend. Finn charmed them with his beautiful smile and Dick was so easy to have around.
So glad things went a little better on this trip-it was time you got a break- and that you ended up getting your own room…so much easier for all of you.
You know we are thinking of you, praying for you and loving you.
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on April 3, 2006 at 9:59 pm
Dearest Three,
I, too, read Dad Weafer’s call to prayer last week, and like Lou, sat and had many thoughts come, but no words right then. But know that I sent my prayers up all week for those kidneys of yours, Heather. Yay a thousand times! You did it!!! How I wish all of these treatments could be over now, instead of later. But I love the fact that you three wake up each day, soak in every ounce of love and smiles and inspiration from your perfect Finn, and from each other. It is oh so good that you are wise enough to accept this gift each and every moment. And the photos - oh my - such a treat that you share with us.
So - once again, I send my encouragement to hang in there, gentle hugs, and lots of lots of love. You can and will do this.
love from all the Nadells,
Sheri
posted by Sheri N. on April 3, 2006 at 3:44 pm
Hi Heather
I am Jen, I work with your mom. I have written once or twice to you and look at your website often. I am lifted up and strengthened by your words and your strength and honesty. I want you to know that i send, and have been sending, warm positive energy to you and your family, and to your mother too, as she is such a special lady, who i enjoy working with.
your photos on this website are beautiful. Finn is AMAZING, so bright, heatlhy and beautiful. I can tell he is lucky to have you two as parents.
love, jen
posted by jen baldwin mackey on April 3, 2006 at 12:29 pm
Heather and Dick,
Lydia, John and Keisha came by on Sunday and we all played “watch Lydia walk around and read books” it is a very fun game to play with a cup of coffee in your hand. We talked of you and gave good vibes to the universe. Keisha and I decided we needed to get on gardening “chores” how can something you love be a chore? And wondered what efforts Dick might enjoy company with in your all garden’s. Always thinking of you both and looking forward to the game of watching Finn walk around and read books.
smr and jmr
posted by Shaye and John on April 3, 2006 at 10:41 am
heather,
love, positive energy and smiles coming your way!! i think about your family very often; i know that everyone’s thoughts and prayers will help you through this struggle, and i’m pulling along with all of them for you. stay happy, positive and well–i know that you will.
much love,
Emily
posted by Emily Glinick on April 2, 2006 at 7:32 pm
Hi guys,
Just wanted to leave you both a quick note to say I was so happy to read your posts that your kidneys are doing well and treatment can proceed! Amazing what all of these prayers, thoughts, and energy directed towards you has accomplished isn’t it? This whole experiance has really been amazing to me, to watch people you don’t even know come here and leave messages of hope and prayer….it’s truely amazing and very inspiring.
Hope to hear more good news from you soon. As always we’ll be thinking and praying for you!
Love,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on April 1, 2006 at 6:09 pm
Dear Heather and Dick…great news regarding the return of kidney function. Needless to say, we are with you all the way, around all the bends in the road, until you are well and healthy again. We continue to pray for all that is good by keeping you in our thoughts 24/7. Our love to you both and to all the Perrys and Weafers.
posted by Carroll & Deanie DuBose on April 1, 2006 at 7:57 am
Heather and Dick,
What great news that the kidney test results came back showing the results of the love and energy that has been focused on you! I hope this next treatment goes more smoothly and will continue to meditate on you each day. I believe in its power and your resolve to carry you through this to better days.
I love you.
Heather
posted by Heather on March 31, 2006 at 4:20 pm
By the way, has anybody told you lately that you are beautiful? Because you are. You are simply radiant. (Okay, perhaps a poor word choice, but it’s the one that comes to mind.)
Anyway, back to my point. It is because of your radiance that we can radiate back our love. It’s kind of like a mirror with the sun…you can start a fire with the power of it. And you are the sun. The beautiful light, full of warmth, bubbling over with feeling.
You are truly beautiful. Keep on shining, and we’ll keep on sending it back to you.
(Is this all too corny? If so, my apologies. I’m a little tired but just had to say it anyway…)
posted by Diane Kew on March 31, 2006 at 2:25 pm
I have hesitated to leave a message for you as most of ther others seem to know you personally and I only know of you through Sheri Nadell and this website–but I wanted you to know that prayers and healing thoughts are sent you every morning from Westport Island as the sun rises over the Sheepscot. What an incredible support system you have! As tough as this all is, I am so glad that your doctors have chosen to be aggressive with your treatment and that you have the strength of will to hang in there. You’re going to make it!
posted by Anne Harris on March 31, 2006 at 1:49 pm
Howdy,
Every day I am inspired by my kids, they are sacred, but rarely am I inspired by the actions of other people. I have been going through this ordeal with you as part of your family, but in a peripheral sense. I have not been involved in speaking with you every week or interacting with you on a daily basis. I feel though, like I have been with you in spirit. Today I feel inspired, thank you. Perhaps love and support truly can make a difference. Maybe taking care of each other isn’t just a form of expression. Perhaps directing focus in an appropriate fashion CAN make a difference. You have people that truly care for and support you and it has proven to help you through this process, or at least has helped to “round the most recent bend.”
Dick, I think about you daily. You are one of the strongest people I know. Keep up the fight on your end, and we will continue to do our part.
I love you very much.
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on March 31, 2006 at 9:36 am
so happy to hear that round two is beginning. heather i am so pround of you and i can’t wait to see you and give you a big hug. i think about you at specific times, the same time everyday and before i fall asleep i think about you again.
ever since i was little i spoke to my grandma mary. (the spirit that came to jim and i the first time we called upon the spirits at moosehead.) she has been there for me through 10 car accidents (seriously maybe more than 10), bad times in college when i would get stupid drunk, and countless other times in my life that could have ended badly for me. i made so many bad choices for myself and she was always there to make sure i survived. she never gave up on me like most humans would do because they would be so fusterated with a person doing the same old crappy things to themselves. i learned. i learned what my demons are and what makes me tick. i owe her. however she has never asked for anything in return she keeps on giving to me. when jim’s grandpa hart was on his way out of this human existance his whole family was there in the hospital room. everyone was speechless with tears streaming down thier eyes. i spoke fast to my grandma mary please help him, let him know it is ok to go, help him not to be scared and i swear i had an out of body experience where i could see and hear exactly what was happening with grandpa hart’s transition. it was profound. and i have to say that i loved having my babies and it was “living proof” and profound but what i experienced in that hospital room with the harts was more profound.
i just want to let you know that i have been praying to my grandma mary and asking her to help you heal. that is how i know how to pray. love you heather and dick.
mary ann
posted by mary ann on March 30, 2006 at 10:31 pm
Dad beat me to it! I just spoke with Heather who, as we speak, is being pumped full of sodium bicarbonate fluid to super hydrate her and change her body chemistry from acidic to basic. Her kidneys are well within the normal range now, and the docs will proceed with the next round of methotrexate as soon as the bicarb does its job. Great work everyone! Even the IV’s went in smoothly. We are hopeful for an uneventful hospital stay Finn and I are on our own tonight, but will head to Boston for the weekend to cheer our chemo girl on.
Thanks to everyone, once again, for helping us to carry on. Of late, the chemo has been getting to her. Her face is puffy, her mouth is full of sores. She falls asleep in mid sentence and mumbles jibberish upon waking, or can’t remember what she was going to say. She finds it hard to write and snap up Finny’s buttons because her fingertips are numb. She wouldn’t want me to tell you all of the bathroom stories so I won’t. Her joints are stiff and even her skin smells different. This week was different though. Heather was more HEATHER again. She had more energy and fewer aches and sores. And…her kidneys got better! I learn and change and evolve everyday in the whole thing. Before this all started I used to think about what it would be like if something terrible and tragic happened to me or my family. I never imagined it could be like this. Reality is that when the worst strikes it is not all hard and bad. It can be about love, about faith, and about knowing that all things are possible. None of us ever has to be alone. With tears in my eyes and love in my soul, I thank you for healing us this week. We have rounded another bend in the road.
posted by Dick on March 30, 2006 at 9:44 pm
GOOD NEWS
We just got news of Heather’s bloodwork at Beth Israel. In five days she has regained 2/3 of her lost kidney function. The doctors were surprised and pleased and credited Heather for drinking so much water even though last weekend they said drinking water would probably do no good. We have great faith in Heather’s doctors, and we owe them everything. They are among the best in the world at what they do, but we have an alternate explanation for Heather’s “kidney mini- miracle”. Those of us who have spent the last four nights in Quantum Touch sessions with her, those of you who have prayed and visualized and sent your energy to Heather believe in a less material explanation. We have faith in something we can’t quite name or understand. We struggle on in what some Christian mystics have called the ” cloud of unknowing”. Preliminary tests had not been encouraging, and last night Dick and I were close to throwing in the towel. But we decided on one more session and our particullar intenton was to call to us all the prayer and energy you all have been sending our way. We were very tired last night. Both Dick and Heather fell asleep during part of the session. But we all felt great peace by the end. It was enough, and we promised not to get lost in outcomes but to stay present in the peace of that moment. I think it was important that we didn’t give up. We were feeling very unsure, maybe even a little foolish, but faith like love is more often an action than a feeling. Most of Heather’s improvement was made in the last twenty-four hours. When Cathy met me the door when I got home from school she said with a big smile and tears in her eyes, “.8″! At first, I had no idea what she was talking about. Heather’s kidney creatin levels had risen from .6 to 1.2 last weekend and had dropped to .8 overnight. The “crystal meth” dam had broken. Tonight, at least, all is right in our little part of the world.
posted by Dad Weaf on March 30, 2006 at 7:28 pm
Dearest Widge
It has been 4 months since your nightmarish journey started - just 4 months? It seems so much longer. Those closest to you have watched with aching hearts as you withstood unimaginable pain and fear. But like a cork bobbing to the surface each time you got less than positive news you rallied like the unsinkable Molly Brown finding the good and waving it like a banner. Each morning you start the day determined to be as happy as possible and to enjoy the day with “the Finn Bug” and “Honzo”, to love and be loved. And there is the lesson that we all are learning. Don’t waste time with the negatives. See each person only from their positives. Love and be loved.
Last weekend I was honored to be part of one of your group meditations. I had no idea what to expect. You lay in your hospital bed with Dick, Dad Weaf, Daddo holding Finn, and me seated around you, touching you. We all concetrated on sending you our positive energy. Suddenly I felt a tingling in my right foot. It shot up my back and gave me a chill. Tears filled my eyes. I can’t say I know what happened, only that I feel I was part of something special. But that’s what being part of your life is - something special.
Love ya BEAUCOUP
MA
posted by mama on March 30, 2006 at 6:38 am
It was great to talk to you the other day Heather. Di says Finn is beautiful. I can’t wait to see him.
We think about you a lot here and are send you and your kidneys positive energy regularly. I hope things go well and you’re on your way home soon.
Good luck and love,
Dave
posted by David Kew on March 29, 2006 at 8:56 pm
Just wanted to let you know that although we haven’t posted until now, our family checks this website often to monitor your progress. It is SO special and we feel honored to have the opportunity to peek into the lives of such wonderful people. We hope someone saves all of the entries for Finn to read one day. He’s one lucky guy to have such fantastic parents, family and friends surrounding him.
You have been in our thoughts and will continue to be, especially this week.
Sending love, positive thoughts and prayers,
Amanda, Thorn, Alexis and Cassie Dickinson
posted by The Dickinson Family on March 29, 2006 at 7:30 pm
Hey Heath!
Just sitting here thinking of you and your strong little kidneys and sending you all sorts of love and light. Hugs to Mr. Finny!!
Mer
posted by maria on March 29, 2006 at 6:55 pm
Hi Heather, Dick, and Finn,
We think of you every day and send all of the good thoughts and energy we can. We know you are going through a rough patch and wish, really wish, we could share your burden.
We look forward to an update, whether it be rosy or a little glum. We just need to know that you three are hanging in there.
Wouldn’t it be nice if life were like a VCR and we could fast forward through the bad parts.
Sara and Jerry
posted by Sara Buchheim on March 29, 2006 at 5:32 pm
You are in my prayers EVERY Day. Hope you can feel the love and healing thoughts I’m sending from Savannah.
As you receive the chemo think of it as all of the love from your many friends (Some you don’t even know) flooding your body to wash the cancer out.
You are a brave soul and inspiration.
Love to you, Dick and Baby Finn.
Linda
posted by Linda Wolfe on March 28, 2006 at 11:47 pm
Coincidence? or …
A good friend from work was walking around all hunched over yesterday. When I asked him what was wrong, he told me he had a kidney stone. I told him about your situation, Heather.
Well, this morning he called in to say that he wasn’t going to be at work because he had passed the stone that night and was going to rest up. His theory is that there’s so much kidney-clearing juju in the air that there was enough left over to dislodge his stone!
So, let’s all keep it up — it seems to be working!
Joanne
posted by Joanne on March 28, 2006 at 4:20 pm
Dick, Heather, & Finn,
I may not be allowed to do this but when I’m in my Bikram yoga class there is typically about 30 others there as well…and I ask the powers that be to take ALL of the healthy energy that has built up in the class and send it to you! I swear I feel an incredible feeling of warmth swirling around me and then out and up and onward to you! I see it heading your way, all that wonderful healing energy! As Lou said, God knows what you need already…and it’s nice to know we can work with Him to heal you! Yeah!
Love, Beth
posted by Beth on March 28, 2006 at 2:29 pm
As many others that has shared their thoughts, heart and prayers, I too have faith that you will overcome this venture. I just wanted to say (it seems to me) that you have made such an impact on so many lives. All the love, energy, strength, goodness etc. that everyone has extended to you, you have bounced it trifold right back to us in your words and example. I also wanted to share the following site which you may find as meaningful as I have: http://www.theinterviewwithgod.com/ . Prayers to the improvement of your kidneys and a healing week, month, etc.
Patty Cooley
(Aunt Robin’s friend)
posted by Patty Cooley on March 28, 2006 at 5:43 am
So, Dick and Heather, I’ve been sitting here trying to send my words to you for about 20 minutes now. I’ve had plenty of thoughts, but just no words. I guess maybe that’s because the thoughts are more important than the words. I finally gave up searching for words, closed my eyes, and sent my prayer to my God in heaven. He didn’t need words. He simply understood. He knew what I wanted to ask even before I did. And so I just prayed quietly for you, and asked for the burden to lighten, and the kidneys to work, and the body to heal. And while I prayed and thought about you, I felt some of the weight lifted off of my own heart, and I hope that you felt it too.
Thank you, Dad Weafer, for your call to prayer.
Lou
posted by Lou Sullivan on March 27, 2006 at 10:47 pm
Dear Heather
I am a friend of the Jenkins and when they told me about you and gave me the website address, I have been following your progress and all of your ups and downs. I am amazed at your strength and determination. I had cancer a number of years ago and had surgery and 6 months of chemotherapy so I know only a little about how some of this makes you feel physically and emotionally but you are truly unbelievable! You have endured so much and you have such a loving family and circle of friends that I have no doubt that with their prayers and support you will pull through this…..and I know that the birth of your son has given you a whole new strength to keep pushing yourself forward each day………
My prayers, love and positive thoughts are being sent your way!
Jean Gardiner
posted by Jean Gardiner on March 27, 2006 at 4:08 pm
Heather,
I haven’t written to you on this site for awhile, but want you to know that you are in our thoughts constantly. I’ll be saying my prayers for you as always, adding extra ones along the way this week. Your “Moosehead family” is pulling for you, thinking healing thoughts.
Love, Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on March 27, 2006 at 12:50 pm
Heather,
A quick note tell you that you are in our thoughts and prayers each day. We haven’t stopped praying for you from the get go. We are constantley asking and getting answers about were you are physically each week. I check this site, like most, every day. Sometimes its hard to know what to say, when so much has been said already. Please know that we will pray for you, and will be thinking of you and loving you on Thursday..
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on March 27, 2006 at 11:50 am
My new mantra…methatrexate:
me,
that
re[la]x[s]
a[nd]
t[hinks]
e[xcrete the metheltrexate]
[repeat]
posted by Diane Kew on March 27, 2006 at 11:32 am
I’m on the praying roster for your kidneys, Heather.
XO
Morgan
posted by Morgan Shepard on March 27, 2006 at 11:17 am
Heath, I will be visualizing, sending clean liver thoughts and energy to you all week, friend. Be well and clean of metheltrexate.
Much love,
Heath
posted by Heather on March 27, 2006 at 10:34 am
HII ALL,WHAT A PAST FEW WEEKS YOU HAVE HAD.THINK OF YOU EVERY MINUTE OF EVERY DAY.SO WHEN ARE YOU AND FINN MEETING ME FOR BAGLES AND COFFEE? FINNSTER WILL HAVE TONS OF FUN GUMMING HIS BAGLE. LOVE AND MY SQUAREHEAD PRAYERS FOR YOU.
posted by unc. on March 27, 2006 at 10:05 am
I am praying and visualizing. Strength and love to you and your family!
posted by Alison Lowe on March 27, 2006 at 8:22 am
Thanks for the update Uncle Don. Heather, as always Greg and I will be praying for you this week. Our thoughts are with you and with all of these people loving you and praying for you I can’t imagine you won’t make it through this week successfully! I still check this site every day - though I don’t leave a note every day anymore, but I’m here. We’re always thinking of you.
Love
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on March 27, 2006 at 8:10 am
Thanks to Dad Weaf for the call to prayer, visualization, and healing sessions. From so many miles away, it’s easy to believe that I can’t do anything, but his note reminds me that we all have a role. Every night I say a prayer for you, Heather. I’ve even tried the visualization thang, and I swear I felt a connection! Good luck this week. I’ll send all of the kidney-clearing vibes I can!
Love, Joanne
posted by Joanne on March 27, 2006 at 7:54 am
Dear Heather,
Sending you, Dick , Finn and your kidneys lots of white light and prayers.
Jean
posted by Jean W. on March 27, 2006 at 7:39 am
Heather, I am totally zoning in on your kidneys right now and thinking about how much pee they need to filter out. God bless the kidneys of Heather, this is really really scary, but I hope that they become better. I’m totally joining in on the Thursday pray session from my own home, but I’ll also say that every time I go to the bathroom I’ll pray for your kidneys to work better than mine.
P.S.–To give you a happy thought to think about, I box officed at the Theater Project this past weekend, and I couldn’t help but think while I was all alone in my little box about you and all your incredible performances you’ve had there. Those were some incredibly lucky moments in my life to see someone so talented perform on stage. That said, your kidneys need to pull off a great performance, and I have faith in them just like I have faith in you!
Finny, you are so cool, and I have never even met you! Dick, all I can say is you are amazing, and Heather’s image of you sleeping like a hot dog on the cot just proves your dedication and loyalty (”through sickness and in health”) to the love of your life!
Love, Hannah
posted by Hannah Weddle on March 26, 2006 at 10:00 pm
Our thoughts and prayers continue to be with Heather, Dick, and Finn — even more so in this important and difficult week.
Love, healing and hope from Heather Lane.
Tim, Vanessa and William
posted by Tim Record on March 26, 2006 at 9:24 pm
HELP!
From the beginning of Heather’s ordeal, even before we knew it was cancer, we have been touching her and holding her to bring her relief. We have had a lot of success with pain management by helping her release her fear and anger which in turn has greatly reduced her pain. During these sessions, especially when we turned our attention to healing instead of managing her pain, we began to notice certain phenomena, buzzing in our hands, flashes of heat, an inability to feel where our hands ended and Heather began. Wendy found a book on Quantum healing that seemed to best explain what we were experiencing and some of us have embraced the concept. The world of alternative medicine is filled with charlatans and quackery. It is hard to discern what is wishful thinking born of desperation and what is real. We know we are helping Heather. We can renew her energy. We can help her release her fear and keep her from repressing her anger. We can help her to feel better and help her dig out of dispair. If that is all we are doing, it is enough. We will probably never know if we are helping her to heal physically, though some of us think we may be. I bring this up now because we have begun an important and possibly dangerous week.
The methatrexate from the last chemo treatment has crytallized in Heather’s kidneys blocking about half of the two million tubules that filter her blood. This is not an uncommon side effect of methatrexate which is also used to treat serious cases of arthritis. The usual treatment is to suspend its use until the kidneys clear. That usually happens in three weeks.. We do not have three weeks. The decision was made by the doctors and the family to postpone the next dose of methatrxate from this weekend until next Thursday. That will give us a mere five days for Heather’s kidneys to repair themselves. Very little is known about what might happen to kidneys clogged with “crsytal meth” when they are bathed in more. The risks are two fold. There is a chance, albeit small, that Heather may lose use of her kidneys. Decision 1: a kidney transplant is better than dying of cancer. Secondly, kidneys operating at half strength wouldn’t even be noticed by a healthy person. Many people live with only one. But next weekend Heather’s kidneys will be asked to filter methatrexate out of her body. Half strength kidneys will increase the risk of whole body toxicity.
So we need Heather’s kidneys to unplug quickly. She has begun to drink gallons of water which we have been told probably won’t help but can’t hurt. We have also begun daily Quantum healing sessions centered on her kidneys. I don’t think we need a miracle, but increased kidney function before Thursday is very important.
So… those of you who pray, we need your prayers. Those of you who visualize, we need your visualizations. Those of you who have held healing sessions for Heather, we need one now. We need you now more than ever. Howard Benson of Harvard has shown that prayer works. People who are prayed for recover at statisically significantly higher rates even when they don’t know they are being prayed for. Interest in this site has naturally waned as weeks have turned into months. I only check in a couple of times a week now. I’m afraid many people won’t see this message before Thursday so if you know of people who might want to take part in this week of prayer let them know. We can use all the help we can get.
Dad Weaf
posted by Dad Weaf on March 26, 2006 at 8:01 pm
Just a quick note to say that I’m thinking of you guys every day and sending you my very best wishes.
Lots of love,
Gavin
posted by gavin on March 25, 2006 at 6:33 pm
Heather, I was so glad I had a chance to visit you last week.
For those of you who would like to visualize Heather’s home setting, picture this:
Although it was a cloudy day, Heather was sitting bathed in the warm glow given off by the yellow-colored walls in her livingroom, drinking coffee, picking at a bagel and chatting away on the phone. (If anyone has any doubts, yes, this woman is an extrovert. As in EXTROVERT. ) The baby monitor was cranked up to high so you could hear little Finn’s every move, and when an airplane flew overhead you could hear it in stereo. Ah, youthful motherhood. If only that was all Heather had to focus on! But I digress…
Because she is so lively, she was clearly the main attraction in the room, but when she stepped out to get Finn all I kept looking at was the wonderous purple velvet couch. It is just awesome. Colorful pillows are comfortably placed about its great expanse, and the swoop of the couch back just makes you feel like lounging there. Throughout the room were beautiful, artisitc touches from the curtains Heather made, to the framed rocks she had collected from Moosehead Lake, to the amazing leather coffee table that she and Dick created together (with some assistance from Dad Weaf).
This is truly a home, sweet home full of its inhabitants’ inner and outer beauty.
Anyway, I had a great visit — sorry I stayed so long, though! Three hours just flys by when you’re playing catch-up — and David and I are on Mini Body Buddy and Guitar Body Buddy duty this weekend. In fact, I hope we can deliver them Saturday, but definitely Monday at the latest.
But I do have something motherly to say Heather: Everyone is right — you’re so busy making all of us feel good, that we don’t get a chance to make you feel good! So let us do some of the work, okay?! It’s really okay. I know it’s not your nature, and it’s easy for me to say because I’m not in your shoes, but please let us take some of the weight of this process. Just relinquish it. Send it out to the universe. Cast it out of your body and mind and let us take it up, so you can be filled with the love and the light. Because the dark and the scary stuff doesn’t deserve to fill your space.
Sending you love, Chiquita. Di
posted by Diane Kew on March 24, 2006 at 1:10 pm
Heather,
Just sitting here late on Thursday night and hoping that this weekend is easier for you than last week was.
Got to hold your little guy last weekend along with Bo and Ella. He is absolutely gorgeous - that round little face - what a sweetheart. I actually got the beginning of a smile!
Okay, I think I should head up to bed, but want you to know I’m hoping (just like everyone else who is routing for you) that this weekend maybe will be a better one.
My love to darlin’ Dick.
Love
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on March 23, 2006 at 11:35 pm
Heather,
Cool blue skies, a gentle cool breeze, cold clear green/blue water, spring in Maine.
Hope these help to reduce that fever! I just opened my Tilbury House catalog and saw some of your terrific photos from your book (publishing in July). It may be pretty far from your thoughts right now but it looks great - one more lovely thing you have created. I will pop an extra catalog in the mail in case you haven’t seen. Thinking of you - sending you cool, clear, loving thoughts!
xoxox
Tootie
posted by Tootie Van Reenen on March 23, 2006 at 1:42 pm
Hi Heath,
It’s been awhile since I’ve left a message . . . Just a quick note to let you know I’m thinking about you, Dick, and Finn. I hope you know we all need you to beat this ugly disease. I have faith that you will. I hope to see you guys soon - I can’t wait to meet little Finn.
Please know that I’m praying for you everyday. All of you. You are in my thoughts all the time. Hopefully when you are back home again we can finally get in touch instead of playing phone tag. I’ll need to get your cell phone # from you.
Stay positive and keep thinking about Finn through this journey.
Lots of Love, Thoughts, and Prayers,
Kristen
posted by Kristen and Mark on March 23, 2006 at 11:32 am
Heather, Dick, & Finn (whom we have yet to meet),
My wife, son, and I extend our warmest thoughts from Chicago. Keep smiling and we’ll keep you in our prayers.
Love & Peace,
David, Terry, & Will Gatchell
posted by David, Terry, & Will Gatchell on March 23, 2006 at 12:04 am
Howdy,
You ain’t dowdy,
Just not quite as rowdy
As you used to be
Feelin’ lousy
Is allowed, see
your husband’s proud to be
Your sweet-tea
I wonder,
If I heard that thunder
that you’re livin under
how I would be.
There’s no guessin’
or sayin’ don’t be stressin’
I don’t know the lesson
that makes you free
So keep lovin’
and givin’ Finn that huggin’
and don’t put your head in the oven
cause there cookies in there to eat…
hmmmm. post or not to post…
too late…
posted by Shaye and John on March 22, 2006 at 5:31 pm
I have not posted in some time, but I was reading the “Adventures of BI” and thought I would drop a note. Heather, you are very, very brave, much more than I could ever be. Hang in there, you can do it. And about the bald thing, I like you bald! It allows the light you radiate to bounce off and explode into many new directions.
Love JP
posted by JP Gagnon on March 22, 2006 at 7:56 am
Hey Heather, I know that i am only the girl at the cafe that would serve you dbl cremes, but i think of you everyday still and am always wishing this damn thing would just go away so finn and you can come in more often. We have to get a picture of him to go up on the “cafe kids” picture thing. Wishing you peace, recovery, and lots of LOVE!
posted by Ashley on March 21, 2006 at 9:35 pm
Hey Heather,
Sending you fever-be-gone+cancer-be-gone-light
and home-to- Finn-again-wishes.
You are so brave. I am in awe of you.
Cindi Brogan
posted by Cindi on March 21, 2006 at 8:47 pm
HEATHER, DICK, AND FINN, I DON’T KNOW YOU ALL, BUT I GREW UP ACROSS FROM THE DUBOSES IN COLUMBIA AND AM NOW AT ALL SAINTS WITH GINNY AND BILLY. THEY ARE DEAR FRIENDS AND WHEN THEY ASKED ME TO PRAY FOR YOU, I HAVE DONE SO EVER SINCE.
I PRAY FOR GOD’S COMPLETE HEALING; I THANK HIM FOR FINN’S LITTLE LIFE; AND I ASK THAT HE HAVE A MOMMY AND A DADDY TO RAISE HIM FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE - OR AT LEAST UNTIL HE HAS GIVEN YOU GRANDBABIES!!
I WILL CONTINUE TO PRAY UNTIL ALL IS WELL.
posted by skip feild on March 21, 2006 at 4:45 pm
Dearest Heather,
I hope the fever is gone and you can go home. I keep you daily in the circle of healing and will envision, pain free leg, no fever, joy, energy, love, love and morelove, and lots of healing.
I miss your dad and didn’t get a chance to say goodbye.
I will do Reiki andytime you want.
You are blessed with such a loving family and circle of friends.
Thinking of you often
Bonnie
posted by Bonnie Ginger on March 21, 2006 at 3:10 pm
Heath,
I hope your fever is gone and you’re able to head back to Dick and Finn and your happy home in Bath. Your strength and unrelenting smile, your ability to face this with courage and bring us all with you in such an inspiration. I’m sending good thoughts, low temperatures, and much love to you and Dick and Finny McFinn.
Love,
the other Heath
posted by Heather on March 21, 2006 at 11:46 am
Hi Heather,
I’m sorry to hear about your hospital stay and fever. I will think low fever thoughts for you. God Bless you and your family.
Denise Williams
Coastal Journal
posted by Denise Williams on March 21, 2006 at 9:37 am
Hey Heath,
So so so great to see you on Saturday and to meet Dick and the Mighty Finn! I am sending strong fever-be-gone energy! We Love you!
Maria
posted by maria on March 20, 2006 at 9:18 pm
Hi, Heather. I’m amazed that you can find the energy to keep us all updated, even from your hospital room! Things sound very promising, other than the fever. So, probably for the first time in my life, I mean it literally: chill out!
Joanne
posted by Joanne on March 20, 2006 at 2:46 pm
I just wanted to remind you today, how beautiful you are. We love you!
posted by Tam on March 20, 2006 at 12:35 pm
Heather,
Stupid but zen game to play on the internet - it’s called Falling Sand - you can google it. It’s four streams of different colored-sand with alternatives at the bottom - you can draw lines, fill in plants, etc. It’s comforting. Like an interactive etch-a-sketch. In the meantime, you rock.
Best,
Morgan
posted by Morgan Shepard on March 20, 2006 at 9:40 am
Dear Heather and Dick…I haven’t written in awhile but you know you are constantly in our hearts and prayers. Your writings are so beautiful and poignant they leave me speechless. What can I say??? I keep hoping I will sit down to write and something inspired and inspiring will magically appear. But no such luck. But as I learned with Sally, when you don’t know what to say…just say something. So…we love you, we hurt with you, we pray that these treatments will be successful and that you will return, whole and healthy, to your wonderful life with Dick and Finn. Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers…Carroll and Deanie
posted by Carroll & Deanie DuBose on March 20, 2006 at 9:16 am
Dear Heather,
It was so wonderful to see you and your beautfiul baby at the cafe last week. You look just as beautiful as i remembered you smiling in the cafe a year ago… even, i would say, with a little extra brilliance with your pride of your perfect little finn all snuggled in blue. It made my day to see the two of you, even just meeting you… thank you.
As everyone else has, i’ve been thinking about you and your family, and wanted to let you know that my friend who is studying yoga in Thailand has had his teacher prepare a blessing for you this week… he says they’re pretty powerful folks, and so i offered him your website so they could learn a bit about your situation and experiences. Best to you and your family.
Julia
posted by Julia on March 20, 2006 at 8:57 am
Hi Heath,
I know its been awhile since I have been on, but my thoughts and prayers never leave you. Finn is beautiful as are you. I have called acouple of times and I keep in touch with your mom and dad. I can’t wait to see you Dick and the little one. Hopefully in June. You are so strong and handling this illness with such grace, I am so prpud of you. You hang in there and know My love is always with you and your family.
Love Aunt Jacki & Uncle Lee
posted by aunt jacki on March 20, 2006 at 8:20 am
Heather, just read your last entry. You are such an inspiration. Vulnerable and strong at once. Thank you for being so human and for allowing others to see this in you. Amazing. Truly awesome.
Love
posted by Liz Chambers on March 18, 2006 at 4:50 pm
Hi Heath,
Thanks for my birthday greeting! It was quite funny, I heard an entire conversation that you were not intending to have on my answering machine. Actually at first I thought that it was one of your birthday antics lol! I am sorry that you are not fond of my message, we change it every few weeks, maybe a bit sooner this time for you ! Your honesty is a source of encouragement for anyone who reads your and Dick’s entries. The fear and hope and everything else that you write about is admirable. Most would bottle it up and protect their feelings. I admire you for that. If there is a lesson here, it is to learn from your grace in dealing with this horrific disease. Dick your quiet stregth and fear that you are experiencing is also apparent. You know that my thoughts are consistently with you all. I love you and I look forward to seeing you soon. Finn is such a cutie and he will grow up being proud that you are his parents!
Lots of Love,
Heidi
posted by Heidi & Pete on March 18, 2006 at 1:47 pm
Hi kids,
Haven’t been on here in awhile and I guess my daughter and I are having you in our thoughts and hearts at the same time as I see her entry here - right when I am here too.
I’m thinking just what she is - you are amazing young people. I’m thinking of you. And, to be honest, after reading your last entry, I cried with you.
I hope today went better than yesterday. You continue to be challenged to endure more and more and you continue to rise and conquer. You are really something.
Love you all,
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on March 17, 2006 at 4:35 pm
Thank you Wendy. I’ve been thinking about her all day today and wondering how things are going.
Heather & Dick, you guys are always in my thoughts and will be through this weekend. I am so moved every time I visit this site, and so happy that you are surrounded by such wonderful people. You continue to inspire us all.
Love
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on March 17, 2006 at 4:18 pm
I picked up Heather yesterday morning to take her to Boston. We had a fun trip down trying to keep things light. I knew she was really scared of this new unknown. She was on the phone alot, talking to friends, each one sending tears of love and hope and I realized Heather was the one comforting them. Saying things like, “It’s okay, go outside and just smile it’s a beautiful day.” I thought, she’s incredible. Always making other people feel good.
Then we got to Beth Isreal. The blackness set in, the darkness, the fear. Again, we tried to laugh our way through it but it’s so hard when the chemo floor is so bleak and the smell is so strong. My beautiful friend should not be here, I thought! Just grab her, through her over your shoulder and take her somewhere beautiful. Italy, I thought, we can sip red wine in a cafe in Tuscany. But we stayed. Only to face more demons. A nurse came into her room to insert the tube in her arm. A foot long tube from her elbow to her chest. I will spare you the details because like everything else Heather has endured, once again this procedure did not go as planned and the nurse said, “This is only the third time this has happened to me.” Needless to say, what happened was something that should never happen to a human being. Watching her suffer and holding her hand I almost passed out myself. She was in so much pain, I thought, maybe if I fall to the floor it will distract Heather from her own pain for two minutes. And in typical Heather fashion she was trying to make the nurse feel better for hurting her. At least two hours passed before everything was inserted, doctors had left and she was able to relax. She looked at me and said, “That sucked.” The rest of the afternoon was spent answering questions from the thousand of doctors and nurses and fellows and interns just to wrap the day up with a high dose of chemotherapy.
I am writing this to give you a glimpse of what Heather is going through. And yet she inspires us all on a daily basis
My beautiful friend taught me so much before this cancer, is still teaching me so much through this cancer and I know in my heart will be teaching me after this cancer is gone. I love you Heather.
Wendy
posted by Wendy on March 17, 2006 at 3:28 pm
Happy St. Patrick’s Day, Weafers - or St. Finn’s Day. I am glad that you are holding each other, eating popsicles, and opening up the steam vent to let some of that stuff out. I’m happy you’re making the love connection related to both the good and the bad. We do not know how this bastard cancer feels on the deepest level, for the most part, unless we’ve been down the same road. But we can celebrate your courage and your honesty, and we can be here for you (and pray into tree ears), and learn something from both of you about how life should be lived, and what it is that is TRULY important. So, slainte to all of you, my dears. I will raise a pint to you today. Maybe two.
Morgan
posted by Morgan Shepard on March 17, 2006 at 12:43 pm
Hi Favorite Trio,
I know you’re in Boston, Heather…but it’s been too long since I’ve written, so……
Lee and I sat together last night to watch our kids open Bye, Bye, Birdie; I wish we could transport even a part of the laughter that filled Crooker Theater right to you - commissioned directly to your space to add sunlight - dimishing those shadows, and banishing the pain. Each time I read your entries I don’t think they could get any more profound, any more honest. And then you bare your heart and soul to us all over again - such an unbelievable gift you give us. Unbelievable and incredible. And so, every time I think of you, and pray for you, and talk to people about you - here is the word that is ever-present: miracle. Miraculous, that’s what you are, what Finn is, what Dick is. I think the word miracle is a bit like the word heaven: surreal and difficult to define But you now embody it for me. You are and will continue to be a veritable miracle. So please know that my through my tears of frustration, my prayers and laughter, and love are coming to you. Hope, Heather, there is ALWAYS hope. And miracles do happen. You are proof.
As always, a gentle hug and love to you,
Sheri from all the Nadells
posted by sheri Nadell on March 16, 2006 at 9:59 am
Heather,
Just a quick note as you head to Boston for the second stage of the Tour d’ Cure. Remember to be brave and be strong. You’re fighting for yourself and you’re fighting for our family. That’s a lot on one person’s shoulders, but you can do this. You’ve already proven you can. We love you and we’re thinking of you. See you this weekend.
Love,
Kimmie, Tiff and the twins
posted by Kim Weafer on March 16, 2006 at 9:21 am
Hello Dick, Heather, and Finn,
I just read your entry for March 12. It was beautiful and heartwrenching and wonderful. So often I feel like an outsider since I don’t often get to see Heather or Finn, but this morning, reading your words, I was there, too. I added my tears and my prayers to yours as I sat alone in a quiet house before babies and teenagers and pets and alarms chased away the solace. I am thinking of you all as Heather checks in to the hospital today. Peace and healing to you, Heather.
with love,
Lou
posted by Lou Sullivan on March 16, 2006 at 5:52 am
Hey Heather,
It was amazing to see you in the cafe the other day with your perfect baby finn. It just made me take a step back and realize everything i am greatful for. You are the strongest person i have ever met and reading your entrys hit me in a way nothing else has. Tonnie and i and the rest of the staff think about you constantly, especially when we all get together, tonnie will keep the rest of us up to date. Hope to see you and your family more and more at the coffee shop. Lots of love, Ashley
posted by Ashley on March 15, 2006 at 7:07 pm
Heather,
I just read your update and am overwhelmed by everything you are experiencing and your bravery and strength. My thoughts and prayers are with you every day.
Love to you all-
Tootie
Lee said that Finn is absolutely perfect! He is growing like a trooper! xoxox
posted by Tootie Van Reenen on March 15, 2006 at 5:03 pm
God damn Woman!
You got to me with that last one! You really are a Warrior / Poet! March 16th is my birthday and I will be with you in spirit all day. I think we have all reached a point where it is us who are gathering strength from you.
Skip
posted by Skip on March 15, 2006 at 1:34 pm
First of all, I’d like to say that it took my computer forever to download all the messages that people have left for you three. Honestly, the amount of thoughts on this board I know is only a slight fraction of how many times people in our community think and pray for all of you. I know your flame of life is still burning, and I can even feel it when I see these messages and think about you! Ah Heather, do you even know how amazing you are? Dick, do you know how amazing you are? And Finn is just amazing, and I wonder if he knows it. I can’t even say what I need to say. All of you are incredible…your whole family, and all your friends. It makes me jealous to know that you have such good friends in the world, but then I realize that you are my friends and I just know that I am blessed. Heather, best of luck with your next chemo round–you’ll have the luck of the Irish on your side (March 17th!) as well as the enormous amount of love, wishes and hope from the ones who care about you so much. Dick and Finn, continue to live the wonderful lives that you do with Heather. GOD BLESS YOU ALL, I know that all your strength you’ve shown so far is inspirational for everyone who ever experiences it.
With all the love and hope that I can give,
Hannah Weddle
posted by Hannah Weddle on March 15, 2006 at 1:32 pm
Heather , Dick and little Finn,
After reading your last entry Heather I know what my sister says is true, you are amazing. She asked me today to read what you wrote and how profound and deep it was. Tomorrow, here in Cape Cod, i am going to the beach no matter how cold it is, and i am going to meditate and imagine your body healing . i am going to send anything negative back out with the waves. The power of prayer and positivity is so strong we will never grasp it but i feel it will grasp you Heather. I wanted you to know that there are people everywhere praying and hoping for you, your wonderful husband and beautiful beautiful baby Finn.
Stay Amazing….Lisa Venneri
posted by lisa venneri on March 14, 2006 at 10:45 pm
Dear Ones,
Will tears short-circuit the keyboard? Let’s hope not. Your latest entry is so vivid that it seems cinematic and yet I know that it is completely real. How wonderful that you all have gotten to this point in your journey. Light is so much easier to recognize & appreciate and satisfying to live in when the shadows are acknowledged. That blend is always something that I prize in literature and in plays and performances and you’re embodying it . Thank you for persevering in this battle … it is nearly impossible hard work, I know.
I feel honored that my Bonnie gets to experience this with you. The respect, realism, communication and infinite love that you describe in your marriage will, and has already had, a lasting effect on all of us. The calm joy that I see when Rowan cares for her “little brother” has been a beautiful blossoming in an already special girl. Think of that happening in some way to all of us who think of you … who love you … who sit with silent healing fingers gently supporting you. It definitely goes both ways, you know.
The term “protecting my nervous system” was a good one, Heath. There is no question that Thursday will bring a new set of challenges and fears and be difficult but somehow it seems less frightening to think of it as a method of protection. You all have learned how to fight when it is necessary and how to give in when it is beneficial. I’m sure that your smart spirits will guide you through this time too.
John printed out the picture of Finn and his buddy for me and it sits in our living room on my Great Grandmother’s sewing cabinet where everyone who sees it smiles whether they know “The Story” or not. My baby opens tomorrow night in Bye, Bye, Birdie. Send animated soprano thoughts her way!
I’m with you every step … love. lee
posted by lee on March 14, 2006 at 10:59 am
Thank you, Heather, for that last entry. I read a thing the other day about how the problems in our culture stem from how superficial it all is - that in our striving to become smarter and faster and more global we have forgotten the call to go DEEPER. But you, my old friend, are positively free-diving right now. Bless you bless you and your wonderful family. Keep the Faith - and thank you again for sharing what you are going through. It’s a real honor to feel included in what you are achieving.
Gav
posted by Gavin Barbour on March 13, 2006 at 4:41 pm
I’ve said it before and I say it again: I’m in awe. I feel honored and blessed to be able to come out on your website and read your messages. You have such courage to bare your souls as you do, and I for one am glad that you do.
Every still quiet moment (at Bikram yoga, at home on a Sunday) I’m sending energetic, positive energy your way. And you two pay it forward in your notes/updates because I know everyone who reads the notes/updates is the better for them. We all get stronger and stronger as the circle keeps going round and round — we send you good vibes and you give them back so we’re able to send more good vibes, etc. And like all God’s creatures we grow with love so there’s no doubt Finn will thrive with you two, Rowan (what an amazing child) and all the friends and family he has around him. All my love to you all!
Beth
posted by Beth on March 13, 2006 at 1:53 pm
Heather and Dick,
I have been following all that is going on through this wonderful website. Heather, your writings are so honest and open, raw at times and filled with hope and joy at other times. You are really amazing. Thank you for sharing so much and making me weap and laugh all at the same time.
Finn is absolutely gorgeous, of course, look at his parents!
Just want you to know that there are meditations, love songs and light being sent from this corner of your world.
Much love to all of you
Mary
posted by Mary on March 13, 2006 at 9:53 am
Dear Heather, Dick and the little Finn…
May every ray light up your life with peace,good health and happiness.
You are in our thoughts and our prayers
Mohamed from Biougra(morocco)
posted by mohamed on March 12, 2006 at 7:52 am
hi from new canaan heather! finn is adorable, we love looking at the pictures of him. donna told her marine kids the sea urchin story…and watched the boys cringe. we miss your stories! you are the best part of marine, can’t wait til you’re back with us!!
clare and donna
posted by clare mclellan and donna kemp on March 8, 2006 at 2:17 pm
Hi Guys,
I’m starting to get my gear ready for elver season and naturally you keep popping up in my thoughts. I’ll miss you out there in the water, but you have a bigger project ahead of you. I ran into Keith Sherman yesterday and filled him in on your trials and tribulations. He wanted me to say hello, and that he too will join the ranks sending positive energy in your direction. You guys really have yourselves one hell of an army backing you up now! Laugh, cry, get mad, get scared, but know we are here for you.
Skip
posted by Skip on March 8, 2006 at 9:16 am
Hello again,
Good luck today with the Chemo treatment. I am so happy to hear that the tumor has left, hopefully for good!!! I plan to take time to try your suggestion of healing meditation (if I can keep the 3 little ones quiet for a while). Hang in there
Love Ant
posted by Anthony, Jenn, and Kids on March 7, 2006 at 11:57 am
Dear Heather, Dick and the little Finn…
days passed and in each one I can’t stop thinking of you all, but I feel cheerful with things.. every one from your friends and families are surrending and supporting you and holding you with thoughts as well…
keep writting and telling us you progress .. I guess you know how we feel delight about that…
we still send you our best wishes as well as our prayers..
Then keep holding on.. something good is coming from us few weeks later !!!!!…
Your friend rachid …
posted by Rachid the shutterman on March 7, 2006 at 7:11 am
Hello Dick and Heather,
I hadn’t “Posted” in a while and wanted you both to know that we continue to think of you daily. I have seen quite a few pics of Finn at this point, he is a great looking little guy. As Spring/Summer approach, we can’t help but think of spending time with you at the lake. I look forward to seeing both of you soon.
We love you very much,
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on March 6, 2006 at 1:19 pm
chere :
tu sais je ne sais pas comment je vous t’explique mes sentiment c’est tu tres longtemps que vous ma pas ecris et je connais ce sit d’apris mohamed selemment je suis tres content quiand j’ai vu tes photo et ton beau bebe finn le dieu le garde et ton mari aussi . mais quand mohamed ma dis que tu malade je vous jure je n’ai pas dormie cette nuit j’ete tres triste mais il faut que tu sais que la volonte d’allah (dieu) est tres tres grande de tout ne t’anquiette pas .
mais pourqoi s’arrive comme ca avec mes bonnes amies je domande a notre cher dieu d’etre acoute de toi incha allah
je ne veux pas s’arrive ca une autre fois comme l’anne dernire j’ai perdu mon bon ami ami omar acause de cette mauvise malade
allah soit acoute de toi inchallah et tu va girire.
Dear heather,
This week, i have an idea,and i’d like to share it with you.Let’s tray to pierce the secret of your name.
Heath
Energy
Admirable
Tolerant
Heath
Energy
Roses.
My best greetings to Dick and Finn.
You are in our thoughts , and our prayers.
God gives you peace and good health.
mohamed from biougra(morocco)
posted by mohamed on March 5, 2006 at 6:28 am
Dearest Heather, Dick and Finn,
I think of you everyday and send you positive vibes. I have no doubt that a shining star like Heather will come out of this trying time blazing. Dick, I teach too, and I am inspired by you. Heather, I wish I could do more for you than think of you, but I know this time will be a memory and I see you dipping Finn’s toes in the lake very soon and for a very long time. I wish I had been at that Winter Cabaret with all my heart, but I will continue to love you from afar. All my love, Alison
posted by Alison Lowe on March 2, 2006 at 9:00 pm
Any time I find myself with a quiet moment I’m sending you guys my best wishes. I’m just amazed, both of you, at how beautifully you are handling all of this. I know there must be darker moments we can’t see, but I also know that were I in your position, my website would just say “FUUUUCK!!!!!” all over a black, murky background. Not that I’m a huge fan of this H&R Block green… looks good on you, though.
Seriously, be well. Continue to be kind to and proud of yourselves. You deserve every last drop of this love tsunami. And THANK YOU both for your examples. All this positivce energy begins and ends with you.
Gavin
posted by Gavin on March 2, 2006 at 4:47 pm
Hi Dick, Heather, and Finn,
I just got caught up on your last 2 entries, and renewed my resolve to continue doing my wee part to support you. I’m happy to say that our own little Nathaniel arrived Wednesday, February 22, which expains why I needed some catching up. I’m sure I represent a number of others who frequent your site, read the touching and heartfelt thoughts and, often with a tear in my eye, send a prayer out to you hoping for continued good reports. Often there are no words that come, so I don’t write, but you are often in my thoughts. I try to begin each day with a time of prayer and meditation, and you are a consistent part of that prayer time. I appreciate the fact that you are thinking of me as well. Your latest entry was a wonderful invitation for those of us who have “almost” sent several messages recently. Thank you for keeping us all informed, and thank you for allowing us to be a part of your fight and your healing. It has been a privilege.
Lou
posted by Lou Sullivan on March 2, 2006 at 4:08 pm
Greetings to all of you! We wanted you to know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers and positive thoughts. At our annual Lily Bay meeting we did update everyone present on your latest and everyone is wishing you well and nothing but the best.
We all take comfort in the thoughts that you are young, strong and in excellent shape with the exception of this nasty disease (which you WILL beat). We also take comfort in the attitudes of your medical caretakers … hit it with all we’ve got. we don’t want this beast back. Amen. Keep your spirits up through the journey ahead and enjoy the special moments with Finn.
On a final note, I’ll share words of wisdom I’ve used with both of our boys when they’ve faced battles with fears, night “demons”, you-name-it — the words of wisdom are simple but they have worked so far “think happy thoughts”. Ben, now almost 11, usually thinks of Moosehead sunsets in kayaks or canoes - always with sunset “treats” which we enjoy while watching the sunset and the loons. Cameron usually thinks of playing on the “shore” and (of course) of a campfire with s’mores. You’ll each have to imagine your own “happy thoughts” but the power is there. They shouldn’t necessarily be connected to what you’re going through at the moment - just a “better place to be”. All the best places to be for each of you. Tina, Tom, Ben & Cameron
posted by Tina and Tom Villnave on March 1, 2006 at 8:13 pm
Hello Weafer Family,
Sign me up! I will continue to send positve, white light, warm and healthy energy, while taking in the personal benefits as well! None of us can get enough of this powerful energy of breath, love and support from each other!
Have lot’s of fun with Finn, each other and keep visualizing the good things. They will (continue to) happen!
I am pleased you have such aggressive, progressive doctors! They sound amazing. Faith all around!
Lynn
posted by Lynn D'Agostino on March 1, 2006 at 12:44 pm
I have just begun a Bikram Yoga class (in a 100+ room with lots of sweaty guys and gals!!). Throughout the class we focus on our breathing, and at the end we take a moment to say thank you…for any and all of our blessings. You can count on me to do the meditation and sending all the very best vibrations your way. And your are right, Dick, we could all benefit from doing so throughout our day. To go to that soft, still place is so rejuvenating!
Love to you all!
Beth
posted by Beth on March 1, 2006 at 11:44 am
Hey Guy’s,
I love the new pictures. Finn is such a cutie, and Heather you look great. I hope everything is well with you. I can’t wait untill May. I hope we can all still get together.
We all Love and Miss you.
Lots of Love from Virginia Beach,
your Couz …Ant
posted by Anthony, Jenn, and Kids on March 1, 2006 at 12:52 am
Count me in! - I am sending healing thoughts your way. I have shared your story with several friends and they are also sending positive healing thoughts your way.
With all the love and energy converging on you and your family - You will win this battle!
posted by Linda & May on February 27, 2006 at 10:52 pm
So it’s going to be a battle. My money’s on the Weafer team. I’m a firm believer in the power of the spirit, and I’m glad that you’re enlisting help. I envision warmth and energy flowing from all of your supporters around the country and the world and converging on Bath, Maine.
Love, Joanne
posted by Joanne on February 27, 2006 at 3:21 pm
Our dear freind Heather;
Congratulations, you have a charmed baby that we are sure he will be a famous artist. Also yo will admire and be pleased for his success.
We are very happy that your treatment is giving good results.
We know, you are strong, you can face this illness as you face waves when you want to shoot under water.!!
What does a newborn mean?
It means life,love,happiness,peace,and good health. So be sure that you will recover from this small problem, and we are waiting for you and for Finn and Dick here in Morocco in order to visit morroccan beautiful places, and also why not to taste recipes that handed down through generations.
Dear heather,
Make sure that you are in our thoughts and our prayer. Everyday we send you pure and healthy energy.
GOD GIVES YOU HEALTH ,PEACE AND LIFE.
HEATHER YOU ARE OUR PHOTOGRAPHY IDOL, DON’T FORGET IT!!
You freinds rachid and mohamed from Biougra in Morocco.
posted by mohamed and rachid on February 26, 2006 at 8:13 am
Dear Heather, Dick, and Finn,
We are sending some good ole southern healthy, healing energy up your way! You are in our thoughts and prayers daily. We are so thankful to have access to this website so that we can stay up to date and feel connected to you, despite the distance, during this time. When we read your postings the miles just melt away! Thank you Jen for all the work you put into the website.
With much love,
Susan, Jones, Sarah, Jones and Sam DuBose
posted by susan dubose on February 25, 2006 at 5:10 pm
To my dear labor patients Heather and Dick
I LOVE being able to check up on you, and although I’m just now leaving
you a note, I have been watching and praying for you from afar.
What a gorgeous baby Finn is! I can’t believe how much bigger he
has gotten in such a short time. You’re doing great!
What a gift that precious little Finn is.
You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
Though the mountains shake in the midst of the sea, and the waters
roar and foam, we will not fear.” Psalm 46
All God’s Blessings and my love to you and your precious family~
Amy DeMartino
posted by Amy DeMartino on February 24, 2006 at 10:21 pm
Heather, Dick and beautiful baby Finn
I have just read Dick’s update and I am glad that everyone is home and can enjoy the peace that comes from your own surroundings. Finn is already such an incredible young man to have entered the world under such circumstances. As for you Heather words do not begin to describe your ability to deal with what is the ultimate human trial….your spirit is indomitable and you have basically told this disease to go to hell as I trusted you would.
As for the agressive treatment, listen to the professional advice and trust your head and heart. Hit it hard now and you may never have to deal with it again and always always bear in mind that on the slightest chance that you do have to revisit this issue years from now technology changes and so will treatments so what do you have to lose by slamming this disease and knocking it out of your universe.
This has been an incredible personal journey for all of you, I know Heather well enough to know she will win this battle. As for Dick, you must be one incredible husband and father. Many positive thoughts in your direction.
Jen
posted by Jen Hayes on February 24, 2006 at 12:42 am
i hadn’t seen the pictures of finn without all the tubes, and my god he is gorgeous. if that face isn’t the best motivation for beating up those nasty cancer cells, i don’t know what could be. i’ll keep praying for you.
bonnie
posted by bonnie paige on February 23, 2006 at 10:10 pm
Dear Heather
It’s long lost Lia Morris from the Penobscot project. I wanted to send you tons of healing energy and good thoughts. What a wonderful gift you have in Finn- a beautiful boy! I will think calm and healing thoughts for you during my daily yoga pratice.
All the best
Lia
posted by Lia Morris on February 23, 2006 at 6:19 pm
Hey guys. Just wanted you to know that there are countless people out here who are sending you positive energy. We don’t always post messages to the site, but we are definitely here and rooting for you!
TB
posted by TRACY on February 23, 2006 at 4:24 pm
Here is something I do from time to time. I walk on Mackworth Island with my little dog. Out there is an old blasted trunk called “The Listening Tree’. A boll shaped exactly like an ear rests inside of what remains of the tree. I whisper prayers to whomever needs them at that time, right into that ear. Heather and Dick and Finn, you get a lot of those whispered prayers. Hang in there, guys. You know we are thinking of you.
Love, Morgan
posted by Morgan Shepard on February 23, 2006 at 3:03 pm
Hey Guys - Just read the latest update and wanted to let you know that the positive energy continues to emanate from South China. No tumor and in remission - how great is that?! When you think how far you’ve come and how much you’ve accomplished in a relatively short amount of time, it’s truly amazing. And in addition to the new ‘Egyptian look’ you’ve got a healthy baby boy to show for it Even tho the upcoming treatments appear daunting, you will persevere. I have no doubt. Whatsoever. The circle of love and healing that surrounds you is only gaining in strength. Remember that tears are not a sign of weakness, far from it. They can be tears of joy, tears of relief, and tears of released stress that soothe the soul. I loved your comments about Finn’s room of colors and the look of depth and wisdom you see in his eyes. Just imagine what HE sees looking into yours!!! Love, strength, humor, compassion, devotion….the list is endless. Take care.
posted by Jayne Winters on February 23, 2006 at 2:24 pm
Heather, send me you address, I’ll send you magic paper and smudgeproof ink to hand and foot print Finn. Lynne
posted by Lynne and Frank on February 23, 2006 at 12:08 am
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn,
I’ve been hovering too long and need to check in and say how very proud of you I am and honored to know you. I read your website pretty regularly and am in awe of your beautiful spirit. The pictures are wonderful. Little Finn is such a doll.
Reading your messages not only gives me a chance to reflect on the great mystery of life but it also loosens memories of the early days of my own two children and the absolute cocoon of love I felt nestled in. Thank you.
You certainly are loved.
posted by Jody King on February 22, 2006 at 10:13 pm
Ray Charles once said, “What is soul? It’s like electricity - we don’t really know what it is, but it’s a force that can light a room.” Heather and Dick, before all of this started I always thought that the two of you had an immense force or warmth between yourselves that you emitted to us all. And now, throughout this journey your light has intensified not only through your bravery, strength and positivity, but also with the addition of the third light in your family, Finn. The three of your souls combined are a force that can light more than just a room, you’ve lit the hearts, minds and lives of us all. You can do this.
I am always thinking of you and loving you.
Molly
posted by Molly Haley on February 22, 2006 at 2:38 pm
Hi Heather and Dick and Mighty Finn,
We just rolled in from seeing Les Miz in Boston - the very talented actress who played Eponine had a voice JUST like yours, so I felt like you were on stage performing for the huge audience. Instead you were hanging in there….every time I think of these treatments (especially the recent ones) my heart melts and I feel frustrated that we can’t rotate our bodies through them instead of you having to endure more. I so feel for Dick, and your family, as I’m sure the feeling is 100-fold for them. Really, I’d sign up in a heartbeat, sort of like organ donating. And then, when I reazlize that that isn’t possible, I pray for an out of body experience for you - a REALLY good one - in a happy place with Dick and Finn…
You are so brave; such an incredible,beautiful, petit warrior. You are SO strong, Heather. You CAN do this - you really, really can. You will. Please know that the whole church and my aunt’s church in Littleton, NH continue to pray, as do us’n Nadells. Prayer is an amazing, transcending phenomenon…and it continues for you, and Finn, and Dick. Healing IS taking place, little by little, and the battle is now an all-out war - and victory shall be yours. Continue to believe that - have faith = hope for things as yet unseen. There you go - keep the Faith babes - we love you and I’m sending my (gentle, as always) hugs, and sweet kisses to you three. I’m so glad that Dick is there with you - and enjoy the little Willis babes when you get to Kimmie’s.
Love, and Health, and Peace to you, my friends,
Sheri for the Nadells
posted by Sheri Nadell on February 22, 2006 at 1:30 pm
Heather, Dick and Finn,
I love you guys. We all love you guys. If anyone can beat this disease, you guys can. Your love is so big and strong and getting stronger by the second. Hang in there and I hope to see you soon.
Love and Big kisses
JP
posted by JP Gagnon on February 22, 2006 at 10:52 am
Dear Ones,
Sounds like tough sledding and joyous moments all wrapped up in one busy time. I love the mental picture of the cousins arrayed before you as they lay swaddled in their handknit (no doubt) blankies. How nice for Finn to have playmates in his own family and to be together so soon in each other’s lives!
Heath, you can do this. You can do this! Keep believing. We all do. Love , hugs and kisses to you all…be you large or small. -lee
posted by lkpaige on February 21, 2006 at 11:37 pm
Heather
I am a friend of GInny Tuller from South Carolina. I have been checking your website with news of the three of you since before Finn’s birth and I have been praying that you will receive the healing you need to recover. Your strength and courage have been a blessing to me, encouraging me as I have faced my own health problems the last few months. The pictures of all of you are very precious and the joy you both share in little Finn is very special, a real blessing. Keep us updated with your progress in fighting the Lymphoma and do add more and more pictures of little Finn when you can. I will continue to lift you up in prayer.
Blessings. Ginger T.
posted by Ginger Tuttle on February 21, 2006 at 7:54 pm
Heather,
Thinking of you and hoping that by this time the memory of the pain of the second spinal tap has been replaced by lvoing thoughts of Finn, Dick and your friends. i check often on your progress and am touched to the core by your bravery, appreciation, and wisdom. If you could market that…you’d be a millionaire! But then, you already are in all the ways that really count.
Sending smiles and good vibes,
Mary
posted by Mary Cerullo on February 21, 2006 at 4:11 pm
Heather, Dick & Finn,
Sending loving and healing thoughts your way! Finn is growing fast! I’ll be thinking of you this week surrounded by loving family. Congratulations on those windows!!
Love,
Tootie
posted by Tootie Van Reenen on February 21, 2006 at 1:34 pm
Hey, Weafers! I love the Finn pix — more! more! more!
Best of luck with all of your treatments, Heather. I’m sending positive energy your way from Baltimore.
Joanne
posted by Joanne on February 21, 2006 at 1:14 pm
Hey family,
This is the first time I’ve been able to see Finn and I must say, he’s a looker! And, this is a weird thing to say, he looks like a real toughie, like he’s been in a couple of pub brawls already and has come out on top. Anyway, love the photos. It was good to hear and see you at the Winter Cabaret, Heather. It seemed complete after you came on - I voted for ‘lunch hour’ for next year’s production - I want to see you leap onto Keith’s back again! Last week, I also thought of you and your underwater photography, as I was staying on St. John Island in the Virgin Islands and was able to do some phenomenol snorkling - fishies only children could dream up, garden’s of coral, sea turtles, an octopus, and one honking big barracuda, who meant no harm at all. And Heather, it’s okay to feel wimpy. Really. We all know how strong you are, and I continue to marvel at the way you, Dick, and little Finn have formed this unbreakable bond - I continue to have you in my thoughts and hope that the treatments vanquish those effing Cancer cells. As Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West, “Begone, you have no power here.”
All my best to you all,
XO
Morgan
posted by Morgan Shepard on February 17, 2006 at 11:38 am
Dear Heather,
You don’t know me, but I am a friend of Patti Irish. She told me of your amazing family and showed me your computer site. My 8 yr. old granddaughter, Summer, was diagnosed with leukemia a little over a year ago. She, too, is courageous, strong, honest and an inspiration to all who meet her…and she is doing great, I’m delighted to report!
Finn is beautiful! You all are- in every sense of the word! I send you and your wonderful family love, joy and healing light in your journey together.
Jane Donelon
posted by Jane Donelon on February 16, 2006 at 10:39 pm
Happy Valentine’s Day to the three of you!! Thinking of you all.
posted by Jean & Don on February 14, 2006 at 8:59 am
Hi guys,
It’s been a while since I’ve been able to post here but I’ve kept up with the news through the family. Finn gets more handsome by the day He’s really a beautiful little baby, the new pictures are just fantastic. And 2 more babies in the family!
My thoughts and prayers are still with you all. I had my own journey to the hospital last week and corny as it may sound, Heather what you’ve gone through here gave me more courage and strength than I think I would’ve had if I didn’t know your story. When we weren’t sure what was wrong last week (because I’m assuming you know now my appendix was removed - baby and I are fine) Greg kept asking if I was okay with what they were doing…..the final decision to do an MRI to diagnose me. CT Scans and chest xrays after surgery because of fear of blood clots in my lungs. My response each time to him and to Mom was…..You know, Finn indured a lot more than this, and he’s doing wonderfully - we’re going to be okay. And we are. I thank you so much for your honesty in this website; I know we’d know all the details of the illness, of Finn’s birth regardless as we’re family, but the open and honest entries you have here are truely an inspiration. Thank you for helping me through one of the hardest weeks of my life.
My love and thoughts to you all,
Meg
posted by Meghan Cranney on February 13, 2006 at 12:09 pm
Hi Heather,
I don’t know if you remember me. We have not seen each other in years. But I never forgot your beautiful face. Dad and I are first cousins. Congratulations to you both on such a blessed event. Finn is beautiful, God Bless Him. And Heidi you will be in my prayers everynight as is your whole family. Keep the faith and God will be sure to give you the strength you will need for this fight ahead. My love and prayers to you all.
ReRe
posted by ReRe Calabrese on February 12, 2006 at 8:30 pm
Hi Heather, Dick & baby Finn,
Congratulations to you!!! My Name is Sharon, I am Re Re’s daughter. My Mom & your Aunt Jacki, Aunt Robin & Dad are 1st cousins. Your Aunt Jacki & I have always been very close, I had my 1st son Chris shortly after Aunt Jacky had Hiedi. Hope this is not too confusing. I also became much closer to your Dad, we wrote back n forth a lot. I have not seen your Mom or Dad in yrs., or you since you were just a baby. I want you to know that my thoughts & prayers are w/you & your family, from reading what you wrote on your site, you sound like a very strong & amazing young lady!! You have a wonderful optomistic outlook. Stay strong, I do wish you the very best & give little Flinn a big hug & kiss from me, a second cousin….I think….Hahaah, this can be confusing to figure out, but, I know we are related. Please know that you will remain in my thoughts & prayers!!
Much Love from,
Sharon
posted by Sharon Walley on February 12, 2006 at 4:25 pm
You all look fabulous and congratulations from Seattle. Kim Lunch told me the news. Does Finn know how to swim yet?
Lost your e-mail address…would love to chat.
Kim
posted by Kim Iwersen on February 12, 2006 at 2:53 pm
Hey guys,
What a week this has been! Two new additions to our family has ended this week with quite a bang!
Just want you to know I am in touch w/Donnie and Cathy and you are still constantly in my thoughts.
Love
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on February 10, 2006 at 8:51 pm
Dick’s sister, Kim, with whom Dick and Heather have stayed many weeks of the last few months during Heather’s chemo and Finn’s birth, gave birth to twins yesterday. Bo weighed in at 6lbs. 12 oz. and Ella at 5lbs. 5oz.. It is amazing how much Ella looks like Finn. Since Finn also weighed in at 5 lbs. 5 oz. yesterday those two look more like the twins than Bo and Ella. To say that our lives have been a whirlwind the last few months does not begin to explain how full we feel. I have never felt so alive. I have been blessed with exceptional children all of whom married exceptional women, and I can feel my luck holding with my grandchildren, Sam, Lily, Finn, Bo and Ella.
posted by Dad Weaf on February 10, 2006 at 7:32 pm
OH MY GOD! The picture of the three of you is absolutely the MOST heartwarming family photo I have ever seen! And the one with Dick kissing Finn just melts my heart. You three are an inspiration for us all! Adele Miller talks about the Great Company and the Cloud of Witnesses…those past and present who give us strength. They are unique to each of us. Your Great Company and your Cloud of Witnesses are mighty, indeed!
Love from Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose Rothwell
posted by Tilly Rothwell on February 10, 2006 at 10:15 am
KEEP ON TRUCKING FINNY TOLD ME HE LOVES HIS MA LOVE TO YOU THREE GUYS
posted by UNC on February 10, 2006 at 9:47 am
I hope you get well Heather. And Finn is so cute!!!!.
posted by Chelsea on February 9, 2006 at 3:27 pm
Still thinking of you Heather during these challenging times. You’re brave and wonderful.
posted by Alison Lowe on February 9, 2006 at 11:14 am
Sending love to you, Dick and Finn. Glad to know you are finally back home and are able to have Finn with you.
I have shared your web site with friends here in Savannah and we are all amazed at your strength and insight. We are thinking of you and praying for you.
Hoping to see more pictures of Beautiful Baby Finn.
Much love - Linda & May
posted by Linda & May on February 9, 2006 at 12:34 am
Heather, Dick, and Finny,
You are in our thoughts each day and we send our energy to you three. I know that I will get to hear your stories and laughter again.
Finn, keep your mom laughing - it is your job now.
Dick, keep doing what you are doing, you are the important leg in this tripod.
Love to you,
Sara and Jerry
posted by Sara Buchheim on February 8, 2006 at 9:56 am
Lucky me! I got to see the photo album your mom brought in, Heather, with pictures of all of you. Ohhhhh you have yourself a VERY CUTE AND SWEET LITTLE FELLA!!! Wanted to also write and let you know I keep up with my prayers, thoughts, and positive energy to each and every one of you. I have a number of friends and family who are also out there praying, cheering, and sending good energy to each of you! I also have to say in the 9 years I have been at Shoreline/Sweetser, the highlight of my work here was the “grammy shower” everyone collectively threw for your mom — of course, for you, Dick, AND Finn! To be honest, it was somewhat of a spiritual event!
Blessings, prayers, thoughts, smiles, peace, comfort, and ease to each of you!!! Looking forward to the next “show and tell!”
posted by eileen boardman on February 7, 2006 at 6:13 pm
Dear Ones,
I hope that you are rolling your way back to Maine as I type. I’m sure that it was a tough couple of days but peace and quiet await you here at Finn’s house.
None of us will ever forget being with you onstage Saturday night…ever. Thanks to you both for making the effort to be there and let all of us show how much we love you. Wrapping my arms around you felt like a great gift and perfectly normal all at the same time. You looked beautiful onstage with your deep red scarf but I have to admit I’m pretty fond of the unadorned head that shows your determined profile and incandescent (sp?) spirit. If I were a cancer cell I wouldn’t stick around!
Bonnie and I look forward to the day when you feel well enough to have these Finn gazers come by to glow with admiration and wonder at his being. Know that we are all thinking of you…all the time…always with love. xxxlee
posted by lee k paige on February 7, 2006 at 3:39 pm
Hi Heath,
I hope that your treatment went well. I’m sure that the news that you received was not the easiest to digest however, you will get through this, you have to. As I ever try to contact you by phone… You have so many people who have started prayer circles for you, people that you don’t even know. I’m sure that Finn is beginning to grow like a weed and I can’t wait to see him again. Continue to fight and fight hard, Finn and Dick both need you as do all of us. Your fight is an inspiration to all that have had difficult times. We love you.
Heidi and Pete
posted by Heidi & Pete on February 7, 2006 at 1:55 pm
Hey guy’s,
I am so excited to here that your Chemo treatments are going so well. hopefully the Doc’s will be able to get all of that stuff out of you. I love the pics of Finny, and I can’t wait to meet him. So far we are looking good for our visit in May. Send me some pictures when you can. My address is 5540 Annandale Dr. Va Beach, Va. 23464 my # is (757)479-0097. Love you all
Anthony
posted by Anthony, Jenn, and Kids on February 7, 2006 at 11:24 am
I have no words of wisdom today, just thoughts of you three and hopes that the worst is now truly behind you. I hope evrything went as well as could be expected yesterday, but I’ll get the latest news from mom later. As for how you’re handling it all- you guys are my heroes.
Just know we are all sending tons of love your way- and I can’t wait to meet Finn!
XXXOOO Nancy & the gang
posted by Auntie Nancy on February 7, 2006 at 11:16 am
Dear Heather, Dick and Finn,
Well, by now your procedure is over….I’m hoping it wasn’t awful and that you are resting, with Finn next to your cheek and Dick’s arm around you (or something along those lines!). When you appeared on stage Saturday night, I think I could’ve clapped for an hour (okay for days) - I love Molly’s entry. And when I got to lay my eyes on little Finn last Tuesday it made my day, my week. He is amazing - strong and sweet and amazing. Not a day goes by without you three being mentioned; folks at church check in every week about your progress, my friends and family want to know.
Prayers continue without ceasing - and Honey we’ll ALL be checking in on this site through remission and all the way to CURE! And, I’m guessing far beyond that. (Jenn is going to chronicle at least until Finn goes to college, right?).
Anyway - know that we are sending healing hugs to you - and may the chemo go get the rest of those cells tomorrow. Hang in there - know that we love you and are so very proud of you. Your endurance and strength are inspiring.
Love, Sheri for the Nadells
posted by sheri on February 6, 2006 at 10:25 pm
Hi Heath,
I’m so happy to hear Finn has finally made it to his long awaited destination. HOME!!! Good luck with all the treatments you have coming up. Just keep doing what you have been all along . . . keep Finn as your main focus and you will get through this and anything else that is thrown at you. I know you’re last name has changed but you are still from the Perry mold and Perry’s are fighters. Thank God for Finn, I believe he is going to save your life. Finn is truly a miracle. I had no doubts that he would be fine and I believe you will be too. Everyone knows you will pull through this. Stay positive . . .I’ll talk to you soon!
Love,
Kristen
posted by Kristen and Mark on February 6, 2006 at 5:59 pm
Hi, Heather, Dick and Finn. How wonderful that Finn is home! What a miracle. Now let’s keep the streak going. I think of you every day and am so grateful that you’re keeping this website up. Good luck with the treatments — show no mercy!
Joanne
posted by Joanne on February 6, 2006 at 4:48 pm
Finn is home!! What wonderful words to read!! I can picture you (being the peeping Tom that I am) in bed with that wee, sweet baby boy between you. Pretty miraculous, hey?! It’s just amazing what a woman’s body can do…and in saying that it’s pretty amazing, Heather, what you have done, and are doing, and will do…but hey, with so many incredible people cheering you on, with Dick and Finn cheering you on, you will move through this with the strength we all know you have! Carry on! Our thoughts and prayers are with you every minute!
Beth
posted by Beth on February 6, 2006 at 3:03 pm
Heath,
You are brave in your honesty about being scared. Just the idea of a spinal tap sends chills through my…well…spine. I think many of us can relate to that fear. But as someone else said, if you’ve had an epideral (as I have), you realize it’s really much better than the alternative.
But the reason I really wanted to write was to tell you about a (really lame) movie by that name: Spinal Tap. It’s about a fictious band called Spinal Tap who had very few brain cells between them. You may have seen it as I think I had the pleasure (definitely wrong word) of watching it in the common room of Dave’s quad in The Heights your Freshman year; I’m pretty sure JJ owned it. At any rate, the funniest part I can remember was when they were talking about the volume knob on the stereo, and how 10 was the highest it could go. One of the band members insisted, “But it goes to 11…” pointing to the numbers on the dial, but the rest of the group just booed and hissed at him.
My point? You go to 11, Heath. In everything you do, you go to 11. We’re just the people on the sidelines cheering you on, but you’d go to 11 anyway. I’m sure of it. And this bleeping lymphoma just doesn’t know what it’s up against. It saw a petite blonde and thought, Heh, heh, heh, I can knock her down. But really, it should have done it’s research, because you may be petite, but you have the might to match Goliath, and have carried earthly burdens like Atlas.
xxoo Di
posted by Diane Kew on February 6, 2006 at 1:04 pm
Heather,
I had heard that you were at the gala at the Theater Project on Saturday - so sorry I missed seeing you. I just read all the news and my thoughts are with you today (and everyday). It is wonderful to hear that Finn is home with you! You don’t have to be brave ALL the time! Love, Tootie
posted by Tootie Van Reenen on February 6, 2006 at 9:59 am
Heather, our thoughts are with you and Dick and Finn as you head into later today and all that that will bring. Sending you lots of white light and positive energy.
Jean & Don
posted by Jean & Don Weatherbee on February 6, 2006 at 12:39 am
January is such a great time to have a baby boy! I remember having a January baby boy too and lucky you! Enjoy those winter nights when it is just the two of you and the world outside the window is very, very quiet. It will be chilly and you’ll need to share a blanket and cuddle. I remember them fondly and I hope you will too. Before you know it spring and summer will be here and you’ll all be sleeping better, but these winter nights will be special memories. Congratulations to you all, and time to go. In a few hours, my January baby will be looking for his lunch, his backpack and his snowpants before he gets on the bus to another day of third grade. Time flies–enjoy every minute!
Norah and Andrew Xenos
posted by Norah Mahoney Xenos on February 6, 2006 at 12:14 am
Dear Heather (Dick, Finn and the rest of the family),
Just read your recent updates - WOW have you all been busy! So glad you have made it back to Bath as a family.
Best of luck with your spinal tap and intrathecal chemo treatment this week. Draw on your inner well of strength and grace as you have throughout this ordeal. And, know that the well is deeper than ever with Finn bouying you up! We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers. You are all in a “good place” to fight this thing - you have each other and clearly the support of so, so many. All the best. Let us know if we can help in any way. We’re “over the border” but not sooo far from Boston.
Tina, Tom, Ben & Cameron
posted by Tina and Tom Villnave on February 5, 2006 at 11:16 pm
Heather, don’t be afraid of the spinal tap. To you it will feel exactly like the epidural I am sure you had in labor, or the spinal you had for the C/S. You will have numbing medicine and you will only feel pressure. I do this everyday and even had one myself.
Frank and I are praying for you. We know you are going to be fine. Love, Lynne and Frank.
posted by Lynne and Frank on February 5, 2006 at 10:12 pm
Heather it was so wonderful to see you on stage last night making us laugh and smile as you always do. I’ll be thinking of you all day tomorrow, sending my love and strength. And whenever you need a little extra comfort, think of that applause you got last night. And know that we’ve been applauding all along for you through our thoughts, prayers and smiles whenever we think of you, Dick and Finn. I’m still clapping Heath. I always will be.
Love, Molly
posted by Molly Haley on February 5, 2006 at 2:12 pm
Heather, Dick and Finn–
I know that Finn is a preemie, but I sometimes imagine him as a linebacker playing in the Superbowl who plays with his team mates, Heather and Dick, who are just as strong and ready to plow through any difficult bumps in the road.
Now you are the golden girl, Heather, and you know there is support from your entire team, and the crowd is always cheering you on.
It’s all a game…but you’re part of the bigger, better, faster team.
TOUCH DOWN!
Love,
Hannah
posted by Hannah Weddle on February 5, 2006 at 1:23 pm
My darling Heather………I miss hearing from you. How are you? Give Finn a smooch for me please. Also, we’re waiting for a picture to add to our baby “wall of fame” here at school. We have Molly’s babies posted. Now get busy and click away……and if you get the time, we’d love to hear from you.
Love, Love, Love
Sue
posted by Sue Hamilton on February 3, 2006 at 10:26 am
Hi to all the Weafer’s! I’m Ginger, Brad Leaman’s Mom and Drew Settle’s roommate (Drew is in Mr. Weafer’s class this year—I still can’t get past calling teachers by their first names!) After seeing all you’ve experienced, albeit second or third-hand, I felt compelled to write a message to Heather. I had Hodgkin’s Lyphoma when I was 16 and I have such a huge respect for you for the grace and dignity that you’ve showed in going through this. I know it’s not easy, on the contrary, but everything I’ve seen in your photos and read in your entries shows your strength and your grace. I wish you continued strength, and I wish you all the healing that looking at Finn and seeing the miracle of his presence in your life can bring. I do remember how trying being up every 2 hours with a newborn can be, but know that this is as fleeting a stage as the side effects of your chemo is. I know that with my son, my love for him has only grown as he has. I loved him when he was a little floppy cabbage head, but now that he’s a 9 year old with his own thoughts and ideas….Oh my! I love him soooo much more! Best wishes on your journey of parenthood!
And know that there are people who know what you’re going through and are here to help, whether with baby care or with pampering you, or with just being there to hold your hand and know how much this stinks sometimes. Hang in there, girl….cancer got nothin’ on you!
All the best to the three of you! Ginger
posted by Ginger Putnam on February 2, 2006 at 11:49 pm
Hey guy’s ,
I’m so happy for you. Things seem to be going great for the little guy, I hope he comes home soon. Still keeping you in our prayers.
Love,
Your Cous, Anthony
posted by Anthony, Jenn, and Kids on February 2, 2006 at 4:31 pm
Heather, Dick & Finn,
I hope your first day and night home together, all three of you, has been terrific. And if it hasn’t, well, you’re not alone…I think I jumped out of bed 20 times that first night to make sure Andrew was breathing. And whenever he spit up we changed his clothes…and he was a spitter-upper (I’m sure he’s thrilled I’ve published this information). In fact, we changed him so much that we were making him spit up, but we didn’t realize it at first so we started to panic because every time we put a new set of clothes on his little body (you know, you push the teeny tiny arm into the onesie, then push the other one in only to discover that the first one is kinda squiggling out) he would spit up again — to the point that we hardly had any clean clothes left for him!!!
The good news is that he’s not broken and in fact has survived the whole ordeal quite nicely. The point? Don’t worry if the scene is less than perfect at first…you are all learning together, and it’s the together part that matters most.
Still thinking of you, and I’m just so happy to have seen Dick’s smiling face twice now at JA. That’s a wonderful sight!
Di
posted by Diane Kew on February 1, 2006 at 9:47 pm
hi heather,
soooo glad to hear that you are home. what a difference it makes during a struggle to be in your very own sanctuaury each night. i hope that the chemo is going as well as it can go and that you are feeling strong. finn seems to be doing great according to all that i’ve read and i’m pleased but not surprised. like mother like son.
i’m sure that you are buried in things to do, and may not have the energy after chemo to respond, but i do have a couple of questions. 1) how can i get on the list (because i’m sure there is one) of folks who cook , clean, run errands for you? i’m a helluva cook (as you know after my obvious domination at the extravaganza of ‘05) but i’d hate to just drop by with something you can’t eat. i’m also quite skilled in the cleaning department, in case you hadn’t noticed i run quite the tidy cafe and if i can clean the toilets after the entire city of bath uses them during heritage days, i can certainly clean yours. help me to know how i get on the list of helpers. 2) soooooo you may not remember but you sort of promised to hang your artwork in the cafe again this spring… i suppose i could find a replacement but they would just be a sorry substitute for your brilliant work. pretty much my entire staff is willing to hang it for you, but maybe you aren’t hip to this idea anymore…i don’t know because you’ve obviously let your caffeine consumption drop to the bottom of the low priority list, hmmph! anyway, i realize it’s a bit self centered to expect answers when your time is completely and rightly devoted to your health and to little finn, but i’m asking anyway. well, still love you 2 and miss you. all my best wishes, tonnie
posted by Tonnie on January 30, 2006 at 4:19 pm
Dear Heather,
Congratulations on getting your little guy closer to home! Before you know it he’ll be ready to graduate again and get all the way home. I continue to be amazed and awed by your strength through everything. I know it must be hard to have Dick back at school. But think of every change as taking you one step closer to where you want to be. Back to the healthy incredible you, but even better since Finn is a part of your life. I’m thinking of you and sending you strength.
Lara
posted by Lara Hansen on January 29, 2006 at 7:25 pm
Dear Heather,
Congratulations! Finn is beautiful….. I am awed by the photographs…..and you! You look so beautiful….I love the photo of you with the blue background.
I am touched by your spirit and left breathless from your words(reflections) and wisdom.
I think I speak for everyone when I say that your grace is our teacher.
I hope you recieve good news tomorrow and baby Finn sleeps throught he night!
All best,
Cindi Brogan
posted by Cindi on January 28, 2006 at 8:34 pm
Hi there just called you at home what an idiot I am. We miss seeing you and will love seeing your faces soon especially baby Finn. I’m so glad things are going well and our thoughts and prayers are still with you.
LoveDenise and Arthur
posted by denise tainter on January 28, 2006 at 5:20 pm
Hi Everyone!
We are back in Maine and Finn is being transported to Mid-Coast Hospital this afternoon. He is eating like a champ and should not not be much longer until we can take him home. Heather is doing great..better than great, though her crappy chemo week should be starting any day now. Last night we enjoyed watching all of our dear friends in the first show of Winter Caberet. Great laughs, go see it! It was our first outing since the beginning of October and probably the last before we have think about finding a babysitter. Heather wants to add another entry very soon. We are spending the day cleaning up the clutter in our house, folding the laundry and getting Finn’s room ready for him. This afternoon we are off to Maternity at Mid-Coast, the place this all started. It feels like going home.
Keep vanishing cancer cells!
Love and Thanks to All
Dick
posted by Dick on January 28, 2006 at 1:50 pm
HI Heather,
I spoke with Dick today about givnig this site address to my sister and her best friend, Jeanne, who has had a bone marrow transplant. I hope she/they can help you with concerns, questions and alleviating fears! Jeanne just celebrated her 16th year of good health!
SO, if you begin to get messages from “unknowns”, Fran is my sister and Jeanne is her best friend who has gone through similar things you are going through and will go through.
A circle of freinds can be so empowering!
Dick tells me Finn is on his way hmoe today! Wait until he sees the likes of Maine, AYUH, he lives here!
Happy days to you and my best to all of the Weafers. Enjoy your little one and know we are all continuing to send the positvge energy it takes to help you through this all!
Take care,
Lynn
posted by Lynn D'Agostino on January 27, 2006 at 2:56 pm
Dear Heather and Dick and Finn,
John and Jake and Rose and I are so excited about the birth of Finn. The pictures of you all are just amazing, and truly bring happy tears to all of us. There is no luckier baby in the world than little Finn; how often you three are in all of our prayers and getting silent messages of love! You a strong and brave family and a beacon of light for all of us. Go Weafers!
Love to the three of you! Looking forward to each and every picture!
Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose Rothwell
posted by Tilly Rothwell on January 27, 2006 at 11:06 am
HI YOU GANG OF THREE. ITS GREAT THAT YOUR ALL UP AND ABOUT. NOBODYS HAPPYYYYYYYYYYYYYYER FOR YOUALL THAN ME. LOVE ALL..GREATUNC.
posted by UNC on January 27, 2006 at 9:58 am
Heather,
We just heard of what you and Finn were going through from Joan Jenkins. I am humbled by the strength and grace that you are handling this with. Finn comes from sturdy stock and I know that you will all get past this.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. We look forward to seeing you all up at Moosehead this Summer.
We send all of our positive energy and prayers,
Karen and David Johnson
posted by Karen and David Johnson on January 26, 2006 at 1:08 pm
Dick and Heather,
Congrats on your little guy. I can’t beleive he’s really here in Maine already! Got a forwarded update on things last night. You are all in our thoughts consistantly, can’t wait to meet Finn and for you to meet Adam. They’re almost the exact same age!
I look forward to seeing all of you soon.
Love you,
Jim
posted by Jim Hart on January 26, 2006 at 8:13 am
I should be slaving away, doing my homework but I couldn’t resist checking out your wonderful and inspiring web-site. Heather, I must admit I never realized how beautiful you are. Nearly everytime I’ve seen you you’ve been on stage, dressed as a may fly or that peanut guy but there you are, hair or no hair, looking beautiful. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and photos. Finn is amazing, you’ve got yourself a good one. May the joy he brings to you squelsh all your sickness and ease your pain as you continue your fight!! Sending you healing energy, strength and warm wishes. Jess
posted by jess miller on January 25, 2006 at 11:31 pm
Dear Mr. Weafer,
Congradulations from the Auclair family. We’ve been keeping up with heather and Finn’s progress just about every day. Andy was so excited when Finn was born. He wanted to know when you were going to be coming back to school. He declared at supper one night “You are the best teacher at JA.” I know I’ve told you this but it bares repeting ,both my children were lucky enough to have you as a teacher and both of them had their lives changed by you. You make children strive to be all they can be. What more could a parent ask from a teacher! Besides Andy says noone else understands his jokes like you. Heather and Finn are both blessed to have you in their lives. We’ll continue to visit this sight and can’t wait for the day that you can post Heather, Dick, and Finn and all feeling great and enjoying every minute of every day. Children make you feel that way. God Bless.
The Auclair’s
posted by Roxanne Auclair on January 25, 2006 at 7:50 pm
Dearest Finn,
WELCOME TO MAINE !!!! Where ever YOU are is certainly God’s country but I’m awfully glad you’re in this little section of it. I like thinking about your Mom sleeping in her own (your own) beautiful house and your Dad sharing pictures of you with his students and your grandparents being able to show you off. I am looking forward to meeting you in the pink(!) flesh soon and hugging your dear ones tight.
Much love, Honorary Auntie Lee
posted by lee k. paige on January 25, 2006 at 4:56 pm
so none of you know me, at least by name… but heather, i’ve seen you in a couple of plays in Brunswick and at the Y (Linda Williamson introdcued us one time, and you may remember my Mom, Linda, who you showed one of your *lovely* bridesmaids dresses to when i was thinking about getting married one time) each day since Tonnie told me about this, i have ended my day at work reading your updates, then i call my mom, tell my boyfriend (who doesn’t know you either, but asks a couple of times a week)… about how you have amazing stregth and wisdom and courage and humor - and with all of these strengths, which seem, in your situation to be sort of, for lack of a better term, ‘out of this wordly,’ - your communication remains so real. I would dream to have one little ounce of your amazing-ness if ever i had a similar life experience. Cheers to you, Dick, and Finn. You, your family and friends are truly a loving inspiration.
On another note… my identical twin sister and i were born i think about 8 weeks early, and the pictures you have of Finn right now remind me so much of the little pictures of us, comfortably laying in one incubator or whatever they’re called… my family lovingly refers to us now as ‘cornish game hens’ . We weighed even less than him, and don’t look like hens anymore.
I think we also swam with Dick for the Y, and your brother Don, right? You were a few years older, i just remember you as the really tall twins.
Anyway… I just wanted you to know that even more people are sending you lots of love and well wishes. Congrats on being so tough and producing such a gorgeous little boy.
Julia Coes
posted by Julia on January 25, 2006 at 12:39 pm
Dear Heather, Dick and Finn,
Pat Weafer is a friend of mine and has kept me updated since she found out you were pregnant! Being a recent grandma myself, I was praying for you before you knew you were sick. Now, I have my other friends praying for you and your family! Your baby is gorgeous! I am sure he will be exceptional, having a mom like you.
You sound so strong. I can see why everyone is so proud of you. Your next few months sound like you are going to need all your mental and physical strength. Speaking as a disabled person that has missed too much of my children’s youth. They grow up and don’t know any different. Your son Finn will be wonderful and you will be there for all the other “stuff” that will happen in his life! You will get through it with all the support people you have.
We will continue to pray for you and your family.
God bless.
Peggy
posted by peggy sanwald on January 25, 2006 at 10:32 am
Greetings Weafer Family!!!!!
I made an entry of congratulations about a week ago, but somehow it disappeared (I think when this awesome website was having a tired day) - So - I shall repeat my happiest congratulations!!!!! And I finally got to give Dick a hug and kiss today — you’ve taken good care of him, Heather, he looks damn fine! And that gorgeous Finn - FINE JOB, both of you!! When I looked at the picture, I didn’t even notice the medical paraphenaila, I saw a strong, pink, healthy, awesome miracle babe. They are all little miracles, every One. Yeehaw and bravo! And I knew you’d ‘get it’, Heather, I knew you would. Even before I read you latest entry, Wendy filled me in Friday night as we were canvasing (sp?) Brunswick begging for hors d-oeurves for Cabaret - (we succeeded - everyone should patronize Back Street Bistro - good people there!). Anyway, Wendy gave me the update, and I knew she’d be taking good care of you today, while Dick was taking good care of the JA kiddos. So a plan is in place, you are in the best hands, and we wish we could take little pieces (or all) of the needle-poking etc. so that you didn’t have to. If we could, we would.
And the prayer circle continues and perseveres….my wonderful aunt sent me an email last night asking for an update for the prayer committee at her church in Littleton, NH - and so they are up to date and talking to God about you three - as are the Nadells and the folks at Mid-Coast Presbyterian, some of whom you’ve heard from here and good folks all the way to California… And it’s powerful stuff. Not the source of the prayers necessarily, but the grace-filled and merciful answers that come back.
In the meantime, EN-JOY your precious gift - his angel eyes, his sweet baby breath, his downy softest-thing-on-earth head, his tiny sqeaks…..they will make you both strong. May your fears be lessened, your souls replenished, and may your hearts sing out loud.
Brunswick and people across the whole planet indeed continue to give you three gentle chi hugs,
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posted by Sheri on January 23, 2006 at 10:58 pm
Heath, Dick and Finn,
I was so glad to see you on Sunday at the hospital in Boston. How special to meet Finn, to hold him and love him and even watch him get a bath. Although small, it was clear that he has an enormous heart and tremendous strength. What a gift! It will be great to watch him grow, and to see the two of you in him. Two of my favorite people all wrapped up in one! Congratulations, Mom and Dad.
As always, I’ll be thinking of you this week as you learn the results of your pet scan, and bring your precious Finn home to Maine. I look forward to seeing you all again on Thursday!
Much love,
the other heath
posted by Heather Bruce on January 23, 2006 at 9:16 pm
Hi Heath. Just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking of you today as you go through chemo again. While your body may be weak, remember that your spirit can take your mind elsewhere. I am sending you positive thoughts, and also a web site my sister told me about that may be nice to view: ashesandsnow.com. Click on the portfolio for some really powerful images. And enjoy that baby boy…he is what life is all about.
xxoo Di
posted by Diane Kew on January 23, 2006 at 2:30 pm
Hi Guys,
Congrats on your new addition to the family! I’m glad to hear that he is doing well. With a start in life like this, he’s going to be a real world beater! Keep your eyes on this prize and he will help overcome the advercities ahead. Thinking of you,
Skip
posted by Skip on January 23, 2006 at 11:08 am
Heather, I don’t know you, you don’t know me but you, Dick, and Finn are a constant thought in my heart and mind! You’re notes are so incredibly uplifting I can’t imagine you ever being down! I weep, I laugh, I feel blessed! it’s supposed to be about you three and yet I feel that I receive so much more than I give! When I read that you hold Finn skin to skin I pictured it. When I read that you are walking already I pictured it. You have courage like no other I’ve “known”. I read recently to bless the very thing you want to curse, and as I’ve read about you doing this…well, how can you help but to beat this thing! I am so happy that you all are doing well and moving forward. You all continue to be in my prayers! Bless you, bless you, bless you! Love to you all!
posted by Beth on January 23, 2006 at 11:01 am
What great news of your son, Finn. Tilly sent me your website. I am smiling with pleasure. Even with all his technological paraphenalia, one can see what a sweet face he has. Congradulations sent with much love. Now for long lives of good health in the future, which means great success in Heather’s treatment. This I wish you.
With love, Adele
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Congratulations! You have a beautiful baby and you make a beautiful family. It is so hard to imagine before hand the bond you feel with your baby. There isn’t anything like it. Enjoy, take care, and thanks for sharing your experience.
posted by jCheryl on January 22, 2006 at 2:09 pm
My daughter passed this on to me. She is one of the adoring nurses in the NICU caring for Finn. We often share inspiring stories with each other to focus on the good in life. This is truely an amazing story and an amazing family, full of love, hope and faith. I know the strength a child can give a mother….the will to carry on and to survive. I have four beautiful children who have held me up (probably not even knowing it) through difficult times. You are blessed to have him, and more important, he is blessed to have you and Dick. My JOY, as a mother, is knowing that my daughter can share and learn from your experiences. My HOPE is that we all learn to appreciate what we have and my FAITH is that someday we understand, or just accept what God has intended for us.
Much love goes out to all of you…family, friends, doctors and of course nurses!
posted by Patti Moroni...Caity's Mom on January 21, 2006 at 7:07 am
Heather, Dick and Finn
I am so glad you have gotten through the delivery with such positive thoughts and I want to give you continue positive energy for the road ahead, for chemo, for finn and for the potential bone marrow transplant. I love the website and will check in often!
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It’s finn’s friend from next door his roomate in the hospital i see that your doing well i hope we both get to leave around the same time. I know i don’t say to much like you do but i’am shy. So i know that your leaving and i wish you the best of luck aways remember me you came out looking great. Better then i did!!!! But look at me now.
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posted by miracle love morales on January 20, 2006 at 6:05 pm
Dick, Heather and Finn, we were so glad to see the pictures of such a beautiful baby, congratulations! We think of you often and keep updated on the progress…..Taylor wishes you well as do I. You have made such an impact on my son that I know the gifts you bring as parents to your son will be innumerable. Blessings….Tracey and Taylor
posted by Tracey and Taylor on January 20, 2006 at 3:33 pm
Congratualations! I am happy for you and the whole Weafer family! Take the time and really enjoy the moment. I do know you have many moments to be grateful for and some you’d rather take the risk to be wihout! However, stay strong and take it all one day at a time. Try to take one treatment, doctor’s visit etc…one at a time. Take it all on as you go so the energy can be used for the moment.
Leave the rest ahead for the day it finally gets here! Projections get us all into trouble!
As for the bone marrow transplant, my sister’s best friend just celebrated her 15th year of health after hers! I have faith that you will be celebrating ‘after the fact’ as well!
For now, take one day at a time and bond with that little boy of yours! Congratulations Dick and Heather! Finn, WELCOME!
Happy day!
Lynn
posted by Lynn D'Agostino on January 20, 2006 at 3:15 pm
Heather - I’m late getting this message to you, but wanted you to know I was thinking of you all on 1/13 and sending special prayers that Finn’s arrival would be ‘uneventful’ (kind of an oxymoron, but you know what I mean). I have always found Friday the 13th to be a good day, not filled with fear of what’s to go wrong. And January 13, 2006 obviously was one of the best ever for you and your family/friends! A picture IS worth 1000 words: your and Dick’s love and happiness is very evident. Good luck on your upcoming treatments - our prayers remain with you and you will find the strength to get thru it all as you have these past few months. I remember you writing how much you’ll miss Finn inside you, kicking and letting his presence be known. I have no doubt whatsoever that he will continue to make his presence known (as all babies do!), but now you and Dick will be able to love and cuddle and comfort him hands on. Although never a biological mother myself, I can only imagine what a joy it must be to hold him in your arms, gaze into his eyes and smell that special baby smell (and I don’t mean poopy diapers)….I’ll get an update into our prayer list at South China Community Church so that everyone will share in your wonderful news. Jayne
posted by Jayne Winters on January 20, 2006 at 3:05 pm
Hey there Heath, Dick and Litttle Finn,
I can’t wait to see you guys again and meet Finny for the first time. Timmy and Libby are also very excited that you had a baby. I really can’t believe how are little Connecticut family has grown. Our new generation has finally arrived. All of us cousins now have kids of our own. Nanny and Pop would now have 8 Great Grandchildren. They would be soo excited. My love thoughts and Prayers are with you. Love Ant
posted by Anthony, Jenn, and Kids on January 20, 2006 at 2:20 pm
Heather. I’m at a cyber in Kesh with my mom. took her here yesterday, and we have another day before we head on to Essouria. We spent the night in not the same hotel, but the one nextdoor, and spent the morning running around through the souq, bargaining our brains out, trying to get teapots for 50 dirhams instead of a hundred. and we’re thinking of you girl. I keep thinking about when we came here together, the last time I was doing all the talking and translating. We have you here with us in such a huge way, I was thinking about you buying kohl holders for wendy and jen, and my mom was thinking about you, and she was the one who said, lets stop in that internet cafe and check on heather’s website—- and low and behold, the photos of Finn are there. Wow wow wowwow wow wow. He is so beautiful. He is so beautiful, you are so beautiful, and Dick is so beautiful. Those pictures are amazing. You’re gleaming parents. zween bezef, zween bezef. ifoulki. My mom says she remembers it as a state of bliss, and she says, may it last forever. inchallallah, God willing. (I couldn’t help but add. I’m like a an old Moroccan man that sits outside the mosque in a white jelaba with the hood up. drinking tea, I want to bless you with all the God expressions I can think of, and I do. You’re in my prayers. Everynight you’re in my prayers. )
love, reba
posted by reba and jody on January 20, 2006 at 12:40 pm
Heather, Dick & Finn,
Congratulations on the birth of this beautiful baby boy! We’ve been constantly checking the website and it was so good to read your email this morning, Heather. You have a way of writing that makes me feel that I’ve actually sat down and had a conversation with you……can hear your voice even! Your strength and optimism are an inspiration to us all. Don’t forget that we are right outside Portland, so don’t hesitate to call when you’re here if there’s anything we can do. We’re always thinking of you, wishing only good things. Love, Bruce & Joan
posted by bruce & joan jenkins on January 20, 2006 at 11:00 am
Congratulations Heather & Dick and Welcome Finn, You all look great. Elaine has kept us posted on your progress you are in all of our prayers. We can’t wait to meet Finn when he comes back to Maine.
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posted by Sarah, Stephenie, Margie, Michelle, Patty & Patty on January 20, 2006 at 10:20 am
Dear Heather and Dick and Finn,
posted by Tilly Rothwell on January 20, 2006 at 9:00 am
Dear Heather and Dick…we were up at the lake the night of the birthing where we don’t have an internet connection. Susan kept us up to date by telephone so we were right there with you during that time. We are so happy for you and Dick. Finn is al lucky little boy to have such parents. As always, you are constantly in our thoughts and prayers and we will keep all appendages crossed that the coming tests will be positive…or is it negative??? Anyway, you know what I mean…we love you both so much and our love to all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll
posted by Carroll & Deanie DuBose on January 19, 2006 at 10:48 pm
We’re so happy for you and want you to know our hopes and prayers are with you all. We have a hankering to hit Maine in 2006 so we hope to see all three of you and marvel at the Mighty Finn.
posted by Gary & Jeanne Hitchcock on January 19, 2006 at 10:13 pm
Hey you guys - all 3 of you!
What a great update! You all are truly an inspiration. I am so proud of you. I’m off to Berwick tomorrow to help out there so I will be sure they check out this new update. You have a long road ahead, but with this kind of spirit you will help each other through it - that’s what family is all about, isn’t it?
You know you are in my thoughts and heart everyday.
Love you
Pat
posted by Pat (Weafer) on January 19, 2006 at 9:19 pm
Hi Heather, You are an inspiration to all of us. I’ve worked Labor and Delivery for almost 37yrs. Unlike the others writing to you I know exactly what led to your C/S and the atmosphere in that OR. I know that every person on that team was touched by you, Dick and Finn. I can hear the cheer after Finn’s first cry. I’m so sorry for the challenging road ahead of you. But I know you will get through it with grace and before you know it, will be able to do all the things you want to do. Love, Lynne
posted by Lynne and Frank on January 19, 2006 at 8:12 pm
Hi my friends!
Love to see the picture of Mr Finn looking like a robust as a 34 week old - although I think he looks older - like a 37 week old . I think about you all every morning when I wake up and am so pleased to hear all the good news and good spirits!
What’s a pirate’s favorite way to get born? CesARRRRRRRian
Big hugs to you all!
SB
posted by Sue B on January 19, 2006 at 11:08 am
Hello Dearhearts,
Every Winter Cabaret rehearsal starts with the “Weafer Report” and tonight’s was wonderful. I hear that you are being your very sassy self, Miss Heather. We understand that Dick is knitting (that’s how Ian and Bobby got through the applying to college stress) and that Finn is incomparable! Tomorrow (Thursday) is the first of several steps towards making that boy a Mainer and I hold only good thoughts for you all. I’m with you…
John’s dad graduated from the Hospice program today (he seems to have healed the tear in his annuryism at 90!) and is threatening to purchase a bicycle since he is not allowed to drive. Anything is possible!!!!
Wish I was hugging you big Weafers and smoothing the copious hair on Finn’s head right now. love, lee
posted by lee k.paige on January 18, 2006 at 11:43 pm
Hi kids,
No pearls of wisdom from me tonight. Just want you to know that you are all constantly in my thoughts and prayers.
Love you,
Pat
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HI Heather, Finn and Dick,
I was thinking about you the other day while working at Midcoast….You come up a lot among us nurses…and we all want to wish you well. It is wonderful to see your writings! Know that you all forever changed our lives with your love, perseverence and incredible strength. Best wishes for the Best of Health! Jodie
Dear Heather, Dick and Finn,
Heather, do you remember me? GHS and Colby alums and friends and you were the one to introduce me to the land of Disney! Matt Davie wrote in to the Colby magazine about your news of a baby AND battling (successfully thank God) lymphona. I have discovered your website and am touched by your beautiful journal entries throughout the happiest of times with a baby paired with the most challenging of ordeals. I remember your passion for life and can see how that zest for life has allowed you to embrace motherhood and your battle with cancer. With much love, Karen
PS Maybe we can meet at WDW, I hope to plan a trip there in Dec ‘09 or Dec ‘10.
Hi Dick and Heather,
I also saw the Times Record and have tried to find the right words. I guess I can’t write anything more eloquent then Bridie has written. So… I will say you both are amazing and I wish you the best of everything!
Dick,
My family and I are back here in Brunswick and hope to meet Heather and Finn in person someday.
All my best wishes,
Amie Howard Thom( plus Michael, Guinevere, and Mason Thom)
Dick & Heather:
Saw the Times Record during a visit to my mother and wanted to say, “Congratulations!” for becoming parents, and that my heart is aching for you to have had to face such challenges during what should be the happiest time of your life. I’m so glad things are going well now. Enjoy your little man, and if you ever feel like a trip to Disney, let us know, we’re in Orlando!
Bridie (plus, Dave, Derek-6, and Kacey-4)
Just found the information about your situation in the Times Record. We both wish for you continued strength, both individual and collective, as you wend your way through this. Our thoughts are with you as you face the challenges and realize your hopes.
Former teachers at BHS and Longfellow, now living in MD and FL.
Heather and Dick,
Congratulations, admiration, and appreciation to both of you, from another husband/father who is going through the same journey now, two years after you started yours. I am struck by how long this ordeal can last, how draining it can be for the patient and immediate family, and - more than anything else - the incredible, overwhelming boost that is provided by friends and family who join in the battle. Thanks for sharing your experience - it lifts our spirits as slog through the early days. I hope we can meet you the next time we’re in Maine. All three of you - Heather, Dick, and Finn - have our highest respect!
Hi Frank,
I have no way of responding to you as i don’t have your phone or e mail address. Please e mail me with your contact info at hdweaf@gwi.net . Everything is fine and I look forward to reconnecting.
all best, heather
Hi Heather,
Is everything OK. Please respond.
Frank
Hi Heather
Hope all is well. I’m in Portland, Maine today and tomorrow. I would like to see Joe. Let me know.
Frank
Heather, Dick & Finn: Congratulations on a ‘clean year’ and belated Happy Birthday wishes! As always, your words were fitting for closing out the web site. Altho I will miss hearing from you, I know no news means you are out and about, living Life the way it is meant to be. I think of you all so often and will continue to keep you in my prayers for continued good health and exciting, happy adventures. Take good care of yourselves and thanks again for letting us share in your remarkable journey.
Great performance last night…..and happy happy Mother’s Day.
Jean
heather, dick and finn, I just happened to browse your site today and was smiling broadly thinking of finn walking and talking as today is my son’s 6th birthday and happy (late) 36th to you heather. I hope to be in touch with you guys thru the years to come and please send me pictures of finn! Best wishes Tamara Takoudes
Hey Heather…it’s wonderful to see you feeling so well and in such good spirits. We’re looking forward to May 28 with great anticipation. Our love to you all…Carroll and Deanie
Heather,
So nice to open your site this morning and read about how well all the Weafer’s are doing. It just made me feel so good to read those words. It’s what we’ve all hoped and prayed for. Pictures are great! Looking forward to seeing you this summer…the ice is still not out! Soon!
All I can say is GOOD ON YOU!! I do visit this site off and on and feel such joy reading the recent entries… I am so glad to hear that all is spectacular in the Weafer world!
I’m still waiting on the book…!!
Beth
Heather, I’m so pleased to read your birthday post — it sounds like things are going so well! Enjoy your wonderful life. Even if the website has reached it’s natural end, I will continue to root for you and your family.
Love,
Joanne
Great pictures! Finn is becoming quite a handsome lad. Can’t wait to see all of you on one of those long summer days at the lake.
What a journey. Happy 1 Year re-birthday to all 3 of you. Love JP
HEYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How r u guys doin?
HUG AND KISSS FINN FOR MEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
love,
charlotte
You look gorgeous! I just hit the photo gallery.
Movie star:)
Good morning!
April! What a month, what a month. Hope you are well and wanting you and Dick to know that spring is on it’s way- I can only imagine how much water is pushing through the Sassanoa right now. Thinkof the logs that are moving just below the surface, moving down river where they can take up new residence. Just for the great blues and king fishers to roost and eat.
Just thought of you all this morning- it has been ages since I have seen or spoken to Dick, please give him our best. Shaye and John
Dear Heather,
What a joy to view your website. I do believe about you “Blooming in the Spring”. I feel the energy of it It defies logic, the coming of rebirth, renewing body and spirit and mind. But those flowers just keep blooming every year, and the grass grows green. Winter is so long (and dark) in Maine. You have place amazing light into what has been a time of mourning for me. Knowing you has eased the sorrow.
Oh the fun of feeling really, really strong again!
Heather,
I have to agree w/Nancy that you have not been on my mind daily - and that that is SUCH a good thing! I know you have been going through another trial in your life, but reading your latest post, shows us all - once again - your strength and the strength that you and Dick have together…truly an amazing love story you have shared with us all.
My love to you, Dick and Finn (and I love the new pictures - love your hair - you’re GORGEOUS!)
Pat
So wonderful to read your latest journal entry! Spring is a time of new life and so yours begins….your way with words and sharing your innermost thots truly move me. You downplay your courage, my dear, for so many people, for whatever reasons, would have given up when faced with the choices you’ve had to make this past year and a half. You (and Dick) have such wisdom for your age — you’ve gone thru many more trials than most of us will ever have to deal with in a lifetime. And have come out of them with more love and appreciation for one another and others. That is a wonderful gift. Thank you for continuing to share w/us. You remain an inspiration and help put the day-to-day piddly stuff in perspective.
PS You’ve also encouraged me to resume meditating! I started in the ’70s and have been hit or miss over the years, returning to it during difficult times and then letting it slide once Life settles down again. You and Dick have reminded me how important it is to take care of our own physical, emotional, and spiritual needs.
Hey Dick, Heather and Finn,
Hope that cold weather gave you an excuse to stay home and stay warm! Hats on everyone- hair or no hair- that winter chill that brings spring is getting to work. An aunt of mine once said that winter is the rest that spring needs, and that spring needed a long rest:) John and I are well and send our best to you three- wondering if the River is singing with ice these days or if it is just holding on tight to it all.
stay well,
Shaye and John
Hey, you guys!
I am writing to tell you how great it is that you have NOT been on my mind for a while - how’s that for a sentiment?! I have been operaitng under the assumption that no news is good news and that you three are just going about the normal business of living (for a change) and hopefully little by little moving away from the specter of illness.
I must tell you though, that if I ever have to wage a battle anything like what you all have been through this last year and a half, I can only hope to face it with the same strength and wisdom and determination. It has been nothing short of heroic - and I don’t even know the half of it!
I also can’t tell you how excited I am to finally meet Finn at Easter (you guys are going to NH, yes?) and to see you both.
As always- lots of love form everyone here. See you SOON!
XXXXXXOOOOOO Nancy
Hey Heather,
Loved Caberet - you are a wonderful actress - it was so good to see you up there, hamming it up with Craig in Mayflies - trying to get through Phillip Glass (great job everyone!), and so on.
I would wager that you did have a choice, and that it took every ounce of courage you had - you chose to hang in there so you could give birth to Finn, and then you chose live as much as it was in your power to do so. That’s no small pototoes.
All best - Morgan
Hi Heath,
I haven’t checked the website in a while, thought you may have been done posting. It was nice to get caught up today. I have heard bits and pieces through the grapevine but haven’t seen any updated pictures in a while. You’re looking great!
Maybe over the summer we can get all of the babies together. Adam is walking (trying to run after his bro), talking a little, and is starting to learn how to stand up for himself (a necessity in our house!). JD is doing karate, playing soccer and tomorrow is baseball sign up’s so things are busy, but a good busy!
You have continually been in our thoughts.
Much Love,
Jim
Hey Heather and Dick…From reading Pat’s post, we gather all is going well. So glad to hear that is the case. You know you are still in our thoughts and prayers at all times and we are so thankful for all the good news. Our love to you all, Perrys and Weafers. Carroll and Deanie
Well, girl! I never tire of hearing GOOD news!!!!!!! So glad your test results came out so well!! That news made my day!
AND, I hear Finn has conquered WALKING! What an amazing year this has been.
Hope to see you soon - don’t know when - but at least this summer.
My love to you and your boys,
Pat
Hi guys
I (and the rest of the Image Collection) cannot wait to see both of you and that baby and hug you with our own arms. Sounds like the play went well. Much love to you and your little family heather.
Hi Heather again..
Whe’re so proud to have your news again.. we are still checking you
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still also remember you..
the little finn seems to be very happy and fine.. we are happy for you Heather and Dick…
Say hello to him and big kiss for the little boy.. in one of your beautiful shots, Finn starts recognizing your camera!!! isn’t amazing…
Love to all…
Hi kids,
I’ve been very absent from this website, but you have been in my thoughts through these last couple of months as I’ve heard about these bumps in the road.
I, too, felt like I relived those two days in January w/Adam and Finn arriving back-to-back…waiting for YOUR news while in Maine with my new grandson.
I’ve just spent 1/2 an hour getting caught up with your thoughts and the pictures! AND I hear the Cabaret was WONDERFUL! Good for you, girl! Your strength, once again, has seen you through. And vegging out and watching 2 seasons of LOST sounds like a great way to have spent those crappy days - why NOT!
Back to the pictures - what fun that was for me. Finn is just such a cutie little BOY and I loved seeing all the cousins together. (So, in your “spare” time, I’d love you to email me that photo of the 5 “weafer”(willis) children. I just so need that one on my ‘frig!)
Just want you to know you are still in my thoughts and prayers.
Sending my love your way,
Pat
What a cutie he is! And that train cake is cool — my husband would love it (he’s a big train buff and has an HO set up in our basement)! Glad you all had a nice celebration and hope you’re staying warm in these chilly temps.
PS Your hair’s looking great
Heather, love the new pictures! Wow, time goes fast. I remember when the three babies all fit on one boppy together. Now they’re wrestling each other to the ground. Ella sure can’t get enough of that Finn!
You look great, too. Remember how far you’ve come in a year. Hugs to you and your boys.
Love,
Kimmie
Happy Birthday Finn! What a year. I hope to see you at Cabaret Heather! Don’t feel guilty about 2 seasons of Lost. My new husband and I did the same thing. Love, Alison
So glad to see a posting from you this morning - I’ve been worried something other than the busyness of the holidays was the reason, but am relieved you are all feeling better after battling the flu. As dreadful as it was, if you want to consider it another step toward ‘normal’ life, welcome back! And you WERE able to overcome it, post chemo weakness and all! I am further amazed and happy to hear of your upcoming theater work…don’t know that we can get down to see you, but I’m so glad to hear you’re back to doing something you truly love and will undoubtedly gain emotional and physical strength from. By the way, I read a terrific review of your book in a recent DOWNEAST magazine. I’m headed to Barnes & Noble to spend a gift certificate and plan to purchase it; maybe someday, even have an autographed copy. You are such an inspiration - all of you. Belated Happy Birthday to Finn ~
So glad things are going well - except for the flu, the runs, the porcelain bowl worship and skinny Finn. Sounds like things are better, though, and I am honored to have been part of the good will pointed in your direction - I am SO looking forward to Cabaret and to seeing you be a part of it all. And Happy Birthday to miracle boy - Capricorns are toughies. Ask me - January 12th (although skinny has never been part of my resume). : ^ ) All best, Morgan
Dear Heather and Dick…what a rollercoaster you two have been on. I think it’s time to get off and on to something a little flatter and slower. It’s wonderful to see you are back at the theater, which I know you love and enjoy. You are in our thoughts and prayers every day, as always. Our love to you three and all the Perrys and Weafers. C&D
So good to hear from you — and happy birthday to Finn! Congratulations on these tentative steps back to normalcy. Best of luck on banishing the remaining tendrils of steroids and narcotics.
Joanne
Happy Birthday to Finn.
Happy Birthday to Finn, and his happy birthday to both his parents.
Congrats Heather and Dick……what a first year it has been for all three of you.
Jean
A late Happy New Year all. Keep your eyes on the prize my friend. You have come a long way on your journey so far, and we are still here with you.
Skip
Happy Birthday Finn!
Thankfully in our house he was the only one who caught it, not something I would’ve been happy with.
This site was down a bit this wk and I was panicked I wouldn’t get to wish him a happy birthday on the site that’s kept me, and us, updated on his first year of life! What an amazing year, for all of you.
I hope you guys have a fantastic day celebrating and no more stomach bugs!!! David got hit w/it two and we ALSO spent New Year’s with a stinky baby boy
I’m thrilled to hear you are back in your acting mode and learning to live again. I can’t imagine all you have been through and think you’re really an inspiration Heather.
Much love to you, have a wonderful day tomorrow!
Love
Meg
Heather,
I just took a chance this morning and checked your site and was so happy to see that you had written. I had been checking off and on, knowing that the holidays and just life in general is busy, but was wondering how all of you were doing. Now I know! Not fair that you all had to get that nasty virus going around, happy to read that it’s behind you now. Once again I’m amazed at your strength and determination, and all that you do. I can only imagine the emotions you all have looking back at the past year. Want to wish Finn a very happy first birthday. I look forward to seeing the pictures. Enjoy that birthday cake!
Love, Joan
I was so moved and touched by reading your website. Nancy Peterson at Kent School offered me the website to read, as my son, a student at Kent, age 16, has Osteosarcoma. He had surgery to replace his knee/tibia and femur bone in 2005, followed by chemo. He had a recurrence to his lung in Sepetember and they removed it in October. His last scan showed a new nodule in his other lung. Thus, we are now facing surgery again. Not sure about going back on chemo unless after this surgery another nodule shows up. Anthony wants to be a normal 16 year old teenager and go to school and be with friends. He had to take a year off from school due to chemo and sickness, and doesn’t want to miss any more. Your website is so uplifting. Thank you
A very brief message this time - to wish you all a wonderful New Year filled with health, happiness, peace and continued blessings of healing. It’s hard to believe Finn will be celebrating his first birthday in a few weeks! PS A lovely posting by Heather’s dad
Jayne Winters
Hi guys - just wanted to say I hope you were able to enjoy your 1st Christmas. I heard you had quite an eventful Christmas Eve, poor things. Hope all is well now and you are getting some rest - I think it’s probably school vacation week for Dick and you are spending the week as a family.
Happy New Year!
Much love,
Meg
hello dear ones,
it seems that having you back in my life on a weekly basis has let me forget to check this website …. craig mentioned that there was a beautiful letter from Dick so I “tuned in” tonight. it, of course, made me cry. then i found the thank you from your parents, heath … with all the writing talent in this family finn will have to be very strong to resist the pull of the literary life! right now my money is on him being a musician but once he has a true vocabulary there will no stopping him!
i shall think a lot about the end of dick’s note. there has been something ‘divine’ about this journey that SO many people have taken with you - it has changed us all and made us better women, men and children. it is the most marvelous marriage of an intensely personal voyage and a universally taken trip. thank you for letting us be with you.
bonnie had a dream last night about ‘finnalicious’ walking on his own … that time is not long from now and it is one more indication of just how far you three have come. i wonder when each rehearsal with you heath, or quiet feeding with you, finn or mutual, twinkling laugh with you, dick will cease to feel like a gift? maybe never … because i don’t see the world the way i used to see it.
love to you and your family (official and otherwise) and a happy new year to all who visit this wonderful site and send their care and love so freely! - lee
If I don’t see you guys before the new year comes, HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!
It was so nice to see you guys last weekend and as always you made me feel pretty special and fortunate to have you guys in my life. I amm truely grateful for your friendship and love. Let the bells ring loud for the new year!!!!
Oh, and may the Mayflies fly high!!!
Love ya,
Craig
Hey Guys,
Just wanted to wish you both and Finn and everyone reading a very Merry and blessed Christmas and a New Year filled with hope, promise, peace and health.
xoxo
Sue
Hi Heather, ,Dick, and big boy Finn…I have not visited for a while but did alot of reading from the site tonight. I read all of Dick’s Nov. journal and it really is an inspirational tale. I admire how you both have worked at putting things directly out there for us all…the clearity and directness is helpful for me on my own journey ( which is going well, thank you). So much of your writings help me focus on a nowness…sometimes easy to miss but so rich when the awareness is refocused.
Fun to see the pictures of your beautiful boy. Have a joyous first Christmas with him…but somehow I think everyday must feel like Christmas with him…and each other.
Hugs to you from P Street.
Judy B.
Happy Holidays! Hope that you all have a wonderful Christmas and New Years together and that you, Dick get a full week of lounging while reading, playing with Finn and laughing with Heather. Christmas Vacation is one of the bene’s of teaching- hope your family enjoys it while it is here! Best, Shaye and John
Buona fortuna con il vostro luogo. E abbastanza nice=)
E luogo piacevole, devo dire! Buona fortuna a voi:)
Hi Heather,
Have been thinking about you a lot of late and the anticipation and excitement you and Dick must feel as you look towards Finn’s first Christmas. Happy Holidays and the very best wishes for health and happinessin 2007.
Jean Weatherbee
Heather, Dick and Finn,
I was going through my old e-mails deleted ones and came across your web-site. With my poor organizational skills I haven’t kept up with your continued stuggles and victories over the last year. I have certainly inquired and prayed for you all on occasions. I just wanted to note that my family is now going through a trying period, but it has nothing to do with physical stuggles for life. Reading over your latest entries have really put our stuggles in perspective and you have helped me to realize what our family should be focusing on, the love and health of one another. I admire your courage and fight, your all are surrounded with a wonderful family and with that you have shown, you can beat just about anything. Good luck to your continued recovery and thank you for the inspiration you have provided to me and the message of importance. I wish you all a wonderful time together in health during the upcoming vacation.
In inspiration and thanks,
Blair C. Dwyer
Heather, Dick and Finn,
Hi dear friends Heather, Finn and Dick…
happy thanksgiving to all of you..
have great times Heather, you are right, it’s been a year passed you lived in tough moments full of challenges and difficulties, but we are so glad it finally ended and you could learn a lot of things in this life..
Don’t thank us heather, it is our duty to share with you bad or good times!! And as you said in your website, we think you are lucky, you have Dick beside you, he is really a good and a gentle man, say to him hello for us..
bear in mind that we are still thinking of all of you..
our best wishes from Morocco -in Biougra- to you…
Heather and Dick,
I am so glad I took the time to check your webiste this morning.
I have thought of you both so often these last couple of weeks - remembering last Thanksgiving and being so aware that this anniversary of sorts was here.
What beautiful words you both have once again written.
I applaud your strength, once again.
Just wanted you to know that I’m thinking of you this morning.
Hopefully, we’ll get up there this winter for a quick visit and be able to see you and check out how much Finn has grown. I haven’t see him since the summer.
Love you all,
Pat
Dear Heather and Dick…Just a note to say hello and that you remain in our thoughts and prayers at all times…you are truly two remarkable people. I also see that eloquence runs in the Perry family. Not surprising. I gather you had a wonderful Thanksgiving with your families. We did also…got together at the lake with beautiful 70 degree weather and blue skies. This October and November have just been glorious. Too bad it will probably end soon but our winters are not too bad. As always, our love to you and all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll and Deanie
hey there dick and heather,
i have lived my life listening to others, internalizing thier insight, and connecting it to my life. by far both of your insights have impacted my world the most and the letter that you wrote heath dick… is hitting me like a ton of bricks. (in a positive way)
love you both, mare
Dear Dick and Heather,
I feel like I have just experienced the truest Thanksgiving prayer in Heather’s email and Dick’s beautiful letter to Heather.
We all do have so much to be thankful for; we all have our heartbreaking struggles, but we have a purpose and we have strength behind and beyond that purpose to guide us.
The old man in the green hat said it best, “Be Still”…there is peace and joy in that stillness. Thank you.
With love from Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose
I could be mistaken but i believe i saw you at my restaurant (the Prodigal Sun). I happened upon your journal on my girlfriends laptop, and must say i am touched. As a father i could never imagine what you are going through. However you are a inspiration to all with your your will and desire. I wish you the best and continued strength. I wish you well through the holiday seasons.
Bill
I know I have been quiet until now, but as I sat at the Thanksgiving table yesterday seeing our wonderful extended family, I thought this is the time for us to count our blessings and to give thanks for those blessings. So, here goes….As I write this, I know how award winners must feel…Who do you thank first?
Certainly I must thank Heather’s doctors, Dr. Joyce and Dr. Buff. These two doctors never wavered in their optimism and their plan to make Heather well again. I will thank them for the rest of my life for their determination and care. In thanking doctors, I must not forget Dr. Takudis. She was the watchdog for Finn. She knew exactly what was best for him because I am blessed with a wonderful, beautiful, and, most of all, healthy Grandson. Also, I need to say that the nurses BIDC and especially at Mid Coast made me understand just how important and valuable nurses are. They are amazing people.
I also need to say to all fathers of daughters: I can only wish for you that you can be fortunate enough to have a Son-in-Law like Dick. He is truly a father’s dream for his daughter. Watching him step up when he was thrust into a situation like this…watching him be a man any father can be proud to call son when most average men would crumble, and watching him fight as hard as Heather for her life should be an inspiration to any husband. He was a rock of support, not only for Heather, but for Heather’s mom and me. I know how much he was suffering and how scared he was but, he was still there when any of us needed him. Thank God for Dick.
However, I cannot thank Dick without thanking his family, too…or, I guess I could hope to say our family. Don and Kathy are responsible for raising such a wonderful, giving family. A family who think of others first and who are not afraid to show their love and emotion. I thank them for welcoming Heather as one of them, in spite of the foibles of her family. They are truly good and wonderful people and I am blessed to know them. Don with his calming and healing touch. Kathy just doing what had to be done emotionally and physically. When people ask heroes why they did heroic things, the answer is “it needed doing, so I just did it.” Don and Kathy are true heroes.
Don and Sarah gave undying support; spent nights with Heather in the hospital helping her through her ordeals. No one can put a value on that kind of love.
Kim and Tiffany. How does one thank them? Kim pregnant with twins and yet they opened their home and their hearts to Lucille and I. I don’t know how we would have gotten through this without them. The thought of sitting alone in a cold, emotionless hotel room while your daughter is battling the fight of her life is terrible. It was always wonderful to come back to their home after being at the hospital with Heather and finding the love and warmth that they both give.
Wendy. What can I say? True friend? She is so very much more than that. Sister? She is more than that, too. She is a God-send. I am truly at a loss for words to thank her. Wendy, I don’t know what Heather would have done…or any of us would have done without you. You are always there….just taken for granted. But, I always thought it was a compliment to be taken for granted…for one to know that you are always there; always to be depended upon. As I said, I am at a loss for words, so I will just say Thank you for being Wendy.
Jen, who administers the website, and still finds the time to be with Heather when she needs her. Another true friend. Another blessing in our lives.
Finally, but certainly not least, there are all of you wonderful people who through this website give your undaunting support. It makes us feel there is always hope. It makes us know that if love and prayer help, our daughter will win this battle. No person has ever been armed for a life battle with as much love and prayer as you all provided. I can’t begin to tell you how important your messages are, not only to Heather, but to Lucille and me. When we are feeling down, we come to this site and read all the words of love and support that you all provide. When Heather was at her darkest, Dick would read her the entries and one could sit there and watch her draw strength and love from them and use that to fight this evil enemy. I believe that cancer is the most evil of diseases because it not only attacks the body, but attacks the soul. Lucille and I have watched as loved ones stricken, would finally just give up and surrender to this insidious disease. You never let Heather do that. My God! I believe that cancer demon was very sorry that he tackled Heather, for surely she, and her army were the wrong enemy for it. She and her allies are unbeatable.
We know we are not completely out of the woods yet, or even that we may never be. But, we can see daylight, and while it was dark for a long while, we could always look up and see the light of your love showing us the way. If anyone ever doubts just how good people can be, they only need to read this website and they will know. I thank every last one of you for giving us our daughter back. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
Joe and Lucille Perry
Happy Thanksgiving to all - and to all a good repast, represent, and refuture. You’ve said all the words and felt all the feelings - thanks for the courage to share all of them, the good, the bad, and the rest with all of us this year. You are both such amazing people. Finn has fantastic taste in music, incidently - Lee says he prefers my CD over any other. : ^ )
All the best to you.
Morgan
Thanksgiving….it’s amazing how we look at the holidays differently with each year that passes. We do, indeed, count and appreciate our blessings. Our family, our friends, our experiences (good as well as bad) for helping to shape us into the people God intended us to be. In church on Sunday, Pastor Jim said people often ask, “Where is God? Why did He let this happen?” yet there is nowhere in the Bible that promises us a lifetime of good and happy times. What God DOES promise is to always be there with us. And so He is.
I am thankful for having known you, Heather, tho only through a few occasions at DMR. I am thankful for your and Dick’s desire and ability to share your lives with us, for articulating so perfectly thoughts that many of us have swirling around inside us yet cannot put down on paper as we would like. I am thankful that you have had the strength, physically and emotionally, to get thru this past year. I am thankful Finn is such a healthy, handsome, joy-filled little boy. I am thankful you have voiced what it’s like to be pushed to the edge and seen the view from there. My husband is a cancer survivor and I can identify with the fear, the anxiety, the not-knowing. Yet I knew, somehow, that he would beat it. And he has. And so have you, Heather.
You’re right, there are no guarantees in Life. It is up to us to not take it for granted, to try and enjoy every single day - even when we feel lousy. Take time to notice the smell of fresh rain, the rainbow, the snowflakes, the smell of baking bread, the laughter of a child.
Congratulations and may this Thanksgiving hold very special memories and blessings for you and your family. Jayne Winters
Hi Heather, Dick, Finn and the rest of the Perry/ Weaf clan,
We are coming up on Thanksgiving and I would like to say that I give thanks for each of you and the blessings that you give each other. I so appreciate being able to read your intimate thoughts, and be part of the loving nature of your friends and community. Checking in here and seeing what has been written helps me (a satelite of your world) work through my greif over your families cancer trials, and nurtures my hopes for your future.
I think the posting that most strikes me today is from the nurse at your hospital that writes to you that she saw your Hawk. I delighted in the fact that nature exists everywhere, and that this woman who meets hundreds of people each year found you.
I hope that your thanksgiving day and those that follow are filled with lots of drolling children and dogs, and that you all enjoy the gravy.
SMR
Hi Guys,
Thank you both for being so open during this past year. Your battle became the battle of others, and our prayers and hope became yours. You have taught me quite a bit over the past months.
Dick, I was moved by your letter to Heather. Your honesty and realism through a time that most couldn’t imagine, is appreciated. You put things in such perspective.
Have a great Thanksgiving; you’ll be in my thoughts as always.
Much Love
Jim
You two are just amazing.
I needed to read something like that tonight.
Somehow, through all this, you’ve managed to help ME at the right times - just by being who you are.
I love you both. Kiss Finn for me
Meg
During the first half of today’s Patriot’s game, I was acutely aware that a year ago on this Sunday during the first half of another Patriot’s game I got a call from Dick that he needed me, because he could no longer deal with Heather’s sciatic pain alone. I rushed over and helped hold her until 3AM when Dick and I looked over the bed at each other and acknowledged that we were in over our heads and took Heather to the Midcoast emergency room . In a matter of several hours we got the news that changed our lives. So this is an anniversary of sorts, and I cannot help but wonder what the next year will hold. During the last, we have battled cancer , greeted three new grandchildren, lost both of our beloved Newfs and welcomed two more. We have faced death and embraced new life. So I rest in the relative peace of this Sunday and am thankful.
Hey guys.
Greg and I were talking yesterday and he pointed out that a year ago this weekend (I think) we were at your baby shower, and how amazing it is all that’s happened since. What an absolutely incredible year for you all! You’ve had a heck of a fight - and a beautiful baby, and we’re so proud of you.
Lots of love and a happy Thanksgiving in case I’m not able to get on here before then!
Meg, Greg, Liv and David
Hey there cous… It has been a while, and I am soooo sory for that. It has been quite hectic in good old Va Beach, not that that is any kind of excuse. We are planning a trip to Ct. between Christmas and New Years and then another in the spring. We must make some time to get together, it would be nice to have the whole family together at one time again. Please say hi to everyone for me and I hope to see you soon.
Love Ant
Wow, you’re closing in on a year since your diagnosis. I still tear up when I think of that phone call from Mom Weaf and I smile when I recall those morphine moments. It’s been a hard year but we’ve also had many blessings. I am in awe of your strength. Remember how far you’ve come. We’ll see you next week.
Love,
Kimmie, Tiff, Bo and Ella
I just wanted to let you know that I see “your” hawk all the time
from our break room on the 11th floor. I always think
of you…..
xx
Amy
your L/D nurse
Heather,
I think you did a great job explaining to all of us who read your website, just how frightening it can be when you feel something is the least bit different, changed, or new. And the cripling fear that hovers while you go through every scan and test to show that you are “ok”. It is something that everyone who has ever been in your position lives with, adjusts to, and eventually finds someway to live with. I believe it will get easier for all of you with time. The important thing is, you are ok, and in spite of everything you were going through, you enjoyed Finn’s first Halloween and even took him to his first swim at the pool. The pictures are great, he looks so much bigger than when I saw him in July. He’ll be in that Moosehead sweatshirt before we know it!
Sending all our best ot all of you!
Joan
So nice to hear an update from you - I’ve been wondering how you all have been doing. I’m happy to hear you are ok after such a scare. I can’t imagine how it feels to have some new “symptom” and be panicked that it means something awful. I think it will be a while before you get to a normal place w/that….
Finn is adorable! I can’t get over how big he is. Can you believe it? Every month that goes by w/my own kids really boggles my mind. They change so much the first couple of years. Finn, though, remains so handsome and still the spitting image of his mommy
Lots of Love,
Meg
hi you three,
i’m thinking of you tonight. how have you been doing? sending my love from up north!
Hey, Heather and Dick…just a note to say hello and that you are still in our thoughts and prayers at all times. We hope all is progressing well and that you are getting stronger with every passing day. We’ve had a lovely fall this year…we’ve spent a lot of time at the lake where the foliage has been very pretty. Still warm enough to get out in the kayaks…I’ve been trying to do some bird photography with a zoom lens from the kayak and also through a spotting scope on shore. Have had some moderate success but nothing beyond that. As winter approaches we are beginning to see cormorants and loons along with the usual herons and egrets. The ospreys have pretty much gone, however. As always, we send our love to you three and all the Perrys and Weafers…C&D
Luogo interessante, buon disegno, lo gradisco, signore! =)
I’m not saying that I will never moan and groan again as I struggle through my Bikram Yoga class, or as I trudge up some hill in Litchfield, or even walk across a parking lot on a cold day because I probably will…but after reading your poemI think I will stop and change my attitude! You are such an inspiring woman! Dick, you are a blessed man!
Beth
Happy Halloween Dear Ones,
This is Finn’s first Halloween - a landmark for us all. Did he dress up for the occasion? (if so, pictures, please) I hope that all is well with physical therapy, pool sessions, tests and the various hurdles that seem to crop up before you! We ALL always have the 3 Weafs in our minds and hearts. Keep on truckin’. xxxl.
Luogo interessante, buon disegno, lo gradisco, signore! =)
Heather,
I’ve sort of (underline sort of) lived this with you, Dick and Finn and I still can’t even imagine. I still can’t even imagine … can this possibly be real?
I know you are tired, but you are also brave and alive. Brave and alive is limping around that track. Brave and alive is getting up every morning and looking in the mirror seeing a bald, puffy stranger. Brave and alive is having to drive to Boston 1-2 times a week praying for good news. Brave and alive is telling me everything is good when I call to check in when I know it’s not because I just talked to Mom Weaf. So try not to worry about your future. You are more beautiful and more alive now then you ever were with hair. If we could all be as honest with ourselves as you are with yourself.
I have so much more to write but Ella is chewing on Pearl’s rawhide bone and Bo is pulling out every CD we own. You know how it is. Gotta go.
Love you lots,
Kimmie
Dear Heather,
Your poem is one of the most beautiful pieces of writing I have ever encountered. It makes me feel empowered; I think it will make many people feel empowered. If you can fight as hard as you are fighting, why can’t the rest of us do the same? You are truly an inspiration to us all.
October 17, the day of your poem/prayer, was the Celestial Trigger Day, according to my friend Anneke who dedicates much of her life to meditating alone where she lives in the Arizona desert. On that day, all wishes and prayers were infinitely more powerful than usual. You found new strength on that day; and you prayed on that day; and you wrote on that day. May the power of your words be increased a hundred fold. Love to you and Dick and Finn. Power to you and Dick and Finn!
Love, Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose
Heather, I can’t stop thinking about your poem. Reading you journey (and Dick’s) has changed my perspective forever. So many go through the motions of living their life. You do not and anyone who knows you won’t either. Thank you, Alison
sniff.
SMR
Heather! You may not remember me. I gave you a massage at Sweetwater Day Spa this summer! It was awesome to find you page. I am no longer doing massage, but do work for the Y in Bath and was blown away to find your poem. Our staff have read it and we cannot tell you how moved we all are. We wish you the best and know that our thoughts are with you. It is so good to see you on the road to recovery and it is even more awesome to see your beautiful baby!! Take Care Amy
Tomorrow morning when I head down to my treadmill, thinking, it’s Friday, why don’t I just skip it today, I will be thinking of you, and it will make it that much easier to hop on there! You’ve inspired me once again……..thank you!
Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re doing a great job!
Love, Joan
Wow — what a great post! In expressing your own struggles, you just gave me a perfect example of something I’ve been thinking about all morning. I’ve hurt my shoulder and groin at the same time, so I can’t swim or run right now. Instead of going to the Y this morning to water jog and do my PT exercises, I stayed home and pouted. Then it occurred to me that this is the difference between a true champion and an also ran: the true champion does the work even when it’s not fun, or flashy, or immediately gratifying. You, my friend, are a true champion, and I am going to the Y after work.
Love, as always,
Joanne
Thank you for that beautiful posting. What a writer you are … What a woman you are … Thanks too for trying so hard for so long. We all love you. xxxl.
Heather,
You are so strong. Keep moving, keep believing…
I’m moved by your strength, courage and tenacity Heather.
Thinking of you……
Don
You are amazing.
Love,
I love you.
You teach me everyday.
Thank you.
I am a better person.
Wendy
SO GOOD.
Heather…quite a visit to the Y. I know they will become less and less of an ordeal and more and more rewarding. One thing to remember, however…never underestimate the white haired old men. Our love to you, Dick, Finn and all Perrys and Weafers…Carroll
Hey, Heather…so glad to read your most recent post and see how well you are doing. We pray for your continued recovery and regained strength. You and Dick remain in our thoughts and prayers at all times. Our love to all…Carroll and Deanie
Hey girlee,
Heard tons bout your recovery. Craig speaks nothing but praise. You rock. Life in Cali is what it is as I try to follow a dream. www.pilotproject07.com is where I have been the last three months. I will say this much. I found out about what had happened when I was in Joshua tree, and i did a little prayer. Hope it helped. When I come home, want a beer at the Sea Dog. Winter. Take care and say hi to Dick and the little one. I keep on pursuing the dream. Love ya. Kurt E
Heather,
You make me smile. How wonderful to hear you so happy, healthy - you have come so far. How wonderful to be able to say to you again, you make me smile.
I haven’t gone to the photos yet (sometimes I have trouble getting them) so I’ll try that now.
You just made MY day, girl!!!
Love,
Pat
Heather,Dick and Finn,
I have at last made it to your page! What a wonderful and beautiful site. You all look so amazing! With everything that you have been going through you all look so wonderful. The love that you have for each other is evident in the photos. Finn looks so wise! I’m always thinking of you guys and I always send prayers out to you on the smoke from the sage I burn. I love you all and can’t wait till Caberet!! There will always be a special place in my heart for Mayfiles.
Thank you,Thank you, Thank you!
I wonder what Caberet will be like when we do it at Chris and Al’s age!?
I love you and If you ever need anything at all please call.
Craig
Oh, you sound so wonderful and optimistic!
The henna stuff looks really cool — if a bird pooping did that, it’s one talented bird!
Joanne
Hey Dick,
Heather made you cookies and you didn’t bring any to school? What’s up with that. Remember all of us little people next time Heather bakes for you!
Lou
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Heather,
I was just checking in again and picturing Finn, warm and sweet from a bath, dressed in fuzzy pjs with the feet, settling in for a snuggle with you before bed. My own Finn bug (Temple bug) is now too big for those pjs with the feet and he has his first loose tooth! I feel like he is graduating from college, yikes!!! I miss those eight-month-old days. Give Finn a BIG SQUEEZE and a nibble on those sweet soft checks for me.
Hey, Heather and Dick…just a short note to touch base and say you remain in our thoughts and prayers 24/7. We hope all is progressing well and send our love to all Perrys and Weafers. The weather has definitely turned a little cooler down here…high today is supposed to be in the 60s. But we love the fall weather and look forward to it. Going down to Bluffton next week for a few days and will remember our good times there with you two. We look forward to doing it again in the future…next time with the mighty Finn. We love you both, or I should say, you three. Carroll and Deanie
Heather,
I hope that I didn’t offend you with the last message that I sent. I said that when I saw the pictures of you in the hospital looking drained and grey it made me angry. I said that I wanted you to be that little engine at the top of the mountain shouting, “I thought I could, I thought I could!” You’ve been through cancer training and cancer boot camp and you’ve been out there on the battlefield. You have kicked some major cancer butt. I just want cancer to leave you alone, I think it has taught you enough already! I don’t mean to sound all high and mighty or like I know what is best for you. I just want you to be all better and I’m not as patient or as understanding and peaceful as you seem to be!
Thanks so much for the continued sharing and updates. Life is filled with peaks and valleys; we shouldn’t expect any less of your ongoing recovery, but how wonderful it is to read of your walks with Finny, enjoying the crisp fall air and the colors of this special season. You have all come so far in 12mos….We continue to send prayers for restful days and nights, giving your body and spirit the time needed to pursue your “new” projects. I so admire your love of life, even during the disappointing times. Do you realize how difficult change is for most of us? And here you are, embracing and seeking new music, new art, new baby food, new everything. Most of the messages focus on you, Dick, and Fin, but I have to say a great deal of credit (if that’s the word) for your courage and grace and perserverance must be attributed to your parents and extended family, for they were instrumental in the development of Baby Heather thirty-something years ago. They must be very proud of the young woman and mother you have become, and likewise Dick’s family. Your love and strength as individuals and a couple are truly unique in today’s world. I must end, but wanted to also thank you for the new photos. I LOVE the picture of you and Finn reading on the couch, and the one with him snuggling on your chest. What an absolute angel he is! Take care guys ~
Ah, October. I love October. It’s so full of…Fall. Rarely — if any — freak heat waves. Instead, cool, steady weather that warms up in the center of the day, and then cools down in the evening. Much like our energy. S-t-r-e-t-c-h-i-n-g in the morning and reaching into the afternoon, then c-u-r-l-i-n-g u-p again as the sun sets.
I hope you are enjoying some languid days with Finn. Do not fret about being productive. There will be plenty of time for that. When you have the energy, good. And when you don’t, submit yourself to doing nothing. There should be no guilt, no pain, in doing that. You have earned each and every moment of your life. Enjoy it. It is a rich life full of love, and life, and hope.
You’re just awesome.
xxxoo Di
Dear Ones,
I just had a delightful romp through the photo gallery. There are lots of great new ones … and, yes folks, Finn really is that adorable and ‘lit-up’ ! Have you decided on a Halloween costume for him yet? (a bug seems appropriate!) You have so many wonderful ‘firsts’ to look forward to as a family. Aren’t we all lucky? xxxl.
Okay, I’ll try that AGAIN - don’t know how that happened!
Heather and Dick,
Talked w/G&G tonight and heard you had good results today in Boston - good, good, good. I’m alwlays thinking of you both and glad that this week ended up a good one for you. Have fun tomorrow; I hear there’s a book signing . . .sorry I can’t be at this one!
Kisses to Finn,
Love
Pat
Heather and Dick,
Hi Heather and Dick…Just a short note to say you all are in our thoughts every day. We hope all is well and that you are feeling better and better with every day.
hello dear Heather, Finn and Dick again,
so happy to hearing from you.. glad to see you in fine, great energy as well, we’re still with you and thinking about you..
Give the little Finn our loves and our greeting to Dick..
Your friends from Morocco.
Hi Heath, just read your last message. You are the bravest person I know. Glad to hear that you are having good days. I can’t wait until they are all good ones. Finn is such a doll. He looks alot like you. I am so happy you got to experience what motherhood is. There is nothing like it. I’m at work now, so gotta go. My love to all of you. Love Aunt Robin
Heather, you are a champ and a fighter and just so amazing. Your resolve, your outlook, your courage, your strength, your perserverence continues to impress me. Little Finn is so beautiful and looks like such a happy guy — his smiles lighten my heart, so I can only imagine how he melts yours. I send positive thoughts of healing and strength and patience to let ithe healing take it’s time. Keep resting, nourishing, building strength and keep writing. We are all following your journey and learing from you and your strength. You are a fighter and you have won, now just let your body heal . .. . and then come visit us !!
Take care of yourself, we are still with you. -stacy
Heather,
Maria told me about your website, and I apologize for not writing sooner.
You are an incredibly strong person (you always were), and you have a beautiful family.
Heartfelt wishes for a complete and speeded recovery,
- Phyllis
(from GHS, and a lot of theatre from way back when…)
Heather and Dick,
I’m retired, and with the time I have now, I made it a point to look for your website because Don had mentioned it to me a few times. Your journals have brought me to tears a variety of times. Your courage, strength, reliance on each other is inspirational to all couples, and will get you through all of this. You are going through situations that most couples never fathom in their lives. I know it’s trite, but this adversity will get you through anything else that you might face in the future. I want you to know, Heather, that I have all sorts of time to help out with rides, appointments, etc. Please telephone or email me if you need anything. Dick can vouch for my reliability. I think. Dick, you’ll vouch for me, won’t you?
All my best thoughts for you.
Jack
Think of you often and the incredible journey you and your family have been navigating this last year and am hoping that safe harbor is now in sight. Loved the picture of you and Finn on the couch reading together.
Jean
It hasn’t even been a year since this all started. Can you believe it? Not even a year. And yet I’m sure it feels like years since you first found out you were pregnant. That innocent couple all excited about the new person growing inside. Yet Finny was not the only thing growing inside — not fair! And yet, he has handled it all so well. You and your family and your close friends have all handled it so well.
I’ll be thinking of you as you grapple with whether or not it’s time to surrender or to push yourself just a bit. Despite all you’ve managed to handle in a year, there is no race now — you needn’t rush this part. As you said, it’s time for new beginnings…so enjoy them as they slowly unfurl, shift, take shape, and shift again.
Hoping to talk to you again soon, and maybe even see you. But I really want to make sure I’m all well again, so am going to play it very safe. I do not want to be the one to contribute to a downturn!
Much love, Di
Hey! I’m still thinking and praying for you guys! Heather, that picture of you and Finn together, grinning from ear to ear takes my breath away. The baldness and the rebirth…so amazing. My love, Alison
So good to hear from you. Finn is just beautiful! I fear David is already his size, can you believe that? They’ll be good playmates when the family gets together. Babies galore! I love the picture of him sleeping. And hearing how he seems to just know what you need melted my heart. For having such a short life so far, he sure seems to have a lot of important knowledge doesn’t he? What an angel.
Keep us posted. Enjoy your walks during the fall! Hope to talk to you soon.
Love to you, Dick and Finn,
Meg
Hey Heather,
Re: Bumps in the road. Please know you have a plethora of shock absorbers out here. Beautiful, beautiful baby boy. Lee tells me he’s a gem to care for. You’re a champ!
Best to all of you,
Morgan
Hi, Heather. So now we know what the bumps in the road were. I suppose it’s some comfort to know that these are known complications of the process and not some new challenge. Enjoy the beautiful weather when you can. I love the new photos.
Joanne
Heather,
What a joy it is to see photos of you and Finn together again! What a handsome boy he’s growing into, there is such joy and wisdom in that sweet soft face. To tell you the truth I feel angry when I look at the photos of you in the hospital. I see all the brightness, the joy, the humor, the light, the life drained out of you and it makes me angry. I don’t want you to be, “The Little Engine That Could” chugging up that damn mountain chanting “I think I can, I think I can…” I don’t want you to be Sisyphus still pushing that bolder up the same damn hill. I want you to be at the top shouting, “I thought I could, I thought I could…!” Love and best wishes to you, Dick ,and Finn bug. Jess
Hi Heather,
Still here, still reading, still caring, still sending those positive vibes. We folks out here are covering your back! Step back and look, you’re talking about building your strength back and not about yet another treatment, Hooray!
Skip
Thanks for your update Heather. It helped to calm the concern I was having. You’re in my thoughts often. Love the new photos!
Don
Hi Heather,
Its nice to hear from you. We continue to think about and pray for you. Those pictures of Finn are so nice. I don’t know if I’ve ever seen a baby that looks like BOTH of his parent so much.
I look forward to the day we can get our kids together as the babies are but a day apart. Adam is a big boy, 23 pounds! Maybe he’ll start to sleep soon?
Continue to take care of yourself. You’re in our thoughts always.
Jim
Hi Heather,
Thank you, thank you, for writing and letting us know how you are doing, have been anxiouly awaiting any news. All in all, I hear good things, and am, as always, amazed at how you handle all that you do. Your triathalon day sounds incredible, and to read how sensitive little Finn is and instinctively knows about being on his best behavior! Speaking of Finn, he has changed a lot since I saw him in July, what a cutie. I remember those quiet little cuddle moments, they’re the best. I’m glad you and Finn are out enjoying these beautiful September days. Think of you every day, all our best to you, Dick and little Finn.
Love, Joan
I’m still here, too! I’m sorry things haven’t been bump-free. I hope the road smooths out from now on. If only life came with shock-absorbers …
Joanne
You bet we’re still here! As we’ve been getting back into the school year, we’ve though about how you and Dick must be juggling the new schedule. We’re anxious to hear how your check up went, Heather, and how you’re doing.
Love,
Christy & Erik
Heather and Dick,
Talked to Donnie yesterday and it seems that your trip to Boston gave you a lot of positive information and explanations. Thank goodness. This will all be worth it, kids, I know you just want it all to be DONE - that’s what all of us want for you too - just hang in there…and keep drawing from your inner faith and strength. It’s already been a very long road - I remember the baby shower, before you “knew” - I hope you are rounding a bend on the road to healing and wellness.
As I watch my two new grandsons grow leaps and bounds (AND Bo and Ella!) I know you are watching Finn develop and grow - it’s an amazing time. . . . .
You are always in my heart and thoughts.
Pat
I’m still here
I’m wrapped up in the busy world of work and babies but think of you guys daily and still check this thing daily. I’m getting sporadic emails from mom and knew things weren’t as smooth sailing as we (and you) had hoped. Update when you can. We’re all still here for you.
Love,
Dick and Heather,
Ups and downs, ups and downs. You are still always in my thoughts. Things have been very busy here for some reason. I guess it’s Fall. I am still fighting the fact that summer’s over . . . .
Keep up your emotional strength, you two, for that, I think, is what will help you through this recovery period. I will I could “zap” you to be fully recovered.
Kisses to Finn
Love
Pat
dear Heather, Dick and Finn…
hello again.. we’re so glad to listen from these news, so happy to find you in the site and your home- “home sweet home” -writting again and expressing your own feeling, thoughts and enjoying yourself!!..
we’re doing well here in Morocco this summer ….
cogratulation again for you , for your small familly as well…
Your friends
Rachid
Mohamed
Hey, Heather and Dick…just a note to say hey and that you are still in our thoughts and prayers, as ever. We hope you are doing well and getting your life back to normal. We had a good labor day weekend at Bluffton…the weather was good and we were with good friends. We are headed back up to the lake today. The weather is beginning to moderate and we look forward to fall. We saw Linda while at Bluffton and she brought May over for a visit. Linda said she got real excited as they neared the house and she ran all over the yard at breakneck speed after getting out of the car. I really think she remembered those days 10 years ago. We love you both and send our love to all the Weafers and Perrys. Carroll and Deanie
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn -
You have been such an inspiration to me. I find myself seeing life a little differently everytime I read your reflections and the posts. You are in my prayers.
Reba is coming home from Morocco a couple of months earlier than originally planned. I believe she will be back in Maine sometime next week and she will surely want to connect with you, Heather. She is very emotional about leaving her extended family, particularly Mohammed……….
Sending you lots of love and light,
jody
Hey cutie pies! Hope everyone is settling into some sort of routine now. Not much to say, except that we’re still thinking of you.
xxoo Di
Heather, I hope you are finding yourself again. Best wishes, Jess
Hi Heather,
Glad you’ve made it home. Wow, what an experience that chemo treatment sounded like - you are incredibly brave. Just wanted you to know I’m still thinking of you and wishing you well and hope that we see each other sooner rather than later.
best wishes for continued rest, strength and loving!
Keisha
Why am I not surprised that you have come home earlier than most patients? That your blood work showed amazing improvement so quickly? That love continues to embrace you, from family and friends to those of us who know you only slightly? That your book would be sold out? That you have the grace and spirit to update your own comments for us, so that we can share your wonderful news? I envision you and Dick snuggling with Finn, moving into this new chapter of your lives and entering it with a wisdom and appreciation never thot possible. I hate to sound like a Pollyanna, but I am a firm believer in everything happening for a reason, even cancer and the pain and suffering that accompany it. Without the tough times, we certainly could not recognize and cherish the good. No one ever said Life was easy - altho for some reason I expected it to be as I got older?! - but Faith always brings us through it. I’ve read somewhere that “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a dream and today is a gift. That’s why we call it the present.” Like you said, all there is is NOW. Happy snuggling!
You will have my support forever… forget “just a short while longer”. Always in my thoughts. I cannot wait to see you, Dick and the baby, again. We’ll smudge and drum circle and dance in the moonlight.
Love you always, your friend Tam
Hi Heather,
Thanks for keeping us all up to date on your progress, and I do mean progress. That’s what I read in your words, that you are moving forward. You have been through an incredible time and I’m sure every day brings new feelings and emotions as you move further away from the depths of murkiness. So glad you’re back home now, hopefully enjoying these last days of August. We think of you often and look forward to your updates. I remember just a year ago this labor day weekend, we heard the good news that you were pregnant! Take care.
Love, Joan
Dear Heather and Dick…just a note to say we’re thinking about you and hope all is proceeding well. We spent a few days at our lake house last week and had a couple of beautiful days…got our sailboat in a couple of times and really enjoyed it. Then the heat and humidity came back. We’re back in Columbia and getting ready for Labor Day with friends at Bluffton. Normally we’d go down tomorrow but will probably wait until Thursday or Friday after the passing of Ernesto. Please know you are still in our thoughts all the time and we pray for your continued recovery. Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers. C&D
I, like many others, have been regularly tracking your journey online, quietly, sending my thoughts. I will rejoice in seeing the newly borne beautiful butterfly who will emerge from the cocoon!
…ditto (Lou Sullivan’s post). Enjoy every moment!
Hi Heather and Dick,
I’ve visited the site several times since your last post, Heather, and can’t help noticing that you have rendered us all pretty much speechless! I sense that we are all heaving a collective sigh of relief. It feels sort of like maybe you just swam across an ocean, and all you really need right now is to lie on the shore and recover for a bit. As if you are getting your wind back, and since the main challenge is behind you none of us knows what’s next. (welcome to life, right?)
So there is a sort of silence on the website now. I remember in my counseling courses learning that silence is not a bad thing, so when I visit your site and find the quiet of the page I just enjoy it. . . . soak it in. . . . remember the past year or so . . . wonder who else is visiting with me . . . add my prayer for continued recovery. Welcome home Heather. Welcome back to school Dick. Peace to your family.
Love,
Lou
heather:
my pryers go out to you. i’m hopeful, just by reading your hopes. i’m buoyed by your accomplishments. you will be fine - wonderful, and fine.
and i’m a little jealous that you’re in Bath.
hee.
take care of you.
Hi guys - I read this when you posted it Heather, I just felt like I should have something meaningful to say. After a few days, I just wanted to say how glad I am that you’re home and that you’re finally starting this next chapter with your family. I hope that you never put a period on the end of this sentence! I love checking here for updates, and when we have a healthy Heather, I think you should maintain this when you can with updates for all of us on yourself and of course Finn
But hey, that’s just me! I hope you guys have a great weekend.
Much love,
Meg
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn,
Just a quick note to say we really miss you. Looks like we’ll have to join a play group. It sure is quiet around here! So happy you are home and have your family together again. Can’t wait to see you and the adorable little Finn Bug.
Love,
Kimmie, Tiff, Bo and Ella
Coming Home
by Mary Oliver
When we’re driving, in the dark,
on the long road
to Provincetown, which lies empty
for miles, when we’re weary,
when the buildings
and the scrub pines lose
their familiar look,
I imagine us rising
from the speeding car,
I imagine us seeing
everything from another place - the top
of one of the pale dunes
or the deep and nameless
fields of the sea -
and what we see is the world
that cannot cherish us
but which we cherish,
and what we see is our life
moving like that,
along the dark edges
of everything - the headlights
like lanterns
sweeping the blackness -
believing in a thousand
fragile and unprovable things,
looking out for sorrow,
slowing down for happiness,
making the right turns
right down to the thumping
barriers to the sea,
the swirling waves,
the narrow streets, the houses,
the past, the future,
the doorway that belongs
to you and me.
Welcome home, Heather, Dick and Finn
Love, Kathy and Steve
Welcome home Weafers Three,
I’m sooo glad to hear that you make the trip north. Now I can visualize you nesting in your clean abode, snuggling and continuing to heal. The prayers of many still gather and and are sent…blessing be to you three - joy and peace.
love,
sheri for the nadells
Heather,
Tears streaming down my face, once again, I must say that I think there’s another book in here somewhere. For you to be so articulate now, during your healing is truly amazing to me. I think you will never cease to impress.
That’s it from here, it’s late. You know you are in my thoughts always. Don’t know when I’ll see you, but we’ll get back to regular email at some point. Interestingly, I was startled by your comment “I’ll be putting a period on this soon………..” So many of us check in here daily. But the period will be a good thing, I think, as I ponder your comment. It shows your progress to health, doesn’t it? Your success.
What a remarkable young women you are.
My love to your boys!
Pat
Yeah!! You pick the date,I’m thinking that the spring sounds good
I often look at your picture on the cover page and think, how could this have happened. You have shown us all that althougt we never know why, we can learn and grow. Looking forward to seeing all of you, especially Finn!
Love,
Heidi
Heather — it’s so great to hear from you! Best of luck in adjusting to your new “you” and to your new “normal.” I wish you and your family the best in going forward.
Joanne
Dear Heather, My daughter shared this poem with me this summer. I thought of you right away and now I feel ready to share it. Enjoy.
The Invitation
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for,
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love,
for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow,
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or
have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own,
without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own,
if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be
careful, be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you’re telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself;
if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.
I want to know if you can be faithless
and therefore be trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see beauty
even when it’s not pretty, every day,
and if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine,
and still stand on the edge of a lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes”!
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and
despair, weary and bruised to the bone,
and do what needs to be done for the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you are, how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and
not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself,
and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
– Oriah Mountain Dreamer
Hi, guys. I’m just dropping a note to say that I hope all is going well. I was thinking this weekend about how hard it must be to forge a new life now — one with Finn in it and one that isn’t dominated by cancer. Your don’t really have a template for it — before you had cancer, you didn’t have Finn; and you’ve never experienced motherhood without this huge cloud of illness shadowing you every day. I hope the transition is going well and that each day allows the knot of tension to ease a little more.
I’m going to be in Maine visiting my mother in mid-September. I really hope I get a chance to see you and your wonderful family then.
Joanne
Hey Heather & Dick,
We’re just back from sailing up the coast for the past couple weeks. One of the first things we did was check in to your site, as we’ve missed being able to keep up with all that’s been going on with you since we left. We know the ups and downs are tough as you make your way through the post-treatment phase. New and unexpected emotions seem to arise each day… that’s all part of the healing and return to life. Keep holding on… you’re making it.
Happy birthday to you, Dick! We hope you are home to celebrate your day together!
We got some great shots of our seal friends and lots of seabirds on this trip. Though we did see a few Minke whales on our passages off the coast of Pemaquid, we we’re too awestruck to bother taking away our eyes to grab the camera. (Tisk, tisk… I know.) We’ll email you a link to our slide show when we get it up.
Hope you’re snuggling in and enjoying this day together. We look forward to seeing you soon.
Love and hugs,
Christy & Erik
Congratualtions, on getting home guys! Happy B-Day, Dick.
Happy Birthday Dick! I hope you were able to enjoy it with your family all HOME!! YAY!
Love,
Meg
Dick and Heather,
A few posts ago I was looking ahead and hoping that you’d make it home for Dick’s birthday. Well, what DO you know???!!!! You made it.!!!
I hope this is an easy adjustment for you all - you have been through so many changes. And even going home - yes, that too, is something to adjust to. Rest, and try not to push yourself too hard Heather.
Thanks for getting the books back to me and I will get them to the kids soon. I’ve only had a little time to quickly go through it and your photos are wonderful.
Just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you and since I didn’t get birthday cards out to you boys this year, wishing you, Dick, a very Happy Birthday!
Love
Pat
Dear Ones,
Hopefully you all are settling in to your new reality and you are more at ease. I’m looking forward to being able to help out when you are back in Bath and get to know the exciting new versions of yourselves and be an honorary Auntie to Finn.
Great news here … Ian started grad school and loves it and David landed a job as an editor out in Santa Barbara and loves it. Bonnie got her driver’s license and is nearing the end of her summer reading. John is wondering how to keep the 21 new faces he has hired straight. His Dad is happily playing pool and winning at bridge in his new assisted living situation and I am enjoying taking one deep breath after another…
Keep up the good work. We are all still thinking loving thoughts of you all day, every day. keep the faith. lee
Don and I caught your piece on Channel 3 last night. It was great “seeing” you and hearing about your process. It will be interesting to see where your photographic journey leads you next. Kudos too, to the midnight tripod carrier!
Jean
Hi all,
Just a quick note to say we’re thinking of you every day. I’m sure everything that Heather is feeling and experiencing is all very typical for someone going through everything she has been through. I think of all the emotions I feel just reading about her experience, never mind living through it. We’re at the lake next week and you will all be in our thoughts. Hope to see you back up there soon. Love, Joan
Hi Dick and Heather!
For all you’ve been through, this place really is amazing to come to. Before I was on leave, I’d pop on here in the middle of my work day just as a reality check. It’s nice to see the good in people isn’t it?
I don’t think I left you a note this week so before it ends, just wanted you know you’re in my thoughts. I hope this week has treated you well.
I head back to work next week. I’ll try not to let that discourage my posts here
Love to you,
Good Morning Heather,
A year ago today we were on Popham Beach with you blowing bubbles into the wind as you snapped away taking pictures ……. what a journey since then. So glad to hear that you are headed home to continue the healing process and to get into the routine of being an everyday family — albeit an extrodinary family that I am sure is ready to get back to doing the ordinary.
Jean
Dear Heather and Dick and Finn.
Checking in to your website regularly, have been absolutely blown away by what has happened to you. The way you and your family and friends are dealing with this makes me feel somewhat inadequate. All photos of Finn are adorable but the one I love best is you and Dick in the swimming pool. I am thinking of you often and am so glad to know that you are making a good recovery from the transplant.. Mike and I had a BBQ with the diving club here at our house a few weeks ago. We showed your truc lagoon photos on the big screen. will buy your book and come and get it signed personally by you one day in the not too distant future. Mike is keen to bring me again to America and visit Maine. He is arranging a trip to the galapagos with his friend next year. I am still cycling and training for next years traithlon. Next year I will compete to raise money for a charity called CLIC for cancer and leukaemia in children. Will be 50 next year and hope to win my age group (hardly likely but I’ll give a go). you are in my prayers everyday. lots of love Julia. xx
Hey guys! I’m so glad I got to finally check into the site after being unable to for a week or so. Wonderful news about the continued recovery, and a reminder that our prayers and thoughts are still needed. So many times I check in and wish I had some great words of wisdom, but even when I don’t have words to write, I close my eyes, and think of your family, and in my mind’s eye I try to see myself lifting you all up for a while. Know that many of us are thinking about you throughout our days, and doing what we can to try to help carry you along, just as you have carried all of us so often. My prayer for you now is that you may have peace.
Lou
shes coming home, shes coming home, ra-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha
finny’s big and grown, hes big and grown ra-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha
dick doesn’t have to do it alone, do it alone ra-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha
cause their all at home, their all at home ra-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha
Again! One more time!! Who brought the mag-a-rita’s!
Be gentle on yourselves, transitions abound, and your are bound to get into a transition you don’t want to be in , that is a part of the life that you have been working so hard to keep
LOVE, love, and more love
PS great book, we read little pieces every day:) Shaye and John
Hola Weafers Three,
Just got home from the lake and ‘checked in’ - SUCH wonderful news! YAAAY and bravo, Heather. Hope your are resting still with Finn in your arms and Dick beside you. Can’t wait to hear of a trip north.
love,
Sheri for all the Nadells
Welcome home soldier!
As in every war, between countries or private battles like your own, there is some adjustment time needed by every warrior. Take the time! You can truly say that you earned it. I am proud of your tenacity and strength thru this ordeal. You have showed many what a hero really is.
Skip
Hi Guys, I am so happy Heather is doing so well. I just knew she would do whatever she had to to get well. Heather, you are an inspiration to me, and so many other people. Not many people could have done what you did. Sounds like Finn is doing well too. That’s great! I hope you are still feeling better every day. Hope it won’t be long before you get to go home to Maine soon. Love to all of you.
Aunt Robin and Uncle Teddy
Heather:
I had a dream about you last night…that I came to visit and we played board games and laughed like we did when we were kids. In my dream, I said, ‘everything is going to be ok’. And it will. I can’t wait to see all of you in Maine and share some giggles. I’ll bring the Atari.
Maria
Dear Heather, Dick, and Finn,
For a week, we had no internet. The provider handed us off from one department to another - at one point I offered them $1,000 if someone would come and fix it!
I had many things to do, but I needed to check your site to make sure you were better. The repair people could never know just how bad I needed to read Dick’s words.
So, this morning, I have caught up with all the postings. Now, I sit here stifling my tears of joy for you three. You have made it. You three have made it. Now to try to get back to an ordinary life. I would imagine it wil be like post traumatic stress syndrome for a while. This thing, this ugly thing, that consumed you and took your ordinary life away, is finally gone. But it will lurk in the shadows for a while. Embrace the orindary things now, it will not creep back in. Feel the sunshine and nuzzle Finn. Nuzzle Dick too.
I would like to believe that the hugs I sent and the thoughts of you three helped to knock out a few of those ugly little cells. I am content with that.
You, Heather, have probably grown more than any of us could imagine. You were a good person before, but now, there is no limit.
We love you and send you three our congratulations.
Sara
I’ve been away all week and have not been able to check your website. What wonderful news to hear that you are healing so quickly! I hope you, Finn and Dick are able to get home soon and enjoy the rest of this beautiful summer.
Love, Shannon
Dear Ones,
Rest and recoup… as every teacher knows: transitions are tough…very sound advice not to try to go it alone … I imagine that the smell of Finny’s scalp, the homey sounds all around you, (mutiple baby gurgles), seeing less strain on the faces of your dear family and resting while they keep watch will help with the fears and the changes. We love you. - lee
Well, thank goodness you are human, Heather. I was really starting to wonder!
I’m sending you positive thoughts, but this time for your spirit to renew now that your guard can come down. It is kind of like the fight or flight response…you were in the fight mode, and now that the imminent danger has passed your body suddenly lets you know just how stressed you’ve been.
I am sending you so very many hugs. I believe that you can cry a river and still need the healing touch even now. It doesn’t make you any less amazing or beautiful.
Di
Hi guys!
Glad to hear things are going well and that Finn was, of course, so happy to be reunited with his mommy! I hope you have a wonderful weekend together. We’re headed up to NH to spend some time at the lake where Greg’s parents have a house. My little guy’s first taste of lake water! I hope he likes it as much as Finn liked Moosehead
Love,
Meg
hey there, so good to hear that everything is going better than expected. wanted to let you know i was thinking about all of you. jd is taking swimming lessons and he is doing great! at each lesson i think about the both of you swimming to and from indian island and give you energy to be able to do it next year!!!
adam wants to help finn, bo and ella to crawl and stand up. time for the crib to be rigged for an active infant. it’s funny i counldn’t wait for jd to crawl, stand and walk. with adam i was hoping it would take longer… i know it just means he is developing… we love you, mary ann
Heather, Dick, Finn et al,
It’s a beautiful morning! Just thinking of you all there and hoping for another good, healing day. You have a houseful there. Hope all the babies cooperate for a calm, restful day - maybe they’ll all take a good, long nap AT THE SAME TIME. I don’t have much to say, just want you to know you are in my thoughts.
Love
Pat
AWESOME! We were all so happy to hear how well things were going! Tom returned from the lake while the boys and I stayed up for an extra day or so at camp. He updated us on the happenings and we all felt such a relief for all involved. Still a journey to travel ahead … but clearly all those thoughts, prayers, and positive energies are doing their part! Stay on your path … it’s a good one! All the best to the three of you and your families and friends. Our thoughts and prayers continue …
Tina, Tom, Ben and Cam
Dear Ones,
Wonderful news…moving prose,,,great progress. Thank you for letting us picture you in your Osprey nest, Heath. The image is calming and bright. Not only has truth, wonder and questioning poured from you two throughout this period…it has cascaded from everyone who says a little something on this site and also is absorbed by all who read it! My mind boggles when I think how many caring folks check into this site for strength and encouragement. This journey has connected so many souls and it is epitomized by the idea of flags flying for you at the top of a mountain in India. When you no longer need our constant prayers we will ALL be sending them somewhere else where they are needed. You have taught us that it makes a difference. We have all learned so much from you and your family and each other. Rarely have I seen so many risk opening up to share a soul-glimpse. You have inspired great beauty, grounding hope and soaring enlightenment. Enjoy every moment of your climb to good health - I know you will! xxxl.
I need a new ISP….
Hope it isn’t too late to say
YAAAAAAYYYYYYYY!!!!
Love you all so much!
Michele
Hi kids,
So the news from G&G tonight is more good news. Another temporary home, but one filled with love and support……and your son.
You are amazing, Heather….week “three” isn’t even over yet and yet you are continuing to surpass the expectations that were set for you. Hang in there, girl, we’re all out here, thinking of you, praying for continued positive progress for you. Trite as it may be….one day at a time….probably is the best way to heal. Seems like a good idea to me, but then, what do I know…..just hoping that you ALL can get some GOOD rest and healing time together.
You know I love you
Pat
Wow!!! That is fantastic news!!! Can’t wait to see you guys and get our little men together.
Sending you lots of love from Heather Lane,
Tim, Vanessa and William
Hi Heather, Dick and little Finn!
Such great news! I am so happy for you and your families! God is good!
Love,
Lise
Yeah,yeah,yeah!!!
Great news.
Love Heidi
Reading this good news was the best way to start my day! Can “hear” the excitement in Dick’s words. What a difference a week can make. Couldn’t be happier for all of you!
Love,
Joan
Happy news.Congratulations. I am very happy .
I’ve kept quiet on the website front lately but with this news how can I not shout out - YIPPPPEEEEE! YiPPPPPPEEEEEEE!
This IS the best news and I’m still smilin’.
You now I love ya, all three of you. Get your butts home!
Keep healing.
Love,
Wendy
Don and I saw your exhibit on Saturday…..loved your eels especially and found your good news today! I am so happy for you all….and there is still summer left! A year ago, minus ten days we were at Popham with you snapping away at us…..an incredible journey since then.
Jean
Woo-hoo! Way to go Aqua-dart! Reeeeaaaaach for that wall!
XOXO,
Matt
yay!!!! i can’t stop smiling either! i love you three. see you soon!
YAY!!!!!
We are so excited for you!!
Love,
YES!!!! We’ve been out of computer contact for a week and have just reconnected. What FABULOUS news!!!!! BIG smiles
xxoo Dave & Di
WOOOHOOOOO! Great NEWS! YipEEEEEEE
HI Guys!
WOW!
I could not be happier for you. You’ve made my day!!
Love to you all,
Jim
Heather and Dick…we are ecstatic…our love to all.
Standing Ovation, Hot Shot!
XO
Morgan
What wonderful news!!!!! I can’t wipe the smile off my face.
Love to you all-
Jules
Great news! Congratulations everyone. I’m so happy for all of you!
Halleluia!
Hi Heath,
That’s terrific news!!! I hope to talk to you soon! Still thinking about you and now I’m smiling while doing it!!
Love,
Kristen
Heather and Dick ~
YAHOOO!!!! Heather, enjoy that walk in the hallways!
Best news I’ve heard in ages!!
xoxo
Sue
Oh My God!!!! I am gushing!! I knew you were the best healer! Take it easy and we will see you on the homefont!
Love JP
This is the greatest news!!!!!
I am smiling from head to toe!!!!
Love,
Jen
Congratulations!!! That certainly is “Great News….”, I’m very happy for you and your family.
Pat Cooley (Aunt Robin’s friend)
Heath, Dick and Finn
Please know my prayers are with all of you You are constantly in my thoughts
I am looking forward to you going home and when you are up to it all getting together.
I love you and I know that this is all going to work and you will be home soon with your little bundle and with Dick
Love always,
Aunt Jacki
Hey guys!
I heard from mom that everything went great on Friday. I was so pleased! I wish I could’ve been there. I’m so happy for you and this huge achievement in your career Heather. You must be so proud of yourself! You know, through this entire journey, you’ve really had some shining lights at the end of the tunnel. The hugest being Finn, but having your photos published in a book…what a wonderful thing. I’m sure it’s things like that, and of course your wonderful support group around you, that’s getting you through this.
So did you pop list toast popping out of a toaster yesterday? I hope you had a good day. I was thinking of that phrase yesterday and chuckling. It’s finally gorgeous out, the heat has broken, just in time for you to turn a corner! I hope to hear that’s happened.
Much to love you all! And Dick don’t you have a birthday coming up…? My hope is that you’ll all be home to celebrate that.
Love
Meg
p.s. So I actually proof read this post, because I’m horrified when I look back at my posts and see spelling errors and stuff….and I found one. Horray for proofing! Watch…you’ll be reading this seeing something I missed…
Heather and Dick,
We have returned from a trek in the Himalaya’s in the Ladokh region of India.
Astounding, wonderful trip. The land and the culture is so deeply Buddhist that it can’t help but effect all who live and visit there. Prayer flags exist absolutely anywhere that a breeze might catch the colorful panels and move them at all. They are on bridges across the raging rivers, on roof tops, at the top of the passes (we did 2, one was 15-something thousand feet and the other 17,000 feet. Definately on top of the world there!). We have brought a set of flags back for the 3 of you. When they are hung anywhere of your choosing (this could be done in a hospital room too!) then the prayers go out for you and will benefit all beings.
We hung some at the top of the passes for you. Your own set will be arriving very soon.
With our prayers,
Mary and Jim
Heather and Dick,
Heather and Dick,
Got back home this afternoon (not a great day to come HOME from the beach - just a sparkling morning, it was). I’m so glad that Rich and I were able to attend the signing, touch base w/you, Dick and see your interview, Heather. Of course, it made me cry - I really don’t know what’s with MY hormones lately - I’m really WAY past that phase of my life! AND I got to see Don and MEET Wendy, and have a nice talk w/Lucille. What a really nice evening it was. Of course there was a huge void without you, Heather, but, Dick and Finn (how HE has grown!) represented you very well and I see from a posting that you’ll be able to attend another signing @ Bowdoin in the fall - I hadn’t heard that before and am SO glad that you will be able to be present and celebrate this wonderful achievement in your career.
What a year this has been for you - full of many achievements, most of them unanticipated, but you have risen to the occasion time and time again.
You are so in my thoughts today - I’m hoping that this is the beginnning of “week three” and everything that the doctors have told you about that week is happening. May the better days begin…
Love you both,
Pat
Wellness Journey
Wellness -
health, wholeness, contentment
peace -
takes forever - entire lives
Horrible news,
but not impossible
for you
You dove into the water, determined, strong,
Courage piercing through the water
Blue everywhere, crystal stars on the water tips
curling, gentle breeze and
fragrant hues
In your wake we followed,
swam beside,
floated next to
hands beneath you,
treading water
The deepness was dark and cold
white caps and
grey, frigid wind
yet
warm springs float up
Your face to the sky,
suspended on the meniscus surface
submerged in the love
of God’s teardrop
glowing
healing
replenishing,
within the amniotic agua
Mercy
and
Glorious Rebirth
Bright eyes,
deep smile
you feel your loves on the shore
Baptism complete
you emerge
dripping in Wellness…
and Love
and Stength
and Wisdom
Our hands extended
embracing
then
joyously clapping
Bravo, Little Warrior!
Welcome Home to Wellness
with immense love and admiration,
Sheri C. Nadell 8/06
Dear Heather, Dick, and Finn,
All of us out here are with you. We wish we could take some of your burden, some of the pain from you and carry it for you. I know the day is out there that the “old” Heather will wake up. The day is ahead when you will wake and say, oh, I feel so good, could the last year have really have happened?
As bad as it is now, look to the other side of the syne wave, it will be as good and even better. This world is a better place with you in it to inspire in us strength yet humility.
Rest now and gather your strength. Finn is going to need lots of walks with mommy, lots of swimming lessons, lots of horsey rides on the knee.
Dick, we send our love to you too. Thank you for being you. Thank you for having so much love.
I so wish, like everyone that knows the Weafer’s, that we could lift this burden from you. If we all shared it, it would only be a mosquito bite on all of us.
Take care, you three. Grab this Florida sunshine and stick it on your knee.
Sara and Jerry
“HI MY LOVES,”
DICK PLEASE FORGIVE MY GRAMMAR, SPELLING AND/OR WHATEVER, (TEACHER)- I AM NOT GOOD WITH ENGLISH- SAD TO SAY BECAUSE THIS IS MY ONLY LANUAGE (SMILE) OKAY! HERE IT GOES!!
I MISS YOU THREE SO MUCH!!- LIKE KATHY SAYS, YOU ARE IN OUR HEARTS AND MINDS EVERYDAY- SINCE I ADMITTED YOU HERE AT MID COAST 10/05 FOR SEVERE HIP PAIN AND LEG PAIN (WHO KNOW WHAT A JOURNEY YOU THREE WOULD BE FORCED TO TAKE) - I HEARD YOU STOPPED IN TO SEE ME AND I HAPPEN TO BE OFF THAT DAY- EVERYONE SAID YOU LOOKED GREAT AND FINN HAS GOTTEN SO BIG!!- IT IS HARD TO BELIEVE THAT HE IS THE SAME BABY THAT WAS IN YOUR WOMB, KICKING AND GROWING WHILE YOU FOUGHT FOR HIS LIFE AND YOURS, AFTER WE FOUND OUT THE REASON FOR YOUR PAIN AND DISCOMFORT- I STILL REMEMBER PLACING MY HAND AND THE MONITOR ON YOUR ABDOMEN WAITING TO HEAR HIS LITTLE HEART BEATING AWAY TO MAKE SURE HE WAS ALRIGHT AND TOLERATING THE MEDICATION WE WERE FEEDING INTO YOUR BODY TO HELP PROVIDE MOMENTS OF RELIEF FROM THE PAIN- WITHOUT FAIL HIS HEART WAS STRONG AND HIS DETERMINATION / WILL WAS AND IS EQUAL TO HIS MOTHERS-
HEATHER YOU HAVE BEEN STRONG FOR SO LONG- THAT YOU HAVE BEEN ABLE TO CARRY YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY THROUGH THIS DIFFICULT JOURNEY- IT IS OKAY TO JUST CARRY YOURSELF FOR NOW!!- IT IS TIME FOR THE REST OF US TO CONTINUE TO BAN TOGETHER AND SUPPORT YOU AS WELL AS CARRY YOU-
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!! YOU ARE MY HERO, NOT SO MUCH BEACUSE OF WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH, BUT BECAUSE OF YOU!!- SOOO….., TAKE THE TIME YOU NEED TO FEEL- SAD- ANGRY- EVEN EVIL- BECAUSE LIFE IS A BALANCE, AND IT IS IMPORTANT FOR US TO GET ALL OF OUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS OUT- LET THESE FEELINGS PASS THROUGH YOUR BODY- DON’T HOLD ONTO THEM, BECAUSE OTHER FEELINGS ARE WAITING TO TAKE THEIR PLACE-
YOUR JOUNERY HAS TOUCHED EVERYONE AROUND YOU- YOU HAVE HELPED TO PUT THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE FOR SOME THAT HAD NO VISION- YOU HAVE BEEN ABLE TO ALLOW OTHERS TO LOVE DEEPER, WHEN THEY DID NOT KNOW THAT LOVE WAS THERE TO BE HAD- YOU HAVE BE ABLE TO GET A WHOLE COMMUNITY AND THEN SOME TO BAN TOGETHER AND HELP YOU WITH YOUR JOURNEY AND FIGHT- YOU HAVE MADE OTHERS TAKE A LOOK AT THEIR OWN IMMORTALITY AND LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST- YOU HAVE SHOWN THOSE THAT ARE WEAK HOW TO BE STRONG- YOU HAVE LET OTHERS SEE THAT LIFE IS WORTH LIVING WHEN THEY HAVE LOST HOPE- YOU HAVE BRIGHTEN THE WORLD WITH YOUR RADIATE SMILE- AND FOR ALL THAT I THANK YOU-
SO, MY FRIEND- YOU HAVE DONE A GREAT DEAL OF WORK ON THIS JOURNEY- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO REST- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO LASH OUT- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO BE SELFISH- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO BE ALONE- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO SHOW YOUR PAIN- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO BE SACRED- YOU HAVE EARN THE RIGHT TO HEAL!!!-
WHATEVER YOU NEED- JUST CALL- YOU KNOW HOW TO REACH ME- MY PLAN NOW IS TO FADE BACK INTO WITH WOODWORK AND COME OUT ONLY WHEN I HEAR AND FEEL YOUR CALL- ONLY WHEN YOU NEED HELP AND CAN NOT DO FOR YOURSELF- ONLY WHEN YOU NEED TO BE PICKED UP AND CARRIED THROUGHOUT PART OF YOUR JOUNERY FROM TIME TO TIME, BECAUSE HEATHER THIS IS YOUR JOUNERY AND IT MUST BE COMPLETED BY YOU- EVERYDAY THAT YOU MOVE FORWARD, EVEN WHEN YOU FALL BACK, YOU HAVE SUCCEEDED - NEVER THINK YOU ARE LOSING THE FIGHT- BECAUSE THE FIGHT IS IN YOU- AND YOU HAVE ALREADY TAUGHT AND LEARNED FROM THIS JOURNEY- GOOD BYE FOR NOW MY LOVE- KNOW I AND ALWAYS WITH YOU EVEN WHEN I AM NOT-
TO FINN- COME SEE YOUR WENDY- I MISS YOU SO MUCH- YOU AND YOUR DADDY IS ENOUGH REASON FOR YOU MOMMY TO FIGHT-
TO DICK- EACH DAY I WALK THROUGH THIS LIFE- I AM AMAZED BY YOUR LOVE FOR YOUR WIFE- YOU ARE HER LIFE- IF YOU EVER NEED ME COME- BECAUSE PART OF THIS IS YOUR JOURNEY TOO.. MUCH LOVE
WENDY
Dear Heather and Dick,
I must tell you although I have not read the messages recently the 3 of you and your families are in my daily thoughts and prayers. I always have my eye out for your parents so I can catch up on a more personal note. I had an acquaintance a few years ago that had cancer and a bone marrow transplant. I remember her telling me how sick and how hard that time was. She felt totally miserable and isolated but she got through it one day at a time. I feel like you are turning inward to rebuild yourself. You have gone through so much in less than a year. You are drained and need to replenish your inner soul and I know you can and will do it. Along with your family and all your friends you have the most precious Finn waiting for you to hold him in your arms again and hug him and kiss him. At his age he is fine with the separation you must endure at this time but when he sees you his face will light up and your heart will sing. Get your chin up and start thinking about what you are going to do once you are free. The window seat is the absolute greatest! Get out your special book and start doodling and drawing. Your art is amazing and so expressive. Get yourself on paper. You are the only one who can pull yourself back up to the surface and breath in that wonderful air called life. We are all praying for you. You can do it. You got this far because of your determination. You did it for Finn while you were pregnant and you can do it to get him back into your arms. Dick and Finn wait to have your arms wrapped around them again as you long to have them wrap their arms around you. You are the greatest. I can’t wait to see you when you come home. Love from all of us on Maternity at MidCoast. Kathy
Hello, Everyone–
Heather has asked me to post this news on the website. The first copies of her new book, “Confluence: Merrymeeting Bay,” with Heather’s wonderful photography accompanying essays by Franklin Burroughs, have arrived and a book launching and the opening of an exhibit of Heather’s photos will be celebrated this evening, 5:30-7:30, at Abracadabra, 11 Pleasant Street, Brunswick. Dick and Finn will be there, and Heather will certianly be there in all our hearts–but also on a recent video interview. We hope you’ll join us for this first celebration of “Confluence.” The exhibit will be at Abracadabra throough the month of August. There will also be later booksignings and a photo exhibit at Bowdoin this Fall, when Heather can join us in person! The first review of “Confluence” appeared today in the Brunswick Times Record, and you can access it online.
Jennifer at Tilbury House
Dear Weafers Three,
I have been checking the website but have not written lately - my sincere apologies. I started to write when I read about your wonderful dancing evening, but somehow got interrupted. I’m thinking of a wellness poem - I’ll ’send’ it when it’s done…I’ve been reading back through your entries and others’ - what a journey. And yes, I too believe that Heather, you are huddling and rebuilding…I wish that we could all take time in the bed, or in the windowseat; endure for you Heather. The line of people volunteering would stretch for miles. It reminds me of when Aaron was born, and I asked the doctor, “can’t you reach him yet?” and she said, “No, Sheri, YOU have to do this.” And upon learning that he was just a bit stuck on my pelvic bone, I thought “Oh, now that I know what the obstacle/problem is, let’s get moving!” And out he came. But I’ll never forget that, because she was right - I had to do it. No one else. I had support, and love, and wonderful care around me, but no one else could do it for me. It can be a very scary, but I think, also an incredibly empowering place to be. Because you can and WILL do it, Heather. And you are wise and right to devote all of your energy to it. Finn IS and will be just fine. He KNOWS in his soul of souls that you love him. And we are ALL still here. And we’ll be patient. I loved the entry that said ‘we’re all still here, waiting. And we’re not going anywhwere until you come out and take your bow!’ A great visual and absolutely correct.
Soon we are headed up to my version of Moosehead - Partridge Lake in NH - and we will keep thinking of you as we sit on the dock and watch the sunlight dance on the water. My poem is about your wellness journey through water, sunlight, healing, replenishing…if it hasn’t taken its final shape before, maybe it’ll take form at my Moosehead.
Know that we send our hugs, gentle kisses on the cheek, smiles, and love to you three,
Sheri for all the Nadells
Thursday 8/3 2:13 p.m.
Hi Heather,
Well Get Well Soon obviously doesn’t cut the mustard now does it?
Hmmm. Then what to say? Clearly you’re in a mighty dark corner of all this but I’m glad you’ve decided to ditch Peanut Butter & Jelly Sandwiches, I’ve always thought those were so odd! May each micro second be better than the one before it. Well how about a little limerick? Ok, here it goes
There once was a couple named Heather and Dick
Life took a bad turn when Heather got sick
But then Finn came to be
And filled them with Glee
So feel better Momma-but quick!
Heather and Dick:
Thanks to you both for keeping us all posted. I read the blog daily and each time I do I send healing energy your way. All my love to you both and Mr. Finn. You are all amazing. Love, love, love Maria
A window seat will cheer anyone up! I’m happy to hear that your spirits are improving! Love you and talk to you soon!
Heidi
I’m so glad to hear you’re doing better today Heather! And it is sweltering. I suppose you can be thankful to have AC where you are? It’s the little things now right? I hope you enjoy your trashy soaps….I’m a faithful GH watcher….shhhh….I even record it when I’m working and not on maternity leave
Love
Meg
Hi Heath,
So glad to hear you’re feeling a little better today. My mom talked to your dad a couple of days ago and she filled me in. Today’s update sounds like a big improvement from the you were then. Hope to talk to you soon. I’ll try and call you next week. I’ll keep checking the website daily for more (hopefully) good news.
Love,
Kristen
Thank you, Dick, for the hopeful update! I love the idea of the window seat, a chance to see that life continues beyond the four walls of the hospital room. I look forward to the day when Heather gets to jump back into that world. In the meantime, continued good vibes, healing thoughts and prayers, are headed your way.
Joanne
Dear Heath & Dick,
I just received Dick’s update (thanks) and have come here to look at your photos and feel conected to you guys again. You know I am with you in in heart, spirit and love. I only wish that could be enough for you right now. You know I know something of the dark place you are in right now, how afraid you are, how utterly exhausted of fighting and how alone you feel in this battle of yours even with all of us pulling for you and that amazing man sitting beside you. Please Heath rest, retreat, restore but do not give in. You are better than this obstacle that has been put in your path. Your faith, your very core is being tested right now but I know you and I know you can come through this. Wiser maybe somewhat different but essentially still you. “Sarah Beth is scared to death” but she will dance again. I know this is yours alone to battle, to come to terms with every day every minute. Rest assured we will all be here waiting for you when you do. I know how much it hurts you to be away from Finn but the bottom line is he won’t remember this brief period away from you, he is being cared for and loved and you need to focus on YOU. If love alone could cure you Heath you wouldn’t so much as have a cold for the rest of your life. Feel all our love and feed off it to heal. Try to stay in the moment and get past it and than realize you are now one moment closer to being well and home. You have come so far you are now in the end run. You’ve endured much but waiting at the end of all this is Dick, Finn, your loving family and many friends and all of us your fans. I watched you grow up, from that beautiful baby (who had to overcome obstacles) to this amazing woman (who WILL overcome this obstacle) that you are today. You know you are my sister and that I have been closer to you than probably anyone. Selfishly I am not prepared and I refuse to lose another sister. I need you in my life to bring that hope you inevitably do from just being you. Will yourself to heal, if anyone can do that I know you can.
All my love P xxxx00000
Just read the latest posting by Dick, his beautiful letter, Heather’s prayer to Baby Finn and all the love and support from family and friends. There are no words to express the depth of emotion I feel every time I check out this web page. You are all an inspiration to this young family, to me, and to one another. I feel blessed to have been provided access to such an ongoing expression of limitless love and care and compassion.
I particularly like the comparison of Heather to the butterfly. You are, indeed, going thru another stage of development. Changing, but growing stronger and developing the wings which will lift you out of this difficult time of your life. You will emerge with a different view of life, why wouldn’t you? The last 10mos have been filled with questions and a mixed bag of every emotion imagineable. But every experience and transition we go thru make us more appreciative of how strong we truly are, how our Faith and the love/prayers of even complete strangers can work to pull us thru to better days. Dick, your Heather is not gone…she’s merely preparing for her grand re-entrance! Jayne Winters
Hi Heath,
I just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and I can’t wait to hear your voice again. You take the time that you need to heal and reflect. We will all be here waiting for you when you are up to talking with us again. We love you and we miss you and I can’t wait for another one of our weekends. This time, at our house, total pampering
All of our love to all of you!
Heidi
Heather and Dick ~
My prayers and thoughts have been with you since
the day little Finn was born. You have taught me so much
about life and love and wonderment……..You have been blessed with
oneanother’s love, and that is so beautiful.
Hold onto eachother tight and close, there is nothing more special.
Love Amy DeMartino
Your humble delivery nurse
Heather and Dick,
I was so struck by Dick’s letter and concern and/or confusion by the apparent change in how you are and it brought to mind a little chart in the Gesell Institute’s book CHILD BEHAVIOR. It is a chart that I refered to many times when Sarah was little and I found that the sequence it described so very accurate and I believe that it continues throughout our lives . The chart includes ages, but what I found more important was the sequence of behavior.
Smooth, consolidated
Breaking up
Rounded–balanced
Inwardized
Vigorous, expansive
Inwardized-outwardized, troubled, “neurotic”
Smooth, consolidated
That inwardized time is so often that period of regrouping, and vitally important.
Think of you often and am amazed at your willingness to share this personal time so openly. It is a privilege to witness this journey and the grace with which you both are demonstrating as you travel.
Jean Weatherbee
Dear Ones,
The latest report, Dick’s letter, the responses from many who love you… i am completely overwhelmed … but through the miasma of emotions I see quite clearly one message for Heather - just be. That is enough for now. All my love, lee
Heather,
I was thinking of you on the way into work today and decided to play one of my favorite songs. It was the song that you danced to not long ago, “Heal Me” (Melissa Etheridge).
I thought I would post a few of the words to remind you of that night, and the inspiration that the song brings:
Ain’t it crazy
For a moment there
I just gave up trying
But now I see
You can let the light in
You can begin again
Ain’t it crazy
I lay me down in this sweet perfection
I am a witness to my resurrection
Heal me lift me
Take me to the waterside
Drop me in let me swim
Let everyone know
I’ll be coming home again
Love you,
Jim Hart
Its 5:45 am here in NYC — one of those rare times when the city actually feels asleep — and I sit in front of my computer reading about the journey you are on. The unbelievable strength you both show right now is truly amazing. Time and again I am reminded that when the road gets difficult and uncertain, out bodies and souls reveal previously hidden resevoirs of energy. Sometimes that energy comes from within, like the kicks of an unborn baby inside of your belly…while other times its flows from sources outside of your body, through your husband, your son, your parents, you friends, your nurses, your doctors. Right now I am directing my healing energy northeastward toward you both. My healthy blood, my healthy bones, my healthy heart have lots to spare. I can’t wait to see you when all of this is over. Many people have mentioned the idea of this experience as a rebirth. That feels very true to me as I read your words. Heather is deep inside a protective womb right now…building the strength she needs to emerge into the light. Much like an unborn baby, I hope she can hear the voices of everyone outside who love her and are waiting for her to arrive all fresh, cleansed, bald, yelling and full of energy. Just like Finn couldn’t be born until he was ready to live on his own, we patiently wait for Heather’s birth. The energy and excitement will build day by day. We all are eager to see you! Until then, continue to listen to the voices outside…we all love you so much.
Heather and Dick,
I miss you both so much. Your postings here are such a gift.
After reading Dick’s last post, I (like Jess) had the image of monarch butterflies in my mind. The way Dick described your quiet, still body, I thought of you cocooning, changing, growing stronger. You’ve been through the slow, not-so-pretty larval stage, and now it’s time to withdraw, be still, and let your true self prepare to emerge. You have both spoken here and elsewhere about becoming the person you are meant to be. It’s nearly time. We can hardly wait!
Sending you love and patience,
Michele
Dick,
We can feel the intensity of the roller coaster ride in your latest update. Your letter to Heather was deeply moving, and we can relate to so many of the emotions you are experiencing right now.
You’re in the huddle mode now… it’s exactly where you need to be. Heather’s body is demanding her full attention to heal and renew. She needs to pour every ounce of energy she has into herself. And, she needs you there beside her to keep pointing the way toward the light. You’re making it together! Faith will be true… she knows the way… and this Dark Night will give way to a New Day.
We love you…
Christy & Erik
Heather-
I am sitting and crying in the library in Topsham reading the letter your wonderful husband wrote to you…….Has there ever been as much love expressed then shared with others?
Thoughts of YOU fill my days…I continue to send positive energy your way……By nature I am a worry wart …….but I want you to know that there is not so much worry as hope……Draw from those who love you…..they will give you extra energy when you need it……let those who love you most take care of you…..you have taken care of so many with your humor and positive glow that surrounds you every minute…..As your body begins to take care of itself….know that this time in your life will pass………..You will be a stronger (is that possible?) person because of this…..you have shared this experience with many…..even when you may have wanted to crawl under a rock……we have become different people because of you……we are beginning to learn what is important……love, hope and caring…..family, friends…..thank you for that….when you meditate in the morning…try to feel the love that comes your way from all of us……..we love you……..
warm thoughts…
Andrea
Dick,
My guess is that if Heather is feeling any comfort right now, it’s from the words in your letter. You are both going through a time that is hard for any of us to imagine unless we were there firsthand experiencing it ourselves. It sounds to me that all of what you and Heather both are feeling must be pretty typical. I hope that this week will be a turning point for Heather as her body starts this long awaited healing process. As always, we’re thinking of you. All good wishes to you both.
Love, Joan
Dear Dick,
Your loving understanding, honesty, and encouragement for your wife is incredibly moving. Heather honey, we know you’re in there. Know that we’re out here, whether we are precious loved ones or people you’ve acted with once or twice. We knew what we signed up for when all this started and we ain’t leaving the theater till you come out and take a bow. Sleep, rest, and get well.
All my best,
Morgan Shepard
Dear Heather and Dick,
You know the traditional prayer about footsteps in the sand — that God walks beside us when we’re strong, and he carries us when we’re in need. The same holds true for friends. You have so much good will and love stored in the hearts of those who know you. Now, when your reserves are at their lowest ebb, is when we have a chance to repay some of the kindness and light and joy you’ve given us. If you have no more fight left in you, let us fight for you — with wishes, prayers, and deeds. We are all priveleged to be a part of this battle, if only in the smallest way.
Love,
Joanne
Dick,
My daughter, Amanda, grew up with Heather in Greenwich. I am very fond of this talented little lady and have been saying prayers for the three of you since Amanda forwarded news to me a while back.
Amanda just forwarded the 7/30 update. You, sir, are QUITE a skillful writer. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and I compliment your strength.
God Bless you all,
Al
For Dick,
What is there to say to you. You, too, are constantly in my thoughts. When you and Don were born that August day - precious boys - very unexpectedly - well, we never know what our children will face in their lives. I think of that day often when I think of the struggle that you and Heather are going through. We just never know what life will bring our way. But, be assured, that we are all so very proud of YOUR strength too. Interesting that you made note of the fact that Heather has guided you and taught you that this public display of your thoughts is okay - and a good thing. I guess maybe she’s taught a lot of us that lesson. Baring our souls to the world - not an easy thing for many of us to do. I too check in to this site a couple of times a day. I know that things have been very tough these last few days and didn’t really expect to see anything new. From us all us out here who are wondering………thank you for your update. I wish we could fast-forward to the end of this treatment - or at least this week - for you both.
My love to both of you and a hug and kiss to Finn.
Pat
Hi Guys,
Dick- the strenght that you have shown for Heather has been amazing. You too are a wonderful person and Heather is fortunate to have you to bring her through this entire ordeal, you are her rock. Heather- I can only imaging how hard this is for you. Not only are you dealing with the transplant and the agony of this final step, but you are separated from Finn which in and of itself has got to be horrible. You are fortunate to have so many people surrounding you that love you and would do anything to help anyone of you (myself included). As you recover, as Dick said, you are being reborn to a Cancer Free Life! You are all close to my heart and thoughts and I love you all.
Heidi
D+H, On Saturday, which was my mother’s birthday, we drove to Damriscotta (so?)and went for a short hike. It was a beautiful day, a bit muggy but there was a nice breeze bringing cool air from the ocean. My mother and I hiked this trail a summer or two ago. It winds through pine forests and tall meadows and at one point we walked along a pond where, last time, we had stopped to admire some turtles who were sunning themselves on floating logs. This year we didn’t see any turtles but I discovered something that makes me think of you. When we came to the pond we could see that someone had weed-whacked all the wildflowers, milkweed, and tall grasses that grow along the pond. It bummed me out to see all of that rich and natural habitat hacked away. On closer inspection though, I found many Monarch butterfly caterpillars buisily munching away at the milkweed plants that were spared. Monarch butterflies are some of my favorite things in this world. These seemingly fragile beauties are amazing symbols of strength, stamina, survival and fragility. Heather, you are going through your own metamorphises and it’s an ugly process. What waits for you at the end of this nightmare that may seem to swallow your very soul? Heather, there is that butterfly piece in you. When the time comes you will spread your new wings to absorb the warmth of the sun and you will be free to start your new life, to return to your role as a A+ mother, a survivor, an amazing woman. We are all cheering for you!!!! Hope that wasn’t too cheesy…
Hi Guys,
Well, after reading today’s update and your letter, Dick, I don’t even know what to write. My tears just flowed down my cheeks while reading and thinking about you having to go through this. All I can say is that I’m praying for you and thinking of you every day. Heath - hang in there. I know it’s easy for all of us to say. There is almost a light at the end of the tunnel. Just keep thinking about the day you will be able to hold Finn again and stay focused on your end goal. We all love you and miss you. I’ll keep calling you and checking the website for more updates. Hopefully you will feel up to talking soon. I’ll be glad when I hear your cheerful voice again.
Love,
Kristen
Dear Dick…we are here with you in mind and spirit…all the time. We love you all so much and pray that Heather will regain her strength and the fighting spirit necessary to win this battle. I know that she will. Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll and Deanie
Hi Dick,
Well I’ve been really good lately about not shedding any tears over all of this, but your letter finally did it for me. I just wanted to let you know how much I love you, and that we all know that you are going through your own fight here. I can’t imagine how hard it is on you to watch the person you love so much go through this battle. You both have a love that is so strong, it really is something wonderful for me to see and I love up to you both for that.
I feel like I need to say something profound but I don’t really have anything like that in me tonight. Just know that I think of the 3 of you every day. I check this website more than once a day, hoping for updates that say Heather’s spirits are up. And maybe now I should just hope that you both use this place as an outlet to talk about this journey and to get some strength from thos of us reading.
I wait for the day we hear that this is all over and Heather’s headed home. I’m sure you’re both counting the days.
My love to you all.
Meg
Hi Heather, Dick, and Fi nn,
I just have to write once more to assure you that I am thinking of you all often, and want you to know that you’re in my prayers even more during this grueling couple of weeks. After reading many, many posts over these many months it is beginning to feel like I know some of you out there just from your messages. I would just like to say that I am proud to be one of those who are tuned in to this site, and I hope I get to meet some of you who I know only from your words. Heather and Dick, what a wonderful thing you have done by opening your lives up to all of us. May your healing continue, and may we all grow richer and stronger and healthier.
Lou
Hi Dick,
I want to let you know, that Mary Ann and I are thinking of you three always. We are getting daily updates and feeling helpless at the same time.
Coming back from Moosehead this week we talked about the three of you quite often, but you particularly. We are proud of you. Not only for the way that you’ve supported your family in this major time of need, but simply for the person you are. You are generous and loving. Everyone posting/reading this site is better off to have known you.
You are constantly in our hearts and we are praying for you all the time. Please give Heather and Finn our love.
Love,
Jim
Dear Heather, Dick and Finn,
As members of your fan club, we want to let you know that we are rooting for you from our neck of the woods in Maine. We admire your courage and strength and know that it is those virtues that will carry you through this phase of your recovery. Please take a minute, close your eyes, and imagine our hugs…we are sending them electronically, but with greater warmth and love than ever.
As always, we send oodles and oodles of love,
Bets and Herb
Heather,
We’re all out here urging you on to wellness during the difficult week ahead. Hang in there girl.
I cannot imagine how difficult it is to do, but I know you can do it. AND I know it’s a lot to ask of you. But there’s a world out here, a son, husband, mom and dad, family, tons of friends, needing you in their lives. Caring and praying, we are…
Love
Pat
HI HEATH, YOU NEED MORE MESSAGES PRONTO. IT ONLY TOOK ME AH HALF HOUR TO ZOOM TO THE END OF YOUR LIST. TOO BAD ONLY MILLIONS OF PEOPLE LOVE YOU TOO BITTS. KEEP TRUCKING KIDDO. LOVE YOU……..
Dear Ones,
Phew! What a siege you are enduring, loves. It is glorious to read that you have won a major battle and that the chemo is behind you, Heath. It sounds like some very tough days are ahead of you all but you have proven time after time that you can do this and come out the other side wiser and stronger. I know it makes you ache to be without Finn, Heath, but he is well and happy (look at that report card!) and you are working overtime to give him the best gift he will ever have - YOU! How you keep such a good perspective, Dick, is a source of wonder for me but I am so glad that you can and that Heather responds so well to your “big picture/ balance” approach. You all are the poster children for team work, love, devotion and hope. Know that you are safely swaddled in love from all of us. If your reserves get low draw on ours. We are thousands strong behind you. xxxl.
Thank you, Dick, for the updates - and congratulations to you both getting this far. My heart goes out to all of you. I am sending you my best best wishes and my prayers for a speedy recovery. Finn is a lucky kid to have such brave, strong, positive parents and I feel lucky to know you. Keep it up. You are almost there!
What a relief to have the chemo behind you FOREVER! Just keep thinking that each day brings you one day closer to that full and wonderful recovery. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Looking forward to seeing a completely-cancer-free you in September up at the lake.
We were so sorry to hear about Moe - what a sweet and gentle soul and companion. There is no easy way to say goodbye to a dear 4-legged family member.
On an up note - we loved Finn’s report card … not surprised that he excelled in watching the dvd of mommy!
We’re sending all our positive energy your way … you’ll get through this together and you’ve certainly got a tremendous amount of energy and love to bouy you through the tougher times. Beat this thing Heather - once and for all. We’re thinking and praying for you all.
Hey kids,
Just a quick check in to say, once again, hang in there, we’re thinking of and loving you, hoping this will all soon be over, You know it all - we’re here for you.
Hope to see you, Dick, and Finn on Friday. I’m so glad Meg mentioned Finn’s report card, so i scrolled down and found it - Kimmie and Cathy must have had a blast putting THAT together. Hope it made you chuckle. (And you probably shed a tear or two too - that’s okay.)
Love you both,
Pat
H ow fabulous!
E ach day brings you closer to the end of this ordeal
A nd how you ALL so deserve it.
T hanks to all who are thinking of you,
H owever they do — via pray, energy, light, meditiation, whatever –
E very mode is important, and will ultimately
R ejuvenate you.
D arling, daring Dick,
I ncredible coach, lifeguard, partner, and friend,
C ould anyone ask for more?
K now that your beauty shines forth in this ordeal.
F abulously fun Finn, you are just like your mom!
I nevitably you will take your rightful place in the lime light.
N otice the love all around you — it is genuine, and needed,
N ow that the final “who-wah” is here, to bring your mom home.
=
L ucky, all of you, and us, now
O verly aware of life’s gifts.
V ariegated though they may be,
E xemplary gifts they are.
DEar HEather and Dick,
this is my first note toyou both. Ihave kept abreast of your journey from the beginning. I have felt drawn to write at this time because for many friends who have traveled this journey thsi has been the toughest part. I pray that your courage and resilience will continue to sustain you and that you will feel the lord’s strength as he carries all of you through these next few weeks.
fondly ,
Linda ( I work with Lucy)
Hi Guys,
Just checking in… I will call soon. I am so happy to hear that you are finished with your chemo. You are so strong and from this point on you will continue to grow stronger. Hang in there, it is almost over!
Love Heidi
Hi Heather,
Of course, I’m long overdue to send you a note. I really haven’t been around much, gone for three months of the first six. I’ve been reading updates on this site as well as checking in with Bill, when he’s around. I’ve had you in my thoughts and prayers for quite a while. Looking at the messages here it’s obvious that you’re surrounded with a lot of love and light.
I’m amazed by your strength and courage, as you face this hurdle. Good luck, keep your great sense of humor and introduce me to Finn soon. Take care.
Jim
I just wanted to write a quick note to say how happy I am to hear that chemo is over forever! What a relief that must be.
I was so sorry to hear about Moe. I hope everyone’s doing okay.
I’m thinking of you Heather! I hope today is a good day for you.
Love
Meg
Heather,
Read from Dick’s latest entry….
“The good news is that the chemo is over forever…”
Woohoo! News that made my day!
Love and prayers remain with you all.
xoxo
Sue
Dear Heather & Dick
I am checking this site everyday for news of Heather’s progress……It is such a tough road but the best is just ahead of you Heather!! You are one of the strongest people I have met and I loved visiting you with Joan J at Moosehead over the 4th…….It was wonderful to hold and feed Finn-I love babies and he is a sweetheart-so good!!!
You & your whole wonderful family are in my thoughts and prayers everyday. Hang in there and soak up the love and energy from all of these messages you are getting from all of the people that care about you.
I look forward to seeing you all again at Moosehead when all is behind you!!
Love
Jean
Heather and Dick,
I was glad to read that there was a smile on your face this morning Heather, it has to be tough to turn your lips upward into a smile when you have been through so much. You are a trooper and inspire all of us. Your incredible strength will get you through this last process and you are now on the road to healing. Dick, thank you for keeping us in touch with Heather’s journey. We all care so much and believe me, knowing how she is progressing is so important to all of us. Our condolences to your parents and all of you on the loss of Moe, never an easy thing to loose our pets who are very much a part of our families. We will miss seeing both Toby and Moe at camp, one used to waunder over every so often (I thihnk Moe) and the first time it happened Bruce thought a black bear was in our front yard!
I also wanted to comment that Finn’s first report card was pretty darn good! Keep up the good work Finn!
All our best to you
Love, Joan
Yes!! No more chemo!! That’s a HUGE milestone!! Just think, as of today, your hair is going to start growing back again! Yeah, it takes time… but it’s something to look forward to! And, when it comes, it is like being reborn in a way - soft & silky, like baby’s hair. Mine’s starting to thicken now (4 months after chemo), and it’s getting really CURLY!! I look forward to sharing “growing out” styles and stories, Heather.
We’re holding you, Dick and Finn close throughout each day. We’re grateful for the relief and release you have had through the tears… they are cleansing and renewing… and we share them with you. We are filled with hope as you push on and pass each milestone toward healing, strength and renewal.
We love you…
Christy & Erik
Dear Heather,
I don’t know if you remember me, I am a good friend of your father’s. Sang with his band, remember? Anyway, I have been following your website religiously and I am relieved the transplant went well. I want you to know, that we have been and are praying for you every Sunday in three churches in Vermont, New York and Mass.
( I travel a lot ). I so enjoy reading about your little Finn and seeing the pictures. And sometimes I cry with you. But, up till now God has listened to all the prayers and you are on the road to recovery and God is still listening! Keep smiling that beautiful smile! I hope someday soon to finally come up to Maine and visit with your parents, and then maybe I may be able to visit with you and Dick and little Finn!
Lots of love is send to you and your family.
Lise
“Finnland” Day Care
Weekly Progess Report for FINN WEAFER
Eating: A+
Sleeping; A+
Peeing/pooping: A
Barfing: B
Smiling: A+
Rolling Over: C
Sharing Toys with Cousins: C
Reaching/grabbing: A
Mommy DVD stories: A+
Cleanliness: B-
Participation in Group Discussions: A
Comments:
Finn is a welcome addition to the group. He is becoming aware of his cousins and is often found holding hands with Bo. While he excels at hand holding, there is considerable room for improvement in toy sharing. We regret to inform you of one incident of fighting over the plastic rings. Even though he enjoys staring at Ella, he is impatient when she invades his personal space. He has quickly learned that eye gouging is an effective repellent for girl “cooties”. Finn’s favorite activity is watching Mommy’s DVD. We have even caught him looking longingly at the blank computer screen. While he is enjoying his time here, he clearly looks forward to being home with Mommy.
Much love,
Mom Weaf & Kimmie
Dear Heather and Dick,
I think of you all many times a day and send your way positive vibes and prayers. You floor me with your strenth and openness. Push on through, you’re almost there. This experience you are going through has caused me to change many things in my life and how I think. I bet a lot of people echo that. Words can’t express what I think of you and your amazing family. Love, Alison
Today’s update also brought me to tears. Mainly tears of hope and promise. As I read Dick’s update about “the dam broke,” I found myself with great joy for Heather seeing the tears as tears of cleansing and letting go of the chemo process and moving into the long-term healing process. Paradoxically it sounds as it is was a blessed, although painful, event. Prayers, love, blessings,spirits of hope and promise continue to abound and surround each of you!! Happy to hear Gramma P is getting a little bit of shut eye!
Eileen B. - - Sweetser
Good Morning, Heather!
It’s a beautiful sunny morning, and I’m hoping that you can get a chance to feel these warm beams of light through your window today. You are on my mind and in my heart throughout each day, and I’m sending you boatloads full of strength, courage and energy.
I sent you an email yesterday, and I hope it finds its way to you soon. ‘Tis my little heart- to-heart, from one cancer warrior to another.
I’m hoping that you will focus all your energy on getting well and strong… knowing that all the other pieces - even the most precious to you - are being taken care of and buoyed by the deep love of family and friends. When the pain, discomfort and frustration creep in and cloud your mind, remember that “This too shall pass”… and there are many, many, many big, bright sunshiney days waiting for you, Dick and Finn.
Love, love, love…
Christy
Hi Heather!
It’s another beautiful sunny day here and the heat has yet to kick in so this will probably the best part of the day. I hope you have a view of the blue sky and sunshine in your hospital room today. No chem for you today! That’s what I thought when I got up today - your few days “off” before the next big step. I’m thinking of you and just wanted to let you know that. Mom said last night that G&G informed her your spirits were up and I hope that was correct info and that still is the case. We’re all rooting for you as you go through this! The website has really picked up in the last few days - see, everyone was around still thinking of you and praying for you. You have an amazing group of people surrounding you.
Best wishes to you that you can somehow enjoy these few days off and know we’re thinking of you here.
Love
Meg
Dear Heather, Dick & Finn,
A friend of mine from Bates College gave me the link to your website. My mother is currently involved in her own battle with cancer (pancreatic) and I just wanted you all to know how touched, inspired and awed I am by your strength, love, and truly positive and powerful energy and outlook. You all have given me a nice bit of strength and hope, and I am holding you all in my heart and prayers. I will be checking in often.
Sending many positive thoughts your way,
Kate Spencer
NYC, NY/Wellesley, MA
Hi Dick, Heather, and Finn,
I was so glad I logged in to check the site, and was greeted by Dick’s beautiful update. I knew the bone marrow transplant was coming up, but it was helpful to have such a clear and honest description of what was actually going on. You were already in my thoughts, but that seemed to renew the energy I was able to send your way. I must say the combination of both of your (Heather and Dick’s)entries has been truly heart warming. Thank you again for including all of us in your journey. Not only has your struggle become our struggle, but your healing has become our healing. I am praying for you daily, and feeling grateful for knowing you. These words sum up a whole heart full of thoughts and emotions, but you seem to always receive my message no matter how simple the words. Peace,
Lou
Hi Heather and Dick-
We want to add our thoughts to those of all the people who are wishing both of you well during this latest chapter of your struggle. We look forward to laughing with you both again as we share post-cancer stories (in the near future). As hard as this is for you both, we are glad that all these treatments are coming to an end soon- this is the ‘grand finale’ of crappiness, and then you will be in the clear! We are thinking of you both every day, and rooting for you as you enter the home stretch. Hang in there.
Love,
Erik and Christy
Hello Heather and Dick,
We’ve been thinking of you guys often, especially since last Tuesday when you made the trek to Boston. As hard as this must be to go through, it must feel good that the treatment is finally here and repairing things inside that beautiful body of yours. And while the pain must be hard to deal with, the comfort of knowing that you will feel like your old self again in just a few months is awesome. Early fall is the most beautiful (and bug free!) time in Maine - it will be nice that you’lll be able to be home and enjoy it.
The photos of little Finn are great - I can really see the little Perry in him - what a cutie!
Sending love and hugs to you both,
Keisha, John & Lydia
Hey Heather,
You probably don’t remember who I am. I met you when you came to St.Andrews with Bill Curtsinger to do some work on salmon with my father Fred. You came over to diner and I was the, probably about 15 year old, gazing at you because you were the oh so cool photographer. I looked up to you then and I look up to you now. You are one of the most incredible people I have ever met. Your courage is unparalled and you are an inspiration to everyone. Even those people who you may have met only once and never even had a real conversation with, are behind you and we all beleive in you!
Sophie
Heather and Dick,
Yesterday I met up with my friend Lia Morris, who helped me to find you again after a long hiatus since high school. We went over to Colby and walked on the trails there with our dogs and her son who is not much older than the mighty Finn. Of course, on this day in particular, you were in my thoughts. Especially about how you, Heather and Dick, were meant to be together.
Seeing the Weafers, the Perrys, and all of your wonderful friends come together to create an amazing network of support for you to win this battle, has made me believe more than ever that our lives are a combination of twists of fate and destiny. Whatever twist brought this battle to you, you, we were destined to fight this together. Hearing about the healing sessions you have experienced and the love and support and warriors in the night coming to rescue you, it is clear that this love and healing and support will carry you through even these toughest days. Know that we are here, be it simply thinking of you and sending energy to you in Boston. We all love you and are here for you.
And, I can’t wait to see where you take us when you’ve gotten through ths fight. I know it will be amazing.
I love you.
The other Heath.
Dear Dick, Heather and Finn,
It is tuesday, and i know that today you wake up with ONE LESS DAY of THIS work, treatment and family separation. We love you and are looking forward with you.
Shaye and john
We saw OZ: Revisiting the Wizard, on Sunday at the Theater Project. A great show with a fantastic cast. I thought of you, Heather. In the program notes Al writes, “OZ is a story about imagination and adventure, about learning by risking, by trying again, by continuing to believe in the possibility of what is not yet know. She (Dorothy) ‘goes on an adventure’.” Your journey is not a dream. But like Dorothy, you’ll beat the bad elements inside your body. “There’s no place like home” says Dorothy. Soon Heather, soon. You’ll be back home with us all. We send positive energy, and think of you often.
Love,
Don
All the hugs you can stand
Waiting for you
We’re all waiting for all of you to come home
In the meantime
Love to envelope you all
Warmth to comfort you
Light to guide you
We will see you soon!
Michele
Heather,
I know you can do this. I am thinking of you and sending you positive energy.
Love,
Dave
Heather, you are in my thoughts so much these days! I know this is such a hard struggle now, but it will be worth it. I pray for you every night, to be happy, healthy, and safe. I can’t wait for the day I can come and visit you and your wonderful family in Maine. Take care.
Joanne
Heather and Dick,
Know please that my prayers and good energy are heading in your direction. I know that this will all work out just fine. A colleague of mine had the same (self) type of bone marrow process and has been cancer free and healthy for over 10 years now!
I was blessed to be a match for a woman several years ago and donated bone marrow for her and through that experience have heard so many other success stories filled with promise and hope.
I hate what you are all going through right now but know in my heart that there will be beauty and health and joy for you all very, very soon.
Hang in there.
xoxo
Sue
Heather, we are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. Everything will is going to work out so beautifully. Best of luck to you!!!
Love,
Katy and Sundy (your radiation therapists)
Hi to all,
I have been thinking and thinking about all of you, especially last week as you started treatment and the final hurdle to wellness. I sent a message to all my loving and caring friends to keep you in their thoughts. We are lighting candles and sending out messages of healing and love. I’m always checking your website and continue to be amazed by your strength and that of all you family and friends. At least the anxiety of waiting is over and every day brings you closer to home.
Finn is incredible, any 6 month old who can look that calm and placid in what must be a rather chilly lake is one tough kid. A Colby swimmer in the making. I love looking at the pictures following his progress.
Congratulations also on the book publication. That is quite an accomplishment. I have friends who summer in Boothbay Harbor and they’ve promised to come by to celebrate and meet Finn.
My thoughts and prayers are with you , Love Mary Ann
Heather and Dick,
Just wanted you to know that we are on that long list of family and friends that are thinking of you always, checking this site for updates, praying for the best outcome. It was wonderful to see you a few weeks ago up at the lake and to see Finn in person, he’s one of the happiest and contented babies I can remember ever meeting. We were up at the lake this past weekend, thought a lot about all of you and what you are going through. I look forward to seeing all of you there again soon, sitting on the dock soaking up the sunshine, dipping into the cool water. There’s a pair of loons with a little brown baby that are always in the logan, it makes me think of you three! All our best to all of you~
Love, Joan
Sending each of you blessings, peace, prayers, wellness as in venture forward towards wellness!! God bless you with strength, hope, and knowledge of ALL of the love and wellness that is being sent to you!
Hi Heath,
I am hoping and praying that all goes well in this final journey of yours. I will continue to check your site for an update. Know that as always our thoughts are with you and our love goes to you. Dick, Finn and your mom and dad during this last step. I love you cous!
Love,
H2
Hey Girl,
Just read that the peaks to portland (or is it portland to peaks?) was postponed, THEY say due to a safety advisory, but let’s face it without Simon Shashava and Heather wandering the waves, what good is that race anyway? Was Dick in training for that this year, yes, no?
We’re out fishin’ - trying to get some protein to bring down to you. So far, all I’ve got for you is rotten bait stench- would you like some??
Just saw the preview to the “Meet Heather Perry, photographer extraordinaire” video. Top notch- I can’t wait to go to the opening! What a great tribute to an amazing photographer aka “One Picture Perry”.
We’re thinking of you from here in York our new residence as we bid adieu to Piggy Point. Cheers to you Heathah- xoxox Johnny R & Shady Lady.
Hi Heather. Last night as I was falling asleep, I all of a sudden remembered that you are in Boston for The Big Finale. So I cleared my mind and imagined the following:
You are floating on a cloud that is softly craddling you, the mist swirling gently around the sides of your body. The cloud supports you, yet you don’t feel it. You feel weightless. Just beyond the cloud is the blue sky. It is just you, and the cloud, and the sky. You decide to take a back stroke, and the sky turns into water, and you are cutting cleanly through the cloud into the water. You stop, and float on the water, the sun gently warming your face. You hear laughter. It is Finn, and he is smiling. You smile at him. Dick is holding Finn and Finn waves, and Dick smiles, and you smile back. They are with you, and they are well. You are all well. You are all together. They join you, floating on the water, letting the sun warm you. You feel one another close by, and feel strong together. Finn rests his head on his dad’s chest, and trusts completely. Dick reaches out and holds your hand, and trusts completely. You hold his hand, and trust completely. It is good. There is love. There is light. There is peace. You float on this cloud as long as you want, and they float with you. This is your place, your space.
Hope this isn’t too weird, but I know it made me feel very peaceful, so I’m sending it to you in case it’ll do the same for you.
Love you, Heather. Love you, Dick. Love you, Finn.
Hi Heather,
I just wanted to let you know that you’ve been in my prayers and thoughts all weekend. I visit your website often, and have been so moved by your courage and strength.Even though it’s been many, many years since we’ve seen each other, I feel that I’ve gotten to know you as an adult by reading your beautiful writing. I am so incredibly impressed with the wonderful person, wife, mother, friend you’ve become. And, I know, without a doubt, that as you go through this final phase of healing you will be just fine.
Love,
Jules
Hi guys,
I hope you are laughing at the fact that yet again my mom posted something this morning and here I am. I swear we didn’t coordinate it!
I’ve been thinking of you all weekend and hope that you are doing okay. I am so happy I got to see you both and to finally meet Finn! What a beautiful baby. Heather, I’ve said it before but you are truely an inspiration. Before, it was just reading this website. Seeing you and how positive you were the day before this next chapter of treatment was to begin was amazing.
In your toughest moments, I think you should picture all of us (ok, so Finn and Dick come first but after that…:) ) at G&Gs with 5 babies crawling around like Cathy kidded as I left Thursday. Can you imagine? Those are the things I think we’re all looking forward to once this is behind you.
All my love,
Meg
Heather and Dick,
It’s Sunday morning and you are in my thoughts and prayers. The treatment has started. G&G said that on your first day you had a kind and and supportive nurse and doctor, which was such a relief to hear. I could sit here for a half an hour and try to think of something profound to say, and nothing would come to me, so just know that all of us who check this site - many of us checking daily - are with you both, every day, sending our love, support, prayers and strength.
Pat
Hi Heath,
Just a quick note to let you know I’ve been thinking about you all day and praying for you. You are in my thoughts often - especially today as I’m waiting to hear some sort of update. I’ll keep praying for you. I hope everything goes well today. I’ll talk to you soon.
Love,
Kristen
Dick, Heather and Finn,
You are so in my thoughts this morning as you begin this new journey. Those of us who check your site are all thinking of you, praying for you and doing whatever it is we think works to send you our love, support and strength as you enter what we all hope is the final stage of your treatment. I know that waiting for this day has not been easy….the time is here. Finally.
Finn will see you read the stories you have taped for him; he will remember you Heather, have no doubt. He is being well cared for.
And Dick, sweet, loving, kind and gentle man that you are, my love to you during this struggle which you will have to sit and watch. You take care of yourself, too, as best you can.
I love you,
Pat
Dear Heather,
These days ,i’m visiting Essaouira with some friends .The weather is very good.I try to take some photoes using your films-that you sent us last year-.I hope that you will be plased when you will see some exemples\photoes.
All my pure energy,and my prayers are with you and your family.
Mohamed,Essaouira,Morocco
We just checked the website and photo gallery for updates. What BEAUTIFUL shots - my favorites - Finn sleeping, Finn’s fist (awesome!), the nose-to-nose shot and the beautiful special moments between all of you as a family, the three babies (I’m not sure which one I like best - the staging of the shot or the totally exhausted sleep shot after?!), Heather and Dick and Dick and Finn. Thanks also for sending some pictures of the journal … It is such a beautiful tribute of all that has transpired … Our thoughts, prayers, well wishes and healing vibrations are all being sent your way. To Heather, Dick, Finn, and the entire family … we want you all to know how many people are pulling for this thing to be a distant memory REAL soon! Our thoughts and energies are with you … this is a HUGE hurdle - but one you’ll triumph over. Please know we’re thinking of all of you and let us know if we can help in any way. Much love and warm thoughts to all, Tina, Tom, Ben and Cam (aka “call me Bruce”)
P.S. Got caught up in the moment and almost forgot. We really enjoyed seeing all of you at the lake and meeting Finn. We’re so glad you were all able to recharge in a special place and prepare for whatever lies ahead. Can’t believe what a charmer Finn already is! Let’s set our sites on Labor Day - a dose of a Labor Day weekend at Moosehead sounds like something that should be on your list of “medications”. Best wishes as you approach this hurdle. Approach it with the knowledge that you have quite a contingent routing for you!
Heather, Dick & Finn
So much love and hope to all three of you during the last and final step to health. And I do mean final. This is going to make you as perfect as you were before and always will be. See you on the MAC Tube!
Love always, JP
Hello Heather, Dick, and Finn,
Wishing you to best in this last step to your rosy health. Thinking of you each day, each hour. Whenever I see something on TV or read something of a person going through a trial, you come to mind and I send you my energy to speed your healing.
Jerry and I wil celebrate our 40th by sailing and diving in the BVI in August. You know that I dedicate that voyage to you and Dick and baby Finn. Thank you for so many memories of happiness and laughter. Would you like to buy some car stereo speakers? I know someone that can get them cheap!
I still feel bad that I did not stand behind you more with Lisa. And I am so glad the dinghy came back.
So, sweet girl, hang in there, you are almost there. If love can get you through this, you will breeze by as you are so loved by so many.
You know, when you get that clean bill of health - what are we going to read? Your journal has been inspiring to say the least. Maybe you can just keep it up with your thoughts of loving and living.
See ya,
Sara
Heather et al,
Good luck and god bless, honey.
XO
Morgan Shepard
Dear Heather,
From the first day,when i met you in Biougra and i showed you some photoes of mine,
I have , about you, an idea,which can not change:YOUR LIFE ,ALL YOUR PROJECTS HAVE SUCCEEDED.So be sure that you will succeed your very important stap of the treatment.
Happiness,love,good health,pure energy protect you and all your family.
Mohamed,Agadir,MOROCCO
Dear Heather,
From the first day,when i met you in Biougra and i showed you some photoes of mine,
I have , about you, an idea,which can not change:YOUR LIFE ,ALL YOUR PROJECTS HAVE SUCCEEDED.So be sure that you will succeed your very important stap of the treatment.
Happiness,love,good health,pure energy protext you and all your family.
Mohamed,Agadir,MOROCCO
Good Luck Heather! While you are away I am going to go up to Bath to see that radiologist and kick him right in the tumor. What a jerk. I can’t even see you from here and I can tell that you are not only tumor-free, but about to fight your way through this transplant and live a long, healthy life with your wonderful family. I am sending you whatever strength I can muster. You are a champion! Go Big Red!
God Bless,
Gavin
Oh my God! Those pictures are glorious!!!! Finn - six months!! I can hardly believe it!!! Heather-know that sooooo much positive energy is coming your way daily…..think of you every day and I “say a little prayer for you”…….Best of luck with the coming weeks (they don’t sound like the right words… but it is all I can think of….Dick is the writer on our team!) You are an amazing person, Heather!
Watching your child sleep is one of the many wonderful parts of being a parent……It is such a special time…..I remember checking on Amy one night when she was about 4. She was sound asleep with her feet up on the window sill!
Smiles and peacefulness…that’s what children bring us.
On another note…we are closing on our new home July 23…..Moving…finally!
Dick…thanks for helping to keep life in perspective! Miss seeing you during the summer months…….Thank you for sharing your family with us on the last days of school! What a treat! Your beautiful bride and adorable son are works of magic………..You’re a lucky man!
Think of you all often!
Much love,
Andrea
I’m thinking of you and your family. I’m volunteering at the Ronald McDonald House this summer. Something I’ve always wanted to do but never got around to. I think of you and your family often. You inspire me Heather! Love and prayers to you and your family, Love, Alison
Heather,
We will be with you in spirit next week.
Jim
Dear Ones,
I’m glad that there is no mirror in the dungeon where our computer sits because I can feel a hopelessly sappy smile spread across my face. I’ve just caught up on your entries and had the great pleasure of seeing the latest batch of pictures. What a gorgeous, happy family!
Being in the theater working on Oz makes me think of our time together last summer. I have to admit to monitoring your facial expressions, Heather, after each trip to either/or ( bathrooms) and being so pleased whenever you came out and shrugged. You were so sure that it couldn’t be true that there was a reason for your ‘lateness’! You both let us share your Finn experience from the first days and you have never stopped sharing. How generous you are.
I send you all strength and courage and light and hope for the final push. I am so happy that it has finally come for you. Love always, lee
P.S.- Morgan’s right, Heather. You are a writer! - lkp
PPS.- Bonnie got her driver’s license!!!! -eel
Hello Dick, Heather, and Finn,
First of all, I wanted to tell you Heather how nice it was to see you and Finn with Dick at the end of the school year. The best way I can describe the feeling of being with the three of you was that it was like standing in the early summer sun - spiritually nourishing!
Second, I wanted to thank you again for your website. With summer comes a change in schedule, which can mean having to work out routines all over again. In the chaos we can temporarily forget what matters most in this life, but your latest entry reminded me about priorities. How easy I forget! Please know that you and your family remain daily in my prayers, and I think about you often.
Love,
Lou
What a remarkable and talented young woman you are! It has been a privilege to read your entries, track your progress and pray for you daily. I like the sound of “final push to wellness.” Think of all those millions of healthy cells waiting for you in Boston–ready, willing and able to get back in there and go to work! Lots and lots of prayers will be beaming up form Westport Island in the weeks ahead. Anne Harris
Heather,
I can’t wait to see your Merrymeeting Bay book. The cover is beautiful. I’m sorry I can’t come to the opening either–and with much less excuse than you–but I hope to see you and meet Finn and his dad when I’m at Dundee in the second half of August. I’ll bring my copy for you to sign.
Finn looks like a happy little guy. He’s lucky to have a mom like you who thinks just lying next to him is the pinnacle of existence. The journal you’re making him is beautiful. Good idea.
XOXOX
Susan
Hello, there –
I so, so, so enjoyed reading your website this afternoon, and especially your Prayer to Finn. You remind me of the importance to take it easy, slow down, and enjoy and live in the very moment — which I think that I am often afraid to do, or feel guilty when doing.
We are thinking of you all and sending you good thoughts and vibes.
Love love
Sue and Andy
Dear Heather,
I am Matt Davie’s sister in law and I just received an email from Matt’s mother Mary Ann asking all of us to pray for your operation tomorrow. I have looked at your website and I just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and even if we don’t know eachother. The day that Matt received the email that you werent well he was with us in London and he told us about you. Therefore I do feel as if I know you a little.
I wish you and all your family all the best and good luck and you will be well very soon because you are so strong and special.
Much love, Natalie
Just wanted to say hello and let you know the Erbs are thinking about you. In case you haven’t heard, Finn is beautiful! He has such a serene face, I feel calm just looking at him. Heather, Garrett is almost 13 and I still love to watch him sleep. Such peacefulness, such joy. ( It helps me to remember that feeling when he’s acting like a typical adolescent!) I’m glad you all got to enjoy Moosehead, and relax with your amazing family. Still sending you energy to heal and love to grow. Take care,
Shannon
You’re such a beautiful writer
The journal is gorgeous! I scrapbooked for Livy - the first 3 months of her life anyway, and then time got away from me. He’ll absolutely cherish that and I’m sure it’s been therapuetic for you to do - creative things always seem to do that for me anyway.
Best of luck to you next week. I’ll be thinking of you as always and waiting to hear updates as they come. Pass my love on to Dick and that beautiful little boy. I chuckled when I saw him sucking his thumb in a picture. I was a thumb sucker forever….and I keep hoping David finds his thumb so we don’t have to deal w/this binkie thing!
Love to you, Dick and Finn,
Meg
Heather,
My thoughts are with you as you start this last phase of treatment. I do not have any words to express how touched I am by your struggle. I wish I could provide some tangible help.
Love (& prayers) to you, Dick and Finn.
Linda
Wow, That was some thunder out there today, big stormy rain clouds pushing through, I was sitting in a car in Portland when I saw the dark cloud on the horizon, got that first cool breeze and saw lighting- Man, it didn’t take long for the rain to MONSOON- Monsoon, gone soon.
Now there is that rainy day don’t-you-think-you’d-really-be-better-off-on-the-screen-porch-with-a-really-good-mystery feeling in the air. I like that, the after the storm part, where you are tired, didn’t realize how the energy was getting to you, and you can prop the umbrella up on the porch to dry, maybe have a cup of tea. It always happens, evenutally, although I noticed I looked JUST like a wet rat in the middle of it, and I was incredibly sticky and frumpy.
Starting to build my prayer space to be with you three in the next month. On each day their is a place of beauty that reflects just for you.
Shaye and John
Heather,
I was really touched by your latest entry and had to write. Now that I’m here I don’t know how to put it all into words. I’m touched by the depth of your love for your son. Finn is absolutely beautiful, I am not “amazed” or “suprised” that you love him so, it is just a gift to be able to see the love that you have for Finn in what you write. I am a mother to my own “little bug” (Temple) who is not so little anymore. Your entry and your journal made me long for the days when Temple was an infant, when he would sleep on my belly, when I would cry just because I loved him so. Your entry got me thinking, as I often do, “Does Temple know how much I love him?” I am thinking of you and hoping that someday soon I will run into you and the Finn bug when I visit Cafe Creme. Thank you Heather for all the gifts that you share with us. Jess
Dear Heather…as always you and Dick and Finn are in our thoughts and prayers daily. The photograph of you under what I guess is the giant radiation machine is terrifying and inspiring at the same time. It seems to me a metaphor of the huge battle you are waging as well as the miracle of modern medicine. I know you will be successful. Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers…a big SC hug to Dick and Finn. We love you…Carroll and Deanie
Hi Heather - Lack of the written word on your web site does not diminish how often I think of you, Dick, and Baby Finn. Your latest updates are filled with honesty and soul searching, as usual. You articulate so well what many of us think about as we deal with our own Life struggles and growing up issues. You are truly an amazing young woman and the love and support you get from family, friends, husband and son are a testimony to all you have touched before your diagnosis. None of us can really understand all you’ve gone thru and what lies ahead in a couple of weeks, but you are truly blessed to have such wonderful warm, embracing love. So glad to hear you’ve been up to Moosehead! My husband and I have a place on Sebec Lake and feel the same way about its pristine waters and hushed evenings. A great place to regroup and put things into perspective. I liked your comment about the baptism and rebirth….and so it is. The ending of one chapter, the beginning of another. You have come thru so much and there can be nothing but better, healthier days ahead. You all remain on our church prayer list and in my thots daily. Stay strong and ‘talk’ to you again soon. Take care, Jayne
PS The pictures of Finn are SO beautiful! I expected nothing less, what with the handsome subject and talented photographer
Shalome,
Those pictures are great! It got me excited to get up to lake too. I was so glad to hear that you were able to swim across! Finn seemed to enjoy his introdcution to many more summers up there. There is no place quite like it.
Thinking of you two often,
Jim
Hi Dick and Heather,
Happy Anniversary !!! We just got back from NY and didn’t want to call so late in the day but wanted you to know we are thinking of you today. What wonderful memories I have of your wedding day. Is this number 9 already?? How quickly time goes. It feels like it was only a couple years ago but I know it’s been longer than that. Could it possibly be number 9?
Love,
Kimmie, Tiff, Bo and Ella
Congratulations on your swim across the lagoon! Although in 72 degree water? Brrr!!! Good luck getting through this last bit of radiation and the treatments that follow. I love the thought of Moosehead being your battery recharger.
Joanne
Hi Heather…..remember me??? the wacky “more mature” barista from Cafe Creme??
I think of you often and ask Tonnie how you’re doing. I believe she and Kevin had dinner?? with you or perhaps stopped by to see you.
You have an incredible inspiring attitude and a gift for making others feel that if they were in your situation they could do it as well as you have. Where do young women like yourself get the courage and fortitude…I’ve known a few who have touched me lin the same manner as yourself.
Take care and have a great 4th!!!! You are in my prayers.
Mary Ann Conner
I’m so happy to hear you had such a wonderful time at Moosehead! I hope this weekend is much of the same. I can’t believe how big Finn is getting! I am looking forward to getting all these babies together once you are through the next hurdle and feeling great. It’ll be quite a celebration!
Love,
Hi Guys,
How far away was Moosehead just a couple of weeks ago? Good for you! Just think how much positive energy you will draw from there. Enjoy.
Skip
Hi kids,
Just have to say, once again - you are amazing, Heather (well and Dick and Finn - too). But heard that you swam across the lake. What an amazing, strong girl you are - once again. Way to go!
Also heard that the sun shone down on you over the weekend at Moosehead - I think someone else was looking down on you guys there. It was pretty soggy all weekend here.
Okay, just checking in once again. Enjoyed very much your latest entry….I guess you meant to say you THOUGHT you weren’t a writer!
Love you all,
Pat
Heather, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. You are a writer and an excellent one at that. You have been painting a picture of your life with words on this website that is beyond incredible. That is a talent. And I LOVE your paintings, keep posting them and let me know if you might sell them sometime. Finn is too adorable and growing so fast. And enjoy your two weekends on the lake — sounds wonderful. Always thinking of you. Keep the strength. -stacy
Hi Heath,
Glad to hear you are feeling better these days! Finn is so adorable!! I’ll continue to pray for you everyday. Just wanted to say a quick hello. Say hello to everyone for me!
Love,
Kristen
Heather.
Honey, I’m afraid you are a writer. God love you. Gorgeous photographs of himself. Glad to hear things are going well and that you’ll get some swimmin’ in.
Best always,
Morgan
We also are very happy that you are feeling well enough to be at the lake. We are looking forward to seeing you and Dick over the long weekend along with meeting Finn of course.
Tina, Tom, Ben and Cam
Heather,
So good to read your latest update, to see the latest pictures. Fantasic that you are feeling so good right now, sounds like you’ll be in great shape to face July 18th. I’m thrilled that you, Dick and Finn were able to make a visit to the lake. There are many of us who understand 100% what it means to be there, I know it had to be good therapy to be there again. If it’s ok, I’ll drop by next weekend while you’re there for a quick visit, and to see Finn in person. Can’t wait to meet the little guy! Love, Joan
dear Heather , dich and the little Finn..
keep writing words down ..and as you said try to make it easier for yourself by writing exactly how you think and what you feel..
we’re online with you all
you’re always in our thoughts..
you’ve got nice pictures for Finn..
All my best..
dear Heather , dich and the little Finn..
keep writing words down ..and as you said try to make it easier for yourself by writing exactly how you think and what you feel..
we’re on line with you all
you’re always in our thoughts..
you’ve got nice pictures for Finn..
All my best..
Hey Guys,
Hope you have a wonderful time at the lake! All of you remain in my thoughts and prayers.
xoxo
sue
Hi, Heather! How nice to hear that things are going well. Have a wonderful time at the lake. I love the new pics!
Joanne
Your son is a stud! I’m off this summer if you need any help! I’m serious. My ovaries hurt when I look at him. Sending you positive energy, love, Alison
Dear Heather, Dick and Finn,
We have just been on holiday to Porquerolles, which is a small Island off the South Coast of France, with the diving club. There is some very deep diving there (42m) and some good wrecks. one of the guys has taken some good photos. (This all means nothing to me who can get seasick in the bath!). For me - the Island is a God given cycling experience as there are no cars and the terrain is sand and rock. I hired a bike for the week and only fell off seriously once. I will attempt to put together a CD to send to you to show some of the things we’ve been up to over the past few years. I think about you often and am so glad to hear that you have had the strength to dance. lots of love from Julia xx
P.S. Keep on dancing, you two!
Dickie-bird-
I thought of you off and on all day yesterday hoping you were having the best Father’s Day ever- your first! You deserve it to say the least. I am sure Finn has absolutely no idea yet how lucky he is to have you for his dad- but we do!
Hope it was a great one!
XXXXOOOO Auntie Nancy
Dick,
This one’s for Dick - just thinking of you before this day ends - your very first Father’s Day - one of many to come - I hope you all had a wonderful day, you very special guy.
Love,
pat
Heather and Dick and Little Finny:
Thinking about all three of you and sending all my love and healing! Happy Father’s Day Dick! Heather was right–she did win the “human lottery”! Keep up the good work! Love to you all!
Maria
Hi Heath and Dick and Finn! Cape Cod winds are blowing strong today, carrying all the bad out to sea. I think of you often and so appreciate your blog. Dance, little Heath. I’m holding-up a lighter for you while the slow songs play. Love you so much. DICK, HAPPY FATHER’S DAY! I’ll write it all in the sand, so the tide can wash it cleancleanclean. Sending my love and energy your way. Tam
Hi guys! Just wanted to drop you a quick note to say we’re thinking of you. Hope you’re able to enjoy this warm weather we’re finally getting and that things are going well.
Love,
Meg
hey there… can you believe our babies have been around for 5 months? the time is flying by… mostly because jd keeps me so busy. his last day of school is tomorrow and i am looking forward to it. we’ll have a packed schedule during the summer and it will be nice for him to take swim lessons starting july 1. you know it is kind of important for him to learn how to swim just in case he falls off the dock at moosehead.. hahaha. our friend has a pool and his goal is to learn how to do a cannonball off the diving board.. i wonder where he got that from? maybe his dad and friends having a contest last year who could make the biggest splash… oh well i better get used to the boys stuff considering i have 3 of them in the house with me : ) adam is doing well. he is a laid back little one and then all of a sudden he will make himself present by sceaming or talking… whatever suits him at the time. he sleeps well, has a hard time pooping, and stares at you until you look at him so he can give you a big smile. needless to say i can’t wait for the 5 weafer/hart babies to get together. when they are all 2 yrs old it will be one crazy family reunion. hope you are having a good day heather. my love to you, dick and finn, oxox mary ann
Heather, I always think of you and feel very close. My son Federico was born on dec 31st. He is a lovely baby. Raffaella is well. We send you lots of positive energy from this side of the Atlantic. A big hug to all of you.
Hey Chique Dancing Chiquita! You are such a beautiful person!!!!! I’m so proud of how real, and true to yourself, and truthful with others you are. You shine, baby, and you will fill every crevace of your body with that positive yes-I-am-Heather-Perry-Weafer-so-stand-back-because-I-am-beautiful-and-amazing energy.
I am so glad Dick will be able to be with you for the transfusion. And I am soooo happy you danced. Danced! DANCED!!! Dancing is such a beautiful thing…there are no rules (unless you want to follow some) and it let’s you be in your body and with your body fully.
Life is good. Glad life feels good too. You deserve it.
xxoo Di
Dear Heather…what wonderful news contained in your 5/31 post. We are so happy your joint pain has been relieved and pray that you will continue to improve. We have been at the lake for the past week where we don’t have an internet connection. As always, however, you are in our thoughts every day and the first thing we do when we get home is to check this site. Believe it or not, we celebrated Jones’ 40th birthday Saturday night at the lake with friends and a bluegrass band. There was no dancing but we all had a great time listening to the music. Our love to you and Dick and all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll and Deanie
Dear Ones,
I had no inkling that you were the Fred and Ginger of Mid-Coast Maine. It was a delight to watch you two enjoying yourselves this week-end. Your ‘dips’ are most impressive. I am thinking of you three and hoping that the all is going O.K. with the radiation treatments and that you are able to relish some nice time together at home despite them. It feels like a good time to bank so more Finn moments to carry you through the last deep water ahead. Love always, lee
Heather,
So glad to hear you’re dancing and happy to hear you are pain-free. Best to you, Dick, and the mighty Finn.
Morgan
What a wonderful, optimistic post! Halleluiah that the joint pain is gone. Best of luck with the radiation treatments — your disappointment at the size of your “badges” made me laugh.
Joanne
Hey Heather, Dick, and Finn,
I would just love to see you and “Ed” and laugh, and laugh, and laugh. Finn will probably have a good sense of humor also. Odyssey been really busy getting the shipment off - now the fun and worries begin! Jerry and I get to sail and dive at the end of the summer for 10 days. We think we will get off the dock on the second day! You know how much we wish you and Dick were on the manifest.
I had called because of my periodontist. He has kept me filled in on a product line he is developing for cancer patients. Now being used at a large hospital complex in Texas. Thing is, he told me he has a mouth rinse that helps bone marrow transplants greatly. Guess you transplants will get mouth sores on the 10th or 11th day and the rinse prevents them.
I can forward info to your health care provider if you would like to skip the sores. My ears really perked when he told me of the success with transplant patients. I said - “The funniest girl I know is getting ready to have one” but not for fun.
Was relieved to read that you don’t think you caused this mess. Bad things happen to good people, no reason, just some little thingy goes wrong in cell division. Well, it might have been those drinks at Wet Willy’s, but they would have had to hang on for quite some time. If you had taken the ride in the cigarette boat, you know you would be fine!
Heather, we love you, keep up the dancing, we will check in everyday for your progress. Here is some energy!
Sara
Heather,
Another wonderful update with the best news! Oh, how I appreciate that you danced! I can see you. What joy you must have felt. I hadn’t heard that the pain was gone so that was a wonderful surprise. I am so glad for ALL of you.
Seems like the dates have changed again from what I knew, but that has been the norm through this struggle of yours.
You are constantly in our thoughts and we’re hoping that you have as easy a time as possible throughout the radiation treatments.
You are a wonder to us all.
Love
Pat
Heather,
Like everyone else, I look forward to reading your entries, to hear how you, Dick and Finn are doing. It made me so happy to hear that your joint pain has disappeared, it must be such a relief. I hope that your radiation goes smoothly as you prepare for your transplant. We think of you all the time. We were up at the lake last weekend for the unofficial start of summer, everyone there is thinking of you and looking forward to seeing all of the Weafers there soon. The black flies were out in full force, making us fully aware of what time of year it is! All our best to you, and all the family!
Love, Joan
Just wanted to pop in and see if there was any new news. I am thrilled to read your pain is gone! That makes me so happy. I wish you the best of luck through your radiation treatment…..and it made me smile to hear you were dancing, kind of a perfect kick off to this next step isn’t it?
Finn is getting so big! I too cried w/Livy’s first shots, right along w/her. She turned red and then the scream started and then her tears and mine. Why they put us through that! I’ll have to remember it’s a short lived pain when I bring our newest addition to that appointment.
All my best to you both - we’re thinking of you always.
Love
Meg
Hi Heather,
I’m still here, learning from your journey. I think of you and Dick and Finn often. I’m overjoyed to picture you dancing. Stay strong! Love, Alison
Hello dear Heather, Dick and Finn ..
We are so proud and extremelly gratful to read your last e-mail and be in touch with you, that really shows us that you are making gradually excelent progress and dealing very well with your self and familly as well…
Say hello to Dick, and sweet kisses to the little Finn… take care of you and all of them.
Keep writing ..OK….
Your friend Rachid and Mohamed.
Oh, what lessons I have learned from your website!
I totally believe in the mind/body connection and that what we do in life affects our being. Taking care of one’s self first is the most important job anyone can have, and it has to be done in that order. I am sure you’ve heard this before (and certainly I don’t have to remind you now): when the oxygen mask comes down give yourself the oxygen first then take care of the baby/child. Also you’re cup has to be full in order to give. I’m glad you have discovered this truth as well. And now you are on the road to recovery! Good on you, as my pal in Ireland would say!
Hi kids,
Wish I was closer so I could pop by and see all of you at that end of the Weafer family this weekend.
Heard you really were up in the air this week Heather - you are truly amazing - good for you! GOOOO girl!
Those are my pearls of wisdom for tonight - not much - but you are all in my thoughts.
We’re waiting for the last in this incredible string of babies to appear - hopefully soon, for Meg’s and Greg’s sake - Rich’s twin grandchildren were born on Tuesday and we’ve just returned from visiting them again. This is truly the “year of the baby.”
Enjoy your weekend.
Be well.
Love you
Pat
Dear Ones,
It was very exciting to have a Heather and Dick sighting in Target! As my Mother always said: “You can’t get away with a thing…” We moved on before Bonnie had to know what kind of u-trou Dick prefers. I thought of you two as I sat (in the big white tent with a torrential downpour thudding on the canvas) at David’s (Shrimp Boy) graduation. The speaker was Anne Patchett. She was funny and incisive and warm (qualities that I associate with the two of you) and the topper to a great day. Bonnie’s boyfriend stayed with John’s dad so that the four of us could all go and it was a wonderful family trip. We stayed at a fabbo place that had bunnies running around on the clay courts and great gardens and naked statues. I read of your newest accomplishments and smile as I think of the FACT that all these parental landmarks I experience will be yours too.
Your latest entry and revelations on this web site, Heather, took be aback somewhat. It makes me realize that when you are well again we will look forward to spending time together getting to know each other again. It seems that a lot more parts of Heather have surfaced and I am anxious to meet them all in person. I’m not qualified to speak about your photography or competetive swimming but I can tell you that the reason why you are a good actor is that your soul shows onstage. Perhaps there were other things going on too but what I see is a zest and appreciation for life and the humor of human folly. Acting was just the warm-up for the tenacity you have shown (Dick too) during this process. Surprisingly, I don’t think it can be termed an ordeal anymore because you are taking such deep and positive wisdom from it.
I’ll send “Mega Mama Magic” (my kids called it that) to your aching joints and tired body, Heath. Hugs to you both and a “zlubber” to Finn. Love, lee
hi heather, i’d like just to tell you that i’m thinking and praying for you every day.
peace, health and love
mohamed from biougra
Hi Heather-
I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you often. I look forward to the day when we can get our boys together to play. Sending you lots of healing energy.
xo
Lia
Hi Finn,
We miss you! Can’t wait to see you this weekend at Nanny’s and Gramp’s house. Maybe you could show us how to roll over.
Love,
Bo and Ella
Hi Heather! You don’t know but I am in Mr. weafer your dads class. And I just wanted to say hi and ADORIBLE Finn is!. He is the cutest baby in the world. Im writing this the middle of his class right now so I have to go. BYE Heather Dick and Finn!
Hi Guys,
Glad to hear of the successful harvest. You continue to amaze me with your endurance and inner strength. Enjoy your rest.
Skip
Hi Heather and Dick! I’m one of Don Weafer’s student this year! I have been informed that you are ready for this break! I don’t blame you! As you can see I’m crazy about exclamation points! Well as you know my mom and I, (Janet Roberts my mom) are doing Relay For Life: Cancer Society, that’s tomorrow! I just wanted you to know that I made your luminary, that don bought you, I put a picture of finn on it and it says “Good Luck”!! I hope you guys have a relaxing weekend! You will get through this horrible, horrible disease! I know you will! You have my faith, love, hope, and heart on you side of this terrible, terrible fight!
Love,
Seikah Roberts!!
Hey there Kiddo,
I’m so happy to hear how well things are going, and how positive you sound about this whole mess. The pictures of Finn are so cute, and the three of you look great together. Hang in there. From the sound of things the worst part is over. I love you all and can’t wait to see you.
Love Ant
Hi Heath. Thinking of you. Today is a beautiful day. It’s somewhat muddy outside from all the rain we’ve had, but the sun is trying really hard to break through. Signs of newness and the changing season are everywhere. This morning on my way to work, I saw a little bird flapping around helplessly on the side walk near Manero’s. As I approached, I had the sinking feeling that he had flown into a window where he lay. As I got closer, I whined aloud, “OHhhh nooo…” I crouched down to see if I could somehow help him. When I was very close I was startled when, not one, but TWO birds were flapping around and they immediately flew away!!! Then I realized what was going on there… heh heh…I had totally ruined their moment. I felt like such a weiner! I laughed. Life is good. Love you Heath.
Hi, Heather. I’m so glad to hear that the harvest went well. I truly hope that the joint pain subsides and that you can enjoy your test drive of normal, everyday life with your family.
As others have written here, I appreciate your accomplishments, but the reason I check this website and write the occasional note is that I care about the Heather I got to know when I lived in Maine — the swimmer and the smiler and the girl I chatted with in the locker room — not the photographer, traveler, actor. I’ve heard it said that we should think of the cost of our mistakes as tuition. If you truly think that the cancer is partially the result of misplaced priorities, then I guess you’ve paid tuition at life’s Harvard. Personally, I’m hoping to get away with life’s education at community college rates!
I think of you all the time and pray for you every day.
Joanne
Happy Mother’s Day. Glad you were able to be home with Dick & Finn.
Once again I am humbled as I read your most recent entry. You are an amazing person in so many ways. Although I am impressed with your photography and everything you’ve done , I am even more impressed with your openess and strength during this illness. Your writing evokes a reflection and appreciation of my own life, family and friends.
As always, you and your family are in my prayers.
Love, Linda
Happy Belated Mother’s Day!! ( but I feel like every day is Mother’s Day!) I’m glad that self-reflection has become part of your healing process because with any kind of illness (mental, cancer, etc.), you have to remember who you are and what you’ve done with your life. Don’t forget that life happens for reasons, and there’s only so much that you can control. Like Rafiki says in “The Lion King”, “[Life] can hurt. But you can either run from it, or learn from it.”
–Hannah
dear Heather…I have been here all the while..reading , watching…quietly sending healthful energy…but have not written for a long time.
Your Mother’s Day entry was powerful. I related to so much that you said about looking at the real reasons for our existence and our process. Very well said…and strengthening for me as I am sure it has been for others. Thank you for your honest directness.
I look outside at the flowering trees in our yard and the happy perennials that will explode when given a touch of warmth…and am reminded that the reasons for waking everyday are fairly simple..and hope to try to hold onto those thoughts a bit more successfully each day.
Sending a hug from P st.
Quietly observing, Judy B.
Heath,
So nice to hear that you were able to spend Mothers Day at home with Dick and Finn. You so deserve it and so do they.
I typically don’t like to re-iterate the sentiments of my mom or sister (just kidding) but I do feel the same. I too, have never been to one of your plays. I have been to a showing of your photography, but not to see your pictures. Its certainly not that I don’t enjoy viewing them, but contrary to popular opinion, I don’t have the most artistic eye. Honestly, I can’t tell the artistic difference between a picture of a beautiful sunset and a picture of a chilli-dog. I was at the show, to support Heather the person not Heather the photographer.
I am happy that you have come to the realization that you shared with us. I hope though, that you realize you are loved because of the person you are, not places you’ve gone or the things that you have accomplished. It’s not the “idea” of you we love, it’s simply you.
Jim
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn!
I love the picture of the three of you! I hope that all is well and I am happy to hear that you had a nice Mother’s Day. Wow! About your stem cells, I expect that you needed that encouraging news right about now. I am so happy that we had the opportunity to see you, however short a visit it was. I have not forgotten about your card, I will send it tomorrow (sorry, ever the pile maker, it got lost in the abyss
) I hope that you are all doing well. Our love to all of you!
Love and lots of prayers,
Heidi
Um, ok so that should say that my MOM ends up writing…..forgive my brain….only a few more weeks of this pregnancy to go and maybe I’ll be more coherant?
Hi Heather,
It always makes me laugh that my ends up writing at the same time I do. Great minds right? I read your entry at work earlier today and also wanted to take some time to think about it. I was thinking back to when I first met you - which I can’t even tell you how many years ago that was now but it must’ve been….somewhere inbetween 10-15? You were at a family function with my very favorite cousin. I’d never had to share Dick before at these things - it was always he and I paired up at things because well, that’s how it was as long as I can remember. He is one of the most gentle, patient, and kind people I know. You had entered his life, and my family’s life, and I remember being torn between being happy and very upset that I had to share him at these rare occasions.
You have made Dick so very happy. You fit into this family like you were born into it. And for all you’ve accomplished in your life - the things you say you’ve needed to make sure you are worth something, I honestly haven’t even seen. What I’ve seen of Heather has been only had the occasional family event in the last 10 years….Christmas, March Madness, or Weafer weekend (I miss those!). An occasional weekend we may get together. I’ve seen some of your photography work and am amazed, but I’ve not been to an event, I’ve never seen you perform. I’ve only seen YOU. And I love you dearly for who you are, and for making the cousin I always felt closet to so happy.
I hope this isn’t too much of a ramble. I just want you to know how valued you are as a person, an individual - and not by the accomplishments you’ve made. I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day and know that as always, you are in my thoughts.
Love,
Meg
Heather,
I’ve just read your recent entry and thank you from all of us for the detailed update on your latest journey.
Again, what an amazing young woman you are. I have to take some time to absorb what you’ve written about your responsibility for the cancer. As I read what you wrote my first thought was “she’s being too hard on herself”. I will need to read it over again and think about it.
Because, you see, Heather, my family (I’m sure I can speak for them on this topic) have loved you for the girl who became a young woman while we knew her. Yes, we are proud of your accomplishments. But, I assure you, we love you for the person that we know as Heather, the girl who married Dick, not for the places you’ve been, the photos you’ve taken, the lectures you’ve given, the plays you’ve acted in. . . . You became a part of our family…a warm, loving young woman.
You know, we never know how people really see us, do we?
Your insight in to how you feel can only be a good thing for you - what a very difficuolt thing that must have been for you to go through.
I feel like I have so much more to say, but I think this is not the place for it - I guess it’s time for me to get out that pen and paper again and write you. I’ll re-read your entry later this week and you’ll be hearing from me.
I am so glad you had a nice Mother’s Day. It is a special day for those of us who are blessed to have children.
Thinking of you and pondering…… (????)
Pat
I just wanted to let you know that you all are in my thoughts. Heather, I thought of you yesterday as you were having your first Mom’s Day! How wonderful! I’m sure you are looking forward to many more! As you go through all the trials and tribulations of parenthood it will seem like every day should be parent’s day!! But in the end it’s all very much worth it!
Beth
HI YOU ALL, NICE SNAPS. EVERYBODY LOOKS LEAN AND MEAN . HEATH YOU STILL ARE THE BEST LOOKIN GIRL IN ME. NICE HEAD WRAP. YOU LOOK LIKE A ARAB PRINCESS.
Hi, you three-
I haven’t made an entry in quite some time, but just know that I think of you EVERY day and I’ve been getting all the news from mom & dad. I hear you got some encouraging news this past week - needless to say we were absolutely thrilled.
Today, I just really wanted to wish you a very Happy first (of MANY to come!)Mother’s Day, Heather. We all know what a lucky little boy Finn is to have you for a mom. You have been noting short of heroically brave & strong - and I know that strength comes in large part from that amazing love you have for that little guy. It’s hard enough to be a mom under normal circumstances and you have every right to be so proud of everything you have endured and overcome and learned these past months- for yourself and for Finn & Dickie. Hang in there & have a wonderful day!
XXXXXXOOOO Auntie Nancy
P.S. Let me know if you need help - I can up there to help take care of that little angel-boy in a few short hours…
Hi Heather,
Happy first Mother’s Day!
You continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Hope to see you all at the lake this summer. We can’t wait to meet Finn!
Tom, Tina, Ben, and Cameron
Hi Heather…
Again… don’t know you well, but have lots of friends who are thinking of you often. I wanted to wish you a happy first mothers day - maybe the sun will shine for you all, it should.
take good care,
Julia
Hi Heather,
How are you doing? How is your wonderful little boy, Finn?
I will be leaving for Belgium in one week, and I didn’t want to leave without saying hello to you. From there I will also send you some news.
Take care!
Rose
Hi Heather and Dick-
Checking in to see how you all are doing- I hope the positive powers that be are shining on you all. My sister Jeanne works with your grandmother? Lucy at Sweetser- she tries to keep me updated because she knows how much I care. Keep up the battle- from what I read and hear- you are fighting a good fight. Hugs to you all. I’ll keep praying.
Hello Finn,
Tomorrow is Mother’s Day and you have a special one. Your mother has infected everyone she has every known with only what we can call Heatherness. No matter how far away from her you or we are, only thinking of her brings up the Heatherness.
You are a lucky little boy and you don’t have a bad dad either. Twice Blessed you are.
Anyway, give your mom a nuzzle from the Buchheim’s tomorrow. Just a special little nuzzle from us. She will know.
Sara, Jerry, Jon and Jason
Hello Weafer Three-
Like Lee, I’m leaving a late night pondering - it looks from JP’s note that the ‘Harvest’ (and yes, indeed, you shall be forever more ‘the Queen’!), went very well. Bravo and kuddos! I’m checking in to let you know that our entire church prayed for you last week, and will continue to…and to wish you the most wonderful, sweet, tender, joy-ful, and warm and cozy mother’s day - the first of many-many. Did you know that the first mother’s day in the 1800’s was a call for peace by Julia Howe? There was just a blurb about it in the Times Record, but I learned of it a year ago in church on mother’s day. This Sunday our youth group will do the service with this as it’s theme (Chrisitan will sing, ‘Bring Him Home’ from Les Miz among many other treats). And so, my dear, on this your first mother’s day, I wish for you the utmost and deepest kind of Peace -abiding, omnipotent, and healing….. know that we are with ALL with you - all the way. Enjoy those boys, and have a happy, happy and blessed day.
love,
Sheri for all the Nadells
Hey Heather and Dick-
Sending you much love and healing energy from Santa Monica.
Hope to see you when I come home for the wedding.
Big hug to all THREE of you.
Tammy
Hi Heather,
We want to wish you the happiest of happy Mother’s Days! Wish you were here with us (we miss you already!) but know you’ve more than earned a nice chunk of time at home with your boys.
Sending you healing thoughts for happy and pain free joints.
Love to you three from we four,
Kimmie, Tiff, Bo and Ella
Apologies for not writing lately - we were away on vacation and then settling back into reality! Heather, your journal is so amazing. Just when I think you can’t share anything beyond what you have, you write something so profound. The posting about your parents was beautiful. Having lost both of mine during the past 6yrs, I can only confirm to you (and others) that it’s so important to hold those dear to you close and cherish the time you have. The ‘up’ side of serious health issues is that they serve as a wake up call for us to examine what’s really important in our lives.
On a happier note, it’s almost Mothers Day!!!! Congratulations to you as you celebrate your first one with such a beautiful little baby
I hope your medical procedures are going well and that you’re feeling better every day. Jayne
Dear Heather, Dick, and Finn,
As I read Heather’s last two updates and look at the glorious pictures, all I see is love. Because you share your journey, you bless each and every one of us with your insights and the accounts of the emotional and physical generosity of those who love you all. We are with you all in this struggle; we are amazed by your strength and courage, we are humbled by the three of you. May your strength continue to win out, Heather. You three are our heroes.
With love,
Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose
Dick & Heather,
I couldn’t be happier to hear the good news. Your fighting is paying off!
Thinking of you,
Jim
6 million Cells!!!! You rock girlfriend! Good Job! I knew you were potent!
Love JP
Dick & Heather,
Got an update from my mom yesterday that sounded great! I’m so glad you guys have had some good news. Sounds like all of the prayers and energy sent towards you is working. Know we’re all thinking of you and are with you every day in spirit.
Love
Meg
Hi Heather,
I hear from my mom that you mainers have flowers blooming and grass growing and spring is just about arrived. Here I’m totally sticky, and the air warm and heavy.
I’m thinking about that freak day you were here and we almost went to ait baha, but we didn’t, we stayed in my hot house leaning against cold blue fishtank walls eating olives and red cheese waiting for the heat to pass.
I miss you laugh and your logic. thank you for sharing it with me here.
I think about you everyday, and send you the strength that you had so generously shared with me.
I love you so much.
Finn is SO beautiful. I can’t wait to see him in real life instead of just pictures!
it won’t be long now.
Love, reba
Dick and Heather,
Just heard from G&G that you are on your way HOME! Thank goodness something finally went well. I’m sure you are both exhausted, and very glad to get back to Finn. Get some sleep tonight while the grandparents and great-grandparents continue do some of those night feedings.
You continue to be in my thoughts, prayers and heart.
Love you,
Pat
Hi Heath,
I am soooo sorry I haven’t written sooner, I have been keeping up on your progress thol You are always in our prayers and our thoughts. I can’t wait to see Finn again, He is sooo cute and from what I hear gram and pop are spoiling him , as they should. Good luck with your next round of stuff. I hope everything goes well with the harvesting of the stem cells I’ll be praying for all of you
Love,
Aunt Jacki
Hi Heather,
It’s been a while since we last ran into each other (at Maine Roasters in Yarmouth?) but I just wanted to add my thoughts and words of encouragement to you. The early mornings at the Casco Bay Y were not quite the same after you left to swim in Bath. It was kismet to hear about your baby boy and your challenges from Bill C. this AM , because I had just been thinking about you and wondering what you were up to. Hope you stay strong and it seems like you’ve got all the support that anyone could ask for here. My prayers are with you and your family.
Stephanie
Dear Ones,
…having a late night ponder wondering how it is all going for you. After this next phase we’ll elect you “Harvest Queen”, Heather. Surely Jenn and Wen can get out the glue guns and make some sort of spectacular crown for the winner of the title! (perhaps something involving cat-o-nine tails…) We are ALL thinking of you ALL with love and admiration. love, lee
Dear Heather, Dick and Finn,
We were away over vacation, but only in body…our prayers and hugs continue to come your way. I talked to Dick the other day and after hearing of the upcoming ’schedule’, I commented that there’ll have to be a big party this summer…but what kind of party? We thought maybe a big, huge, ‘normal life’ party? Sound okay with you, Heather and Finn? Thank you so much for your entries, Heather. Your honesty, eloquent words, and lessons are such a gift to us. It’s May and you’re almost there. Really. Stay tough. That’s what I say to my soccer and field hockey kids on the field - stay tough. You are and you will. And I will pray for more scrumptious moments of normalcy with your awesome boys. Remember how much we all love you,
Sheri for all the Nadells
Hey Finn,
What is that funny noise outside? Is that spring? My goodness, your first spring and lovely one at that. Today in Maine the rain was east and down (that’ is downpour) we need it and took to it. Outside your house the river is high and the rains push the water by, by . Hope you and your Dad are loving seeing your mom today:) Mother’s day is coming up, will you make her pancakes?
Love shaye and john
Heather,
Just looked at the new pics. They’re great! A great “pink day”!
You know, right now, you and Finn look A LOT alike!!
Mary
Hi guys,
Just wanted to drop you a quick note to say I’m thinking of you always and checking the website daily still. My thoughts are with you guys, I know this hasn’t been an easy week for you and we’re all still here pulling for you and praying for you.
Love,
Meg
Prince Finn is a living masterpiece. What a beauty!
I love the pictures.!! You are in my thoughts more than
you’ll know.
I love the updates.
Much peace and happiness to you
Amy (your L/D nurse)
p.s it’s almost popham beach weather
Hi Guys,
Thinking about you guys!
Jim
Hey Guys, Just thought I would send you a loving shout out from Tech Week at TTP. Only a year ago I can remember stressing over video slides with Heather for Tollbooth. Such trivial things nowadays. Hope you 3 are doing well, and much love and good vibes going into the “harvest”.
Love JP
Hi, Heather. I hope Boston went well and that you were able to enjoy your birthday a little bit! We’re having a perfect spring down here in Maryland, and it’s heading your way! Spring is such a time of rejuvenation — I hope that’s reflected in your progress.
The photos of Finn are just beautiful!
Joanne
I just wanted to let you know that there are people out here that you have never met who are reading your words, marveling at your journey, and sending you all the strength, hope, and courage that we can send over the thoughtwaves.
Be strong and enjoy spring!
Janet (Mom of one of Dad Weafer’s students)
Hi Heather and Dick,
Hope you’re heading home soon, Heather. Just checking in and letting you all know you are always in our thoughts and hearts. Maybe we’ll just have to celebrate that birthday again this summer when we get all these new babies (and one more to come) together. Sounds like a plan to me.
Love you and kisses to Finn,
Pat
happy birthday heather! we love you…
jim, mary ann, jd, and adam
Hi Sweetie!
I sent you an email this morning too but thought I should put one on the website just in case you aren’t checking email… so…..
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
We love you!!!!! Can’t wait for next years dual Wendo/Heather Bday celebration again! It just wasn’t right this year with both of you out of town for your bdays!
Can’t wait to see you next week when you get back.
Love,
Jen & Newton (and Ella, Kate and Sara too!)
I think about you every day. I go for walks through in the woods with my dog and listen to the voices of the trees, sounds of spring, cars and planes in the distance, voices in my head, too. They’re all shouting, “50 more birthdays for Heather!”
Happy HAPPY birthday to you, my friend. I’m sending you my biggest, bad-ass, kick butt, Italian-girl-from-Cos Cob vibes~~~~ ((((sqeezing you now… activate!))))~~~ feel that? Yeah! That’s the old school stuff!!! Remember the clean burn, mama. Love you. Tam
Happy Birthday Heath!
I wish health, happiness, peace, and health again in the coming year!
much love,
Heath
Happy Birthday Heather!
Love,
Jim
Happy Birthday HEATHER!!!
Sending tons of love and hugs and
happy warm thoughts!
All of my love,
Maria
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, HEATHER!!
xoxo
Sue
Happy Birthday to you,
Happy Birthday to you,
Happy Birthday Dear Mommy,
Happy Birthday to you!
I love you and miss you and I can’t wait to eat cake together next year! Be brave and hurry home.
Love,
Your Finn-bug
Hey there Heath,
I am so sorry that i have not written in a while. I have been thinking about you so much.
I want to also tell you Happy Birthday and that I love you.
The other day my daughter Libby was talking to me about her day at school. I asked her what she learned about that day, and she responded “well dad, we learned about St. Judes Childrens Hospital.” I answered ‘really” Libby then said ” They do alot of good things for kids, but I don’t evere ever want to go there.” She said ” sick kids go there to get better but they all get bald when there there” I really had a good laugh inside, and explained that those kids have cancer. She said ” Isnt that what aunt Heather has. and I said yes, and tried my best to explain it to her. She said that she cant wait to meet you. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.. Love Ant.
Hi Heath,
It was great talking to you on Easter! I love the new pictures of Finn. He is absolutely adorable . . . I can’t wait to meet him. He’s really getting so big and I’m so happy he’s progressing along just perfectly.
Not sure if I’ll be able to write tomorrow so just in case I can’t -
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
I’m off to bed now. Thinking of you and praying for you always.
Love,
Kristen
Heather,
It’s almost your birthday and I might not get on here tomorrow so
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, BEAUTIFUL GIRL!!!!!!!!!!
Love
Pat
Hello Dick and Heather, Finn, and all the wonderful posters out there,
On our fridge (the ultimate badge of urban love) we have you three to join us in our morning coffee and evening cocktails, maybe even the occasional late night snack…Right now it is of morrocan head woman, and wee hope sky blue with dick looking tired and always that smile just below the look.
I have just finished telling John of your story, reality, love poem to your folks the ‘knights in sweatpants and parkas’, they are knights aren’t they, Joe and Lucy much much love to you both. Love to you three,
Shaye and John
Hi Heth,
I love the newest pics of Finn! Especially the one of him smiling! He is a beautiful little boy!! I can’t wait to see him again. I hope that your treatment is going well! I will call you tomorrow.
Love as always,
Heidi
Hi Heth,
I love the newest pics of Finn! Especially the one of him smiling! He is a beautiful little boy!! I can’t wait to see him again. I hope that your treatment is going well! I will call you tomorrow.
Love as always,
Heidi
Dear Ones,
Today is my oldest friend’s birthday. We were playpen buddies just as Finn will be with his cousins. April babies seem to be very creative. My Ian is…well, Ian and my friend is a top musician and you… We all know of your skills on stage and with a camera but I for one did not know what a writer you were until your entries on this site. To read about your parents and then see the picture of them with Finn was a real treat. Your father’s expression is one I have never seen on him and it is beautiful. The pictures of Finn show what a personality he has already and how he reacts to you despite the lens between you. I like to think about watching the Weafer family grow together for many years to come and his special self evolving daily. Best of luck with this next phase and keep the faith, All. A longish rest back in Maine, even with radiation, sounds pretty wonderful after what you’ve all been through,
I’m starting a new T.P. class this afternoon with ‘ the Tweets’ (as Al calls them) and in preparing for it realized that someday I will probably have FINN in my class! He’ll have a few stories to tell.. . much love, lee
It’s so great to hear from you Heather. Your words continue to amaze and inspire me. My thoughts are with you as you go through this next hurdle. My love to you and your beautiful family. You are the strongest person I know.
Hello Heather and Dick,
No great words of wisdom, but just a thank you Heather for the latest updates. My prayers and good wishes continue with a joyful heart for all of your victories to date. And thank you to all who have posted here - it is always refreshing to log on and see a new message or two! Judging by little Nathaniel’s development I’m guessing that Finn is rewarding you with some great smiles, giggles, cooing, and facial expressions. Talk about good medicine! Nathaniel says hi to Finn, and wants to know when he gets to meet him.
Know that your suffering is not without merit. At the very least I see how it often grounds me in what is important and allows me to be part of something bigger than me. Judging by this website it is doing a whole lot more. So thank you for your struggle. You will never know, at least in this life, how much good has been accomplished by it.
Lou
Dear Heather and Dick…we’re so glad your heavy chemo treatments are behind you. Our hearts ache for what you have had to endure. We knew things would be tough but were confident you would come through like a champ, as you have done. You and Dick are truly an inspiration to us all. We love you both so much and pray you will have a quiet and peaceful respite before further treatment. Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers…Carroll and Deanie
Hello dear Heather, Dick and the little Finn ..
Happy BIRTHDAY to you HEATHER
HOW could we say or describe our feelings to remind ourselves -in everyday during this month- the day of your birthday!!! Yeah!! See.. we have not forgotten it…
HOW very special that day for you and Dick to celebrate it with the presence of Finn!!Have fun all of you..
HOW can we express to you our great happeness and delight for just congratulating you at your second birthday during our relationship!!!???
HOW can we just open the uncompleted list of our wide wishes and hopes to you and all of your familly!!??
HOW.. and .. HOW…!!
Dear Heather, it’s the day for more light and energy from your friends..
Give Finn sweet kisses..
Happy BIRTHDAY to you HEATHER
Your friends in Biougra..
Rachid .. and Mohamed ..
Heather,
Thank you once again…….for sharing what you are going through. I read your entry this morning and have been thinking about it all day. You pointed out to us what some of us are fortunate enough to be able to do, take our parents for granted! Not that I’m suggesting that it’s a good thing to do, but in that strange way it is a compliment. To love people and be loved by people that we know will always be there for us is such an incredible gift. There have been many times in my life that I have just wanted my mother, doesn’t matter how old we are, we still need and want our parents. I’m glad that your parents were there for you on that particular night, and I’m sure they were too! I think of you, Dick and Finn (who is so adorable) every day. Stay strong.
Love, Joan
Dear Heather and Dick,
I read with great interest about your night last week - that special night where your parents, Heather, came to help you all. Parents are well equipped to do just that: whatever is needed and whenever the call comes. When our children become adults, those opportunities present infrequently, but when they do, they are golden, much treasured moments. Somehow, in the darkness and stillness of the night, a solution becomes so crystal clear…I am so pleased that they could help you in exactly the way you most needed them. I am certain they hold that night so dear, as they do the three of you. God bless you and keep you…fondly, Mary Buckowsky
Heather and Dick,
You and Finn remain in my prayers and positive thoughts…sending much love to you all always and particularly this week…
xoxo
Sue
It was so nice to have an update from you! And you “sound” good too. I wish you an early happy birthday (since I doubt my pregnant brain will remember on the correct day this week!) and if ever someone deserved to really have a birthday week….or two….or three….of celebration it’s you! I’m a big birthday person myself so I hope everyone just showers you with birthday love all week and then some.
The new pics of Finn are gorgeous. He is such a beautiful baby Heather, and from what I hear a good little guy too
I will send you lots of positive thoughts and love this week. Try to enjoy your birthday -you have your own now and know how very special that day is now huh?
Love
Meg
Yah! It was so good to hear from you. You know, silence can be horrible. It also made it hard to send positive thoughts when I kept wondering if everything was all right. I need to work on that since it is not your job to reassure me/us!!!!!!
Sweating is a great way to detox so even though it feels yucky, it means your body is healing. …I know, I know, just call me Dr. Di
Sending you sunshine on a gray day.
Heather and Dick,
It was so good to get an update from you, Heather. I have been getting updates and knew you were having some very dark days, but you sound like yourself again - you and Dick have climbed yet another mountain. Your words are truly poetic. Those of us who are parents find your words about your own parents very moving…and I’m sure we’re thinking that we hope our kids know that we’re there for them….maybe we should be sure that we let them know how much they mean to us. Oops! Sorry, got off the subject!
So….Kim mentioned your birthday when I saw all of them yesterday - and I remember that you two do vie for the BIRTHDAY GIRL award. I believe she said it was WEDNESDAY - just in case anyone on here wants to send a birthday wish your way that day. Or, anyone who has Kim’s address could always send a card to you THERE. I figure you’ll have AT LEAST a birthday week or two this year!!!!!
Okay, girl, just checking in - you know I’ thinking about you.
Love
Pat
Hey Heather & Dick and little baby Finn!
I have been hearing much news about you all from Molly and have seen beautiful pictures of the new addition to the Theater Project circle of love. I miss all of you and hope that boston is treating you as well as it can. I think about you guys and all the struggles that you are facing but then I think about how good spirited you are and how much that helps in life. I wish things were different and I want you to know that I am hoping for the best. Hope to see you this summer at some point, love you all, give Finn a high five for me,
Elise
Heather, Dick and Finn -
Its Matt here, checking in from down in New York. It is so great to hear from you both on this website and to be able to share in some small way the journey that you both are on. My heart did a little backflip when I came across the photo of Heather holding Finn while wearing the “tiny but mighty” sweat jacket. In some small way, I like to think that every time you put on the jacket, its actually me stretching my arms all the way up to Maine to wrap you in a big fuzzy warm hug. I don’t know how it is in Maine, but down here in New York the bright green leaves are popping out of trees all over the place. Tulips and daffodils are swaying in the gardens around my apartment building. The air is fresher, the sun is brighter and after a long winter it genuinely feels like the world is going through a rebirth. There is hope, there is joy, there is endless possibility. I trust and hope this Spring feels the same for the three of you. Through your strength and love you have earned this season more than anyone I know. The world is pouring out floods of warm energy and hope and I am channelling as much of my share of it to send to you. I wish Heather the very happiest of birthdays next week. What an unbelievable year you just had - a journey unlike any one I’ve ever heard and I feel blessed to have been even a small part of it. The next year for you all will be one of countless joys and loves, I just know it. I can’t wait to see you all, but until I do you constantly remain in my mind and heart.
Much love,
Matt
Heath et al,
It is great to hear how far you have come! It sure hasn’t been easy for you all but how wonderful it is to be at this point where we are all thinking of your little family together and enjoying life. Keep up the good work. This particular birthday has a bit of a sheen to it, doesn’t it? I’ll be thinkin’ of you - as always. Lee
Dear Heather, Dick, and Finn,
Finn is just getting cuter by the minute…he is precious! I can’t believe he has passed the three month mark already! Every baby minute is so special and you are both so wise to savor each one and keep life as normal for him as possible. I’m sure he senses how important he is in the great scheme of things,that we all love him already and think he and his parents are just the best! So glad to get the updates; it helps us all to know where you are at in the healing process so that we can cheer you on!
Love from the Rothwells!
Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose
Hi,
A big smile is on my face! When I don’t see an update from someone I get nervous. I’m so glad you made it thru this part so well, get a well deserved rest and prepare for the next battle. I am in awe of your tenacity and pluck.
Skip
Hi, Heather! It’s so great to hear from you, especially that the treatment plan is moving along apace. I’m so glad that you all get this week to recoup. I think of you daily and wish you the best. And I love the new pics!
Joanne
Hi Guys,
I haven’t seen any updates lately and I’m sure others as well are anxious about how things are going. I’m hoping all is well. I’ll keep checking in. West Harbor Pond is a little sadder without you. Fight on!
Skip
Dear Ones,
I ran into Jen on my way into the St.L. and she said that there had been no new challenges for you. Yea!!!!!! She did mention that you, Heath, were feeling pretty bored so I think this’ll be my last entry on the web site for awhile as I will write you real letters instead. Remember those? To you three and to all who read this site - Keep the faith! xxx lee
Hey Heather, Dick, and baby Finn,
Haven’t heard much on the website and we are hoping for good news for you. You three are in our thoughts everyday, every hour. I wish I could channel some of my strength to you - and if wishes come true, then I have.
Will keep checking the web site every day. Give Dick a big hug from us - then he should give you one from us.
Sara and Jerry
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn,
Just want you to know I think of you daily and everytime I do, I send you love and light. Hope you are feeling better Heather. Lots of love to you and yours.
Jody King
Dear Heather:
Patricia gave me news re your condition about a month ago. I haven’t been swimming at the Y due to my husband’s illness so did not know what had happened to you.
I am so very sorry to hear the news of your illness, but happy to hear that baby Finn is doing fine. Will say many prayers for your recovery.
God bless you and yours,
Charlotte Iserbyt, Bath
Dear Heather…just a note to say hello and to reaffirm that you are in our thoughts and prayers night and day. I know these must be tought times but I know you are fighting the good fight and that Dick is right there by your side. We do love you both so much. I went by the allposters.com web site a little while ago and reviewd your entire collection. I am always amazed at the beauty of your images and what a great talent you have. Anyone who hasn’t done so should go to this site and see your work. My prayer is that you will soon be whole and well and able to resume your normal life with Dick and Finn…and capture more beautiful images Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll & Deanie
Happy Easter!!! I love you 3 very much and hope you have a nice quiet egg day!
JP
Yesterday JR and I went walking and the peepers were so darn loud! Gone is the strict silence of winter hello caucaphany (sp) of spring. John was telling me about a project he is doing with his kids at school- tell a story about yourself in 20 still frames or less. Of course our conversation turned to One Picture Perry. That instinctual quality Heather has of capturing so much in just one frame. Looking forward to talking photos with you:)
Mr. Richard! JR and I smile toward you and send you quite moments when you can concentrate enough to read.
Much love and may your sunshine be bright.
Hi Guys,
My family is thinking of you always. Happy Easter. We will color three eggs for the three of you just in case you don’t get to it!
Hang in there you two, we love you.
Jim
Heather, Dick & Finn,
Just a quick note to let you know you’re always in our thoughts, we check the website daily, checking for updates on your progress. Wishing you and all the Weafers a happy Easter.
Love
Bruce & Joan
Hi guys,
Just wanted to drop you three a quick note to say Happy Easter and that we’re thinking of you. I know this week hasn’t been easy for you - but know that we’re all out here, praying and doing what we do to help you fight this thing the only way we know how. Lots of hugs, I hope Finn enjoys his first Easter!
Love you,
Meg
HEY THERE HEATH … LOVE AND ALL OUR PRAYERFUL THOUGHT BLASTS TOO YOU FINN AND DICK…..ANOTHER ONE BITES THE DUST…
AMAZING! That is all I can say. Heather, even though you have a lot of chemicals in your body, everyone knows you are still the same old lady who can crack a joke and smile even if it’s raining.
GOOO FINN AND DICK and all the other WEAFERS!!!
I’m still thinking about you all–
Hannah Weddle
Dear Heather…just a note to touch base. You’re still in our thoughts and prayers during all waking hours. I gather you’re still in Boston for one of the heavy chemo treatments and possibly without Dick and Finn. If so, I know it must be very tough times. But you know we are all still with you, at your side in thought and prayer if not in person. Our love to you and Dick and all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll and Deanie
Hi Heather,
Don’t know the prior person, but I have two of Israel’s CD and yes, that is a song I play over and over. I will put it on tomorrow and be thinking of you.
Hang in there, honey. I cannot imagine how tough this is on you, but we need you to do the “pull yourself up by the bootstraps” thing, yet again. I do know it’s hard, you’re exhausted, tired of it all. No one will ever not understand that.
Remember that we’re all out here praying for you, urging you to be strong - oh so strong you have been, young lady.
Dick and Finn are waiting for your return to Maine. Think of them…you’ll be home soon.
Love
Pat
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn,
I’m reading your notes and listening to Israel Kamakawaso’ole (a hawaiian musician with the voice of an angel) singing Somewhere Over the Rainbow…..and sending you love and positive energy. Listen to that song and see if it doesn’t raise your energy the next time you feel blue…………..it’s good medicine. I’m just playing it over and over and haven’t got tired of it yet.
I see your friends from Morocco are checking in on you too. I had the pleasure of meeting a couple of them and everyone was wishing you well and continue to send their best wishes.
Anyway, sending you loving white light and healing energy………over the rainbow from me to you.
love, jody
Hi. Just the Kew clan sending big virtual hugs your way.
Hi Heather again..
we don’t know if you recieve our letter!! which maybe gives you another idea from your friends.
still wait for your visit ..
we wish to you good luck and good days..
kisses and greatings for all of you..
mohamed and rachid
hi He
Heath,
I wish you safe traveling tomorrow and easy IVs. See you soon.
Love, Michele
P.S. As always, kisses and hugs to Dick and Finn.
Dearest Three,
Okay, so here’s the deal - just checking in to let you know that miracles happen every day - today I heard of one that happened during the last 14 years; regarding a lovely woman whom I know. She was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. Today she is with us on our earth: alive, vibrant and full of spunk. Reading back over my sentences in black and white….I wonder if I should write it. But I keep thinking (almost every day) that you ARE and WILL BE a miracle, and so - hearing about miracles that have come before can only assist in your journey. And so, I want to let you know about women like ‘my lady’ who have conquered (a good word) and endured, (another good word) and persevered (yet another) and are HERE to have their story told. This is only one story….my father has beat cancer twice….how many victory stories are there out there?? Billions…perhaps…I don’t know - but I do know that yours SHALL be added to the ‘Victory List’ - indeed - it’ll be there - probably in italics because the almighty Finn was the Sous-Chef! Name many reasons for the itlacs - just know that it’ll be there. It will. I know it in my heart. (And so far I’ve known a FEW things in my heart which are indeed real).
So - I wanted to remind you again about miracles - ’cause you’re a real live one! I give Dick hugs at JA to pass into the quantum healing pulse….and as always, I pray and encourage others to as well.
Gentle hugs, smiles, and love from,
Sheri and all the Nadells
I must apologize for delaying so long in offering my support and best wishes. I think I have been waiting for some profound thoughts to strike me that I could pass along, but nothing seems to measure up to the situation. I do know that most of us find we can endure more emotional hardship than we ever thought possible and you all are proving that once again. We think of you often and I hope with all my heart that you progress positively through this trial. Congratulations on Finn — what a blessing! We hope to see you all soon.
Aqua Dart and Weafer, Dick ~
i’m a little gun shy at the thought of people i don’t know reading this…so…brief is better…the words “hero” and “role model” and “inspiration” these days are thrown out there like nothing, so i hesitate to use them, but reading your comments on this website fill my heart to overflowing with inspiration, and respect, and love and oh my God, you HUMBLE me with your love and hope and faith and strength…and how petty i am in my own worries in life….do you know what i am remembering right now? (and any relatives who are squeamish, as my bro and i are in such matters, stop reading…) the two of you crammed into heather’s bed in my and dart’s room, the two of you reading poetry to each other at night, all lovey-dovey and googly….(OK, safe again…) and the four of us trekking to Dart’s red jeep in the GOD AWFUL JANUARY MAINE COLD to go to practice….and going to dart or dick’s relatives’ home for some meatballs and spaghetti, i think it was….
I love you both, and, by extension, your Finn, your miracle.
so many of my family and friends who don’t even know you are praying, sending happy light waves (sorry, still getting used to the meditation terminology thing, being the strong Catholic that i am…..) and rooting for you all…and, since RI is so small, rest assured that by now 2/3 of the state knows your story, most likely, and prayers and good karma and all that jazz are shooting to you from all over our great little state….
…okay, so you know what? this isn’t so short, and i’ve also decided that i don’t care…since it’s others who love you who may read it….and if so, Wendy, and the Jen who keeps showing up as the website person…thank you, thank you, thank you, for being there for two people whom i have kept in my heart since graduation…
…heather and dick…OK, here’s the deal…when you’re up to it, you come to RI, and Bake and I treat you to a real “ro-dilun” type of day….i bet Finn will LOVE swimming in the Atlantic off of Block Island…..
XOXOXOXOXOXO
Sue
HI YOU BUNCH OF WONDERFUL GUYS…BOY TALK ABOUT THE POWER OF GODS LOVE,GROUP PRAYER AND GOOD OLD YANKEE AGUA. BACK IN THE DAY I^D SHOOT RIGHT OVER TO TUMBLEDOWNS AND HOIST A FEW.LOVE AND YOU KEEP POUNDING THAT WATER. A LITTLE MINT CHO CHIP ICE CREAM EVERY FOUR HOURS BE GOOD TOO.
Dear Ones,
I just read with joy the more encoraging news … thank you for trying so hard, Heath and blessings on that “hands-on” circle that supports you! Jen, thanks for keeping the site going and for posting the new pictures. My next computer lesson with Bonnie will be learning how to print out the nose-to-nose picture so that I can have it by my bed! My own Finn-bug (Shrimp Boy) was home for a week just recently and I swear I didn’t have to finish a single sentence when with him. How lucky we are to have so much love around us, eh?
Opening Night for Enchanted April is nearly upon us in Portland. I think of you often, Heather and Dick, as the characters make their nightly journey from the dark into the light. As my crusty Mrs. Graves begins to thaw in the Italian sunshine and thrive when loved, I open my heart wide and take you there with me.
I hope that I’ll see you soon. I got very excited when I thought Dick was driving behind me when I took Bonnie to school yesterday but it turned out to be some handsome high school swain. Do you get the feeling that you will always be “Little Dickie Weafer” to your Mirabelle, Dick? I love you, Trio. Don’t forget to ask for help, company, dinner or gossip! Love always, lee
Hey Heather,
Hope you get home tomorrow Heather. Spoke w/G&G and boy did your boys make THEIR weekend. Finn charmed them with his beautiful smile and Dick was so easy to have around.
So glad things went a little better on this trip-it was time you got a break- and that you ended up getting your own room…so much easier for all of you.
You know we are thinking of you, praying for you and loving you.
Pat
Dearest Three,
I, too, read Dad Weafer’s call to prayer last week, and like Lou, sat and had many thoughts come, but no words right then. But know that I sent my prayers up all week for those kidneys of yours, Heather. Yay a thousand times! You did it!!! How I wish all of these treatments could be over now, instead of later. But I love the fact that you three wake up each day, soak in every ounce of love and smiles and inspiration from your perfect Finn, and from each other. It is oh so good that you are wise enough to accept this gift each and every moment. And the photos - oh my - such a treat that you share with us.
So - once again, I send my encouragement to hang in there, gentle hugs, and lots of lots of love. You can and will do this.
love from all the Nadells,
Sheri
Hi Heather
I am Jen, I work with your mom. I have written once or twice to you and look at your website often. I am lifted up and strengthened by your words and your strength and honesty. I want you to know that i send, and have been sending, warm positive energy to you and your family, and to your mother too, as she is such a special lady, who i enjoy working with.
your photos on this website are beautiful. Finn is AMAZING, so bright, heatlhy and beautiful. I can tell he is lucky to have you two as parents.
love, jen
Heather and Dick,
Lydia, John and Keisha came by on Sunday and we all played “watch Lydia walk around and read books” it is a very fun game to play with a cup of coffee in your hand. We talked of you and gave good vibes to the universe. Keisha and I decided we needed to get on gardening “chores” how can something you love be a chore? And wondered what efforts Dick might enjoy company with in your all garden’s. Always thinking of you both and looking forward to the game of watching Finn walk around and read books.
smr and jmr
heather,
love, positive energy and smiles coming your way!! i think about your family very often; i know that everyone’s thoughts and prayers will help you through this struggle, and i’m pulling along with all of them for you. stay happy, positive and well–i know that you will.
much love,
Emily
Hi guys,
Just wanted to leave you both a quick note to say I was so happy to read your posts that your kidneys are doing well and treatment can proceed! Amazing what all of these prayers, thoughts, and energy directed towards you has accomplished isn’t it? This whole experiance has really been amazing to me, to watch people you don’t even know come here and leave messages of hope and prayer….it’s truely amazing and very inspiring.
Hope to hear more good news from you soon. As always we’ll be thinking and praying for you!
Love,
Meg
Dear Heather and Dick…great news regarding the return of kidney function. Needless to say, we are with you all the way, around all the bends in the road, until you are well and healthy again. We continue to pray for all that is good by keeping you in our thoughts 24/7. Our love to you both and to all the Perrys and Weafers.
Heather and Dick,
What great news that the kidney test results came back showing the results of the love and energy that has been focused on you! I hope this next treatment goes more smoothly and will continue to meditate on you each day. I believe in its power and your resolve to carry you through this to better days.
I love you.
Heather
By the way, has anybody told you lately that you are beautiful? Because you are. You are simply radiant. (Okay, perhaps a poor word choice, but it’s the one that comes to mind.)
Anyway, back to my point. It is because of your radiance that we can radiate back our love. It’s kind of like a mirror with the sun…you can start a fire with the power of it. And you are the sun. The beautiful light, full of warmth, bubbling over with feeling.
You are truly beautiful. Keep on shining, and we’ll keep on sending it back to you.
(Is this all too corny? If so, my apologies. I’m a little tired but just had to say it anyway…)
I have hesitated to leave a message for you as most of ther others seem to know you personally and I only know of you through Sheri Nadell and this website–but I wanted you to know that prayers and healing thoughts are sent you every morning from Westport Island as the sun rises over the Sheepscot. What an incredible support system you have! As tough as this all is, I am so glad that your doctors have chosen to be aggressive with your treatment and that you have the strength of will to hang in there. You’re going to make it!
Howdy,
Every day I am inspired by my kids, they are sacred, but rarely am I inspired by the actions of other people. I have been going through this ordeal with you as part of your family, but in a peripheral sense. I have not been involved in speaking with you every week or interacting with you on a daily basis. I feel though, like I have been with you in spirit. Today I feel inspired, thank you. Perhaps love and support truly can make a difference. Maybe taking care of each other isn’t just a form of expression. Perhaps directing focus in an appropriate fashion CAN make a difference. You have people that truly care for and support you and it has proven to help you through this process, or at least has helped to “round the most recent bend.”
Dick, I think about you daily. You are one of the strongest people I know. Keep up the fight on your end, and we will continue to do our part.
I love you very much.
Jim
so happy to hear that round two is beginning. heather i am so pround of you and i can’t wait to see you and give you a big hug. i think about you at specific times, the same time everyday and before i fall asleep i think about you again.
ever since i was little i spoke to my grandma mary. (the spirit that came to jim and i the first time we called upon the spirits at moosehead.) she has been there for me through 10 car accidents (seriously maybe more than 10), bad times in college when i would get stupid drunk, and countless other times in my life that could have ended badly for me. i made so many bad choices for myself and she was always there to make sure i survived. she never gave up on me like most humans would do because they would be so fusterated with a person doing the same old crappy things to themselves. i learned. i learned what my demons are and what makes me tick. i owe her. however she has never asked for anything in return she keeps on giving to me. when jim’s grandpa hart was on his way out of this human existance his whole family was there in the hospital room. everyone was speechless with tears streaming down thier eyes. i spoke fast to my grandma mary please help him, let him know it is ok to go, help him not to be scared and i swear i had an out of body experience where i could see and hear exactly what was happening with grandpa hart’s transition. it was profound. and i have to say that i loved having my babies and it was “living proof” and profound but what i experienced in that hospital room with the harts was more profound.
i just want to let you know that i have been praying to my grandma mary and asking her to help you heal. that is how i know how to pray. love you heather and dick.
mary ann
Dad beat me to it! I just spoke with Heather who, as we speak, is being pumped full of sodium bicarbonate fluid to super hydrate her and change her body chemistry from acidic to basic. Her kidneys are well within the normal range now, and the docs will proceed with the next round of methotrexate as soon as the bicarb does its job. Great work everyone! Even the IV’s went in smoothly. We are hopeful for an uneventful hospital stay Finn and I are on our own tonight, but will head to Boston for the weekend to cheer our chemo girl on.
Thanks to everyone, once again, for helping us to carry on. Of late, the chemo has been getting to her. Her face is puffy, her mouth is full of sores. She falls asleep in mid sentence and mumbles jibberish upon waking, or can’t remember what she was going to say. She finds it hard to write and snap up Finny’s buttons because her fingertips are numb. She wouldn’t want me to tell you all of the bathroom stories so I won’t. Her joints are stiff and even her skin smells different. This week was different though. Heather was more HEATHER again. She had more energy and fewer aches and sores. And…her kidneys got better! I learn and change and evolve everyday in the whole thing. Before this all started I used to think about what it would be like if something terrible and tragic happened to me or my family. I never imagined it could be like this. Reality is that when the worst strikes it is not all hard and bad. It can be about love, about faith, and about knowing that all things are possible. None of us ever has to be alone. With tears in my eyes and love in my soul, I thank you for healing us this week. We have rounded another bend in the road.
GOOD NEWS
We just got news of Heather’s bloodwork at Beth Israel. In five days she has regained 2/3 of her lost kidney function. The doctors were surprised and pleased and credited Heather for drinking so much water even though last weekend they said drinking water would probably do no good. We have great faith in Heather’s doctors, and we owe them everything. They are among the best in the world at what they do, but we have an alternate explanation for Heather’s “kidney mini- miracle”. Those of us who have spent the last four nights in Quantum Touch sessions with her, those of you who have prayed and visualized and sent your energy to Heather believe in a less material explanation. We have faith in something we can’t quite name or understand. We struggle on in what some Christian mystics have called the ” cloud of unknowing”. Preliminary tests had not been encouraging, and last night Dick and I were close to throwing in the towel. But we decided on one more session and our particullar intenton was to call to us all the prayer and energy you all have been sending our way. We were very tired last night. Both Dick and Heather fell asleep during part of the session. But we all felt great peace by the end. It was enough, and we promised not to get lost in outcomes but to stay present in the peace of that moment. I think it was important that we didn’t give up. We were feeling very unsure, maybe even a little foolish, but faith like love is more often an action than a feeling. Most of Heather’s improvement was made in the last twenty-four hours. When Cathy met me the door when I got home from school she said with a big smile and tears in her eyes, “.8″! At first, I had no idea what she was talking about. Heather’s kidney creatin levels had risen from .6 to 1.2 last weekend and had dropped to .8 overnight. The “crystal meth” dam had broken. Tonight, at least, all is right in our little part of the world.
Dearest Widge
It has been 4 months since your nightmarish journey started - just 4 months? It seems so much longer. Those closest to you have watched with aching hearts as you withstood unimaginable pain and fear. But like a cork bobbing to the surface each time you got less than positive news you rallied like the unsinkable Molly Brown finding the good and waving it like a banner. Each morning you start the day determined to be as happy as possible and to enjoy the day with “the Finn Bug” and “Honzo”, to love and be loved. And there is the lesson that we all are learning. Don’t waste time with the negatives. See each person only from their positives. Love and be loved.
Last weekend I was honored to be part of one of your group meditations. I had no idea what to expect. You lay in your hospital bed with Dick, Dad Weaf, Daddo holding Finn, and me seated around you, touching you. We all concetrated on sending you our positive energy. Suddenly I felt a tingling in my right foot. It shot up my back and gave me a chill. Tears filled my eyes. I can’t say I know what happened, only that I feel I was part of something special. But that’s what being part of your life is - something special.
Love ya BEAUCOUP
MA
It was great to talk to you the other day Heather. Di says Finn is beautiful. I can’t wait to see him.
We think about you a lot here and are send you and your kidneys positive energy regularly. I hope things go well and you’re on your way home soon.
Good luck and love,
Dave
Just wanted to let you know that although we haven’t posted until now, our family checks this website often to monitor your progress. It is SO special and we feel honored to have the opportunity to peek into the lives of such wonderful people. We hope someone saves all of the entries for Finn to read one day. He’s one lucky guy to have such fantastic parents, family and friends surrounding him.
You have been in our thoughts and will continue to be, especially this week.
Sending love, positive thoughts and prayers,
Amanda, Thorn, Alexis and Cassie Dickinson
Hey Heath!
Just sitting here thinking of you and your strong little kidneys and sending you all sorts of love and light. Hugs to Mr. Finny!!
Mer
Hi Heather, Dick, and Finn,
We think of you every day and send all of the good thoughts and energy we can. We know you are going through a rough patch and wish, really wish, we could share your burden.
We look forward to an update, whether it be rosy or a little glum. We just need to know that you three are hanging in there.
Wouldn’t it be nice if life were like a VCR and we could fast forward through the bad parts.
Sara and Jerry
You are in my prayers EVERY Day. Hope you can feel the love and healing thoughts I’m sending from Savannah.
As you receive the chemo think of it as all of the love from your many friends (Some you don’t even know) flooding your body to wash the cancer out.
You are a brave soul and inspiration.
Love to you, Dick and Baby Finn.
Linda
Coincidence? or …
A good friend from work was walking around all hunched over yesterday. When I asked him what was wrong, he told me he had a kidney stone. I told him about your situation, Heather.
Well, this morning he called in to say that he wasn’t going to be at work because he had passed the stone that night and was going to rest up. His theory is that there’s so much kidney-clearing juju in the air that there was enough left over to dislodge his stone!
So, let’s all keep it up — it seems to be working!
Joanne
Dick, Heather, & Finn,
I may not be allowed to do this but when I’m in my Bikram yoga class there is typically about 30 others there as well…and I ask the powers that be to take ALL of the healthy energy that has built up in the class and send it to you! I swear I feel an incredible feeling of warmth swirling around me and then out and up and onward to you! I see it heading your way, all that wonderful healing energy! As Lou said, God knows what you need already…and it’s nice to know we can work with Him to heal you! Yeah!
Love, Beth
As many others that has shared their thoughts, heart and prayers, I too have faith that you will overcome this venture. I just wanted to say (it seems to me) that you have made such an impact on so many lives. All the love, energy, strength, goodness etc. that everyone has extended to you, you have bounced it trifold right back to us in your words and example. I also wanted to share the following site which you may find as meaningful as I have: http://www.theinterviewwithgod.com/ . Prayers to the improvement of your kidneys and a healing week, month, etc.
Patty Cooley
(Aunt Robin’s friend)
So, Dick and Heather, I’ve been sitting here trying to send my words to you for about 20 minutes now. I’ve had plenty of thoughts, but just no words. I guess maybe that’s because the thoughts are more important than the words. I finally gave up searching for words, closed my eyes, and sent my prayer to my God in heaven. He didn’t need words. He simply understood. He knew what I wanted to ask even before I did. And so I just prayed quietly for you, and asked for the burden to lighten, and the kidneys to work, and the body to heal. And while I prayed and thought about you, I felt some of the weight lifted off of my own heart, and I hope that you felt it too.
Thank you, Dad Weafer, for your call to prayer.
Lou
Dear Heather
I am a friend of the Jenkins and when they told me about you and gave me the website address, I have been following your progress and all of your ups and downs. I am amazed at your strength and determination. I had cancer a number of years ago and had surgery and 6 months of chemotherapy so I know only a little about how some of this makes you feel physically and emotionally but you are truly unbelievable! You have endured so much and you have such a loving family and circle of friends that I have no doubt that with their prayers and support you will pull through this…..and I know that the birth of your son has given you a whole new strength to keep pushing yourself forward each day………
My prayers, love and positive thoughts are being sent your way!
Jean Gardiner
Heather,
I haven’t written to you on this site for awhile, but want you to know that you are in our thoughts constantly. I’ll be saying my prayers for you as always, adding extra ones along the way this week. Your “Moosehead family” is pulling for you, thinking healing thoughts.
Love, Joan
Heather,
A quick note tell you that you are in our thoughts and prayers each day. We haven’t stopped praying for you from the get go. We are constantley asking and getting answers about were you are physically each week. I check this site, like most, every day. Sometimes its hard to know what to say, when so much has been said already. Please know that we will pray for you, and will be thinking of you and loving you on Thursday..
Jim
My new mantra…methatrexate:
me,
that
re[la]x[s]
a[nd]
t[hinks]
e[xcrete the metheltrexate]
[repeat]
I’m on the praying roster for your kidneys, Heather.
XO
Morgan
Heath, I will be visualizing, sending clean liver thoughts and energy to you all week, friend. Be well and clean of metheltrexate.
Much love,
Heath
HII ALL,WHAT A PAST FEW WEEKS YOU HAVE HAD.THINK OF YOU EVERY MINUTE OF EVERY DAY.SO WHEN ARE YOU AND FINN MEETING ME FOR BAGLES AND COFFEE? FINNSTER WILL HAVE TONS OF FUN GUMMING HIS BAGLE. LOVE AND MY SQUAREHEAD PRAYERS FOR YOU.
I am praying and visualizing. Strength and love to you and your family!
Thanks for the update Uncle Don. Heather, as always Greg and I will be praying for you this week. Our thoughts are with you and with all of these people loving you and praying for you I can’t imagine you won’t make it through this week successfully! I still check this site every day - though I don’t leave a note every day anymore, but I’m here. We’re always thinking of you.
Love
Meg
Thanks to Dad Weaf for the call to prayer, visualization, and healing sessions. From so many miles away, it’s easy to believe that I can’t do anything, but his note reminds me that we all have a role. Every night I say a prayer for you, Heather. I’ve even tried the visualization thang, and I swear I felt a connection! Good luck this week. I’ll send all of the kidney-clearing vibes I can!
Love, Joanne
Dear Heather,
Sending you, Dick , Finn and your kidneys lots of white light and prayers.
Jean
Heather, I am totally zoning in on your kidneys right now and thinking about how much pee they need to filter out. God bless the kidneys of Heather, this is really really scary, but I hope that they become better. I’m totally joining in on the Thursday pray session from my own home, but I’ll also say that every time I go to the bathroom I’ll pray for your kidneys to work better than mine.
P.S.–To give you a happy thought to think about, I box officed at the Theater Project this past weekend, and I couldn’t help but think while I was all alone in my little box about you and all your incredible performances you’ve had there. Those were some incredibly lucky moments in my life to see someone so talented perform on stage. That said, your kidneys need to pull off a great performance, and I have faith in them just like I have faith in you!
Finny, you are so cool, and I have never even met you! Dick, all I can say is you are amazing, and Heather’s image of you sleeping like a hot dog on the cot just proves your dedication and loyalty (”through sickness and in health”) to the love of your life!
Love, Hannah
Our thoughts and prayers continue to be with Heather, Dick, and Finn — even more so in this important and difficult week.
Love, healing and hope from Heather Lane.
Tim, Vanessa and William
HELP!
From the beginning of Heather’s ordeal, even before we knew it was cancer, we have been touching her and holding her to bring her relief. We have had a lot of success with pain management by helping her release her fear and anger which in turn has greatly reduced her pain. During these sessions, especially when we turned our attention to healing instead of managing her pain, we began to notice certain phenomena, buzzing in our hands, flashes of heat, an inability to feel where our hands ended and Heather began. Wendy found a book on Quantum healing that seemed to best explain what we were experiencing and some of us have embraced the concept. The world of alternative medicine is filled with charlatans and quackery. It is hard to discern what is wishful thinking born of desperation and what is real. We know we are helping Heather. We can renew her energy. We can help her release her fear and keep her from repressing her anger. We can help her to feel better and help her dig out of dispair. If that is all we are doing, it is enough. We will probably never know if we are helping her to heal physically, though some of us think we may be. I bring this up now because we have begun an important and possibly dangerous week.
The methatrexate from the last chemo treatment has crytallized in Heather’s kidneys blocking about half of the two million tubules that filter her blood. This is not an uncommon side effect of methatrexate which is also used to treat serious cases of arthritis. The usual treatment is to suspend its use until the kidneys clear. That usually happens in three weeks.. We do not have three weeks. The decision was made by the doctors and the family to postpone the next dose of methatrxate from this weekend until next Thursday. That will give us a mere five days for Heather’s kidneys to repair themselves. Very little is known about what might happen to kidneys clogged with “crsytal meth” when they are bathed in more. The risks are two fold. There is a chance, albeit small, that Heather may lose use of her kidneys. Decision 1: a kidney transplant is better than dying of cancer. Secondly, kidneys operating at half strength wouldn’t even be noticed by a healthy person. Many people live with only one. But next weekend Heather’s kidneys will be asked to filter methatrexate out of her body. Half strength kidneys will increase the risk of whole body toxicity.
So we need Heather’s kidneys to unplug quickly. She has begun to drink gallons of water which we have been told probably won’t help but can’t hurt. We have also begun daily Quantum healing sessions centered on her kidneys. I don’t think we need a miracle, but increased kidney function before Thursday is very important.
So… those of you who pray, we need your prayers. Those of you who visualize, we need your visualizations. Those of you who have held healing sessions for Heather, we need one now. We need you now more than ever. Howard Benson of Harvard has shown that prayer works. People who are prayed for recover at statisically significantly higher rates even when they don’t know they are being prayed for. Interest in this site has naturally waned as weeks have turned into months. I only check in a couple of times a week now. I’m afraid many people won’t see this message before Thursday so if you know of people who might want to take part in this week of prayer let them know. We can use all the help we can get.
Dad Weaf
Just a quick note to say that I’m thinking of you guys every day and sending you my very best wishes.
Lots of love,
Gavin
Heather, I was so glad I had a chance to visit you last week.
For those of you who would like to visualize Heather’s home setting, picture this:
Although it was a cloudy day, Heather was sitting bathed in the warm glow given off by the yellow-colored walls in her livingroom, drinking coffee, picking at a bagel and chatting away on the phone. (If anyone has any doubts, yes, this woman is an extrovert. As in EXTROVERT. ) The baby monitor was cranked up to high so you could hear little Finn’s every move, and when an airplane flew overhead you could hear it in stereo. Ah, youthful motherhood. If only that was all Heather had to focus on! But I digress…
Because she is so lively, she was clearly the main attraction in the room, but when she stepped out to get Finn all I kept looking at was the wonderous purple velvet couch. It is just awesome. Colorful pillows are comfortably placed about its great expanse, and the swoop of the couch back just makes you feel like lounging there. Throughout the room were beautiful, artisitc touches from the curtains Heather made, to the framed rocks she had collected from Moosehead Lake, to the amazing leather coffee table that she and Dick created together (with some assistance from Dad Weaf).
This is truly a home, sweet home full of its inhabitants’ inner and outer beauty.
Anyway, I had a great visit — sorry I stayed so long, though! Three hours just flys by when you’re playing catch-up — and David and I are on Mini Body Buddy and Guitar Body Buddy duty this weekend. In fact, I hope we can deliver them Saturday, but definitely Monday at the latest.
But I do have something motherly to say Heather: Everyone is right — you’re so busy making all of us feel good, that we don’t get a chance to make you feel good! So let us do some of the work, okay?! It’s really okay. I know it’s not your nature, and it’s easy for me to say because I’m not in your shoes, but please let us take some of the weight of this process. Just relinquish it. Send it out to the universe. Cast it out of your body and mind and let us take it up, so you can be filled with the love and the light. Because the dark and the scary stuff doesn’t deserve to fill your space.
Sending you love, Chiquita. Di
Heather,
Just sitting here late on Thursday night and hoping that this weekend is easier for you than last week was.
Got to hold your little guy last weekend along with Bo and Ella. He is absolutely gorgeous - that round little face - what a sweetheart. I actually got the beginning of a smile!
Okay, I think I should head up to bed, but want you to know I’m hoping (just like everyone else who is routing for you) that this weekend maybe will be a better one.
My love to darlin’ Dick.
Love
Pat
Heather,
Cool blue skies, a gentle cool breeze, cold clear green/blue water, spring in Maine.
Hope these help to reduce that fever! I just opened my Tilbury House catalog and saw some of your terrific photos from your book (publishing in July). It may be pretty far from your thoughts right now but it looks great - one more lovely thing you have created. I will pop an extra catalog in the mail in case you haven’t seen. Thinking of you - sending you cool, clear, loving thoughts!
xoxox
Tootie
Hi Heath,
It’s been awhile since I’ve left a message . . . Just a quick note to let you know I’m thinking about you, Dick, and Finn. I hope you know we all need you to beat this ugly disease. I have faith that you will. I hope to see you guys soon - I can’t wait to meet little Finn.
Please know that I’m praying for you everyday. All of you. You are in my thoughts all the time. Hopefully when you are back home again we can finally get in touch instead of playing phone tag. I’ll need to get your cell phone # from you.
Stay positive and keep thinking about Finn through this journey.
Lots of Love, Thoughts, and Prayers,
Kristen
Heather, Dick, & Finn (whom we have yet to meet),
My wife, son, and I extend our warmest thoughts from Chicago. Keep smiling and we’ll keep you in our prayers.
Love & Peace,
David, Terry, & Will Gatchell
Howdy,
You ain’t dowdy,
Just not quite as rowdy
As you used to be
Feelin’ lousy
Is allowed, see
your husband’s proud to be
Your sweet-tea
I wonder,
If I heard that thunder
that you’re livin under
how I would be.
There’s no guessin’
or sayin’ don’t be stressin’
I don’t know the lesson
that makes you free
So keep lovin’
and givin’ Finn that huggin’
and don’t put your head in the oven
cause there cookies in there to eat…
hmmmm. post or not to post…
too late…
I have not posted in some time, but I was reading the “Adventures of BI” and thought I would drop a note. Heather, you are very, very brave, much more than I could ever be. Hang in there, you can do it. And about the bald thing, I like you bald! It allows the light you radiate to bounce off and explode into many new directions.
Love JP
Hey Heather, I know that i am only the girl at the cafe that would serve you dbl cremes, but i think of you everyday still and am always wishing this damn thing would just go away so finn and you can come in more often. We have to get a picture of him to go up on the “cafe kids” picture thing. Wishing you peace, recovery, and lots of LOVE!
Hey Heather,
Sending you fever-be-gone+cancer-be-gone-light
and home-to- Finn-again-wishes.
You are so brave. I am in awe of you.
Cindi Brogan
HEATHER, DICK, AND FINN, I DON’T KNOW YOU ALL, BUT I GREW UP ACROSS FROM THE DUBOSES IN COLUMBIA AND AM NOW AT ALL SAINTS WITH GINNY AND BILLY. THEY ARE DEAR FRIENDS AND WHEN THEY ASKED ME TO PRAY FOR YOU, I HAVE DONE SO EVER SINCE.
I PRAY FOR GOD’S COMPLETE HEALING; I THANK HIM FOR FINN’S LITTLE LIFE; AND I ASK THAT HE HAVE A MOMMY AND A DADDY TO RAISE HIM FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE - OR AT LEAST UNTIL HE HAS GIVEN YOU GRANDBABIES!!
I WILL CONTINUE TO PRAY UNTIL ALL IS WELL.
Dearest Heather,
I hope the fever is gone and you can go home. I keep you daily in the circle of healing and will envision, pain free leg, no fever, joy, energy, love, love and morelove, and lots of healing.
I miss your dad and didn’t get a chance to say goodbye.
I will do Reiki andytime you want.
You are blessed with such a loving family and circle of friends.
Thinking of you often
Bonnie
Heath,
I hope your fever is gone and you’re able to head back to Dick and Finn and your happy home in Bath. Your strength and unrelenting smile, your ability to face this with courage and bring us all with you in such an inspiration. I’m sending good thoughts, low temperatures, and much love to you and Dick and Finny McFinn.
Love,
the other Heath
Hi Heather,
I’m sorry to hear about your hospital stay and fever. I will think low fever thoughts for you. God Bless you and your family.
Denise Williams
Coastal Journal
Hey Heath,
So so so great to see you on Saturday and to meet Dick and the Mighty Finn! I am sending strong fever-be-gone energy! We Love you!
Maria
Hi, Heather. I’m amazed that you can find the energy to keep us all updated, even from your hospital room! Things sound very promising, other than the fever. So, probably for the first time in my life, I mean it literally: chill out!
Joanne
I just wanted to remind you today, how beautiful you are. We love you!
Heather,
Stupid but zen game to play on the internet - it’s called Falling Sand - you can google it. It’s four streams of different colored-sand with alternatives at the bottom - you can draw lines, fill in plants, etc. It’s comforting. Like an interactive etch-a-sketch. In the meantime, you rock.
Best,
Morgan
Dear Heather and Dick…I haven’t written in awhile but you know you are constantly in our hearts and prayers. Your writings are so beautiful and poignant they leave me speechless. What can I say??? I keep hoping I will sit down to write and something inspired and inspiring will magically appear. But no such luck. But as I learned with Sally, when you don’t know what to say…just say something. So…we love you, we hurt with you, we pray that these treatments will be successful and that you will return, whole and healthy, to your wonderful life with Dick and Finn. Our love to all the Perrys and Weafers…Carroll and Deanie
Dear Heather,
It was so wonderful to see you and your beautfiul baby at the cafe last week. You look just as beautiful as i remembered you smiling in the cafe a year ago… even, i would say, with a little extra brilliance with your pride of your perfect little finn all snuggled in blue. It made my day to see the two of you, even just meeting you… thank you.
As everyone else has, i’ve been thinking about you and your family, and wanted to let you know that my friend who is studying yoga in Thailand has had his teacher prepare a blessing for you this week… he says they’re pretty powerful folks, and so i offered him your website so they could learn a bit about your situation and experiences. Best to you and your family.
Julia
Hi Heath,
I know its been awhile since I have been on, but my thoughts and prayers never leave you. Finn is beautiful as are you. I have called acouple of times and I keep in touch with your mom and dad. I can’t wait to see you Dick and the little one. Hopefully in June. You are so strong and handling this illness with such grace, I am so prpud of you. You hang in there and know My love is always with you and your family.
Love Aunt Jacki & Uncle Lee
Heather, just read your last entry. You are such an inspiration. Vulnerable and strong at once. Thank you for being so human and for allowing others to see this in you. Amazing. Truly awesome.
Love
Hi Heath,
Thanks for my birthday greeting! It was quite funny, I heard an entire conversation that you were not intending to have on my answering machine. Actually at first I thought that it was one of your birthday antics lol! I am sorry that you are not fond of my message, we change it every few weeks, maybe a bit sooner this time for you
! Your honesty is a source of encouragement for anyone who reads your and Dick’s entries. The fear and hope and everything else that you write about is admirable. Most would bottle it up and protect their feelings. I admire you for that. If there is a lesson here, it is to learn from your grace in dealing with this horrific disease. Dick your quiet stregth and fear that you are experiencing is also apparent. You know that my thoughts are consistently with you all. I love you and I look forward to seeing you soon. Finn is such a cutie and he will grow up being proud that you are his parents!
Lots of Love,
Heidi
Hi kids,
Haven’t been on here in awhile and I guess my daughter and I are having you in our thoughts and hearts at the same time as I see her entry here - right when I am here too.
I’m thinking just what she is - you are amazing young people. I’m thinking of you. And, to be honest, after reading your last entry, I cried with you.
I hope today went better than yesterday. You continue to be challenged to endure more and more and you continue to rise and conquer. You are really something.
Love you all,
Pat
Thank you Wendy. I’ve been thinking about her all day today and wondering how things are going.
Heather & Dick, you guys are always in my thoughts and will be through this weekend. I am so moved every time I visit this site, and so happy that you are surrounded by such wonderful people. You continue to inspire us all.
Love
Meg
I picked up Heather yesterday morning to take her to Boston. We had a fun trip down trying to keep things light. I knew she was really scared of this new unknown. She was on the phone alot, talking to friends, each one sending tears of love and hope and I realized Heather was the one comforting them. Saying things like, “It’s okay, go outside and just smile it’s a beautiful day.” I thought, she’s incredible. Always making other people feel good.
Then we got to Beth Isreal. The blackness set in, the darkness, the fear. Again, we tried to laugh our way through it but it’s so hard when the chemo floor is so bleak and the smell is so strong. My beautiful friend should not be here, I thought! Just grab her, through her over your shoulder and take her somewhere beautiful. Italy, I thought, we can sip red wine in a cafe in Tuscany. But we stayed. Only to face more demons. A nurse came into her room to insert the tube in her arm. A foot long tube from her elbow to her chest. I will spare you the details because like everything else Heather has endured, once again this procedure did not go as planned and the nurse said, “This is only the third time this has happened to me.” Needless to say, what happened was something that should never happen to a human being. Watching her suffer and holding her hand I almost passed out myself. She was in so much pain, I thought, maybe if I fall to the floor it will distract Heather from her own pain for two minutes. And in typical Heather fashion she was trying to make the nurse feel better for hurting her. At least two hours passed before everything was inserted, doctors had left and she was able to relax. She looked at me and said, “That sucked.” The rest of the afternoon was spent answering questions from the thousand of doctors and nurses and fellows and interns just to wrap the day up with a high dose of chemotherapy.
I am writing this to give you a glimpse of what Heather is going through. And yet she inspires us all on a daily basis
My beautiful friend taught me so much before this cancer, is still teaching me so much through this cancer and I know in my heart will be teaching me after this cancer is gone. I love you Heather.
Wendy
Happy St. Patrick’s Day, Weafers - or St. Finn’s Day. I am glad that you are holding each other, eating popsicles, and opening up the steam vent to let some of that stuff out. I’m happy you’re making the love connection related to both the good and the bad. We do not know how this bastard cancer feels on the deepest level, for the most part, unless we’ve been down the same road. But we can celebrate your courage and your honesty, and we can be here for you (and pray into tree ears), and learn something from both of you about how life should be lived, and what it is that is TRULY important. So, slainte to all of you, my dears. I will raise a pint to you today. Maybe two.
Morgan
Hi Favorite Trio,
I know you’re in Boston, Heather…but it’s been too long since I’ve written, so……
Lee and I sat together last night to watch our kids open Bye, Bye, Birdie; I wish we could transport even a part of the laughter that filled Crooker Theater right to you - commissioned directly to your space to add sunlight - dimishing those shadows, and banishing the pain. Each time I read your entries I don’t think they could get any more profound, any more honest. And then you bare your heart and soul to us all over again - such an unbelievable gift you give us. Unbelievable and incredible. And so, every time I think of you, and pray for you, and talk to people about you - here is the word that is ever-present: miracle. Miraculous, that’s what you are, what Finn is, what Dick is. I think the word miracle is a bit like the word heaven: surreal and difficult to define But you now embody it for me. You are and will continue to be a veritable miracle. So please know that my through my tears of frustration, my prayers and laughter, and love are coming to you. Hope, Heather, there is ALWAYS hope. And miracles do happen. You are proof.
As always, a gentle hug and love to you,
Sheri from all the Nadells
Heather,
Just a quick note as you head to Boston for the second stage of the Tour d’ Cure. Remember to be brave and be strong. You’re fighting for yourself and you’re fighting for our family. That’s a lot on one person’s shoulders, but you can do this. You’ve already proven you can. We love you and we’re thinking of you. See you this weekend.
Love,
Kimmie, Tiff and the twins
Hello Dick, Heather, and Finn,
I just read your entry for March 12. It was beautiful and heartwrenching and wonderful. So often I feel like an outsider since I don’t often get to see Heather or Finn, but this morning, reading your words, I was there, too. I added my tears and my prayers to yours as I sat alone in a quiet house before babies and teenagers and pets and alarms chased away the solace. I am thinking of you all as Heather checks in to the hospital today. Peace and healing to you, Heather.
with love,
Lou
Hey Heather,
It was amazing to see you in the cafe the other day with your perfect baby finn. It just made me take a step back and realize everything i am greatful for. You are the strongest person i have ever met and reading your entrys hit me in a way nothing else has. Tonnie and i and the rest of the staff think about you constantly, especially when we all get together, tonnie will keep the rest of us up to date. Hope to see you and your family more and more at the coffee shop. Lots of love, Ashley
Heather,
I just read your update and am overwhelmed by everything you are experiencing and your bravery and strength. My thoughts and prayers are with you every day.
Love to you all-
Tootie
Lee said that Finn is absolutely perfect! He is growing like a trooper! xoxox
God damn Woman!
You got to me with that last one! You really are a Warrior / Poet! March 16th is my birthday and I will be with you in spirit all day. I think we have all reached a point where it is us who are gathering strength from you.
Skip
First of all, I’d like to say that it took my computer forever to download all the messages that people have left for you three. Honestly, the amount of thoughts on this board I know is only a slight fraction of how many times people in our community think and pray for all of you. I know your flame of life is still burning, and I can even feel it when I see these messages and think about you! Ah Heather, do you even know how amazing you are? Dick, do you know how amazing you are? And Finn is just amazing, and I wonder if he knows it. I can’t even say what I need to say. All of you are incredible…your whole family, and all your friends. It makes me jealous to know that you have such good friends in the world, but then I realize that you are my friends and I just know that I am blessed. Heather, best of luck with your next chemo round–you’ll have the luck of the Irish on your side (March 17th!) as well as the enormous amount of love, wishes and hope from the ones who care about you so much. Dick and Finn, continue to live the wonderful lives that you do with Heather. GOD BLESS YOU ALL, I know that all your strength you’ve shown so far is inspirational for everyone who ever experiences it.
With all the love and hope that I can give,
Hannah Weddle
Heather , Dick and little Finn,
After reading your last entry Heather I know what my sister says is true, you are amazing. She asked me today to read what you wrote and how profound and deep it was. Tomorrow, here in Cape Cod, i am going to the beach no matter how cold it is, and i am going to meditate and imagine your body healing . i am going to send anything negative back out with the waves. The power of prayer and positivity is so strong we will never grasp it but i feel it will grasp you Heather. I wanted you to know that there are people everywhere praying and hoping for you, your wonderful husband and beautiful beautiful baby Finn.
Stay Amazing….Lisa Venneri
Dear Ones,
Will tears short-circuit the keyboard? Let’s hope not. Your latest entry is so vivid that it seems cinematic and yet I know that it is completely real. How wonderful that you all have gotten to this point in your journey. Light is so much easier to recognize & appreciate and satisfying to live in when the shadows are acknowledged. That blend is always something that I prize in literature and in plays and performances and you’re embodying it . Thank you for persevering in this battle … it is nearly impossible hard work, I know.
I feel honored that my Bonnie gets to experience this with you. The respect, realism, communication and infinite love that you describe in your marriage will, and has already had, a lasting effect on all of us. The calm joy that I see when Rowan cares for her “little brother” has been a beautiful blossoming in an already special girl. Think of that happening in some way to all of us who think of you … who love you … who sit with silent healing fingers gently supporting you. It definitely goes both ways, you know.
The term “protecting my nervous system” was a good one, Heath. There is no question that Thursday will bring a new set of challenges and fears and be difficult but somehow it seems less frightening to think of it as a method of protection. You all have learned how to fight when it is necessary and how to give in when it is beneficial. I’m sure that your smart spirits will guide you through this time too.
John printed out the picture of Finn and his buddy for me and it sits in our living room on my Great Grandmother’s sewing cabinet where everyone who sees it smiles whether they know “The Story” or not. My baby opens tomorrow night in Bye, Bye, Birdie. Send animated soprano thoughts her way!
I’m with you every step … love. lee
Thank you, Heather, for that last entry. I read a thing the other day about how the problems in our culture stem from how superficial it all is - that in our striving to become smarter and faster and more global we have forgotten the call to go DEEPER. But you, my old friend, are positively free-diving right now. Bless you bless you and your wonderful family. Keep the Faith - and thank you again for sharing what you are going through. It’s a real honor to feel included in what you are achieving.
Gav
I’ve said it before and I say it again: I’m in awe. I feel honored and blessed to be able to come out on your website and read your messages. You have such courage to bare your souls as you do, and I for one am glad that you do.
Every still quiet moment (at Bikram yoga, at home on a Sunday) I’m sending energetic, positive energy your way. And you two pay it forward in your notes/updates because I know everyone who reads the notes/updates is the better for them. We all get stronger and stronger as the circle keeps going round and round — we send you good vibes and you give them back so we’re able to send more good vibes, etc. And like all God’s creatures we grow with love so there’s no doubt Finn will thrive with you two, Rowan (what an amazing child) and all the friends and family he has around him. All my love to you all!
Beth
Heather and Dick,
I have been following all that is going on through this wonderful website. Heather, your writings are so honest and open, raw at times and filled with hope and joy at other times. You are really amazing. Thank you for sharing so much and making me weap and laugh all at the same time.
Finn is absolutely gorgeous, of course, look at his parents!
Just want you to know that there are meditations, love songs and light being sent from this corner of your world.
Much love to all of you
Mary
Dear Heather, Dick and the little Finn…
May every ray light up your life with peace,good health and happiness.
You are in our thoughts and our prayers
Mohamed from Biougra(morocco)
hi from new canaan heather! finn is adorable, we love looking at the pictures of him. donna told her marine kids the sea urchin story…and watched the boys cringe. we miss your stories! you are the best part of marine, can’t wait til you’re back with us!!
clare and donna
Hi Guys,
I’m starting to get my gear ready for elver season and naturally you keep popping up in my thoughts. I’ll miss you out there in the water, but you have a bigger project ahead of you. I ran into Keith Sherman yesterday and filled him in on your trials and tribulations. He wanted me to say hello, and that he too will join the ranks sending positive energy in your direction. You guys really have yourselves one hell of an army backing you up now! Laugh, cry, get mad, get scared, but know we are here for you.
Skip
Hello again,
Good luck today with the Chemo treatment. I am so happy to hear that the tumor has left, hopefully for good!!! I plan to take time to try your suggestion of healing meditation (if I can keep the 3 little ones quiet for a while). Hang in there
Love Ant
Dear Heather, Dick and the little Finn…
days passed and in each one I can’t stop thinking of you all, but I feel cheerful with things.. every one from your friends and families are surrending and supporting you and holding you with thoughts as well…
keep writting and telling us you progress .. I guess you know how we feel delight about that…
we still send you our best wishes as well as our prayers..
Then keep holding on.. something good is coming from us few weeks later !!!!!…
Your friend rachid …
Hello Dick and Heather,
I hadn’t “Posted” in a while and wanted you both to know that we continue to think of you daily. I have seen quite a few pics of Finn at this point, he is a great looking little guy. As Spring/Summer approach, we can’t help but think of spending time with you at the lake. I look forward to seeing both of you soon.
We love you very much,
Jim
chere :
tu sais je ne sais pas comment je vous t’explique mes sentiment c’est tu tres longtemps que vous ma pas ecris et je connais ce sit d’apris mohamed selemment je suis tres content quiand j’ai vu tes photo et ton beau bebe finn le dieu le garde et ton mari aussi . mais quand mohamed ma dis que tu malade je vous jure je n’ai pas dormie cette nuit j’ete tres triste mais il faut que tu sais que la volonte d’allah (dieu) est tres tres grande de tout ne t’anquiette pas .
mais pourqoi s’arrive comme ca avec mes bonnes amies je domande a notre cher dieu d’etre acoute de toi incha allah
je ne veux pas s’arrive ca une autre fois comme l’anne dernire j’ai perdu mon bon ami ami omar acause de cette mauvise malade
allah soit acoute de toi inchallah et tu va girire.
abdellah peintre essaouira maroc
Dear heather,
This week, i have an idea,and i’d like to share it with you.Let’s tray to pierce the secret of your name.
Heath
Energy
Admirable
Tolerant
Heath
Energy
Roses.
My best greetings to Dick and Finn.
You are in our thoughts , and our prayers.
God gives you peace and good health.
mohamed from biougra(morocco)
Dearest Heather, Dick and Finn,
I think of you everyday and send you positive vibes. I have no doubt that a shining star like Heather will come out of this trying time blazing. Dick, I teach too, and I am inspired by you. Heather, I wish I could do more for you than think of you, but I know this time will be a memory and I see you dipping Finn’s toes in the lake very soon and for a very long time. I wish I had been at that Winter Cabaret with all my heart, but I will continue to love you from afar. All my love, Alison
Any time I find myself with a quiet moment I’m sending you guys my best wishes. I’m just amazed, both of you, at how beautifully you are handling all of this. I know there must be darker moments we can’t see, but I also know that were I in your position, my website would just say “FUUUUCK!!!!!” all over a black, murky background. Not that I’m a huge fan of this H&R Block green… looks good on you, though.
Seriously, be well. Continue to be kind to and proud of yourselves. You deserve every last drop of this love tsunami. And THANK YOU both for your examples. All this positivce energy begins and ends with you.
Gavin
Hi Dick, Heather, and Finn,
I just got caught up on your last 2 entries, and renewed my resolve to continue doing my wee part to support you. I’m happy to say that our own little Nathaniel arrived Wednesday, February 22, which expains why I needed some catching up. I’m sure I represent a number of others who frequent your site, read the touching and heartfelt thoughts and, often with a tear in my eye, send a prayer out to you hoping for continued good reports. Often there are no words that come, so I don’t write, but you are often in my thoughts. I try to begin each day with a time of prayer and meditation, and you are a consistent part of that prayer time. I appreciate the fact that you are thinking of me as well. Your latest entry was a wonderful invitation for those of us who have “almost” sent several messages recently. Thank you for keeping us all informed, and thank you for allowing us to be a part of your fight and your healing. It has been a privilege.
Lou
Greetings to all of you! We wanted you to know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers and positive thoughts. At our annual Lily Bay meeting we did update everyone present on your latest and everyone is wishing you well and nothing but the best.
We all take comfort in the thoughts that you are young, strong and in excellent shape with the exception of this nasty disease (which you WILL beat). We also take comfort in the attitudes of your medical caretakers … hit it with all we’ve got. we don’t want this beast back. Amen. Keep your spirits up through the journey ahead and enjoy the special moments with Finn.
On a final note, I’ll share words of wisdom I’ve used with both of our boys when they’ve faced battles with fears, night “demons”, you-name-it — the words of wisdom are simple but they have worked so far “think happy thoughts”. Ben, now almost 11, usually thinks of Moosehead sunsets in kayaks or canoes - always with sunset “treats” which we enjoy while watching the sunset and the loons. Cameron usually thinks of playing on the “shore” and (of course) of a campfire with s’mores. You’ll each have to imagine your own “happy thoughts” but the power is there. They shouldn’t necessarily be connected to what you’re going through at the moment - just a “better place to be”. All the best places to be for each of you. Tina, Tom, Ben & Cameron
Hello Weafer Family,
Sign me up! I will continue to send positve, white light, warm and healthy energy, while taking in the personal benefits as well! None of us can get enough of this powerful energy of breath, love and support from each other!
Have lot’s of fun with Finn, each other and keep visualizing the good things. They will (continue to) happen!
I am pleased you have such aggressive, progressive doctors! They sound amazing. Faith all around!
Lynn
I have just begun a Bikram Yoga class (in a 100+ room with lots of sweaty guys and gals!!). Throughout the class we focus on our breathing, and at the end we take a moment to say thank you…for any and all of our blessings. You can count on me to do the meditation and sending all the very best vibrations your way. And your are right, Dick, we could all benefit from doing so throughout our day. To go to that soft, still place is so rejuvenating!
Love to you all!
Beth
Hey Guy’s,
I love the new pictures. Finn is such a cutie, and Heather you look great. I hope everything is well with you. I can’t wait untill May. I hope we can all still get together.
We all Love and Miss you.
Lots of Love from Virginia Beach,
your Couz …Ant
Count me in! - I am sending healing thoughts your way. I have shared your story with several friends and they are also sending positive healing thoughts your way.
With all the love and energy converging on you and your family - You will win this battle!
So it’s going to be a battle. My money’s on the Weafer team. I’m a firm believer in the power of the spirit, and I’m glad that you’re enlisting help. I envision warmth and energy flowing from all of your supporters around the country and the world and converging on Bath, Maine.
Love, Joanne
Our dear freind Heather;
Congratulations, you have a charmed baby that we are sure he will be a famous artist. Also yo will admire and be pleased for his success.
We are very happy that your treatment is giving good results.
We know, you are strong, you can face this illness as you face waves when you want to shoot under water.!!
What does a newborn mean?
It means life,love,happiness,peace,and good health. So be sure that you will recover from this small problem, and we are waiting for you and for Finn and Dick here in Morocco in order to visit morroccan beautiful places, and also why not to taste recipes that handed down through generations.
Dear heather,
Make sure that you are in our thoughts and our prayer. Everyday we send you pure and healthy energy.
GOD GIVES YOU HEALTH ,PEACE AND LIFE.
HEATHER YOU ARE OUR PHOTOGRAPHY IDOL, DON’T FORGET IT!!
You freinds rachid and mohamed from Biougra in Morocco.
Dear Heather, Dick, and Finn,
We are sending some good ole southern healthy, healing energy up your way! You are in our thoughts and prayers daily. We are so thankful to have access to this website so that we can stay up to date and feel connected to you, despite the distance, during this time. When we read your postings the miles just melt away! Thank you Jen for all the work you put into the website.
With much love,
Susan, Jones, Sarah, Jones and Sam DuBose
To my dear labor patients Heather and Dick
I LOVE being able to check up on you, and although I’m just now leaving
you a note, I have been watching and praying for you from afar.
What a gorgeous baby Finn is! I can’t believe how much bigger he
has gotten in such a short time. You’re doing great!
What a gift that precious little Finn is.
You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
Though the mountains shake in the midst of the sea, and the waters
roar and foam, we will not fear.” Psalm 46
All God’s Blessings and my love to you and your precious family~
Amy DeMartino
Heather, Dick and beautiful baby Finn
I have just read Dick’s update and I am glad that everyone is home and can enjoy the peace that comes from your own surroundings. Finn is already such an incredible young man to have entered the world under such circumstances. As for you Heather words do not begin to describe your ability to deal with what is the ultimate human trial….your spirit is indomitable and you have basically told this disease to go to hell as I trusted you would.
As for the agressive treatment, listen to the professional advice and trust your head and heart. Hit it hard now and you may never have to deal with it again and always always bear in mind that on the slightest chance that you do have to revisit this issue years from now technology changes and so will treatments so what do you have to lose by slamming this disease and knocking it out of your universe.
This has been an incredible personal journey for all of you, I know Heather well enough to know she will win this battle. As for Dick, you must be one incredible husband and father. Many positive thoughts in your direction.
Jen
i hadn’t seen the pictures of finn without all the tubes, and my god he is gorgeous. if that face isn’t the best motivation for beating up those nasty cancer cells, i don’t know what could be. i’ll keep praying for you.
bonnie
Dear Heather
It’s long lost Lia Morris from the Penobscot project. I wanted to send you tons of healing energy and good thoughts. What a wonderful gift you have in Finn- a beautiful boy! I will think calm and healing thoughts for you during my daily yoga pratice.
All the best
Lia
Hey guys. Just wanted you to know that there are countless people out here who are sending you positive energy. We don’t always post messages to the site, but we are definitely here and rooting for you!
TB
Here is something I do from time to time. I walk on Mackworth Island with my little dog. Out there is an old blasted trunk called “The Listening Tree’. A boll shaped exactly like an ear rests inside of what remains of the tree. I whisper prayers to whomever needs them at that time, right into that ear. Heather and Dick and Finn, you get a lot of those whispered prayers. Hang in there, guys. You know we are thinking of you.
Love, Morgan
Hey Guys - Just read the latest update and wanted to let you know that the positive energy continues to emanate from South China. No tumor and in remission - how great is that?! When you think how far you’ve come and how much you’ve accomplished in a relatively short amount of time, it’s truly amazing. And in addition to the new ‘Egyptian look’ you’ve got a healthy baby boy to show for it
Even tho the upcoming treatments appear daunting, you will persevere. I have no doubt. Whatsoever. The circle of love and healing that surrounds you is only gaining in strength. Remember that tears are not a sign of weakness, far from it. They can be tears of joy, tears of relief, and tears of released stress that soothe the soul. I loved your comments about Finn’s room of colors and the look of depth and wisdom you see in his eyes. Just imagine what HE sees looking into yours!!! Love, strength, humor, compassion, devotion….the list is endless. Take care.
Heather, send me you address, I’ll send you magic paper and smudgeproof ink to hand and foot print Finn. Lynne
Hi Heather, Dick and Finn,
I’ve been hovering too long and need to check in and say how very proud of you I am and honored to know you. I read your website pretty regularly and am in awe of your beautiful spirit. The pictures are wonderful. Little Finn is such a doll.
Reading your messages not only gives me a chance to reflect on the great mystery of life but it also loosens memories of the early days of my own two children and the absolute cocoon of love I felt nestled in. Thank you.
You certainly are loved.
Ray Charles once said, “What is soul? It’s like electricity - we don’t really know what it is, but it’s a force that can light a room.” Heather and Dick, before all of this started I always thought that the two of you had an immense force or warmth between yourselves that you emitted to us all. And now, throughout this journey your light has intensified not only through your bravery, strength and positivity, but also with the addition of the third light in your family, Finn. The three of your souls combined are a force that can light more than just a room, you’ve lit the hearts, minds and lives of us all. You can do this.
I am always thinking of you and loving you.
Molly
Hi Heather and Dick and Mighty Finn,
We just rolled in from seeing Les Miz in Boston - the very talented actress who played Eponine had a voice JUST like yours, so I felt like you were on stage performing for the huge audience. Instead you were hanging in there….every time I think of these treatments (especially the recent ones) my heart melts and I feel frustrated that we can’t rotate our bodies through them instead of you having to endure more. I so feel for Dick, and your family, as I’m sure the feeling is 100-fold for them. Really, I’d sign up in a heartbeat, sort of like organ donating. And then, when I reazlize that that isn’t possible, I pray for an out of body experience for you - a REALLY good one - in a happy place with Dick and Finn…
You are so brave; such an incredible,beautiful, petit warrior. You are SO strong, Heather. You CAN do this - you really, really can. You will. Please know that the whole church and my aunt’s church in Littleton, NH continue to pray, as do us’n Nadells. Prayer is an amazing, transcending phenomenon…and it continues for you, and Finn, and Dick. Healing IS taking place, little by little, and the battle is now an all-out war - and victory shall be yours. Continue to believe that - have faith = hope for things as yet unseen. There you go - keep the Faith babes - we love you and I’m sending my (gentle, as always) hugs, and sweet kisses to you three. I’m so glad that Dick is there with you - and enjoy the little Willis babes when you get to Kimmie’s.
Love, and Health, and Peace to you, my friends,
Sheri for the Nadells
Heather, Dick and Finn,
I love you guys. We all love you guys. If anyone can beat this disease, you guys can. Your love is so big and strong and getting stronger by the second. Hang in there and I hope to see you soon.
Love and Big kisses
JP
Dear Ones,
Sounds like tough sledding and joyous moments all wrapped up in one busy time. I love the mental picture of the cousins arrayed before you as they lay swaddled in their handknit (no doubt) blankies. How nice for Finn to have playmates in his own family and to be together so soon in each other’s lives!
Heath, you can do this. You can do this! Keep believing. We all do. Love , hugs and kisses to you all…be you large or small. -lee
Heather
I am a friend of GInny Tuller from South Carolina. I have been checking your website with news of the three of you since before Finn’s birth and I have been praying that you will receive the healing you need to recover. Your strength and courage have been a blessing to me, encouraging me as I have faced my own health problems the last few months. The pictures of all of you are very precious and the joy you both share in little Finn is very special, a real blessing. Keep us updated with your progress in fighting the Lymphoma and do add more and more pictures of little Finn when you can. I will continue to lift you up in prayer.
Blessings. Ginger T.
Heather,
Thinking of you and hoping that by this time the memory of the pain of the second spinal tap has been replaced by lvoing thoughts of Finn, Dick and your friends. i check often on your progress and am touched to the core by your bravery, appreciation, and wisdom. If you could market that…you’d be a millionaire! But then, you already are in all the ways that really count.
Sending smiles and good vibes,
Mary
Heather, Dick & Finn,
Sending loving and healing thoughts your way! Finn is growing fast! I’ll be thinking of you this week surrounded by loving family. Congratulations on those windows!!
Love,
Tootie
Hey, Weafers! I love the Finn pix — more! more! more!
Best of luck with all of your treatments, Heather. I’m sending positive energy your way from Baltimore.
Joanne
Hey family,
This is the first time I’ve been able to see Finn and I must say, he’s a looker! And, this is a weird thing to say, he looks like a real toughie, like he’s been in a couple of pub brawls already and has come out on top. Anyway, love the photos. It was good to hear and see you at the Winter Cabaret, Heather. It seemed complete after you came on - I voted for ‘lunch hour’ for next year’s production - I want to see you leap onto Keith’s back again! Last week, I also thought of you and your underwater photography, as I was staying on St. John Island in the Virgin Islands and was able to do some phenomenol snorkling - fishies only children could dream up, garden’s of coral, sea turtles, an octopus, and one honking big barracuda, who meant no harm at all. And Heather, it’s okay to feel wimpy. Really. We all know how strong you are, and I continue to marvel at the way you, Dick, and little Finn have formed this unbreakable bond - I continue to have you in my thoughts and hope that the treatments vanquish those effing Cancer cells. As Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West, “Begone, you have no power here.”
All my best to you all,
XO
Morgan
Dear Heather,
You don’t know me, but I am a friend of Patti Irish. She told me of your amazing family and showed me your computer site. My 8 yr. old granddaughter, Summer, was diagnosed with leukemia a little over a year ago. She, too, is courageous, strong, honest and an inspiration to all who meet her…and she is doing great, I’m delighted to report!
Finn is beautiful! You all are- in every sense of the word! I send you and your wonderful family love, joy and healing light in your journey together.
Jane Donelon
Happy Valentine’s Day to the three of you!! Thinking of you all.
Hi guys,
It’s been a while since I’ve been able to post here but I’ve kept up with the news through the family. Finn gets more handsome by the day
He’s really a beautiful little baby, the new pictures are just fantastic. And 2 more babies in the family!
My thoughts and prayers are still with you all. I had my own journey to the hospital last week and corny as it may sound, Heather what you’ve gone through here gave me more courage and strength than I think I would’ve had if I didn’t know your story. When we weren’t sure what was wrong last week (because I’m assuming you know now my appendix was removed - baby and I are fine) Greg kept asking if I was okay with what they were doing…..the final decision to do an MRI to diagnose me. CT Scans and chest xrays after surgery because of fear of blood clots in my lungs. My response each time to him and to Mom was…..You know, Finn indured a lot more than this, and he’s doing wonderfully - we’re going to be okay. And we are. I thank you so much for your honesty in this website; I know we’d know all the details of the illness, of Finn’s birth regardless as we’re family, but the open and honest entries you have here are truely an inspiration. Thank you for helping me through one of the hardest weeks of my life.
My love and thoughts to you all,
Meg
Hi Heather,
I don’t know if you remember me. We have not seen each other in years. But I never forgot your beautiful face. Dad and I are first cousins. Congratulations to you both on such a blessed event. Finn is beautiful, God Bless Him. And Heidi you will be in my prayers everynight as is your whole family. Keep the faith and God will be sure to give you the strength you will need for this fight ahead. My love and prayers to you all.
ReRe
Hi Heather, Dick & baby Finn,
Congratulations to you!!! My Name is Sharon, I am Re Re’s daughter. My Mom & your Aunt Jacki, Aunt Robin & Dad are 1st cousins. Your Aunt Jacki & I have always been very close, I had my 1st son Chris shortly after Aunt Jacky had Hiedi. Hope this is not too confusing. I also became much closer to your Dad, we wrote back n forth a lot. I have not seen your Mom or Dad in yrs., or you since you were just a baby. I want you to know that my thoughts & prayers are w/you & your family, from reading what you wrote on your site, you sound like a very strong & amazing young lady!! You have a wonderful optomistic outlook. Stay strong, I do wish you the very best & give little Flinn a big hug & kiss from me, a second cousin….I think….Hahaah, this can be confusing to figure out, but, I know we are related. Please know that you will remain in my thoughts & prayers!!
Much Love from,
Sharon
You all look fabulous and congratulations from Seattle. Kim Lunch told me the news. Does Finn know how to swim yet?
Lost your e-mail address…would love to chat.
Kim
Hey guys,
What a week this has been! Two new additions to our family has ended this week with quite a bang!
Just want you to know I am in touch w/Donnie and Cathy and you are still constantly in my thoughts.
Love
Pat
Dick’s sister, Kim, with whom Dick and Heather have stayed many weeks of the last few months during Heather’s chemo and Finn’s birth, gave birth to twins yesterday. Bo weighed in at 6lbs. 12 oz. and Ella at 5lbs. 5oz.. It is amazing how much Ella looks like Finn. Since Finn also weighed in at 5 lbs. 5 oz. yesterday those two look more like the twins than Bo and Ella. To say that our lives have been a whirlwind the last few months does not begin to explain how full we feel. I have never felt so alive. I have been blessed with exceptional children all of whom married exceptional women, and I can feel my luck holding with my grandchildren, Sam, Lily, Finn, Bo and Ella.
OH MY GOD! The picture of the three of you is absolutely the MOST heartwarming family photo I have ever seen! And the one with Dick kissing Finn just melts my heart. You three are an inspiration for us all! Adele Miller talks about the Great Company and the Cloud of Witnesses…those past and present who give us strength. They are unique to each of us. Your Great Company and your Cloud of Witnesses are mighty, indeed!
Love from Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose Rothwell
KEEP ON TRUCKING FINNY TOLD ME HE LOVES HIS MA LOVE TO YOU THREE GUYS
I hope you get well Heather. And Finn is so cute!!!!.
Still thinking of you Heather during these challenging times. You’re brave and wonderful.
Sending love to you, Dick and Finn. Glad to know you are finally back home and are able to have Finn with you.
I have shared your web site with friends here in Savannah and we are all amazed at your strength and insight. We are thinking of you and praying for you.
Hoping to see more pictures of Beautiful Baby Finn.
Much love - Linda & May
Heather, Dick, and Finny,
You are in our thoughts each day and we send our energy to you three. I know that I will get to hear your stories and laughter again.
Finn, keep your mom laughing - it is your job now.
Dick, keep doing what you are doing, you are the important leg in this tripod.
Love to you,
Sara and Jerry
Lucky me! I got to see the photo album your mom brought in, Heather, with pictures of all of you. Ohhhhh you have yourself a VERY CUTE AND SWEET LITTLE FELLA!!! Wanted to also write and let you know I keep up with my prayers, thoughts, and positive energy to each and every one of you. I have a number of friends and family who are also out there praying, cheering, and sending good energy to each of you! I also have to say in the 9 years I have been at Shoreline/Sweetser, the highlight of my work here was the “grammy shower” everyone collectively threw for your mom — of course, for you, Dick, AND Finn! To be honest, it was somewhat of a spiritual event!
Blessings, prayers, thoughts, smiles, peace, comfort, and ease to each of you!!! Looking forward to the next “show and tell!”
Dear Ones,
I hope that you are rolling your way back to Maine as I type. I’m sure that it was a tough couple of days but peace and quiet await you here at Finn’s house.
None of us will ever forget being with you onstage Saturday night…ever. Thanks to you both for making the effort to be there and let all of us show how much we love you. Wrapping my arms around you felt like a great gift and perfectly normal all at the same time. You looked beautiful onstage with your deep red scarf but I have to admit I’m pretty fond of the unadorned head that shows your determined profile and incandescent (sp?) spirit. If I were a cancer cell I wouldn’t stick around!
Bonnie and I look forward to the day when you feel well enough to have these Finn gazers come by to glow with admiration and wonder at his being. Know that we are all thinking of you…all the time…always with love. xxxlee
Hi Heath,
I hope that your treatment went well. I’m sure that the news that you received was not the easiest to digest however, you will get through this, you have to. As I ever try to contact you by phone… You have so many people who have started prayer circles for you, people that you don’t even know. I’m sure that Finn is beginning to grow like a weed and I can’t wait to see him again. Continue to fight and fight hard, Finn and Dick both need you as do all of us. Your fight is an inspiration to all that have had difficult times. We love you.
Heidi and Pete
Hey guy’s,
I am so excited to here that your Chemo treatments are going so well. hopefully the Doc’s will be able to get all of that stuff out of you. I love the pics of Finny, and I can’t wait to meet him. So far we are looking good for our visit in May. Send me some pictures when you can. My address is 5540 Annandale Dr. Va Beach, Va. 23464 my # is (757)479-0097. Love you all
Anthony
I have no words of wisdom today, just thoughts of you three and hopes that the worst is now truly behind you. I hope evrything went as well as could be expected yesterday, but I’ll get the latest news from mom later. As for how you’re handling it all- you guys are my heroes.
Just know we are all sending tons of love your way- and I can’t wait to meet Finn!
XXXOOO Nancy & the gang
Dear Heather, Dick and Finn,
Well, by now your procedure is over….I’m hoping it wasn’t awful and that you are resting, with Finn next to your cheek and Dick’s arm around you (or something along those lines!). When you appeared on stage Saturday night, I think I could’ve clapped for an hour (okay for days) - I love Molly’s entry. And when I got to lay my eyes on little Finn last Tuesday it made my day, my week. He is amazing - strong and sweet and amazing. Not a day goes by without you three being mentioned; folks at church check in every week about your progress, my friends and family want to know.
Prayers continue without ceasing - and Honey we’ll ALL be checking in on this site through remission and all the way to CURE! And, I’m guessing far beyond that. (Jenn is going to chronicle at least until Finn goes to college, right?).
Anyway - know that we are sending healing hugs to you - and may the chemo go get the rest of those cells tomorrow. Hang in there - know that we love you and are so very proud of you. Your endurance and strength are inspiring.
Love, Sheri for the Nadells
Hi Heath,
I’m so happy to hear Finn has finally made it to his long awaited destination. HOME!!! Good luck with all the treatments you have coming up. Just keep doing what you have been all along . . . keep Finn as your main focus and you will get through this and anything else that is thrown at you. I know you’re last name has changed but you are still from the Perry mold and Perry’s are fighters. Thank God for Finn, I believe he is going to save your life. Finn is truly a miracle. I had no doubts that he would be fine and I believe you will be too. Everyone knows you will pull through this. Stay positive . . .I’ll talk to you soon!
Love,
Kristen
Hi, Heather, Dick and Finn. How wonderful that Finn is home! What a miracle. Now let’s keep the streak going. I think of you every day and am so grateful that you’re keeping this website up. Good luck with the treatments — show no mercy!
Joanne
Finn is home!! What wonderful words to read!! I can picture you (being the peeping Tom that I am) in bed with that wee, sweet baby boy between you. Pretty miraculous, hey?! It’s just amazing what a woman’s body can do…and in saying that it’s pretty amazing, Heather, what you have done, and are doing, and will do…but hey, with so many incredible people cheering you on, with Dick and Finn cheering you on, you will move through this with the strength we all know you have! Carry on! Our thoughts and prayers are with you every minute!
Beth
Heath,
You are brave in your honesty about being scared. Just the idea of a spinal tap sends chills through my…well…spine. I think many of us can relate to that fear. But as someone else said, if you’ve had an epideral (as I have), you realize it’s really much better than the alternative.
But the reason I really wanted to write was to tell you about a (really lame) movie by that name: Spinal Tap. It’s about a fictious band called Spinal Tap who had very few brain cells between them. You may have seen it as I think I had the pleasure (definitely wrong word) of watching it in the common room of Dave’s quad in The Heights your Freshman year; I’m pretty sure JJ owned it. At any rate, the funniest part I can remember was when they were talking about the volume knob on the stereo, and how 10 was the highest it could go. One of the band members insisted, “But it goes to 11…” pointing to the numbers on the dial, but the rest of the group just booed and hissed at him.
My point? You go to 11, Heath. In everything you do, you go to 11. We’re just the people on the sidelines cheering you on, but you’d go to 11 anyway. I’m sure of it. And this bleeping lymphoma just doesn’t know what it’s up against. It saw a petite blonde and thought, Heh, heh, heh, I can knock her down. But really, it should have done it’s research, because you may be petite, but you have the might to match Goliath, and have carried earthly burdens like Atlas.
xxoo Di
Heather,
I had heard that you were at the gala at the Theater Project on Saturday - so sorry I missed seeing you. I just read all the news and my thoughts are with you today (and everyday). It is wonderful to hear that Finn is home with you! You don’t have to be brave ALL the time! Love, Tootie
Heather, our thoughts are with you and Dick and Finn as you head into later today and all that that will bring. Sending you lots of white light and positive energy.
Jean & Don
January is such a great time to have a baby boy! I remember having a January baby boy too and lucky you! Enjoy those winter nights when it is just the two of you and the world outside the window is very, very quiet. It will be chilly and you’ll need to share a blanket and cuddle. I remember them fondly and I hope you will too. Before you know it spring and summer will be here and you’ll all be sleeping better, but these winter nights will be special memories. Congratulations to you all, and time to go. In a few hours, my January baby will be looking for his lunch, his backpack and his snowpants before he gets on the bus to another day of third grade. Time flies–enjoy every minute!
Norah and Andrew Xenos
Dear Heather (Dick, Finn and the rest of the family),
Just read your recent updates - WOW have you all been busy! So glad you have made it back to Bath as a family.
Best of luck with your spinal tap and intrathecal chemo treatment this week. Draw on your inner well of strength and grace as you have throughout this ordeal. And, know that the well is deeper than ever with Finn bouying you up! We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers. You are all in a “good place” to fight this thing - you have each other and clearly the support of so, so many. All the best. Let us know if we can help in any way. We’re “over the border” but not sooo far from Boston.
Tina, Tom, Ben & Cameron
Heather, don’t be afraid of the spinal tap. To you it will feel exactly like the epidural I am sure you had in labor, or the spinal you had for the C/S. You will have numbing medicine and you will only feel pressure. I do this everyday and even had one myself.
Frank and I are praying for you. We know you are going to be fine. Love, Lynne and Frank.
Heather it was so wonderful to see you on stage last night making us laugh and smile as you always do. I’ll be thinking of you all day tomorrow, sending my love and strength. And whenever you need a little extra comfort, think of that applause you got last night. And know that we’ve been applauding all along for you through our thoughts, prayers and smiles whenever we think of you, Dick and Finn. I’m still clapping Heath. I always will be.
Love, Molly
Heather, Dick and Finn–
I know that Finn is a preemie, but I sometimes imagine him as a linebacker playing in the Superbowl who plays with his team mates, Heather and Dick, who are just as strong and ready to plow through any difficult bumps in the road.
Now you are the golden girl, Heather, and you know there is support from your entire team, and the crowd is always cheering you on.
It’s all a game…but you’re part of the bigger, better, faster team.
TOUCH DOWN!
Love,
Hannah
My darling Heather………I miss hearing from you. How are you? Give Finn a smooch for me please. Also, we’re waiting for a picture to add to our baby “wall of fame” here at school. We have Molly’s babies posted. Now get busy and click away……and if you get the time, we’d love to hear from you.
Love, Love, Love
Sue
Hi to all the Weafer’s! I’m Ginger, Brad Leaman’s Mom and Drew Settle’s roommate (Drew is in Mr. Weafer’s class this year—I still can’t get past calling teachers by their first names!) After seeing all you’ve experienced, albeit second or third-hand, I felt compelled to write a message to Heather. I had Hodgkin’s Lyphoma when I was 16 and I have such a huge respect for you for the grace and dignity that you’ve showed in going through this. I know it’s not easy, on the contrary, but everything I’ve seen in your photos and read in your entries shows your strength and your grace. I wish you continued strength, and I wish you all the healing that looking at Finn and seeing the miracle of his presence in your life can bring. I do remember how trying being up every 2 hours with a newborn can be, but know that this is as fleeting a stage as the side effects of your chemo is. I know that with my son, my love for him has only grown as he has. I loved him when he was a little floppy cabbage head, but now that he’s a 9 year old with his own thoughts and ideas….Oh my! I love him soooo much more! Best wishes on your journey of parenthood!
And know that there are people who know what you’re going through and are here to help, whether with baby care or with pampering you, or with just being there to hold your hand and know how much this stinks sometimes. Hang in there, girl….cancer got nothin’ on you!
All the best to the three of you!
Ginger
Hey guy’s ,
I’m so happy for you. Things seem to be going great for the little guy, I hope he comes home soon. Still keeping you in our prayers.
Love,
Your Cous, Anthony
Heather, Dick & Finn,
I hope your first day and night home together, all three of you, has been terrific. And if it hasn’t, well, you’re not alone…I think I jumped out of bed 20 times that first night to make sure Andrew was breathing. And whenever he spit up we changed his clothes…and he was a spitter-upper (I’m sure he’s thrilled I’ve published this information). In fact, we changed him so much that we were making him spit up, but we didn’t realize it at first so we started to panic because every time we put a new set of clothes on his little body (you know, you push the teeny tiny arm into the onesie, then push the other one in only to discover that the first one is kinda squiggling out) he would spit up again — to the point that we hardly had any clean clothes left for him!!!
The good news is that he’s not broken and in fact has survived the whole ordeal quite nicely. The point? Don’t worry if the scene is less than perfect at first…you are all learning together, and it’s the together part that matters most.
Still thinking of you, and I’m just so happy to have seen Dick’s smiling face twice now at JA. That’s a wonderful sight!
Di
hi heather,
soooo glad to hear that you are home. what a difference it makes during a struggle to be in your very own sanctuaury each night. i hope that the chemo is going as well as it can go and that you are feeling strong. finn seems to be doing great according to all that i’ve read and i’m pleased but not surprised. like mother like son.
i’m sure that you are buried in things to do, and may not have the energy after chemo to respond, but i do have a couple of questions. 1) how can i get on the list (because i’m sure there is one) of folks who cook , clean, run errands for you? i’m a helluva cook (as you know after my obvious domination at the extravaganza of ‘05) but i’d hate to just drop by with something you can’t eat. i’m also quite skilled in the cleaning department, in case you hadn’t noticed i run quite the tidy cafe and if i can clean the toilets after the entire city of bath uses them during heritage days, i can certainly clean yours. help me to know how i get on the list of helpers. 2) soooooo you may not remember but you sort of promised to hang your artwork in the cafe again this spring… i suppose i could find a replacement but they would just be a sorry substitute for your brilliant work. pretty much my entire staff is willing to hang it for you, but maybe you aren’t hip to this idea anymore…i don’t know because you’ve obviously let your caffeine consumption drop to the bottom of the low priority list, hmmph! anyway, i realize it’s a bit self centered to expect answers when your time is completely and rightly devoted to your health and to little finn, but i’m asking anyway. well, still love you 2 and miss you. all my best wishes, tonnie
Dear Heather,
Congratulations on getting your little guy closer to home! Before you know it he’ll be ready to graduate again and get all the way home. I continue to be amazed and awed by your strength through everything. I know it must be hard to have Dick back at school. But think of every change as taking you one step closer to where you want to be. Back to the healthy incredible you, but even better since Finn is a part of your life. I’m thinking of you and sending you strength.
Lara
Dear Heather,
Congratulations! Finn is beautiful….. I am awed by the photographs…..and you! You look so beautiful….I love the photo of you with the blue background.
I am touched by your spirit and left breathless from your words(reflections) and wisdom.
I think I speak for everyone when I say that your grace is our teacher.
I hope you recieve good news tomorrow and baby Finn sleeps throught he night!
All best,
Cindi Brogan
Hi there just called you at home what an idiot I am. We miss seeing you and will love seeing your faces soon especially baby Finn. I’m so glad things are going well and our thoughts and prayers are still with you.
LoveDenise and Arthur
Hi Everyone!
We are back in Maine and Finn is being transported to Mid-Coast Hospital this afternoon. He is eating like a champ and should not not be much longer until we can take him home. Heather is doing great..better than great, though her crappy chemo week should be starting any day now. Last night we enjoyed watching all of our dear friends in the first show of Winter Caberet. Great laughs, go see it! It was our first outing since the beginning of October and probably the last before we have think about finding a babysitter. Heather wants to add another entry very soon. We are spending the day cleaning up the clutter in our house, folding the laundry and getting Finn’s room ready for him. This afternoon we are off to Maternity at Mid-Coast, the place this all started. It feels like going home.
Keep vanishing cancer cells!
Love and Thanks to All
Dick
HI Heather,
I spoke with Dick today about givnig this site address to my sister and her best friend, Jeanne, who has had a bone marrow transplant. I hope she/they can help you with concerns, questions and alleviating fears! Jeanne just celebrated her 16th year of good health!
SO, if you begin to get messages from “unknowns”, Fran is my sister and Jeanne is her best friend who has gone through similar things you are going through and will go through.
A circle of freinds can be so empowering!
Dick tells me Finn is on his way hmoe today! Wait until he sees the likes of Maine, AYUH, he lives here!
Happy days to you and my best to all of the Weafers. Enjoy your little one and know we are all continuing to send the positvge energy it takes to help you through this all!
Take care,
Lynn
Dear Heather and Dick and Finn,
John and Jake and Rose and I are so excited about the birth of Finn. The pictures of you all are just amazing, and truly bring happy tears to all of us. There is no luckier baby in the world than little Finn; how often you three are in all of our prayers and getting silent messages of love! You a strong and brave family and a beacon of light for all of us. Go Weafers!
Love to the three of you! Looking forward to each and every picture!
Tilly, John, Jake, and Rose Rothwell
HI YOU GANG OF THREE. ITS GREAT THAT YOUR ALL UP AND ABOUT. NOBODYS HAPPYYYYYYYYYYYYYYER FOR YOUALL THAN ME. LOVE ALL..GREATUNC.
Heather,
We just heard of what you and Finn were going through from Joan Jenkins. I am humbled by the strength and grace that you are handling this with. Finn comes from sturdy stock and I know that you will all get past this.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. We look forward to seeing you all up at Moosehead this Summer.
We send all of our positive energy and prayers,
Karen and David Johnson
Dick and Heather,
Congrats on your little guy. I can’t beleive he’s really here in Maine already! Got a forwarded update on things last night. You are all in our thoughts consistantly, can’t wait to meet Finn and for you to meet Adam. They’re almost the exact same age!
I look forward to seeing all of you soon.
Love you,
Jim
I should be slaving away, doing my homework but I couldn’t resist checking out your wonderful and inspiring web-site. Heather, I must admit I never realized how beautiful you are. Nearly everytime I’ve seen you you’ve been on stage, dressed as a may fly or that peanut guy but there you are, hair or no hair, looking beautiful. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and photos. Finn is amazing, you’ve got yourself a good one. May the joy he brings to you squelsh all your sickness and ease your pain as you continue your fight!! Sending you healing energy, strength and warm wishes. Jess
Dear Mr. Weafer,
Congradulations from the Auclair family. We’ve been keeping up with heather and Finn’s progress just about every day. Andy was so excited when Finn was born. He wanted to know when you were going to be coming back to school. He declared at supper one night “You are the best teacher at JA.” I know I’ve told you this but it bares repeting ,both my children were lucky enough to have you as a teacher and both of them had their lives changed by you. You make children strive to be all they can be. What more could a parent ask from a teacher! Besides Andy says noone else understands his jokes like you. Heather and Finn are both blessed to have you in their lives. We’ll continue to visit this sight and can’t wait for the day that you can post Heather, Dick, and Finn and all feeling great and enjoying every minute of every day. Children make you feel that way. God Bless.
The Auclair’s
Dearest Finn,
WELCOME TO MAINE !!!! Where ever YOU are is certainly God’s country but I’m awfully glad you’re in this little section of it. I like thinking about your Mom sleeping in her own (your own) beautiful house and your Dad sharing pictures of you with his students and your grandparents being able to show you off. I am looking forward to meeting you in the pink(!) flesh soon and hugging your dear ones tight.
Much love, Honorary Auntie Lee
so none of you know me, at least by name… but heather, i’ve seen you in a couple of plays in Brunswick and at the Y (Linda Williamson introdcued us one time, and you may remember my Mom, Linda, who you showed one of your *lovely* bridesmaids dresses to when i was thinking about getting married one time) each day since Tonnie told me about this, i have ended my day at work reading your updates, then i call my mom, tell my boyfriend (who doesn’t know you either, but asks a couple of times a week)… about how you have amazing stregth and wisdom and courage and humor - and with all of these strengths, which seem, in your situation to be sort of, for lack of a better term, ‘out of this wordly,’ - your communication remains so real. I would dream to have one little ounce of your amazing-ness if ever i had a similar life experience. Cheers to you, Dick, and Finn. You, your family and friends are truly a loving inspiration.
On another note… my identical twin sister and i were born i think about 8 weeks early, and the pictures you have of Finn right now remind me so much of the little pictures of us, comfortably laying in one incubator or whatever they’re called… my family lovingly refers to us now as ‘cornish game hens’ . We weighed even less than him, and don’t look like hens anymore.
I think we also swam with Dick for the Y, and your brother Don, right? You were a few years older, i just remember you as the really tall twins.
Anyway… I just wanted you to know that even more people are sending you lots of love and well wishes. Congrats on being so tough and producing such a gorgeous little boy.
Julia Coes
Dear Heather, Dick and Finn,
Pat Weafer is a friend of mine and has kept me updated since she found out you were pregnant! Being a recent grandma myself, I was praying for you before you knew you were sick. Now, I have my other friends praying for you and your family! Your baby is gorgeous! I am sure he will be exceptional, having a mom like you.
You sound so strong. I can see why everyone is so proud of you. Your next few months sound like you are going to need all your mental and physical strength. Speaking as a disabled person that has missed too much of my children’s youth. They grow up and don’t know any different. Your son Finn will be wonderful and you will be there for all the other “stuff” that will happen in his life! You will get through it with all the support people you have.
We will continue to pray for you and your family.
God bless.
Peggy
Greetings Weafer Family!!!!!
I made an entry of congratulations about a week ago, but somehow it disappeared (I think when this awesome website was having a tired day) - So - I shall repeat my happiest congratulations!!!!! And I finally got to give Dick a hug and kiss today — you’ve taken good care of him, Heather, he looks damn fine! And that gorgeous Finn - FINE JOB, both of you!! When I looked at the picture, I didn’t even notice the medical paraphenaila, I saw a strong, pink, healthy, awesome miracle babe. They are all little miracles, every One. Yeehaw and bravo! And I knew you’d ‘get it’, Heather, I knew you would. Even before I read you latest entry, Wendy filled me in Friday night as we were canvasing (sp?) Brunswick begging for hors d-oeurves for Cabaret - (we succeeded - everyone should patronize Back Street Bistro - good people there!). Anyway, Wendy gave me the update, and I knew she’d be taking good care of you today, while Dick was taking good care of the JA kiddos. So a plan is in place, you are in the best hands, and we wish we could take little pieces (or all) of the needle-poking etc. so that you didn’t have to. If we could, we would.
And the prayer circle continues and perseveres….my wonderful aunt sent me an email last night asking for an update for the prayer committee at her church in Littleton, NH - and so they are up to date and talking to God about you three - as are the Nadells and the folks at Mid-Coast Presbyterian, some of whom you’ve heard from here and good folks all the way to California… And it’s powerful stuff. Not the source of the prayers necessarily, but the grace-filled and merciful answers that come back.
In the meantime, EN-JOY your precious gift - his angel eyes, his sweet baby breath, his downy softest-thing-on-earth head, his tiny sqeaks…..they will make you both strong. May your fears be lessened, your souls replenished, and may your hearts sing out loud.
Brunswick and people across the whole planet indeed continue to give you three gentle chi hugs,
Sheri for the Nadells
Heath, Dick and Finn,
I was so glad to see you on Sunday at the hospital in Boston. How special to meet Finn, to hold him and love him and even watch him get a bath. Although small, it was clear that he has an enormous heart and tremendous strength. What a gift! It will be great to watch him grow, and to see the two of you in him. Two of my favorite people all wrapped up in one! Congratulations, Mom and Dad.
As always, I’ll be thinking of you this week as you learn the results of your pet scan, and bring your precious Finn home to Maine. I look forward to seeing you all again on Thursday!
Much love,
the other heath
Hi Heath. Just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking of you today as you go through chemo again. While your body may be weak, remember that your spirit can take your mind elsewhere. I am sending you positive thoughts, and also a web site my sister told me about that may be nice to view: ashesandsnow.com. Click on the portfolio for some really powerful images. And enjoy that baby boy…he is what life is all about.
xxoo Di
Hi Guys,
Congrats on your new addition to the family! I’m glad to hear that he is doing well. With a start in life like this, he’s going to be a real world beater! Keep your eyes on this prize and he will help overcome the advercities ahead. Thinking of you,
Skip
Heather, I don’t know you, you don’t know me but you, Dick, and Finn are a constant thought in my heart and mind! You’re notes are so incredibly uplifting I can’t imagine you ever being down! I weep, I laugh, I feel blessed! it’s supposed to be about you three and yet I feel that I receive so much more than I give! When I read that you hold Finn skin to skin I pictured it. When I read that you are walking already I pictured it. You have courage like no other I’ve “known”. I read recently to bless the very thing you want to curse, and as I’ve read about you doing this…well, how can you help but to beat this thing! I am so happy that you all are doing well and moving forward. You all continue to be in my prayers! Bless you, bless you, bless you! Love to you all!
What great news of your son, Finn. Tilly sent me your website. I am smiling with pleasure. Even with all his technological paraphenalia, one can see what a sweet face he has. Congradulations sent with much love. Now for long lives of good health in the future, which means great success in Heather’s treatment. This I wish you.
With love, Adele
Congratulations! You have a beautiful baby and you make a beautiful family. It is so hard to imagine before hand the bond you feel with your baby. There isn’t anything like it. Enjoy, take care, and thanks for sharing your experience.
My daughter passed this on to me. She is one of the adoring nurses in the NICU caring for Finn. We often share inspiring stories with each other to focus on the good in life. This is truely an amazing story and an amazing family, full of love, hope and faith. I know the strength a child can give a mother….the will to carry on and to survive. I have four beautiful children who have held me up (probably not even knowing it) through difficult times. You are blessed to have him, and more important, he is blessed to have you and Dick. My JOY, as a mother, is knowing that my daughter can share and learn from your experiences. My HOPE is that we all learn to appreciate what we have and my FAITH is that someday we understand, or just accept what God has intended for us.
Much love goes out to all of you…family, friends, doctors and of course nurses!
Heather, Dick and Finn
I am so glad you have gotten through the delivery with such positive thoughts and I want to give you continue positive energy for the road ahead, for chemo, for finn and for the potential bone marrow transplant. I love the website and will check in often!
Tamara Takoudes
It’s finn’s friend from next door his roomate in the hospital i see that your doing well i hope we both get to leave around the same time. I know i don’t say to much like you do but i’am shy. So i know that your leaving and i wish you the best of luck aways remember me you came out looking great. Better then i did!!!! But look at me now.
We are gonna be great at the end
your roomate,
miracle love morales
rm.624
Dick, Heather and Finn, we were so glad to see the pictures of such a beautiful baby, congratulations! We think of you often and keep updated on the progress…..Taylor wishes you well as do I. You have made such an impact on my son that I know the gifts you bring as parents to your son will be innumerable. Blessings….Tracey and Taylor
Congratualations! I am happy for you and the whole Weafer family! Take the time and really enjoy the moment. I do know you have many moments to be grateful for and some you’d rather take the risk to be wihout! However, stay strong and take it all one day at a time. Try to take one treatment, doctor’s visit etc…one at a time. Take it all on as you go so the energy can be used for the moment.
Leave the rest ahead for the day it finally gets here! Projections get us all into trouble!
As for the bone marrow transplant, my sister’s best friend just celebrated her 15th year of health after hers! I have faith that you will be celebrating ‘after the fact’ as well!
For now, take one day at a time and bond with that little boy of yours! Congratulations Dick and Heather! Finn, WELCOME!
Happy day!
Lynn
Heather - I’m late getting this message to you, but wanted you to know I was thinking of you all on 1/13 and sending special prayers that Finn’s arrival would be ‘uneventful’ (kind of an oxymoron, but you know what I mean). I have always found Friday the 13th to be a good day, not filled with fear of what’s to go wrong. And January 13, 2006 obviously was one of the best ever for you and your family/friends! A picture IS worth 1000 words: your and Dick’s love and happiness is very evident. Good luck on your upcoming treatments - our prayers remain with you and you will find the strength to get thru it all as you have these past few months. I remember you writing how much you’ll miss Finn inside you, kicking and letting his presence be known. I have no doubt whatsoever that he will continue to make his presence known (as all babies do!), but now you and Dick will be able to love and cuddle and comfort him hands on. Although never a biological mother myself, I can only imagine what a joy it must be to hold him in your arms, gaze into his eyes and smell that special baby smell (and I don’t mean poopy diapers)….I’ll get an update into our prayer list at South China Community Church so that everyone will share in your wonderful news. Jayne
Hey there Heath, Dick and Litttle Finn,
I can’t wait to see you guys again and meet Finny for the first time. Timmy and Libby are also very excited that you had a baby. I really can’t believe how are little Connecticut family has grown. Our new generation has finally arrived. All of us cousins now have kids of our own. Nanny and Pop would now have 8 Great Grandchildren. They would be soo excited. My love thoughts and Prayers are with you. Love Ant
Heather. I’m at a cyber in Kesh with my mom. took her here yesterday, and we have another day before we head on to Essouria. We spent the night in not the same hotel, but the one nextdoor, and spent the morning running around through the souq, bargaining our brains out, trying to get teapots for 50 dirhams instead of a hundred. and we’re thinking of you girl. I keep thinking about when we came here together, the last time I was doing all the talking and translating. We have you here with us in such a huge way, I was thinking about you buying kohl holders for wendy and jen, and my mom was thinking about you, and she was the one who said, lets stop in that internet cafe and check on heather’s website—- and low and behold, the photos of Finn are there. Wow wow wowwow wow wow. He is so beautiful. He is so beautiful, you are so beautiful, and Dick is so beautiful. Those pictures are amazing. You’re gleaming parents. zween bezef, zween bezef. ifoulki. My mom says she remembers it as a state of bliss, and she says, may it last forever. inchallallah, God willing. (I couldn’t help but add. I’m like a an old Moroccan man that sits outside the mosque in a white jelaba with the hood up. drinking tea, I want to bless you with all the God expressions I can think of, and I do. You’re in my prayers. Everynight you’re in my prayers. )
love, reba
Heather, Dick & Finn,
Congratulations on the birth of this beautiful baby boy! We’ve been constantly checking the website and it was so good to read your email this morning, Heather. You have a way of writing that makes me feel that I’ve actually sat down and had a conversation with you……can hear your voice even! Your strength and optimism are an inspiration to us all. Don’t forget that we are right outside Portland, so don’t hesitate to call when you’re here if there’s anything we can do. We’re always thinking of you, wishing only good things. Love, Bruce & Joan
Congratulations Heather & Dick and Welcome Finn, You all look great. Elaine has kept us posted on your progress you are in all of our prayers. We can’t wait to meet Finn when he comes back to Maine.
Staff of Elaine Secskas, MD
Dear Heather and Dick and Finn,
Dear Heather and Dick…we were up at the lake the night of the birthing where we don’t have an internet connection. Susan kept us up to date by telephone so we were right there with you during that time. We are so happy for you and Dick. Finn is al lucky little boy to have such parents. As always, you are constantly in our thoughts and prayers and we will keep all appendages crossed that the coming tests will be positive…or is it negative??? Anyway, you know what I mean…we love you both so much and our love to all the Perrys and Weafers. Carroll
We’re so happy for you and want you to know our hopes and prayers are with you all. We have a hankering to hit Maine in 2006 so we hope to see all three of you and marvel at the Mighty Finn.
Hey you guys - all 3 of you!
What a great update! You all are truly an inspiration. I am so proud of you. I’m off to Berwick tomorrow to help out there so I will be sure they check out this new update. You have a long road ahead, but with this kind of spirit you will help each other through it - that’s what family is all about, isn’t it?
You know you are in my thoughts and heart everyday.
Love you
Pat
Hi Heather, You are an inspiration to all of us. I’ve worked Labor and Delivery for almost 37yrs. Unlike the others writing to you I know exactly what led to your C/S and the atmosphere in that OR. I know that every person on that team was touched by you, Dick and Finn. I can hear the cheer after Finn’s first cry. I’m so sorry for the challenging road ahead of you. But I know you will get through it with grace and before you know it, will be able to do all the things you want to do. Love, Lynne
Hi my friends!
Love to see the picture of Mr Finn looking like a robust as a 34 week old - although I think he looks older - like a 37 week old
. I think about you all every morning when I wake up and am so pleased to hear all the good news and good spirits!
What’s a pirate’s favorite way to get born? CesARRRRRRRian
Big hugs to you all!
SB
Hello Dearhearts,
Every Winter Cabaret rehearsal starts with the “Weafer Report” and tonight’s was wonderful. I hear that you are being your very sassy self, Miss Heather. We understand that Dick is knitting (that’s how Ian and Bobby got through the applying to college stress) and that Finn is incomparable! Tomorrow (Thursday) is the first of several steps towards making that boy a Mainer and I hold only good thoughts for you all. I’m with you…
John’s dad graduated from the Hospice program today (he seems to have healed the tear in his annuryism at 90!) and is threatening to purchase a bicycle since he is not allowed to drive. Anything is possible!!!!
Wish I was hugging you big Weafers and smoothing the copious hair on Finn’s head right now. love, lee
Hi kids,
No pearls of wisdom from me tonight. Just want you to know that you are all constantly in my thoughts and prayers.
Love you,
Pat
Dear loved ones,
Yesterday was a beautiful, shiny blue sky Maine winter day-one of those to treasure. Riley and I went for a walk and we were thinking of you as we looked for tracks in the snow and watched the sun bounce off the water. I thought of the new life you have created and the incredible strength and love you have to share with him and I thought of how precious each day is that we have. So this came to mind. It made me happy.
with love,
Lacey, Chris and Riley
Look to this day for it is life, the very life of life,
In its brief course lie all the verities and realities of our
existence.
The bliss of growth, the splendor of beauty,
<For yesterday is but a dream and tomorrow is only a
vision,
But today well spent makes every yesterday a dream
of happiness
and every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Look well therefore to this day.
Such is the salutation to the dawn.